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    assalam u alaikum

    I became a muslim just two months back and since then have been working on changing my life style. I haven't really gone public with my declaration of becoming a Muslim but I am working towards it. I live in my own apartment. All of a sudden my best friend (who lives in another country then mine) has informed me that she is going to be visiting me over the summers and she and her husband are going to be staying in my home for one month. Now in my pre-islamic day I have lived in their home couple of times and I didn't see anything wrong in that. Someone informed me that her husband staying like this at my home is very wrong and I should politely inform them that I cannot host her husband this way but she is welcome to stay.

    Can anyone please suggest and give opinion as to what is the correct approach and having her and her husband at my home is incorrect ? I do not wear hijab yet and for now I just wear my normal western clothes but I am working on that.

    Thanks

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    Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

    Tough spot. I'd would just be straight up with her. Tell her you became muslim and its not allowed. If shes really your best friend she'll understand

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      Yup honesty and absolute directness is totally the way forward. Know that this is one of the many tests you'll be getting in your new life as a Muslim so be patient and keep in mind that you're doing this for no other reason to please God.

      Having that mind will insha'Allah make it infinitely easier and give you the unshakable confidence you need to successfully pass the tests life throws at you.

      May Allah ease this for you.

      AQ
      What can my enemies possibly do to me? My paradise is in my heart; wherever I go it goes with me, inseparable from me. For me, prison is a place of retreat; execution is my opportunity for martyrdom; and exile from my town is but a chance to travel - Ibn Taymiyyah

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        Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

        you can host them as long as your never alone with her husband and you dont socialise with him and have a seperate living area etc for him

        correct me if im wrong,, wa ALLAHU A'lam

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          Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

          plenty of muslims live with non mahram males, you just have to makesure you act appropriately around them, cover in front of them and are not alone with them, plenty of muslims have lodgers in their house and stuff, and they just dont really socialise with the husband, but do with the wife?

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          (and you thought I was a lazy feminazi which can't cook?)

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            Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

            Originally posted by naila-k View Post
            plenty of muslims live with non mahram males, you just have to makesure you act appropriately around them, cover in front of them and are not alone with them, plenty of muslims have lodgers in their house and stuff, and they just dont really socialise with the husband, but do with the wife?
            But I think you will have to tell em your Muslim, cuz it will be difficult to do what is stated above ^ without them not knowing your Muslim.

            But the best thing is to tell her before hand, and if she really is your best friend then she won't mind, and plus, she's your best friend not the husband :S...

            InshAllah all will go well for you sis :)

            Do not think of minor sins as insignificant, for mountains are made out of pebbles.

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              Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

              Thank you all for your response. I'll see what I can do.

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                Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

                Originally posted by naila-k View Post
                plenty of muslims live with non mahram males, you just have to make sure you act appropriately around them, cover in front of them and are not alone with them, plenty of muslims have lodgers in their house and stuff, and they just dont really socialise with the husband, but do with the wife?
                which is not acceptable in islam. just because muslims do things -that doesnt mean its islamic.
                "O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest you swerve, and if you distort (justice) or decline to do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do." [An-Nisa 4:135]

                The Prophet :saw: said:

                "Whosoever leaves off obedience and separates from the Jamaa'ah and dies, he dies a death of jaahiliyyah. Whoever fights under the banner of the blind, becoming angry for 'asabiyyah (nationalism/tribalism/partisanship) or calling to 'asabiyyah, or assisting 'asabiyyah, then dies, he dies a death of jaahiliyyah."

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                Narrated 'Abdullah:

                The Prophet, said, "Abusing a Muslim is Fusuq (evil doing) and killing him is Kufr (disbelief)." sahih bukhari


                "Creeping upon you is the diseases of those people before you: envy and hatred. And hatred is the thing that shaves. I do not say it shaves the hair but it shaves the religion!

                By the One in whose Hand is my soul, you will not enter paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Certainly, let me inform you of that which may establish such things: spread the greetings and peace among yourselves."

                [Recorded by Imam Ahmad and Al-Tirmidhi]

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