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    What does the home represent to each one of us ? Isnt it not the place where one eats, rests, and enjoys the company of his family members? If we think about those who are homeless, or living in shelters, or as refuges scattered in temporary places, then we will realize the blessings of our home.

    There are many motives for the believer to put their homes in order:

    1. Protecting oneself and the family from the fire of Hell, and keeping them safe from the Allahs punishment.

    2. The great responsibility borne by the head of the household on the day of judgment.

    3. The home is a safe haven to protect us from evils and keep ones own evils from people, it is a refuge prescribed by Islam at times of fitnah (tribulation).

    4. The home shares a big part of the human life, and therefore maintaining a healthy home provides a good environment to spend the time in the worship of Allah, and refraining from wrongdoing.

    5. The home is an essential part of building the strong blocks for the Muslim society.

    Following are tips to help you revive and strengthen your Muslim home:
    • Make Your Home a Place For the Remembrance of Allah

    Revive your homes with all kinds of Dhikr.
    The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
    "The likeness of a house in which Allah is remembered and the house in which Allah is not remembered is that of the living and the dead, respectively."

    We must make our homes places where Allah is remembered in all kinds of ways, whether in our hearts, verbally, during prayer, by reading Quran, by discussing Islamic issues, or by reading different kinds of Islamic books.
    • Help Your Family Increase Their Faith

    Encourage your house members to pray, fast, give charity as means of increasing faith.

    The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
    "May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays, then he wakes up his wife to pray, and if she refuses he throws water on her face." (Ahmad and Abu Dawud)

    Have a box at home for donations to the poor and needy: whatever is put in the box belongs to them, because it is their vessel in the Muslim home.

    If the family members see an example among them fasting on al-Ayyam al-Bid (the 13th, 14th and 15th of each Hijri month), Mondays and Thursdays, Tasuaa and Ashura (the 9th and 10th of Muharram), Arafah, and frequently in Muharram and Shaaban, this will be a motive for them to do likewise.
    • Learn Supplications Related to Home

    The messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
    "When any one of you enters his home and mentions the Name of Allah when he enters and when he eats, the Shaytan says: 'You have no place to stay and nothing to eat here.' If he enters and does not mention the name of Allah when he enters, [the Shaytan] says, 'You have a place to stay.' If he does not mention the name of Allah when he eats, [the Shaytan says], 'You have a place to stay and something to eat.'". (Ahmad)

    Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also said:
    "If a man goes out of his house and says, 'Bismillah, Tawakkaltu Ala Allah, La Hawla Wa La Quwwata Illa Billah (In the name of Allah, I put my trust in Allah, there is no help and no strength except in Allah),' it will be said to him, 'This will take care of you, you are guided, you have what you need and you are protected.' The Shaytan will stay away from him, and another Shaytan will say to him, 'What can you do with a man who is guided, provided for and protected?'"
    (Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi)

    Aishah said:
    "When the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) entered his house, the first thing he would do was use Siwak." (Muslim)

    • Continuously Recite Surah Al-Baqarah to Ward Off Shaytan

    Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
    "Do not make your houses into graves. The Shaytan flees from a house in which Surat al- Baqarah is recited." (Muslim)

    Concerning the virtues of the last two Ayat of this Surah, and the effect of reciting them in ones house, he (peace be upon him) said:
    "Allah wrote a document two thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth, which is kept near the Throne, and He revealed two Ayat of it with which He concluded Surat al-Baqarah. If they are recited in a house for three consecutive nights, the Shaytan will not approach it." (Ahmad)
    • Teach Your Family

    Allah says:
    "O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones..."

    Allocate some time for the family, and even for others such as relatives, to hold a study-circle at home and encourage them to come regularly, so that it will be an ongoing commitment for you and them.
    • Build Your Islamic Library

    It does not have to be extensive; what matters is choosing good books, putting them in a place where they are readily accessible, and encouraging family members to read them.
    Include books of varying levels, so that old and young, men and women can all use them.

    Also have books for giving to guests, childrens friends and family visitors, but try to get books that are attractively presented, edited properly and with the sources and classification of the Hadiths properly given.

    One way in which you can help family members find a book when they want it is to organize the books according to subject, Tafsir, Hadith, Fiqh ..etc.
    • Have a Home Audio Library

    Having a cassette player in every home may be used for good or for evil.
    How can we use it in a manner that is pleasing to Allah? Having a home audio library containing good Islamic tapes by scholars who are striving to raise the awareness of the Ummah, establish proof and denounce evil is very important for establishing individual personalities in the Muslim home.
    Listening to Quran recitation will have a great impact on family members, whether by reflecting on the meaning, or help memorizing it.
    • Invite Righteous People and Seekers of Knowledge to Visit Your Home

    "My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him who enters my home as a believer, and all the believing men and women...". [Nuh 71:28]

    If people of faith enter your home, it will increase in light (Nur), and will bring many benefits because of your conversations and discussion with them.

    The bearer of musk will either give you some, or you will buy from him, or you will find that he has a pleasant scent.

