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    Asalaamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatahu,

    I was soooooooo looking forward to Ramadhan this year as i wanted to make the most of it, read Qu'ran, make voluntary prayers, go to the Masjid, and learn more about Islam. I was so motivated, as the months built up to Ramadhan my enthusiasm was indescribable!! Finally the day had come, i was so excited, i went to the Masjid to pray taraweeh, came home read Qu'ran, got up for the first suhoor, prayed fajr, then woke up and read books and watched lectures, i just felt i wanted to do more and more to please the Almighty(SWT). Then suddenly this form of depression overcame me, i STILL want to learn sooo much more but i dont want to be around my immediate surroundings, i feel so down and depressed like i want to get away from everything, my house, my area, the people, everything, i just want to be alone somewhere. My love for my deen still stands strong and will ever increase inshaAllah but i dont know why this feeling of depression has come upon me in this blessed month. I just dont know wot to do.... :(
    "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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    Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

    What are you thinking? Any negative thoughts? If your happy then why suddenly?
    الصلوۃ والسلام علیک یا سیدی یارسول اللہ

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      Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

      wa'alaikumasalaam wa'rahmatullah

      Sometimes you just need to get out of the surroundings/environment your in so that you can concentrate on what you want to do without the old previous distractions.

      Go Umra or somewhere else if you can.

      or spend the whole day in the masjid if your able to and do all the things you wana do there. that should clear your head!
      Last edited by Abu Nuh AMW; 03-09-08, 12:54 AM.
      "If I was going to meet my new wedded wife on my wedding night, or you would give me news I had a new born son. It would not give me the same satisfaction as sitting in a tent on a cold night thinking of tactics on how to ambush my enemy."
      Khalid ibn al-Waleed.

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        Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

        Originally posted by Kasim2k7 View Post
        What are you thinking? Any negative thoughts? If your happy then why suddenly?
        I dont know wot im thinking, its just come out of the blue, i jus dont like where i am, the surroundings, suddenly a random form of depression. Ive only been "properly" practising for about a year and i was soo looking forward to this Ramadhan to amke the most of it but seddenly this feelin has come and i try to make voluntary prayers, dua, read Quran to make it go away but it just wont go :(
        "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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          Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

          Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
          wa'alaikumasalaam wa'rahmatullah

          Sometimes you just need to get out of the surroundings/environment your in so that you can concentrate on what you want to do without the old previous distractions. Go Umra or somewhere else if you can.
          Its hard for me to get out of the surroundings due to personal issues. I would love to go umrah but because ive just left uni i cant afford it. I think thats partly the reason aswel, i met sooo many luvli sisters at uni who showed me the beauty of this deen n im missing that too, the environment im in is very different. I just feel i want to be alone, its a horrible feeling to have during Ramadhan especially since this is my first Ramadhan trying to put my All into it.
          "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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            Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
            Its hard for me to get out of the surroundings due to personal issues. I would love to go umrah but because ive just left uni i cant afford it. I think thats partly the reason aswel, i met sooo many luvli sisters at uni who showed me the beauty of this deen n im missing that too, the environment im in is very different. I just feel i want to be alone, its a horrible feeling to have during Ramadhan especially since this is my first Ramadhan trying to put my All into it.
            how bout the masjid? if not all day, spend as much time as you can there, dhuhr-maghrib or something.
            "If I was going to meet my new wedded wife on my wedding night, or you would give me news I had a new born son. It would not give me the same satisfaction as sitting in a tent on a cold night thinking of tactics on how to ambush my enemy."
            Khalid ibn al-Waleed.

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              Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

              Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
              how bout the masjid? if not all day, spend as much time as you can there, dhuhr-maghrib or something.
              Thats another issue, since ive only started to practice my deen in the last year or 2 my family feel by me following the Qu'ran & Sunnah ive become some "extremist" I feel so alone at times, im also unable to socialise with the sisters i met at uni because my parents think they've "changed" me, and they dont like me spending time at the masjid because they feel im doing something "dodgy" or listening to some speaker who is "brainwashing" me, there's soo many personal issues which i dont want talk about on here that are pushing me down but still alhumdulilah im trying to hold on strong. Its like climbing up a mountain, its gets harder and harder as u start reaching the peak but its EVEN HARDER when someone keeps pushing you down. I feel as though im a prisoner in my own freedom. I want to do as much as i can to please Allah(SWT) btu im restricted in many ways, it gets soo hard...
              "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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                Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
                Thats another issue, since ive only started to practice my deen in the last year or 2 my family feel by me following the Qu'ran & Sunnah ive become some "extremist" I feel so alone at times, im also unable to socialise with the sisters i met at uni because my parents think they've "changed" me, and they dont like me spending time at the masjid because they feel im doing something "dodgy" or listening to some speaker who is "brainwashing" me, there's soo many personal issues which i dont want talk about on here that are pushing me down but still alhumdulilah im trying to hold on strong. Its like climbing up a mountain, its gets harder and harder as u start reaching the peak but its EVEN HARDER when someone keeps pushing you down. I feel as though im a prisoner in my own freedom. I want to do as much as i can to please Allah(SWT) btu im restricted in many ways, it gets soo hard...
                Subhan'Allah, May Allah make things easy for you.

                btw im sure most of us 'youngsters' who started practicing at uni have had that sorta situation with family, one thing from my experience, be your families best friend, have the nicest character and never get upset or angry at them or shout at them,ever! dont ever distance yourself from them in any way. After another year insha'Allah they would've adapted to the 'new you' lol and insha'Allah things should be better.


                "Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest" (13:28)
                "If I was going to meet my new wedded wife on my wedding night, or you would give me news I had a new born son. It would not give me the same satisfaction as sitting in a tent on a cold night thinking of tactics on how to ambush my enemy."
                Khalid ibn al-Waleed.

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                  Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                  Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
                  Subhan'Allah, May Allah make things easy for you.

                  btw im sure most of us 'youngsters' who started practicing at uni have had that sorta situation with family, one thing from my experience, be your families best friend, have the nicest character and never get upset or angry at them or shout at them,ever! dont ever distance yourself from them in any way. After another year insha'Allah they would've adapted to the 'new you' lol and insha'Allah things should be better.


                  "Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest" (13:28)
                  Thats the only thing that keeps me going that Allah(SWT) will open their hearts if i stay persistant. But at times it gets hard because i try to be nice, calm, keep my voice lowered but im told not to think the way i think, i.e. my thinking is "wahabhified" or practise what i do, or wear abaya, they think i should take it off, and if i even mention i ever want to wear niqab thats a BIG NO NO! Its hard changing from one lifestyle to another but its not a nice feeling when the support is not there. I know Allah(SWT) States in the Noble Quran "Verily after difficulty there is ease" [94:5] and thats what makes me hold on just waiting for that ease and relief to come but being a human i breakdown at times because the trials/tests get harder and harder.
                  "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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                    Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                    It was hard for you to change from one lifestyle to another, and its even harder for your family to accept and adapt to that change you made. Im sure you already are, but make sure you stay wise as to how you introduce changes to your family.

                    How was the prohibition of Alcohol introduced ? It was revealed in stages to make it easier for the people to adapt to the change. the same method can be used here, introduce the new changes to them slowly and over time so they get time to adapt. do it in little bits so its easier for them to digest and so on. Try not too bombard them with soo much at the same time.

                    After time insha'Allah they'll start to support the decisions you make and may help you with them. For now your doing well masha'Allah being patient, and Allah is with the Patient.
                    I hope something I said was beneficial, if not then please disregards and I apologise.
                    May Allah make the tests easy for you.
                    Last edited by Abu Nuh AMW; 03-09-08, 02:02 AM.
                    "If I was going to meet my new wedded wife on my wedding night, or you would give me news I had a new born son. It would not give me the same satisfaction as sitting in a tent on a cold night thinking of tactics on how to ambush my enemy."
                    Khalid ibn al-Waleed.

