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  • dhak1yya
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    Originally posted by `asiya View Post
    audu billah


    there was an interesting survey mentioned last week, that girls and women are becoming more violent, and phycologists said it was because of their being expected to compete with men. in western society the opression of women, and the feminisim that came out of that is such a curse on western society. not to mention how the media,films, t.v soaps etc portray women now they can be as agressive as any man, there have been many films in the last few years glorifying women as violent criminals.
    yes, crime rates among girls and young women is going up. I think it is like you said, feminist attitudes that tell girls to act like men, instead of regaining the respect and high status that is due to women for bearing and raising children.

    Also the thing with domestic violence against men is this, combined with the fact that among a lot of people, particularly women in the west, attitudes have gone from male chauvinism to female chauvinism, where in the 70s you had comedians making sexist jokes against women, now they are making them against men, where its acceptable to constantly bleat on about how "stupid" men are.... in conversation and in comedy... many comedy shows nowadays, men are the butt of jokes that simply would not be acceptable if women were the butt of the same jokes. Such people consider a woman hitting a man to be funny, and a man hitting a woman to be despicable and he should be locked up. Then you get men who are being hit by their girlfriends who think they just have to take it and if they hit back, just once, she goes down the police station cries victim and reports him. Please note: this I am describing is what really happened to a man I knew before I became Muslim.... and all their friends sided with her, despite the fact he was not a very big man and had endured repeated physical and verbal abuse before hitting back just once. Then suddenly he's an evil wife beater and no-one wants to know him.

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  • *asiya*
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    audu billah

    Originally posted by abdulhakeem View Post

    as well as physical abuse: slapping, hitting, kicking, or forced sex.
    i dont understand how the last one is possible for a man.

    ( and no im not asking for an explanation either )

    there was an interesting survey mentioned last week, that girls and women are becoming more violent, and phycologists said it was because of their being expected to compete with men. in western society the opression of women, and the feminisim that came out of that is such a curse on western society. not to mention how the media,films, t.v soaps etc portray women now they can be as agressive as any man, there have been many films in the last few years glorifying women as violent criminals.
    Last edited by *asiya*; 21-05-08, 08:32 AM.

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  • Te'oma
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    When I was in Ontario, I worked at a factory that employed a lot of Pakistanis. I knew several guys that came to work with black eyes, split lips etc and when you asked them what had happened they would say that they had gotten hit by some white guy. I was horrified that racism was so endemic but I noticed a pattern...it was always the same 3 men that were getting hit but they wouldn't report it to the police.
    Just before I quit working there I was talking with one of the other Pakistani guys and mentioned that these 3 should stop hanging out where they did or get some bigger friends to hang out with them. He asked me why I thought that and when I said that they were always getting beaten up by white guys, he held a finger up, looked around to make sure that he wasn't overheard and then told me that it was their wives that had been beating them. They had lied because they were ashamed.

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  • JayC
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    well our communities don't have this problem. we have a good structure in all aspects including extended families...

    eg you don't find muslims throwing their elderly in nursing homes. a friend of mine working there said even in areas with large muslim communities, its very rare to find an elderly muslim in a home.

    same with abused men. this is something we don't suffer from. i remember once watching a COPs programme on tv years ago. domestic violence, girlfriend beat the guy up. on youtube how many men are humiliated with the vids put up of them getting beaten after arguing with their women? widespread... i know just from hearing about my husband's kaffir family.

    the muslim woman has her husband 3rd in status after Allah and RasulAllah :saw: ...but for these women whatever fitna they feel like, is game. and whos a man to stand in their way?

