Ads by Muslim Ad Network

Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

Najaf boyfriend has aunts that do not like me. Help me understand.

Collapse
This topic is closed.
X
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • aynina
    replied
    Originally posted by ConfusedAndUnsure View Post

    I do not see how your post is helpful. It seems very negative. Honestly, what was the point of even commenting with that? I am just trying to understand a situation I am unfamiliar with. If you don't approve, then move along to the next post.
    What is the point of telling a sinner to fear Allah? Do i really need to explain that

    just like sister said above, its not that i dont approve, Allah doesnt approve

    Leave a comment:


  • ummsayfullah
    replied
    Originally posted by ConfusedAndUnsure View Post

    I do not see how your post is helpful. It seems very negative. Honestly, what was the point of even commenting with that? I am just trying to understand a situation I am unfamiliar with. If you don't approve, then move along to the next post.
    Allah doesn't approve of your haraam relationship.

    Leave a comment:


  • ConfusedAndUnsure
    replied
    Originally posted by aynina View Post
    I stopped reading after "i have been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years."

    taqillah
    I do not see how your post is helpful. It seems very negative. Honestly, what was the point of even commenting with that? I am just trying to understand a situation I am unfamiliar with. If you don't approve, then move along to the next post.

    Leave a comment:


  • aynina
    replied
    I stopped reading after "i have been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years."

    taqillah

    Leave a comment:


  • Najaf boyfriend has aunts that do not like me. Help me understand.

    Hello,
    I am a Christian woman, and my boyfriend (soon to be fiancé) is from a Muslim family. I have been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years, and his mom and brothers have video chatted with me and they like me a lot. His mom is amazing, and I really like his family. However, his mom told him that he should not tell his father's sisters about me, and the reason that she said this was because she believes that they will curse me.
    Apparently, there is a female cousin of his that his aunts want him to marry but his parents want to give him a choice and he turned down his aunts' offer. They are still trying to convince him to marry his cousin or an Iraqi girl. He has been back in Iraq for a month, and he decided to tell his aunt about me in person, even though his mom was standing behind them shaking her head no. The thing that has me worried is the fact that his mom is so worried. I do not know much about jinns and the supernatural in the Middle East, but I do know that magic generally involves objects in the victim's possession.
    So, that leads to my next explanation, today he was talking with his aunts and they asked him if he was sure that he wanted to be involved with an American girl and he told them yes I love her and she loves me and I believe our relationship is very strong and I think you both would like her. They then said something similar to well maybe when you go back you will not feel comfortable with her anymore. He told them that what they said hurt him, and supposedly they expressed regret through facial expressions, and he believes they feel bad. I told him that that is a weird comment to make, why would he not be comfortable, and I kind of made a semi-joke referring to the possibility that they are going to curse me so that our relationship does not work, and he quickly responded saying that his mother said the same thing. That made me worrisome about the whole situation with them, especially because his mom has made multiple references about his aunts using black magic, even though they are Muslim. Which I do not understand. How can you be Muslim and practice black magic or any magic? Isn't it Haram? Anyway, after all of this conversation with his aunts that made it very apparent that they do not approve of me, he said his aunts followed him back home and brought a gift for me. His aunts got me a ring and so he thinks maybe they do feel bad for what they said. I told him that after everything they said it does not make sense for them to give me a ring unless they cursed it. His mom asked him if they brought him a ring for me, and he thought it was weird that she knew what they gave him before he opened it, and he said yes and his mom told him I know you want to give her the ring but do not make her wear it. My question is am I feeding into his mom's paranoia about curses and black magic or is it a legitimate concern? I do think that giving me a ring after voicing such negativity about being with an American Girl does not make sense, and the comment about him not being comfortable with me is very confusing too. He does not know much about witchcraft and black magic because he has always avoided the topic so therefore I do not know what to make of this situation. Oh and apparently his aunts want to meet me and they told him that he should bring me to Najaf. I do not want to meet them unless his mom is with me because everything I have heard about them makes me very uneasy and honestly they seem so hell-bent on him marrying an Iraqi girl and that I do not know what they would do to ensure that that happens. Again, I could just be very paranoid which is why I am posting here, so please do not take anything I have said offensively as I do not mean to offend, I am just trying to understand. Also, what do I do with the ring?
    ​​​​​​
    I read the Surah Al Baqarah because it mentions magic, but I did not find anything that said it would deter magic. I did read something similar to it won't work unless God wills it, but if it's that simple, then why is his mom so scared and why are other people scared of magic??

    Grateful for any insight provided,
    Confused and Unsure
    Last edited by ConfusedAndUnsure; 02-09-18, 05:44 AM.
Working...
X