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  • Br Imran
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    Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
    Asalaamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatahu,

    I was soooooooo looking forward to Ramadhan this year as i wanted to make the most of it, read Qu'ran, make voluntary prayers, go to the Masjid, and learn more about Islam. I was so motivated, as the months built up to Ramadhan my enthusiasm was indescribable!! Finally the day had come, i was so excited, i went to the Masjid to pray taraweeh, came home read Qu'ran, got up for the first suhoor, prayed fajr, then woke up and read books and watched lectures, i just felt i wanted to do more and more to please the Almighty(SWT). Then suddenly this form of depression overcame me, i STILL want to learn sooo much more but i dont want to be around my immediate surroundings, i feel so down and depressed like i want to get away from everything, my house, my area, the people, everything, i just want to be alone somewhere. My love for my deen still stands strong and will ever increase inshaAllah but i dont know why this feeling of depression has come upon me in this blessed month. I just dont know wot to do.... :(

    Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The world is a prison-house for a believer and Paradise for a non-believer. [Saheeh Muslim, Book 042, Number 7058]

    Narrated Mujahid: 'Abdullah bin 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him)said, "Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) took hold of my shoulder and said, 'Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler."

    The sub-narrator added: Ibn 'Umar used to say, "If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death." [Saheeh Bukhaari, Volume 8, Book 76, Number 425]

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  • naila-k
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    Sometimes families see you changing to the outside world and in every regards accept when it comes to them, you have becoma more practicing, has this changed the way you act towards your famioly? are you more patient and more considerate, do you always get the housework done and have respect and good manners? or will you leave the house a mess but go outside to talks? perhaps they just see you as always being in your room reading islamic books and praying extra namaaz but not contributing any extra towards the household. If you do all the things your family want you to do at home and they can see your turning towards your religion has made you a better person then they cant really fault it!

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  • RaNdOm
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    Originally posted by IslamicGear View Post
    I feel like this too many times...

    ...but thats because I am single and want to get married right now. This very second.
    :salams

    lol that made me laff

    but u know if ur not married, its a test or Allah swt is cultivating u for marriage so ur this mega awesome person by the time u get married so that u can marry someone so mega awesome too inshaAllah... like u know gotta grow as ur own person and then inshaAllah everything will come as Allah swt plan takes place... just gotta trust in that plan cos it's all for a reason :)

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  • IslamicGear
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    Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
    Asalaamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatahu,

    I was soooooooo looking forward to Ramadhan this year as i wanted to make the most of it, read Qu'ran, make voluntary prayers, go to the Masjid, and learn more about Islam. I was so motivated, as the months built up to Ramadhan my enthusiasm was indescribable!! Finally the day had come, i was so excited, i went to the Masjid to pray taraweeh, came home read Qu'ran, got up for the first suhoor, prayed fajr, then woke up and read books and watched lectures, i just felt i wanted to do more and more to please the Almighty(SWT). Then suddenly this form of depression overcame me, i STILL want to learn sooo much more but i dont want to be around my immediate surroundings, i feel so down and depressed like i want to get away from everything, my house, my area, the people, everything, i just want to be alone somewhere. My love for my deen still stands strong and will ever increase inshaAllah but i dont know why this feeling of depression has come upon me in this blessed month. I just dont know wot to do.... :(
    I feel like this too many times...

    ...but thats because I am single and want to get married right now. This very second.

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  • RaNdOm
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    :salams

    maybe Allah swt blessed u with this feeling so u can maximise ur deeds, cos u have this feeling ur gonna work twice as hard to get rid of it by tryna do as much as u can to get closer to Allah swt.... we can't expect rewards and blessings like sweetness of emaan to come so quickly to us in ramadhan, but work for it, strive for it so by the end of ramadhan we're strong enough to take on the whole year..

    and also maybe Allah swt wanted u to talk to this girl that u know... u know that really cool one u always on abt... sumt with RaNdOm or sumt ??? :p

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  • ugh
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    Walaikam asalaam waramatullahai wabarukatu... You seem to be experiencing a oppresive atmosphere, i hope Allah makes it easier for you with the family stuff and that you enjoy this month as you have shelter, the ability to read your books, brains to understand them inshAllah, water to wash with and to drink at iftari & insh'Allah sisters on here that you can discuss things with and befriend

