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    I will take time to write about and hopefully discuss with you love in Islam.
    How Muslims are mixing up between "Religion" and "culture and traditions",



    I was raised in a Muslim family, in an all Cristian society.
    For years in my youth, I'd hear my mother talk to my sister ocasionally
    about how a Muslim girl should behave, how she should dress, who she should talk to,
    To be cool to my sister, I'd always butt in and say things like "Who would care?"
    or "nobody's gonna be looking mother",although I had nothing against my mother's advice,
    she just wants the best for her daughter...right?

    As I got older. these conversations got a bit more serious.
    One day, I heard her talking about how Muslim females should limit her contact with the
    boys. I was slightly confused but...nonetheless, In complete agreement due to my young age.

    Although in correspondence with my mother , I often asked myself why,
    What was the problem with a girl and a boy hanging out?

    When I reached puberty,I had already moved to Libya,and had had my first crush, and after getting into a hush-hush relationship, I asked my mother "how long were you and dad dating?"
    her answer shocked me, apparently, having a girlfriend was condemned by Islam as
    the sin of zinnah! (no, it isn't, that word means pre-marital copulation, my mother just didn't have a better way of explaining it to me)
    I wanted to be a good Muslim, I really did, I didn't know what being emotionally attached to a person meant, but it was the thing keeping me from being one.

    I'd hear the gruesome tales of Muslim fathers hurting their daughters, Muslim brothers beating the sisters that they have grown up with, the sisters that kept all of their despicable secrets from their parents,
    why? because they found them on the phone with a guy, their excuse for their unhumane deeds?
    "Islam forbids premarital love"
    It sickened me...I literally almost threw up, how could you hurt a person, one you've known
    for so long, just for being human?! Where is your logic?! Why listen to this crap...?
    What kind of twisted faith would provoke such actions? and what kind of a Deity would allow such a horrid thing?

    I saw girls being harrassed, nasty words thrown at some, for mere things like wearing tight jeans, it was funny in a way.
    Ones at school, referred to as "the schools bi***es" for the absence of a Hejab on their heads,
    my girlfriend herself, was referred to as some kind of whore, simply because she wasn't typical, and treated males and females alike.
    I saw women being abused, I saw their depressing lifecycles one after another, you could have easily mistaken me for a feminist,
    but was only interested in humanity.

    Oh how I dreamed of a better society,
    All I wanted was everything to be logical as it once was.

    The boys at school, every-so-often, I'd find one particular lad sending love letters to a girl via cell-phone, for a moment, I softly smiled at the simplicity, then I asked him
    "attracted?" he answered "beyond", so I asked "what if you found your sister doing the same?"
    he replied "haha, I'd kill her and the boy she was talking to",
    at this point, I remember my jaw descending, my mouth may have let in a human fist,
    I asked "why?!", again he laughed, and answered "don't be foolish, you know Islam forbids it"
    The Muslim society, in my eyes back then, a subtle mixture of hypocrisy and chaos.

    I never really understood Islam,
    for a year or two...I only thought of the Muslim system as a hierarchy, one so blasphemous to humanity,
    where men were free to "sin" (I'm embarressed to call love a sin but, we'll go with that for now) and women were simply not. Disallowed from a given right.
    Males ruled and females were ruled.

    I simply couldn't comprehend the "Muslims", nor could I write a sentence to describe the way it was here.
    I saw the way they acted...how they behaved around women, some of them behaved like savages, others...just inappropriately,
    my friends and I were often teased for our behaviour, which we saw appropriate, often accused of
    simply "not being men", why didn't we behave their way?
    Because we had been raised as natives to other societies.
    School was never a walk in the park, we'd recieve racist, Anglophobic comments,
    I was also described as hypocritic, unpatriotic, and posessing a twisted mind,
    my friends' lives were no easier, I soon learned to ignore, and unfortuanetly think of it as
    "typical muslims".

