Salam together,
i have an issue I want to talk about. I am 25 years old and living & studying in Europe. (was born there)
Since 2-3 years I started being materialistic. By that I mean that I want to buy luxury things which I don't really need.
Since I am a little child I wanted my own car. My father didn't buy me one which is kinda normal here. My sister got one from him (yeah equality & so on.)
Last year I founded a company which is kinda profitable and rented me a luxury coupe from Mercedes. I really enjoyed it for a few months but now it is just a car for me. And I really dreamt about one since I was a child. Now my eyes want a car which is more than 100k.
Same about for example iPhone and Macbook. I wanted the best one and the most good looking one. Together I spent over 3000. Now after I got them they are not enjoyable anymore for me.
Now I think about buying a Swiss watch for 5k which kinda looks good. But my watch right now is two years old and is still working. I was really excited when buying it.
I dont buy a lot of things (1-2 times in a year). But when I buy then it is really expensive. I wouldn't describe myself as shopaholic who normally has a lot credit cards and buys every week something.
I only buy when I can afford.
I know the first thing you might think is. HOW can he buy luxury things while the umma is starving.
But it is not so easy to solve this problem by giving everything away.
Sure I could just spend all the money for poor people but the problem would still be there.
I guess that psychologically I buy these things to make me happy and to distract me from the other people in my age. (When I was younger my parents didn't allow me to go outside and play with others till I was 18; they didn't want me to be like them)
I live in atheistic Europe and you can only have fun here when you go out with these atheistic people.
You won't believe it but in my place there are no (maybe 1 or 2) muslims in my age. And they do the same like the ones above.
I know you will say brother read Quran and so but don't take this personally but that doesn't make so much fun and you can't do this all day because it can be exhausting.
I kinda feel locked up.
I watch a lot of youtube videos from brother Nouman Ali Khan. Here he tells somethings about materialism but why can't I live that? (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I3gVeEPJWe4)
Sorry for my bad English.
PS: you might also say that I should marry (and then I will change) but I can't find a women (no muslim community here) and my parents (mother) will not help me till I am 28-30 years old (mother married when she was 13). I have no other family&friends here or somewhere else.
If you want to help me then thank you. But if you want to insult me then just have sabr and don't answer.
i have an issue I want to talk about. I am 25 years old and living & studying in Europe. (was born there)
Since 2-3 years I started being materialistic. By that I mean that I want to buy luxury things which I don't really need.
Since I am a little child I wanted my own car. My father didn't buy me one which is kinda normal here. My sister got one from him (yeah equality & so on.)
Last year I founded a company which is kinda profitable and rented me a luxury coupe from Mercedes. I really enjoyed it for a few months but now it is just a car for me. And I really dreamt about one since I was a child. Now my eyes want a car which is more than 100k.
Same about for example iPhone and Macbook. I wanted the best one and the most good looking one. Together I spent over 3000. Now after I got them they are not enjoyable anymore for me.
Now I think about buying a Swiss watch for 5k which kinda looks good. But my watch right now is two years old and is still working. I was really excited when buying it.
I dont buy a lot of things (1-2 times in a year). But when I buy then it is really expensive. I wouldn't describe myself as shopaholic who normally has a lot credit cards and buys every week something.
I only buy when I can afford.
I know the first thing you might think is. HOW can he buy luxury things while the umma is starving.
But it is not so easy to solve this problem by giving everything away.
Sure I could just spend all the money for poor people but the problem would still be there.
I guess that psychologically I buy these things to make me happy and to distract me from the other people in my age. (When I was younger my parents didn't allow me to go outside and play with others till I was 18; they didn't want me to be like them)
I live in atheistic Europe and you can only have fun here when you go out with these atheistic people.
You won't believe it but in my place there are no (maybe 1 or 2) muslims in my age. And they do the same like the ones above.
I know you will say brother read Quran and so but don't take this personally but that doesn't make so much fun and you can't do this all day because it can be exhausting.
I kinda feel locked up.
I watch a lot of youtube videos from brother Nouman Ali Khan. Here he tells somethings about materialism but why can't I live that? (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I3gVeEPJWe4)
Sorry for my bad English.
PS: you might also say that I should marry (and then I will change) but I can't find a women (no muslim community here) and my parents (mother) will not help me till I am 28-30 years old (mother married when she was 13). I have no other family&friends here or somewhere else.
If you want to help me then thank you. But if you want to insult me then just have sabr and don't answer.
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