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  • umm turaab
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    Originally posted by jihada View Post
    O awwwwwwww. I felt the same way today I couldn't wait for Ramadan and then it came to me and I was like awwww why! Then I couldn't wait to break the fast, and I broke it, and now am like, huh? I waited all day for that? I feel so icky now. I think I ate too much too fast...Just reach to Allah thats all I can say, I cant guide u, he can.
    Awwwww ukhti i think u slightly misunderstood my post but never mind. I pray Allah(SWT) makes the rest of Ramadhan easier upon you, try and occupy urself with reading books, waching lectures on the internet, etc and u wont feel the fast, before you know it it'l be time to break your fast.

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  • umm turaab
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    Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
    It was hard for you to change from one lifestyle to another, and its even harder for your family to accept and adapt to that change you made. Im sure you already are, but make sure you stay wise as to how you introduce changes to your family.

    How was the prohibition of Alcohol introduced ? It was revealed in stages to make it easier for the people to adapt to the change. the same method can be used here, introduce the new changes to them slowly and over time so they get time to adapt. do it in little bits so its easier for them to digest and so on. Try not too bombard them with soo much at the same time.

    After time insha'Allah they'll start to support the decisions you make and may help you with them. For now your doing well masha'Allah being patient, and Allah is with the Patient.
    May Allah make the tests easy for you.
    Yeh i know wot u mean and inshaAllah pray what your sayig is right, that they support the decisions i make but at times i jus feel i want them to see the beauty Allah(SWT) has guided me to see, i want them to experience the luxuries of this deen. I guess i cant force anything upon anybody, its Allah(SWT) that guides who He(SWT) wills.

    JazakAllah khairun for your advice i pray Allah(SWT) makes it easier upon us ALL and guides us all to the sirat-ul-mustaqem, gives us the strength to increase our knowledge and do righteous deeds, that advice goes to myself first and foremost.
    Last edited by umm turaab; 03-09-08, 02:09 AM.

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  • jihada
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    O awwwwwwww. I felt the same way today I couldn't wait for Ramadan and then it came to me and I was like awwww why! Then I couldn't wait to break the fast, and I broke it, and now am like, huh? I waited all day for that? I feel so icky now. I think I ate too much too fast...Just reach to Allah thats all I can say, I cant guide u, he can.
    Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
    Asalaamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatahu,

    I was soooooooo looking forward to Ramadhan this year as i wanted to make the most of it, read Qu'ran, make voluntary prayers, go to the Masjid, and learn more about Islam. I was so motivated, as the months built up to Ramadhan my enthusiasm was indescribable!! Finally the day had come, i was so excited, i went to the Masjid to pray taraweeh, came home read Qu'ran, got up for the first suhoor, prayed fajr, then woke up and read books and watched lectures, i just felt i wanted to do more and more to please the Almighty(SWT). Then suddenly this form of depression overcame me, i STILL want to learn sooo much more but i dont want to be around my immediate surroundings, i feel so down and depressed like i want to get away from everything, my house, my area, the people, everything, i just want to be alone somewhere. My love for my deen still stands strong and will ever increase inshaAllah but i dont know why this feeling of depression has come upon me in this blessed month. I just dont know wot to do.... :(

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  • Abu Nuh AMW
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    It was hard for you to change from one lifestyle to another, and its even harder for your family to accept and adapt to that change you made. Im sure you already are, but make sure you stay wise as to how you introduce changes to your family.

    How was the prohibition of Alcohol introduced ? It was revealed in stages to make it easier for the people to adapt to the change. the same method can be used here, introduce the new changes to them slowly and over time so they get time to adapt. do it in little bits so its easier for them to digest and so on. Try not too bombard them with soo much at the same time.

    After time insha'Allah they'll start to support the decisions you make and may help you with them. For now your doing well masha'Allah being patient, and Allah is with the Patient.
    I hope something I said was beneficial, if not then please disregards and I apologise.
    May Allah make the tests easy for you.
    Last edited by Abu Nuh AMW; 03-09-08, 02:02 AM.

