New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

[finnish_sister]

assalam u alaikum

I became a muslim just two months back and since then have been working on changing my life style. I haven't really gone public with my declaration of becoming a Muslim but I am working towards it. I live in my own apartment. All of a sudden my best friend (who lives in another country then mine) has informed me that she is going to be visiting me over the summers and she and her husband are going to be staying in my home for one month. Now in my pre-islamic day I have lived in their home couple of times and I didn't see anything wrong in that. Someone informed me that her husband staying like this at my home is very wrong and I should politely inform them that I cannot host her husband this way but she is welcome to stay.

Can anyone please suggest and give opinion as to what is the correct approach and having her and her husband at my home is incorrect ? I do not wear hijab yet and for now I just wear my normal western clothes but I am working on that.

Thanks

[Abboudy]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

Tough spot. I'd would just be straight up with her. Tell her you became muslim and its not allowed. If shes really your best friend she'll understand

[AbuQudamah]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

Yup honesty and absolute directness is totally the way forward. Know that this is one of the many tests you'll be getting in your new life as a Muslim so be patient and keep in mind that you're doing this for no other reason to please God.

Having that mind will insha'Allah make it infinitely easier and give you the unshakable confidence you need to successfully pass the tests life throws at you.

May Allah ease this for you.

AQ

[talib al ilm]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

you can host them as long as your never alone with her husband and you dont socialise with him and have a seperate living area etc for him

correct me if im wrong,, wa ALLAHU A'lam

[naila-k]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

plenty of muslims live with non mahram males, you just have to makesure you act appropriately around them, cover in front of them and are not alone with them, plenty of muslims have lodgers in their house and stuff, and they just dont really socialise with the husband, but do with the wife?

[Islam.07]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

plenty of muslims live with non mahram males, you just have to makesure you act appropriately around them, cover in front of them and are not alone with them, plenty of muslims have lodgers in their house and stuff, and they just dont really socialise with the husband, but do with the wife?

But I think you will have to tell em your Muslim, cuz it will be difficult to do what is stated above ^ without them not knowing your Muslim.

But the best thing is to tell her before hand, and if she really is your best friend then she won't mind, and plus, she's your best friend not the husband :S...

InshAllah all will go well for you sis :)

[finnish_sister]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

Thank you all for your response. I'll see what I can do.

[*asiya*]

Re: New Muslim and her best friend visiting with husband ??

plenty of muslims live with non mahram males, you just have to make sure you act appropriately around them, cover in front of them and are not alone with them, plenty of muslims have lodgers in their house and stuff, and they just dont really socialise with the husband, but do with the wife?

which is not acceptable in islam. just because muslims do things -that doesnt mean its islamic.