Salaams all,
It is with a heavy heart that i write this message.
As a practising muslim, alhamdulilah I got married to a muslim girl 3 years ago and we now have a beautiful daughter. My parents raised me and my siblings in much the same manner and islam was always a prominent theme in our household. Whilst I was not always strong in my deen, I always saw myself as muslim and prescribed to the basic principles and values of a muslim, especially in the most important characteristics of a muslim. I was also well guided by muslim company amongst my friends.
Unfortunately, this has not been the same situation with my younger sisters who do not keep muslim friends - primarily due to lack of shared interest. My sisters have become heavily engaged in things which a muslim should abstain from - drinking, clubbing etc... This has manifested itself into a situation whereby my sister has been seeing a non-muslim boy for a number of months now and this has progressed into marriage discussions. From my perspective, this is clearly and undoubtedly haram - there will not be an accepted Nikkah, the relationship will be seen as one of fornication, any children from the marriage will be product of an illegitimate relationship. As far as my parents are concerned, despite their strong religious inclinations, they have been very much focussed on seeing us all succeed in the dunya from an academic context, with religion as a secondary focus without realising the consequences of this. My sisters have always excelled academically and as such, no spotlight was shone on their lack of deen. Even now, their primary consideration is not wanting to "lose" their daughter and they have become very weak in their parental role in dealing with this appropriately for fear of their daughter becoming estranged from the family.
Now we are to face the consequences of this and the decision my sister makes, will change the course of all our lives (in the dunya and hereafter) - for the worse. I am keen to understand the forum's thoughts on how to approach this topic and deal with this in a manner that will inshaallah reach the desired outcome and protect my sister, myself and my parents through informed guidance and supporting my sister through what is a very difficult situation for everyone.
I'd be grateful for all of your thoughts.
It is with a heavy heart that i write this message.
As a practising muslim, alhamdulilah I got married to a muslim girl 3 years ago and we now have a beautiful daughter. My parents raised me and my siblings in much the same manner and islam was always a prominent theme in our household. Whilst I was not always strong in my deen, I always saw myself as muslim and prescribed to the basic principles and values of a muslim, especially in the most important characteristics of a muslim. I was also well guided by muslim company amongst my friends.
Unfortunately, this has not been the same situation with my younger sisters who do not keep muslim friends - primarily due to lack of shared interest. My sisters have become heavily engaged in things which a muslim should abstain from - drinking, clubbing etc... This has manifested itself into a situation whereby my sister has been seeing a non-muslim boy for a number of months now and this has progressed into marriage discussions. From my perspective, this is clearly and undoubtedly haram - there will not be an accepted Nikkah, the relationship will be seen as one of fornication, any children from the marriage will be product of an illegitimate relationship. As far as my parents are concerned, despite their strong religious inclinations, they have been very much focussed on seeing us all succeed in the dunya from an academic context, with religion as a secondary focus without realising the consequences of this. My sisters have always excelled academically and as such, no spotlight was shone on their lack of deen. Even now, their primary consideration is not wanting to "lose" their daughter and they have become very weak in their parental role in dealing with this appropriately for fear of their daughter becoming estranged from the family.
Now we are to face the consequences of this and the decision my sister makes, will change the course of all our lives (in the dunya and hereafter) - for the worse. I am keen to understand the forum's thoughts on how to approach this topic and deal with this in a manner that will inshaallah reach the desired outcome and protect my sister, myself and my parents through informed guidance and supporting my sister through what is a very difficult situation for everyone.
I'd be grateful for all of your thoughts.
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