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  • AbuMubarak
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    bad joke

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  • JayC
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    another fine example of kaffir society.


    not only can they not control their women... they get battered by them too
    :p

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  • Men experience domestic violence, with health impact

    Group Health study debunks five myths about abuse of men

    19-May-2008

    SEATTLE—Domestic violence can happen to men, not only to women, according to Group Health research in the June American Journal of Preventive Medicine. “Domestic violence in men is under-studied and often hidden—much as it was in women 10 years ago,” said study leader Robert J. Reid, MD, PhD, an associate investigator at the Group Health Center for Health Studies. “We want abused men to know they’re not alone.” His findings confirm some common beliefs but also debunk five myths about abuse in men:

    Myth 1: Few men experience domestic violence. Many do. In-depth phone interviews with over 400 randomly sampled adult male Group Health patients surprised Dr. Reid and his colleagues: 5% had experienced domestic violence in the past year, 10% in the past five years, and 29% over their lifetimes. The researchers defined domestic violence to include nonphysical abuse—threats, chronic disparaging remarks, or controlling behavior—as well as physical abuse: slapping, hitting, kicking, or forced sex.

    Myth 2: Abuse of men has no serious effects. The researchers found domestic violence is associated with serious, long-term effects on men’s mental health. Women are more likely than men to experience more severe physical abuse, said Dr. Reid. “But even nonphysical abuse——can do lasting damage.” Depressive symptoms were nearly three times as common in older men who had experienced abuse than in those who hadn’t, with much more severe depression in the men who had been abused physically.

    Myth 3: Abused men don’t stay, because they’re free to leave. In fact, men may stay for years with their abusive partners. “We know that many women may have trouble leaving abusive relationships, especially if they’re caring for young children and not working outside the home,” said Dr. Reid. “We were surprised to find that most men in abusive relationships also stay, through multiple episodes, for years.”

    Myth 4: Domestic violence affects only poor people. The study actually showed it to be an equal-opportunity scourge. “As we found in our previous research with women experiencing domestic violence, this is a common problem affecting people in all walks of life,” said Dr. Reid. “Our patients at Group Health have health insurance and easy access to health care, and their employment rate and average income, education level, and age are higher than those of the rest of the U.S. population.”

    Myth 5: Ignoring it will make it go away. Not so. “We doctors hardly ever ask our male patients about being abused—and they seldom tell us,” said Dr. Reid. “Many abused men feel ashamed because of societal expectations for men to be tough and in control.” Younger men were twice as likely as men age 55 or older to report recent abuse. “That may be because older men are even more reluctant to talk about it,” he added.

    This study extends Group Health’s research on domestic violence, a.k.a. intimate partner violence. The team’s previous publications have documented the prevalence, persistence, and health effects of domestic violence on women. In the current study, they asked men the same questions that they had asked of women. “Our team is concerned about abuse of people: of women as well as men,” Dr. Reid added. “We do not want to downplay the seriousness of domestic violence as experienced by women.”

    Dr. Reid said more research is needed to determine the best ways for doctors to ask men if they have experienced domestic violence—and how best to help them into couples counseling, leaving their partners, or getting protection orders. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is toll-free 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

    The Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality and the Group Health Center for Health Studies funded this work, co-authored by Melissa Anderson, MS, Paul Fishman, PhD, David Carrell, PhD, and Robert Thompson, MD of the Group Health Center for Health Studies; Amy Bonomi, PhD, MPH, now an Ohio State University associate professor of human development & family science in Columbus; and Group Health Center for Health Studies affiliate scientific investigator Frederick Rivara, MD, MPH, of Harborview Injury Prevention and Research Center and the University of Washington.
    Group Health Center for Health Studies

    Founded in 1947, Group Health is a Seattle-based, consumer-governed, nonprofit health care system that coordinates care and coverage. For 25 years, the Group Health Center for Health Studies has conducted research on preventing, diagnosing, and treating major health problems. Government and private research grants provide its main funding.

    Please visit the virtual newsroom on our Web site, www.ghc.org under “Newsroom.”

    Contact: Rebecca Hughes
    [email protected]
    206-287-2055
    Group Health Cooperative Center for Health Studies

    http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releas...-med051508.php
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