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  • Saif-Uddin
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    Originally posted by Rumaysah~ View Post

    If they're both ok with two people contributing, what is wrong with that, it's their marriage, not yours. You focus on what concerns you. If your definition of manhood is earning a small wage, not allowing the wife to work and moving her in to your tiny bedroom in your parent's house, then that's you lol.

    One of the reasons out of the 4 that a woman is married for, is for her money. There's nothing wrong with that as long as deen and character are a priority.

    Abdullah ibn masood's wife asked if she could give her sadaqah to her husband. And she was told she could. Does that make him less of a man for taking his wife's charity? Of course it doesn't. Get out of this black and white way of thinking.
    you misunderstood,

    If she contributes out of her own choice different matter.

    If the man demands/expects wife to pay up, hes a diagrace.

    Allah عز و جل placed financial responsibilities of food, clothing, shelter etc on the man.

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  • AmantuBillahi
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    Originally posted by samin62 View Post

    You like being deceptive?
    It's a skill, ya'ni.

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  • muzzybee
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    Originally posted by Janna90 View Post

    I didn't even mention the income of the man., How much they earn is irrelevant. I was talking about the responsibility of the man to provide, I did not mention wanting a certain lifestyle. You misunderstood the question.
    See this is where your post goes all nuts

    You say

    but when it comes to looking for marriage they want you to actually work and support yourself.
    Clearly if you think this is the case ,you are either saying the man does not provide the basics or the Man does not want to help you live a certain lifestyle that you want
    If it is the former , then this is a very very small percentage of the community as most men will always provide the basics whatever community you are on.


    There's so much that we do to contribute to our home and society. But it seems men overlook those qualities because there too busy thinking about money
    Shows a clear biasness and emotion , its like you have something against men in general , that is not a mans problem . work on yourself.


    Or maybe am seeking something that doesn't exist
    Yes , and marriage aint it with that mentality

    Even the most basic duty for them to provide, they wont do
    You keep saying that.Can you define basic please , i like to know what basic means to you and if man is providing thee things.


    No wonder alot of women are becoming independent and have to work because the men are becoming lazy
    You blame man for making you independent then you say women want to become independent..


    We are not going to sit around and wait for the men to provide, and when we do start doing things for ourselves and we develop goals and ambitions
    Looks like this is what you wana say all along , you just went round in circles.

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  • Rumaysah~
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    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post

    Yeah thanks for the correction,

    Your right, my urdu aint good.

    But the man who expects his wife to work and leech of her salary is a disgrace, even if hes working.
    If they're both ok with two people contributing, what is wrong with that, it's their marriage, not yours. You focus on what concerns you. If your definition of manhood is earning a small wage, not allowing the wife to work and moving her in to your tiny bedroom in your parent's house, then that's you lol.

    One of the reasons out of the 4 that a woman is married for, is for her money. There's nothing wrong with that as long as deen and character are a priority.

    Abdullah ibn masood's wife asked if she could give her sadaqah to her husband. And she was told she could. Does that make him less of a man for taking his wife's charity? Of course it doesn't. Get out of this black and white way of thinking.

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  • samin62
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    Originally posted by AmantuBillahi View Post

    Shhh!! She might find out.

    You like being deceptive?

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  • Saif-Uddin
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    Originally posted by Indefinable View Post

    You used the phrase "Joru Ka Ghulam" incorrectly here.

    A man who does not wish to work and lives off of his wife's money is a lazy man. He is not a "Joru Ka Ghulam".

    "Joru Ka Ghulam" means a wife's slave. Whereby the husband is meek, and gives in to all the desires/wishes of his wife.

    Yeah thanks for the correction,

    Your right, my urdu aint good.

    But the man who expects his wife to work and leech of her salary is a disgrace, even if hes working.

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  • Janna90
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    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post

    YouYou been influenced by the Feminazi brigade and went nuts generalising.

    Enough said.
    I didnt generalize that's my experience don't blame me for their actions. And calm down you sound so mad.

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  • Janna90
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    Originally posted by Sister_2009 View Post

    Oh, please. You did not experience anything to warrant two rant threads generalizing men.

    When asked where you were finding all these brothers who make marriage difficult, after 17 pages of back and forth, you said yourself that you weren’t really looking but heard from around that someone saw someone put on some marriage CV that some guys might hint at wanting someone who might have a job.

    Timewaster.
    your still here...?

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  • AmantuBillahi
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    Originally posted by samin62 View Post

    I find it disturbing you didnt correct her and say you are a male
    Shhh!! She might find out.

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  • samin62
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    Originally posted by AmantuBillahi View Post

    I find it disturbing you didnt correct her and say you are a male

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  • Indefinable
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    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post

    Man expecting to leech of wifes money?

    Hmm...

    I'm pretty sure most men dont do that, at least not the ones practicing their deen.

    Why are you looking at marrying impotent men?

    A man who does not want to be a breadwinner, isnt a man in the first place.

    Theres a phrase in Urdu which deacribea them,

    Joru Ka Ghulam

    They are a diagrace, you should look for an upright muslim man to marry.

    Instead of making wild generalisations
    You used the phrase "Joru Ka Ghulam" incorrectly here.

    A man who does not wish to work and lives off of his wife's money is a lazy man. He is not a "Joru Ka Ghulam".

    "Joru Ka Ghulam" means a wife's slave. Whereby the husband is meek, and gives in to all the desires/wishes of his wife.


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  • zi-zizou
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    Originally posted by Janna90 View Post

    Yes close it.
    Don't be bullied by others. You said something that perhaps you could have worded better. It's okay it happens.

    Plenty of lazy men around, let's not pretend otherwise.

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  • samin62
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    Originally posted by Janna90 View Post

    Right, so you ask me questions just so you can come back and insult me? Thats just immature. Dont you have anything else better to do then come here and comment on people's marriage search.
    I didnt insult you. You called majority muslim men lazy and i challenged you.

    Dont make claims when you cant back it up.

    If you just said you were unimpressed with men you met for marriage, none of this would be necessary.

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  • Saif-Uddin
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    Originally posted by Janna90 View Post
    People are misunderstanding what am saying, I will not comment any further.
    YouYou been influenced by the Feminazi brigade and went nuts generalising.

    Enough said.
    Last edited by Saif-Uddin; 18-10-18, 07:18 PM.

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  • Saif-Uddin
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    Originally posted by Janna90 View Post

    Noo thats not what I mean at all.

    I dont care if there just making ends meet or how much they earn. you completely misunderstood what am saying. Its the men that are not content with what they make so they ask me to work so i can contribute. There's nothing wrong with helping out your husband of course. But they want a household where am working and contributing, they dont want to be the breadwinner.
    Man expecting to leech of wifes money?

    Hmm...

    I'm pretty sure most men dont do that, at least not the ones practicing their deen.

    Why are you looking at marrying impotent men?

    A man who does not want to be a breadwinner, isnt a man in the first place.

    Theres a phrase in Urdu which deacribea them,

    Joru Ka Ghulam

    They are a diagrace, you should look for an upright muslim man to marry.

    Instead of making wild generalisations
    Last edited by Saif-Uddin; 18-10-18, 07:18 PM.

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