    Every night I would question Islam.
    When you find 1 fault in a faith, it wont take long before you find 10.
    I questioned everything.
    I admit, circumstance and a hint of testosterone was probably a key factor in destroying every last spec of faith I had,
    after my lover had been pulled away from me by her closed-minded parents, my over-active mind could never stop imagining what her father might have done, he was a Muslim after all, anything was possible.
    The disapponitment, the frustration,the anger, the shear anxiety, they simply lost me any belief I had left in Islam,

    I remembered a passage I had been taught as a child, "دين يسر وليس دين عسر", "deen yuser, wa laisa deen oser" which baisicly means
    that Islam was supposed to make things easy for the followers.
    Because of the sub-zero logic, and psychological pressure it put, it was certainly doing a poor job.
    I was obsessed and infatuated with that same question that circulated in my mental system every night, "How could a faith so faulty have so many followers?"
    One night I remembered the story of how before Islam they used to bury newborn females alive,
    how Islam was supposed to grant women a life equal to that of a man, then it hit me,
    How didn't I consider this before? What if these people were the problem? what if Islam wasn't as bad as I had thought, and it was the followers who were corrupt?

    I read the Qur'an with the assistance of a translator, due to my faulty Arabic.
    Every page I read pleaded "not guilty" to my accusations and allegations.
    In its scripts, I stumbled upon teachings of compassion, generousity and charitability.
    To my surprize, I found no cry for terrorism, no hierarchy, no sexism, no discrimination.

    I understood then, and after a period of execrating every Muslim man,
    after purely hating the teachings and deeming then pointless, that I had completely misunderstood.
    These people were all victims of society.

    Society here was a ticking time-bomb that selfdestructed.
    It gave birth to those street kids, with nothing to keep them occupied other than
    looking at, and, tragically, looking up girls
    My beloved companions and I were all raised in a beautiful society of freedom...opertunity and equality, be it Irish, English, American, Itallian, it was all attractive.
    Why weren't we uncontrolable beasts around females?
    because we were used to them. we were raised among them, which created the anima inside of us, an aspect in each one of us that they found easy to target.

    Society, the hideous fabric, it's racism, it's sexism, it's selfish hierarchy
    it was a machine running on tainted fuel...corruption and selfishness.
    It takes 1 bad apple to ruin the pie. these bad apples manipulated two transparent materials, culture and tradition, and then tell you that if you're a Muslim, you must fight the west,
    that you should hate Jews, that love,music, art, and sculpting are "forbidden".


    So I ask...do you Muslims really heed to men of tradition?
    to people whose words contredict with those of their own god?

    My mind was finally at rest .
    I finally behaved without feeling hermaphroditic.
    I finally formed a powerful relationship with that same girl without feeling like a heretic.

    What made me smile again was that the racists...Islam didn't tell them to discriminate,
    I learned that they just had some bad past experience with certain people, namely our kind.

    The sexists, Islam didn't strip women of rights, they did that because of their own weakness and insecurity.

    The anti-semites, Islam didn't fly the NAZI flag, their corrupted traditions did.

    And last, but not least:
    The abusive fathers , they weren't monsters to me anymore, they were just naive,
    because if you think about it,
    Islam never prevented their sons or daughters from love, they were just taught the wrong way.

  • #2
    Re: Love in Islam

    yes islam doesnt prevent love in marriage

    Recipes for all the family :inlove:
    (and you thought I was a lazy feminazi which can't cook?)

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    • #3
      Re: Love in Islam

      Do u really expect us to read that essay.??

      Thats Brain damage and so is this so called thing.... "love".
      "Closer and closer to mankind comes their Reckoning: yet they heed not and they turn away" (21:1)

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      • #4
        Re: Love in Islam

        @ Naila , I mean, Islam never prevented love BEFORE marriage.
        @ Abdulsalam :Love in Islam
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        • #5
          Re: Love in Islam

          Did i read wrong or you lost belief in Islam because you couldn't have a girlfriend? If you love her so much why don't you marry her? Like i say for myself if you like me enough to date me you like me enough to marry me. There's no in between. It's not love which is wrong it is the context : in marriage very good but outside it's a no-no
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          • #6
            Re: Love in Islam

            so you have come to understand Islam.
            glass half empty

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            • #7
              Re: Love in Islam

              theres nothing wrong with loving someone before marriage, but zina in different intensities is haram

              Recipes for all the family :inlove:
              (and you thought I was a lazy feminazi which can't cook?)