    When children, brothers and parents sit with such visitors, and women listen from behind a curtain or screen to what is said, this offers an educational experience to all.
    If you bring good people into your home, by doing so you keep bad people from coming in a wreaking havoc.
    • Avoid Showing Family Conflicts In Front of Others

    It is rare for people to live together under one roof without any arguments, but reconciliation is better and correcting oneself is a virtue.

    What shakes the unity of the family and harms its infrastructure is when conflicts are brought out into the open before the members of the family, who then split into two or more opposing camps, not to mention the psychological harm that is done to children, especially little ones.

    Think about a home where the father says to the child, "Do not speak to your mother," and the mother says to him, "Do not speak to your father."

    The child is confused and filled with turmoil, and the entire family lives in an atmosphere of hostility. We should try to avoid conflict, but if it happens, we should try to hide it.
    We ask Allah to create love between our hearts.
    • Have a Schedule for Meals And Bedtime

    There is nothing nicer than a family gathering together at the table and making the most of this opportunity to ask how everyone is and to discuss useful topics.
    • Spread Kindness in the Home

    Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said:
    "The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 'When Allah - may He be glorified - wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them.' ".

    This is one of the means of attaining happiness in the home, for kindness is very beneficial between the family members, and brings results that cannot be achieved through harshness, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
    "Allah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for anything else." (Muslim)
    • Be Affectionate

    Showing affection towards family members is one of the things that lead to creating an atmosphere of happiness and friendliness in the home.

    The prophet (peace be upon him) used to show his affection towards his wives, children and everyone around.

    Abu Hurairah said:
    "The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) kissed al-Hasan ibn Ali, and al-Aqra ibn Habis At-Tamimi was sitting with him. Al-Aqra said: 'I have ten children and I have never kissed any one of them.' The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) looked at him and said: 'The one who does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.'"
    • Resist Bad Manners in The Home

    Every member of the household is bound to have some bad characteristics, such as lying, backbiting, gossiping and so on. These bad characteristics have to be resisted and opposed.

    Aishah said:
    "If the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came to know that one of his household had told a lie, he would try to ignore him until he repented." (Ahmad)
    • Shield Your Home Against Common or Hidden Evils

    Beware of non-Mahram relatives entering upon women when their husbands are absent.
    Men and women should sit separately during family visits.
    Beware of the dangers of having male drivers and female servants in the house.
    Beware of the dangers of TV.
    Beware of the evils of the telephone.
    Remove everything that contains symbols of the false religions of the Kuffar or their gods and objects of worship.
    Remove pictures of animate beings.
    Do not allow smoking in your homes.
    Do not keep dogs in your homes.
    Avoid too much decoration in your homes (keep it simple).

    • Pay Attention to Familys Health and Safety

    When any member of his family got sick, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) would blow on them and recite al-Muwidhatayn (last two Surahs of the Quran). (Muslim)

    When one of his family members got sick, he would call for soup, and it would be made for him, then he would tell them to drink it, and he would say, "It will strengthen the heart of the one who is grieving and cleanse (heal) the heart of the one who is sick just as any one of you wipes the dirt from her face." (Tirmidhi)

    From "40 Recommendations for the Muslim Home" by Sheikh Muhammad Al-Munajjid


  • #2
    Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

    ReaLLY good advice bro! I was going to rep u for it but it says i must "spread my reputation around" before I can rep u again lolz.
    Fabi-ayyiala -i rabbikuma tukaththibani
    Then which of the favors of your Lord will ye deny?
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vr8DR8frP_s

    You are not here just to fill space or to be a background character in someone else's movie. Consider this: nothing would be the same if you did not exist. Every place you have ever been and everyone you have ever spoken to would be different without you. We are all connected, and we are all affected by the decisions and even the existence of those around us.

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    • #3
      Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

      velcome back MS, you go on albalagh too? Good site :)

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      • #4
        Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

        Originally posted by islam4u2 View Post
        velcome back MS, you go on albalagh too? Good site :)
        Thank you, no I don't go on the website. This was from another website and I assume the Bismillah image has been hotlinked on the previous post.

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        • #5
          Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

          whats the evils of the telephone?

          Recipes for all the family :inlove:
          (and you thought I was a lazy feminazi which can't cook?)

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          • #6
            Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

            Originally posted by naila-k View Post
            whats the evils of the telephone?
            I am not entirely sure, however, I have witnessed in the past how people stay on the Phone for a long time and talk about nonsense. I guess it means that. It could also be referring to the gossip and backbiting.

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            • #7
              Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

              Really good post bro looks neat and straight.

              Rasulallah salellahualaihiwasalam used to wake up in early morning time of fajr and say to all his(salellahualaihiwasalam) 's wives that on the day of qayamah everyone will be dressed with their deeds.
              صلى الله على حبيبه محمد و على آله و أصحابه و سلم
              Al-Muslimeen

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              • #8
                Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                Originally posted by ahmed_abdullah View Post
                Really good post bro looks neat and straight.