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                      Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                      O awwwwwwww. I felt the same way today I couldn't wait for Ramadan and then it came to me and I was like awwww why! Then I couldn't wait to break the fast, and I broke it, and now am like, huh? I waited all day for that? I feel so icky now. I think I ate too much too fast...Just reach to Allah thats all I can say, I cant guide u, he can.
                      Originally posted by umm turaab View Post
                      Asalaamu'alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatahu,

                      I was soooooooo looking forward to Ramadhan this year as i wanted to make the most of it, read Qu'ran, make voluntary prayers, go to the Masjid, and learn more about Islam. I was so motivated, as the months built up to Ramadhan my enthusiasm was indescribable!! Finally the day had come, i was so excited, i went to the Masjid to pray taraweeh, came home read Qu'ran, got up for the first suhoor, prayed fajr, then woke up and read books and watched lectures, i just felt i wanted to do more and more to please the Almighty(SWT). Then suddenly this form of depression overcame me, i STILL want to learn sooo much more but i dont want to be around my immediate surroundings, i feel so down and depressed like i want to get away from everything, my house, my area, the people, everything, i just want to be alone somewhere. My love for my deen still stands strong and will ever increase inshaAllah but i dont know why this feeling of depression has come upon me in this blessed month. I just dont know wot to do.... :(

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                        Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                        Originally posted by Abu Nuh AMW View Post
                        It was hard for you to change from one lifestyle to another, and its even harder for your family to accept and adapt to that change you made. Im sure you already are, but make sure you stay wise as to how you introduce changes to your family.

                        How was the prohibition of Alcohol introduced ? It was revealed in stages to make it easier for the people to adapt to the change. the same method can be used here, introduce the new changes to them slowly and over time so they get time to adapt. do it in little bits so its easier for them to digest and so on. Try not too bombard them with soo much at the same time.

                        After time insha'Allah they'll start to support the decisions you make and may help you with them. For now your doing well masha'Allah being patient, and Allah is with the Patient.
                        May Allah make the tests easy for you.
                        Yeh i know wot u mean and inshaAllah pray what your sayig is right, that they support the decisions i make but at times i jus feel i want them to see the beauty Allah(SWT) has guided me to see, i want them to experience the luxuries of this deen. I guess i cant force anything upon anybody, its Allah(SWT) that guides who He(SWT) wills.

                        JazakAllah khairun for your advice i pray Allah(SWT) makes it easier upon us ALL and guides us all to the sirat-ul-mustaqem, gives us the strength to increase our knowledge and do righteous deeds, that advice goes to myself first and foremost.
                        Last edited by umm turaab; 03-09-08, 02:09 AM.
                        "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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                          Originally posted by jihada View Post
                          O awwwwwwww. I felt the same way today I couldn't wait for Ramadan and then it came to me and I was like awwww why! Then I couldn't wait to break the fast, and I broke it, and now am like, huh? I waited all day for that? I feel so icky now. I think I ate too much too fast...Just reach to Allah thats all I can say, I cant guide u, he can.
                          Awwwww ukhti i think u slightly misunderstood my post but never mind. I pray Allah(SWT) makes the rest of Ramadhan easier upon you, try and occupy urself with reading books, waching lectures on the internet, etc and u wont feel the fast, before you know it it'l be time to break your fast.
                          "What can my enemies do to me? I have in my breast both my heaven and my garden. If I travel they are with me, never leaving me. Imprisonment for me is a chance to be alone with my Lord. To be killed is martyrdom and to be exiled from my land is a spiritual journey." - Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimuhullah)

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                            Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                            Walaikam asalaam waramatullahai wabarukatu... You seem to be experiencing a oppresive atmosphere, i hope Allah makes it easier for you with the family stuff and that you enjoy this month as you have shelter, the ability to read your books, brains to understand them inshAllah, water to wash with and to drink at iftari & insh'Allah sisters on here that you can discuss things with and befriend
                            "If you have burned the Jews, why don't you give a piece of Europe, the United States, Canada or Alaska to Israel. Our question is, if you have committed this huge crime, why should the innocent nation of Palestine pay for this crime?"

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                              Re: I just DONT know WOT to do... :(

                              :salams

                              maybe Allah swt blessed u with this feeling so u can maximise ur deeds, cos u have this feeling ur gonna work twice as hard to get rid of it by tryna do as much as u can to get closer to Allah swt.... we can't expect rewards and blessings like sweetness of emaan to come so quickly to us in ramadhan, but work for it, strive for it so by the end of ramadhan we're strong enough to take on the whole year..

                              and also maybe Allah swt wanted u to talk to this girl that u know... u know that really cool one u always on abt... sumt with RaNdOm or sumt ??? :p
                              ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
                              "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
                              :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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