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    By LAURA CLARK
    30th January 2008

    Teachers should not assume that their pupils have a "mum and dad" under guidance aimed at tackling anti-gay bullying in schools.

    It says primary pupils as young as four should be familiarised with the idea of same-sex couples to help combat homophobic attitudes.

    Teachers should attempt to avoid assumptions that pupils will have a conventional family background, it urges.

    It goes on to suggest the word "parents" may be more appropriate than "mum and dad", particularly in letters and emails to the child's home.

    When discussing marriage with secondary pupils, teachers should also educate pupils about civil partnerships and gay adoption rights.

    The guidance - produced for the Government by gay rights group Stonewall - will be formally launched today by Schools Secretary Ed Balls.

    It states that children who call classmates "gay" should be treated the same as racists as part of a "zero tolerance" crackdown on the use of the word as an insult.

    Teachers should avoid telling boys to "be a man" or accuse them of behaving like a "bunch of women".

    This sort of rebuke "leads to bullying of those who do not conform to fixed ideas about gender", the guidance states.

    At the same time, schools should encourage gay role models among staff, parents and governors. Homosexual staff should be able to discuss their private lives after the consultation with the head teacher.

    In advice to gay staff, it states: "School culture and ethos determines how open staff are about their private lives, and you should therefore seek advice and guidance from your head."

    The Department for Children, Schools and Families commissioned Stonewall to write the guidance jointly with lobby group Education Action Challenging Homophobia.

    It says that pupils aged four to seven should "understand that not all pupils have a mum and a dad" and learn about different family structures.

    Advice to teachers of 11 to 14-year-olds states: "Schools should make efforts to talk inclusively about same-sex parents, for example, avoid assuming all pupils will have a "mum and dad".

    "When schools discuss marriage, they may also discuss civil partnership and adoption rights for gay people."

    In a section on engaging with parents, it asks schools: "Do you talk about 'parents' instead of assuming all pupils have 'mum or a dad'?"

    The advice goes on to urge teachers to challenge every derogatory use of the word gay to avert homophobic attitudes.

    Examples include "those trainers are so gay", "that pencil case is so gay" or "you're such a gay boy".

    One primary teacher quoted in the guidance said: "We hear 'gay' as a term of abuse every single day. The children may not know exactly what it means, but they know they are using it as an insult. That's why we need to tackle it at this stage."

    Controversy over the semantics of the word erupted two years ago when the BBC ruled that Radio One DJ Chris Moyles was not being offensive to homosexuals by using the word "gay" to mean "rubbish".

    The advice says: "It is important for all staff to challenge pupils, explaining the consequences of using 'gay' in a derogatory way.

    "It might be time-consuming at first, but a consistent 'zero-tolerance' approach to such language is central to achieving progress and an environment in which being gay is not thought of as being inferior."

    It adds: "Schools need to make it clear to pupils that homophobic comments are as serious as racist comments, and homophobic incidents are as serious as other forms of bullying."

    Teachers should use every curriculum subject to nip discriminatory attitudes in the bud.

    English lessons for teenagers, for example, could focus on the emotions of the gay Italian soldier Carlo in Captain Corelli's Mandolin.

    The guidance is being published five years after the repeal of Section 28 - the law which banned the promotion of homosexuality in schools.

    Ministers promised the move would make no difference to the teaching of homosexual matters but some critics have claimed the gay lobby is having a growing influence on pupils.

    Next month is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender History Month, where pupils learn about apparently gay figures from history including Leonardo da Vinci, Oscar Wilde and James Dean.

    Mr Balls, who will launch the anti-bullying guidance at a Stonewall conference today, said: "I am proud the Government and the department are being robust about this.

    "It is our view that every school should have a clear policy on tackling all forms of bullying, including homophobic bullying."

    Make gym kit more fashionable to get girls doing PE, says minister

    • Schools should allow girls to ditch short gym skirts to encourage more to take part in sport, a minister declared yesterday.

    Children's Secretary Ed Balls warned that many teenage girls were dropping out of PE lessons because they found regulation kits off-putting.

    Schools should consider introducing kits that are "sensitive" to their fashion sense, he said.

    Mr Balls added that while more children should be encouraged to play competitive sport at schools, teachers should also offer alternatives such as dance and yoga.

    Speaking at a draw for an under-13s football competition in London, the minister said there was a "real issue with girls in secondary schools" not wanting to take part in PE.
    Individual schools must decide the most suitable designs for their PE kits, he said.

    "But the surveys show that for early teenage girls, having to wear particular mandated PE kits can be really off-putting," he added.

    "The right thing is for schools to be sensitive about this and to consult young people.

    "The old idea that you have got to wear a short gym skirt is for many young people a recipe to forget your kit."

    He admitted that although school sport was about "taking part" it was also about experiencing competition - "wanting to win - and also learning to lose".

    He added: "This is all part of life and it's what sport can help teach you."

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    Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

    The only good part is if they get rid of the stupid short gym skirts and pe uniforms.

    The rest of it is just rubbish :s
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      Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

      Thats so sad.

      Kids shouldnt be taught anything about sexuality to begin with, let alone homosexuality.

      damn gay lobby
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        Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

        Originally posted by Cartman View Post
        Thats so sad.