                Rasulallah salellahualaihiwasalam used to wake up in early morning time of fajr and say to all his(salellahualaihiwasalam) 's wives that on the day of qayamah everyone will be dressed with their deeds.
                Salahu alayhi Wasallam. SubhanAllaah, so true!

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                • #9
                  Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                  The wife should greet her husband with a nice smile on her face,husband should also reply by ask how was her day.

                  Then if you go outside like visit some place you know like business visit then while returning you should bring gifts for your family .
                  That will also increase the bonding and a lively spirit in home can be made.

                  Not said by me but i heard shaikh ul islam tahir ul qadri saying all these.
                  صلى الله على حبيبه محمد و على آله و أصحابه و سلم
                  Al-Muslimeen

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                  • #10
                    Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                    Originally posted by ahmed_abdullah View Post
                    The wife should greet her husband with a nice smile on her face,husband should also reply by ask how was her day.

                    Then if you go outside like visit some place you know like business visit then while returning you should bring gifts for your family .
                    That will also increase the bonding and a lively spirit in home can be made.

                    Not said by me but i heard shaikh ul islam tahir ul qadri saying all these.
                    Shaykh ul Islaam Tahir ul Qadri? I don't know of such person, I've heard of Shaykh ul Padri or Tahir ul Qadri. Even thought he has said that, it is common sense.

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                    • #11
                      Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                      Shaikh ul islam tahir ul qadri is the khalifa of qadri law by the authority of Shaikh abdul qader jilani radiallah taala anhu.

                      The name "ul qadri" means that he has been taught with the uloom of qadri which infact is of shaikh abdul qader jilani radiallah taala anhu

                      But i think you don't even know who is shaikh abdul qader jilani radiallah taala anhu, well i will even tell you who is he.

                      Shaikh abdul qader jilani radiallah taala anhu is the shaikh of every shaikh and Allama ibn taiymiah is also khalifa of shaikh abdul qader jilani radiallah taala anhu.

                      If it is so a common sense then with regards why are so many hypocrites in the world who don't even have common sense and then come home with fried faces while their wives even have angry look on their face.
                      صلى الله على حبيبه محمد و على آله و أصحابه و سلم
                      Al-Muslimeen

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                      • #12
                        Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                        I didn't know you were part of the Tahir ul Qadri Brigade, honestly. I thought you were one of he good guys! Which hypocrites are you talking about?

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                        • #13
                          Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                          Where did i say anything bad.:)

                          I didn't meant anyone over here in particular about the hypocrite part.It is just that i have met so many men who have like long beard and all, they will go on saying that is haram like taking pictures oh no this haram, or they will trap their wives in a home with nobody to talk or anything.Then they will even beat their wives or rather curse them.Which makes me really angry at times.I meant to these kind of people.
                          Last edited by ahmed_abdullah; 26-05-10, 08:32 PM.
                          صلى الله على حبيبه محمد و على آله و أصحابه و سلم
                          Al-Muslimeen

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                          • #14
                            Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                            Originally posted by ahmed_abdullah View Post
                            Where did i say anything bad.:)

                            I didn't anyone over here in particular about the hypocrite part.It is just that i have met so many men who have like long beard and all, they will go on saying that is haram like taking pictures oh no this haram, or they will trap their wives in a home with nobody to talk or anything.Then they will even beat their wives or rather curse them.Which makes me really angry at times.I meant to these kind of people.
                            You have met them, why don't you teach them whats correct? Remember, being a loving and caring husband doesn't come from Qadri, but comes form the leader of this Ummah, the leader of the Mujahideen, our Prophet Muhammad PBUH.

                            Of course, picture taking isn't exacltly permissble in Islaam. Trapping their wives in a home? With nobody to tlak to or anything? I'll be honest with you, I don't know anyone who does that. I don't know of anyone man who beats their wife or curses them.

                            How are you to your wife?

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                            • #15
                              Re: A guide for a better Muslim home

                              Originally posted by MuslimSoljah View Post
                              You have met them, why don't you teach them whats correct? Remember, being a loving and caring husband doesn't come from Qadri, but comes form the leader of this Ummah, the leader of the Mujahideen, our Prophet Muhammad PBUH.

                              Of course, picture taking isn't exacltly permissble in Islaam. Trapping their wives in a home? With nobody to tlak to or anything? I'll be honest with you, I don't know anyone who does that. I don't know of anyone man who beats their wife or curses them.

                              How are you to your wife?
                              These kind of men are very comon in the society only few eyes get to see them.
                              If someone makes dawah to these kind of men it would be like hitting the hard surface but still ullema do their job very well melting their heart to certain extent but some are though still who trap their wives and do not allow to talk to anyone even if it is a women still they will not allow them, they will join tabligh for other people but when it comes to the point of their own homes then they will be like a hitler kind of.Anger so much that they will hit the plate onto the wall if the food is not cooked properly.I don't have a wife.

                              Besides uloom of qadri is from the uloom of rasulallah salellahualaihiwasalam.
                              صلى الله على حبيبه محمد و على آله و أصحابه و سلم
                              Al-Muslimeen

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