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Is it okay to look at non-muslim women whom you don’t find physically attractive?

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  • #16
    No excuse for doing haram though

    If you end up watching porn, fornicating then that is your fault. You are to blame, no one else.
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    • #17
      Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
      No excuse for doing haram though

      If you end up watching porn, fornicating then that is your fault. You are to blame, no one else.
      True,

      Ukthi I heard all sorts of excuses for committing sins, even including filth.

      نعوذ بالله من ذلك

      Most people don't own up and blame themselves, its always others, including the Shayateen,

      Even though the Shayateen have no power over us, other than whispering, and we choose to do Good or Evil.

      Worse case is when yhe culprit blames Allah عز و جل Qadr etc
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      "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

      – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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      • #18
        Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post

        True,

        Ukthi I heard all sorts of excuses for committing sins, even including filth.

        نعوذ بالله من ذلك

        Most people don't own up and blame themselves, its always others, including the Shayateen,

        Even though the Shayateen have no power over us, other than whispering, and we choose to do Good or Evil.

        Worse case is when yhe culprit blames Allah عز و جل Qadr etc
        That reminds of the following Verse of the Qur'aan

        And Satan will say when the matter has been concluded, "Indeed, Allah had promised you the promise of truth. And I promised you, but I betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me; but blame yourselves. I cannot be called to your aid, nor can you be called to my aid. Indeed, I deny your association of me [with Allah ] before. Indeed, for the wrongdoers is a painful punishment."

        [Qur'aan 14:22]


        One does, however, always need to make dua for protection against the devil and evil destiny.

        This is the Sunnah.

        No one who follows the Sunnah meets with anything but success.


        Narrated Abu Huraira:
        The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Take refuge with Allah from the difficulties of severe calamities, from having an evil end and a bad fate and from the malicious joy of your enemies."

        [Sahih al-Bukhaari]

        Watch those eyes

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        • #19
          Originally posted by ZeeshanParvez View Post

          That reminds of the following Verse of the Qur'aan

          And Satan will say when the matter has been concluded, "Indeed, Allah had promised you the promise of truth. And I promised you, but I betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me; but blame yourselves. I cannot be called to your aid, nor can you be called to my aid. Indeed, I deny your association of me [with Allah ] before. Indeed, for the wrongdoers is a painful punishment."

          [Qur'aan 14:22]


          One does, however, always need to make dua for protection against the devil and evil destiny.

          This is the Sunnah.

          No one who follows the Sunnah meets with anything but success.


          Narrated Abu Huraira:
          The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Take refuge with Allah from the difficulties of severe calamities, from having an evil end and a bad fate and from the malicious joy of your enemies."

          [Sahih al-Bukhaari]

          I must point out one important thing regarding the hadiith above.

          There is a version in Sunan al-Nasaa'i

          And it includes the following important claim


          Sufyan (one of the narrators) said: "There were three, and I mentioned four because I do not remember which one was not one of them."
          Watch those eyes

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          • #20
            Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post

            It's a big concern
            i thought nearly all men had these desires
            That's why they end up losing their dignity

            They need help, if they just saw women as a fellow human and nothing more, wouldn't that be a success
            ​​​​​
            Yes, all except odd few men do but they aren't animals unless they choose to be. He is just in a really dumb situation for allowing this sort of stuff get to him, if he actually cares for his dignity he it will be easy for him to avoid this sort of problem.

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            • #21
              Let's make something clear here. Hijab for the man is mandatory. It is not an option.

              Say to the believing men that they restrain their eyes and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Surely, Allah is well aware of what they do.
              -Quran 24:31
              The above verse highlights the hijab for the man. We should not have double standards - many muslim men are very strict on hijab for women (rightfully) but are lenient when it comes to their own hijab i.e. the lowering of the gaze (and wearing of appropriate clothing). Hold yourselves to the same standard.

              Your question specifically asks whether you're allowed to look at women who you don't find attractive. Ask yourself this brother: Should a Muslima not wear hijab around non-mahram men who she is not interested in? No of course she should wear the hijab - whether she finds the man attractive or not the man may find her attractive from not wearing the hijab. Similar, a non-muslim women might take interest in you (naudhbillah) if you stare at her (she may reciprocate your misjudged intention).

              In summary, you must not stare at a women, even if you don't find them physically attractive. (Also as a side note - how would you know she's not attractive if you haven't taken that second glance??)

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              • #22
                Originally posted by ConfusedMuslim View Post
                Let's make something clear here. Hijab for the man is mandatory. It is not an option.



                The above verse highlights the hijab for the man. We should not have double standards - many muslim men are very strict on hijab for women (rightfully) but are lenient when it comes to their own hijab i.e. the lowering of the gaze (and wearing of appropriate clothing). Hold yourselves to the same standard.

                Your question specifically asks whether you're allowed to look at women who you don't find attractive. Ask yourself this brother: Should a Muslima not wear hijab around non-mahram men who she is not interested in? No of course she should wear the hijab - whether she finds the man attractive or not the man may find her attractive from not wearing the hijab. Similar, a non-muslim women might take interest in you (naudhbillah) if you stare at her (she may reciprocate your misjudged intention).

                In summary, you must not stare at a women, even if you don't find them physically attractive. (Also as a side note - how would you know she's not attractive if you haven't taken that second glance??)
                Some men seem to think the Head covering for the Women is Hijaab and thats it, then you have others trying to justify their evil gaze, staring at non mehrem women like the op, "don't find them attractive" so it must be "ok" or wife tested me and I stared at another woman so she ia giving me hard time,

                Like the friend of a certain individual here,

                Instead of saying failed to lower his gaze.

                نعوذ بالله من ذلك
                http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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                • #23
                  Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post

                  Some men seem to think the Head covering for the Women is Hijaab and thats it, then you have others trying to justify their evil gaze, staring at non mehrem women like the op, "don't find them attractive" so it must be "ok" or wife tested me and I stared at another woman so she ia giving me hard time,

                  Like the friend of a certain individual here,

                  Instead of saying failed to lower his gaze.

                  نعوذ بالله من ذلك
                  (Actually ... in that particular case regarding the husband being tested - I don't feel he was at fault).

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                  • #24
                    Originally posted by Indefinable View Post

                    (Actually ... in that particular case regarding the husband being tested - I don't feel he was at fault).
                    It doesn't matter what anyone feels,

                    We are commanded by Allah عز و جل to lower our gaze, regardless of if someone is Testing us or not.
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                    "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                    – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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