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    LONDON: Attention gossip mongers, don't spend so much time on trivial chitchat as they actually dampen one's state of mind.

    According to psychologists from the University of Arizona in the United States, a person's well-being is directly related to indulging less in small trivial talks and more in deep and meaningful conversations.

    "Profound conversations have the potential to make people happier. The findings suggest that a happy life is social and conversationally deep rather than solitary and superficial," co-author Matthias Mehl said.

    The team came to the conclusion after looking into whether happy and unhappy people differed in the kind of conversations they had.

    The study, published in Psychological Science journal, found that "the happiest participants had twice as many deep and meaningful conversations and engaged in one third as much small talk as the unhappiest participants".

    "Just as self-disclosure can instill a sense of intimacy in a relationship, deep conversations may instill a sense of meaning in interaction with partners," Mehl said.

    For the study, a group of volunteers were asked to complete personality and well-being assessments to enable the researchers to gauge how happy or unhappy they were, the Daily Express reported.

    The volunteers were also asked to wear an unobtrusive device — an electronically activated recorder that can record 30 seconds of sounds every 12 minutes — for four days.

    As the volunteers went about their everyday business the device periodically monitored snippets of sounds, including conversations with friends and colleagues.

    The researchers then listened to the recordings and classified the conversations as either trivial small talk or substantive discussions. The other, less surprising, finding was that happy people tend to spend less time alone. The happiest participants spent 25% less time alone and 70% more time talking than the unhappiest.

    The happiest participants had twice as many deep and meaningful conversations and one third as much small talk as the unhappiest.

    "These findings suggest that the happy life is social and conversationally deep rather than solitary and superficial," Mehl said. Just as self-disclosure can instill a sense of intimacy in a relationship, deep conversations may instill a sense of meaning in interaction with partners.

    Those with the biggest smiles had twice as many deep and meaningful conversations as the least happy.

    They also indulged in a third of the small talk that the unhappy volunteers admitted to.

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  • #2
    Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

    Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss peopleEleanor Roosevelt

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    • #3
      Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

      Originally posted by Abdul-Curim View Post
      LONDON: Attention gossip mongers, don't spend so much time on trivial chitchat as they actually dampen one's state of mind.

      According to psychologists from the University of Arizona in the United States, a person's well-being is directly related to indulging less in small trivial talks and more in deep and meaningful conversations.

      "Profound conversations have the potential to make people happier. ]
      OK.

      Say something deep and meaningful.

      On with the profound conversations !

      You start.

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      • #4
        Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

        ^^^ what's your interest?

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        • #5
          Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

          Originally posted by Supernova Nebula View Post
          ^^^ what's your interest?
          hmmm.... not really very profound or meaningful...

          anyone can improve on that ?

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          • #6
            Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

            That is the best thing which you have referenced in a long time. I like that quote, I am going to nick it and tell all my friends which category they fall into lol

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            • #7
              Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

              OK.

              Now, for something even more intelligent and profound... any volunteers ?

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              • #8
                Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

                salam

                this makes sence, since this is mentioned in the Qur'an. idle talk is one of the things we were warned against.
                And the (faithful) slaves of the Most Gracious (Allâh) are those who walk on the earth in humility and sedateness, and when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with mild words of gentleness. (25:63)

                O You who believe! Shall I guide you to a trade that will save you from a painful torment? (10) That you believe in Allâh and His Messenger (Muhammad SAW),and that you strive hard and fight in the Cause of Allâh with your wealth and your lives, that will be better for you, if you but know! (11) (If you do so) He will forgive you your sins, and admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow, and pleasant dwellings in Adn (Edn) Paradise; that is indeed the great success. (12)

                JazakAllah khair for the duas but i would prefer duas for shahadah instead.

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                • #9
                  Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

                  We have all of these types of people on this forum.
                  "Verily Allah does not look to your appearance or wealth, but he looks to your hearts and your deeds." [Sahih Muslim, Vol. 4, #6221]

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                  • #10
                    Re: Chit-chat can leave you miserable.

                    ^
                    so am guessing u fall in last ? :)
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