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  • umm turaab
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    Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
    Subhan'Allah, May Allah make things easy for you.

    btw im sure most of us 'youngsters' who started practicing at uni have had that sorta situation with family, one thing from my experience, be your families best friend, have the nicest character and never get upset or angry at them or shout at them,ever! dont ever distance yourself from them in any way. After another year insha'Allah they would've adapted to the 'new you' lol and insha'Allah things should be better.


    "Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest" (13:28)
    Thats the only thing that keeps me going that Allah(SWT) will open their hearts if i stay persistant. But at times it gets hard because i try to be nice, calm, keep my voice lowered but im told not to think the way i think, i.e. my thinking is "wahabhified" or practise what i do, or wear abaya, they think i should take it off, and if i even mention i ever want to wear niqab thats a BIG NO NO! Its hard changing from one lifestyle to another but its not a nice feeling when the support is not there. I know Allah(SWT) States in the Noble Quran "Verily after difficulty there is ease" [94:5] and thats what makes me hold on just waiting for that ease and relief to come but being a human i breakdown at times because the trials/tests get harder and harder.

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  • Abu Nuh AMW
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    Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
    Thats another issue, since ive only started to practice my deen in the last year or 2 my family feel by me following the Qu'ran & Sunnah ive become some "extremist" I feel so alone at times, im also unable to socialise with the sisters i met at uni because my parents think they've "changed" me, and they dont like me spending time at the masjid because they feel im doing something "dodgy" or listening to some speaker who is "brainwashing" me, there's soo many personal issues which i dont want talk about on here that are pushing me down but still alhumdulilah im trying to hold on strong. Its like climbing up a mountain, its gets harder and harder as u start reaching the peak but its EVEN HARDER when someone keeps pushing you down. I feel as though im a prisoner in my own freedom. I want to do as much as i can to please Allah(SWT) btu im restricted in many ways, it gets soo hard...
    Subhan'Allah, May Allah make things easy for you.

    btw im sure most of us 'youngsters' who started practicing at uni have had that sorta situation with family, one thing from my experience, be your families best friend, have the nicest character and never get upset or angry at them or shout at them,ever! dont ever distance yourself from them in any way. After another year insha'Allah they would've adapted to the 'new you' lol and insha'Allah things should be better.


    "Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest" (13:28)

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  • umm turaab
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    Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
    how bout the masjid? if not all day, spend as much time as you can there, dhuhr-maghrib or something.
    Thats another issue, since ive only started to practice my deen in the last year or 2 my family feel by me following the Qu'ran & Sunnah ive become some "extremist" I feel so alone at times, im also unable to socialise with the sisters i met at uni because my parents think they've "changed" me, and they dont like me spending time at the masjid because they feel im doing something "dodgy" or listening to some speaker who is "brainwashing" me, there's soo many personal issues which i dont want talk about on here that are pushing me down but still alhumdulilah im trying to hold on strong. Its like climbing up a mountain, its gets harder and harder as u start reaching the peak but its EVEN HARDER when someone keeps pushing you down. I feel as though im a prisoner in my own freedom. I want to do as much as i can to please Allah(SWT) btu im restricted in many ways, it gets soo hard...

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  • Abu Nuh AMW
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    Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
    Its hard for me to get out of the surroundings due to personal issues. I would love to go umrah but because ive just left uni i cant afford it. I think thats partly the reason aswel, i met sooo many luvli sisters at uni who showed me the beauty of this deen n im missing that too, the environment im in is very different. I just feel i want to be alone, its a horrible feeling to have during Ramadhan especially since this is my first Ramadhan trying to put my All into it.
    how bout the masjid? if not all day, spend as much time as you can there, dhuhr-maghrib or something.

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  • umm turaab
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    Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
    wa'alaikumasalaam wa'rahmatullah

    Sometimes you just need to get out of the surroundings/environment your in so that you can concentrate on what you want to do without the old previous distractions. Go Umra or somewhere else if you can.
    Its hard for me to get out of the surroundings due to personal issues. I would love to go umrah but because ive just left uni i cant afford it. I think thats partly the reason aswel, i met sooo many luvli sisters at uni who showed me the beauty of this deen n im missing that too, the environment im in is very different. I just feel i want to be alone, its a horrible feeling to have during Ramadhan especially since this is my first Ramadhan trying to put my All into it.

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