Lessons You Learned The Hard Way...? (Serious / Not-so-serious)

[Fakhri]

(Assalaamu alaikum warahmatullah.)


Things we learned the hard way (or are currently learning) because we were dismissive, stubborn, naive, etc.

Serious, light-hearted, anything in between, inshaa'Allah.

Maybe your sharing can help us...

(Note: No disclosing of sins of course. That's definitely not what we want.)
Jazaa'akallah Khair.


Ps. Currently nursing a wonky shoulder because of a bit of carelesness when working out. ( Lesson: Warm up properly and if you feel the 'wrong sort' of pain don't try to force yourself through the lift like a mup--t. :| )

[Indefinable]

Burnt hands/fingers thinking I could manage taking out something from the oven - without wearing oven gloves - and only using a dish cloth. Nothing serious - but completely avoidable.

[Fakhri]

I wonder if that's a lesson learned. I imagine the millions of us who burn our hands like that give it another go as soon as a bit of time passes. Avoiding the great bother of taking precautions and the valuable 10 seconds we save...

[CompleteSanity]

Thinking that a 13 hour shift at work is possible on 2 hours of uncomfortable sleep... lesson still hasn’t been “fully learnt” no matter how much I suffer during the day

[aynina]

If you complain too much, Allah will give you a REAL reason to be upset, and show you you complained for small things.. jews are the ones that complain, not muslims, but i definately learned the hard way, and im not complaining about that (lol) Alhamdulillah

[Fakhri]

Jazaa'akillah Khair. That's a great point, alhamdulillah. Has made me wonder if this thread is encouraging the wrong sort of mentality. I hope not.

[Fakhri]

Around the time the timing belt of your car needs changing (if it has one), best not to hang about thinking you can keep driving and not get it replaced... Thought I'd keep going a while longer as the car seemed alright to drive, and then...

(Wasn't worth getting the car fixed afterwards because the damage was so bad. Had to scrap an otherwise excellent little car. )

[aynina]

Reminds me of when i thought my gastank could go for countless km after it was indicating it was empty

[average_guy]

Ordering way too much dishes when you are at all you can eat...and then it hits you in a middle of a bite...but you still got all the food left...and you do the same thing again when you go for all you can eat next time...the cycle continues...

[Fakhri]

Brother!! You need to stop these all-you-can-eats altogether. :D

[Muslimah1436]

I face this problem every time. Next time, I'll be ordering a starter and that's it, in sha Allah.

[LailaTheMuslim]

Not to be so naive and trusting with new people. Sorry about the seriousness lol.

[Fakhri]

Yes. I guess sometimes It's hard not to because as Muslims we want to assume the best of people...

[Muslimah1436]

Definitely learnt that the hard way.

[Mintchocchip]

1. Drinking/eating something knowing it is too hot but still do anyway.

2. Leaving revision until the last minute.

3. Packing for holiday last minute. Was too late to get some items that I needed.

[tumbirs]

Lesson: The othering. In Qur'an 28:15, Musa () is not only saying it was of his doing but also how he works!.

Example:

If one is alone in a desperate situation and people are inattentive, one suspects an imbalance (somethings not right) then beware of othering and avoid doing an action to resolve the problem out of incomplete knowledge, and seek refuge in Allah () for that is most likely the time when the shaytan seizes the moment and misleads by insinuating whispers.

(The arrangements of those words in the example represents the chronological order of events.)

It occured to me thrice to notice this repetitive pattern.
If the plot is repetitive then it is feeble once it is known.

Only Allah () knows best.

[Fakhri]

Hmmm...Any examples of that you can maybe share, br Tumbirs?

[tumbirs]

جزاك اللهُ

[Fakhri]

Not my own experience, but something that came up in discussion with someone.

Lesson: Don't leave your young child watching YouTube videos/nasheeds in the hope they'll start picking up a bit of Arabic. As soon as they discover how, they'll become attached to the useless junk from the kuffaar and will only want to watch that.

[aynina]

Good advice, goes for us as well, we tell ourselves we have social media for the benefits of it, while the disadvantages of it are bigger and more in number..

[ZeeshanParvez]

I learned the hard way that what you desire for yourself is not always good for you.

I made dua and I got everything I had asked for.


It ended up to be a nightmare.

Every night when I would go to bed, I would wonder If I would ever wake up from this nightmare.

It was the worst experience ever.


Never ask for what you desire.

Ask Allaah for that which is best for you.

[Fakhri]

Jazaa'akallah Khair. Alhamdulillah.

[Indefinable]

When you put your phone device on charge, and a couple of hours later you check to see the said device, only to find that you hadn't switched on the plug.

A real "grrrr" moment.

(Probably doesn't fit in here...)

[Fakhri]

Only happened once or twice but definitely a 'grrr' moment.

[Fakhri]

Lesson: The othering. In Qur'an 28:15, Musa () is not only saying it was of his doing but also how he works!.

Example:

If one is alone in a desperate situation and people are inattentive, one suspects an imbalance (somethings not right) then beware of othering and avoid doing an action to resolve the problem out of incomplete knowledge, and seek refuge in Allah () for that is most likely the time when the shaytan seizes the moment and misleads by insinuating whispers.

(The arrangements of those words in the example represents the chronological order of events.)

It occured to me thrice to notice this repetitive pattern.
If the plot is repetitive then it is feeble once it is known.

Only Allah () knows best.

Subhaanallah. You sound like a very analytical man. I'm starting to wonder, br Tumbirs, about your profession.

[Fakhri]

(Doesn't fit here because it's yet to happen, and I'm not a chocoholic by any means, but there's a small bag of luxury Swiss chocolates sitting here in the kitchen. Not sure who the owner is exactly, but they might be about to learn the hard way what happens when these chocolates are left unattended... )

[Indefinable]

Eat them, and dispose of the wrappers.

[Fakhri]

Done.


I've moved them out of sight.

(Next time we have relatives visit Switzerland, I hope they don't bring back chocolates as gifts. Didn't realise I could appreciate chocolates this much till now. Alhamdulillah, they are actually very nice, but I've indulged too much these last few days.)

[iRepIslam]

When you get attached to a forum that was never yours or didn't really value the way you've valued it in the past.

[Indefinable]

..... :'-(