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              • #8
                Re: Love in Islam

                Allah is the "God of Love", so he is one who puts love.

                from My understanding,

                Lust is when you look at him/her and think about what you can take
                Love is when you look at him/her and think about what you can give, also want nothing in return.
                "They are Shuhadaa (witnesses) to the fact that this Deen is greater than life, that values are more important than blood and that principles are more precious than souls" - Sheikh 'Abdullah Azzam

                Lost in Islamic History :inlove:

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                • #9
                  Re: Love in Islam

                  Well @Masillia, I lost belief in Islam for being treated like...dirt, by everybody just because I was different, and.. you're right, I should marry her but... :) I'm 16, her parents think I..well, that a I swing the other way..if you understand.They would never accept.
                  @ hadia, I have, but I'm still partially agnostic.
                  @naila, Yes, yes you understand my point, and I would never think of considering comitting zina.
                  @samin, I have never, nor will I ever lust for anything or anyone a minute of my life thank you.

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                  • #10
                    Re: Love in Islam

                    That went over my head..

                    But your 16, and you think your in love?....
                    Last edited by -MA-; 27-08-10, 02:37 AM.
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                    • #11
                      Re: Love in Islam

                      Yes, I'm 16, but going to college september, I'm also almost oficially certified in psychological hypnosis, so I'm not the typical 16 year old.
                      also, the girl and I are completely in love mate.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Love in Islam

                        Originally posted by felix sable View Post
                        Yes, I'm 16, but going to college september, I'm also almost oficially certified in psychological hypnosis, so I'm not the typical 16 year old.
                        also, the girl and I are completely in love mate.
                        Love at 16 doesnt exist mate.. I bet everyone tells you that, but you'll soon find out yourself in a couple of years.

                        Also, your post says love is forbidden. It's not. Only forbidden between two strangers ie. 2 people not married to each other.
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                        • #13
                          Re: Love in Islam

                          Originally posted by felix sable View Post
                          Yes, I'm 16, but going to college september, I'm also almost oficially certified in psychological hypnosis, so I'm not the typical 16 year old.
                          also, the girl and I are completely in love mate.
                          LOL, in love.....
                          "They are Shuhadaa (witnesses) to the fact that this Deen is greater than life, that values are more important than blood and that principles are more precious than souls" - Sheikh 'Abdullah Azzam

                          Lost in Islamic History :inlove:

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                          • #14
                            Re: Love in Islam

                            @ MA: Ah, so, like, you and your best friends are "strangers to eachther because you're not married? :)
                            I think that it has nothing to do with age, but maturity, I know I love her because I've always thought that I was gay before I met her.
                            And do you mean you're telling me that you have to marry..then love? very unreasonable mate, what if you marry and then they turn out to be below expectations..divorce isn't that easy,

                            @samin, It's quite obvious you've had some bad experiences with it ;)

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                            • #15
                              Re: Love in Islam

                              Originally posted by felix sable View Post
                              @ MA: Ah, so, like, you and your best friends are "strangers to eachther because you're not married? :)
                              I think that it has nothing to do with age, but maturity, I know I love her because I've always thought that I was gay before I met her.
                              And do you mean you're telling me that you have to marry..then love? very unreasonable mate, what if you marry and then they turn out to be below expectations..divorce isn't that easy,

                              @samin, It's quite obvious you've had some bad experiences with it ;)

                              I lol when you said you were 16. Sorry but I can't take a 16 year old who says they are in love serioulsy. Btw thanks for wasting 5 minutes of my life by reading that boring essay. I practicially died of boredom before I got to the second paragraph.:zzz:

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