        Kids shouldnt be taught anything about sexuality to begin with, let alone homosexuality.

        damn gay lobby

        yeah, i can remember learning about homosexuality in health class in hs

        we learned that it was just another type of sexuality and it is perfectly acceptable. back then, we made fun of that.

        now, they learn about homosexuality, even bi and tri...and at my kids high school they even have after school support groups and gay clubs you can join

        things are really changing

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        • #5
          Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

          Originally posted by Cartman View Post
          Thats so sad.

          Kids shouldnt be taught anything about sexuality to begin with, let alone homosexuality.

          damn gay lobby
          Asalamalikum.

          I agree. I was mortified when we had sex education in year 6 (so 10yrs-11yrs old) I mean the girls and boys had already had seperate sessions on going through puberty and as far as I was aware there was no warning (maybe I was off when they gave the letters out?) and they also decided this time to include the yr 5's (9yr olds). We were in mixed boy & girl groups and the whole thing was shocking and embarrsing :(
          Luckily some Muslim parents had known before hand and written letters to excuse their children.

          Personally I will make it obvious to EVERYONE at schools and extra corricular classes that my children will only learn about sex and sexuality through me!

          They do not need to know at 5yrs old! And as it is against our religion to be gay I would seriously appreciate my children not being told this is 'normal' - it is actually an Islamic sign that the day of judgement is coming, not that people have the right to do whatever sicko thing they fancy
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          • #6
            Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

            Originally posted by Noor_Usman View Post
            Asalamalikum.

            I agree. I was mortified when we had sex education in year 6 (so 10yrs-11yrs old) I mean the girls and boys had already had seperate sessions on going through puberty and as far as I was aware there was no warning (maybe I was off when they gave the letters out?) and they also decided this time to include the yr 5's (9yr olds). We were in mixed boy & girl groups and the whole thing was shocking and embarrsing :(
            Luckily some Muslim parents had known before hand and written letters to excuse their children.

            Personally I will make it obvious to EVERYONE at schools and extra corricular classes that my children will only learn about sex and sexuality through me!

            They do not need to know at 5yrs old! And as it is against our religion to be gay I would seriously appreciate my children not being told this is 'normal' - it is actually an Islamic sign that the day of judgement is coming, not that people have the right to do whatever sicko thing they fancy
            true i agree with u. times r changing soo fast n its shocking wat they teach kids these dayz. i mean i only found out bout gayz n crap wen i was in HS n evn then i felt like i shudnt know bout sumfin like that.
            wen i was in yr 6 we also had SE ,but alhumdulillah my mum wrote a letter to excuse me. but to think that if they impose these changes on every school then that mean i cud b sending my kidz to school wiv such a polluted environment wer they think havin a friend with 2 mums or 2dads as being normal is soooooooo scary :S in dat case it looks like Islamic scool 4 MY kidz! like u said its a sign dat the day if judgment is coming.

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            • #7
              Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

              Originally posted by Cartman View Post
              Thats so sad.

              Kids shouldnt be taught anything about sexuality to begin with, let alone homosexuality.

              damn gay lobby
              ditto, I would add the filthy Sodomite Lobby ...

              it is more fitting.

              May the Azab of Allah Ta'ala fall upon those who desist not from this Repugnant act ...

              :jkk:

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              • #8
                Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

                Originally posted by Raziel View Post
                ditto, I would add the filthy Sodomite Lobby ...

                it is more fitting.

                May the Azab of Allah Ta'ala fall upon those who desist not from this Repugnant act ...

                :jkk:
                or as we should call it, the HellFire lobby.........theyll give you anything...if you give em your soul
                May Allah Bless Us All.

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                • #9
                  Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

                  not every1's parents talk to them about sex and so i think tat although the schools should not be taking parents roles and i believe that the cuurent age at which sex education is delivered is too early, but its better that children are aware of these things as many parents do tell and answer questions about his topic but others may be less 'open.'

                  i think schools should be focusing on making children aware of sexual abuse or physical abuse rather than sex at that age and even possibly younger...
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                  • #10
                    Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

                    Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual parents


                    those of the bounties found in the kaffir countries!

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                    • #11
                      Re: Don't say mum and dad... teachers told not to assume pupils have heterosexual par

                      Originally posted by muslimma View Post
                      not every1's parents talk to them about sex and so i think tat although the schools should not be taking parents roles and i believe that the cuurent age at which sex education is delivered is too early, but its better that children are aware of these things as many parents do tell and answer questions about his topic but others may be less 'open.'
                      I do agree to a point that something should be offered later on - I have to acknowledge the fact that not every parent will be confident enough to explain it.

                      I think the puberty talks at about 9-10yrs old were fine but I'll be completely honest here....the only time any 'fooling around' happened was after the sex ed' class! A bunch of 10-11year olds taken for a week away at an activity center and not enough teachers to keep a strict eye on them! They only seemed to be bothered about sneeking into each other dorms' and not about what happened during the day behind bike sheds etc!
                      If they hadn't high lighted it then most of us would have been non the wiser! :(
                      I don't think sex ed' should be done until about 14yrs old (13yrs youngest). I mean the legal age is 16 but most 14yr old are 'active' :( and I blame this due to high lighting it too young. As a society (western) we were too concerned about them not being warned that we brought it all to their attention too soon and just sped up the process!
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