So here I am, alone and hopeless.

[YoungMuslimah78]

Maybe you remember me. I was writing there a something year ago about isusses with my sister. Here are my older threads:

https://www.ummah.com/forum/forum/mi...-sister-s-work

[Abu julaybeeb]

Sister it must be hard but dont despair
this life in the dunya is meant to be a test
all thats happening to u is a test from Allah have sabr and stay firm and steadfast on Allah and this deen and youl be in jannah insha Allah
We were put here as a test
Allah says in the quran

Al-'Ankabut 29:2

أَحَسِبَ ٱلنَّاسُ أَن يُتْرَكُوٓا أَن يَقُولُوٓا ءَامَنَّا وَهُمْ لَا يُفْتَنُونَ

Do the people think that they will be left to say, "We believe" and they will not be tried?

To get jannah was never going to be easy
Even the prophets the best of mankind were tested.


Allah Azzawajal Tested; Prophet Nuh With A Flood,
Prophet Ibrahim With A Fire,
Ya'qub With Blindness,
Yousuf With Separation,
Ayyub With Illness,
Zakariyya With Loneliness,
Musa With Tyrants,
Harun With Betrayal,
Sulayman With Kingdom And Dawud With War

People outcasted the prophet. They called him a madman a soothsayer they hit hit ,stoned him until he was covered in blood. Allah took the lives of 6 of his children before Allah took his own life. He lost his parents his wife his uncle his kids (except fatima) before his own death.

The prophets were tested to the point where the quran said

Al-Baqarah 2:214

أَمْ حَسِبْتُمْ أَن تَدْخُلُوا ٱلْجَنَّةَ وَلَمَّا يَأْتِكُم مَّثَلُ ٱلَّذِينَ خَلَوْا مِن قَبْلِكُمۖ مَّسَّتْهُمُ ٱلْبَأْسَآءُ وَٱلضَّرَّآءُ وَزُلْزِلُوا حَتَّىٰ يَقُولَ ٱلرَّسُولُ وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا مَعَهُو مَتَىٰ نَصْرُ ٱللَّهِۗ أَلَآ إِنَّ نَصْرَ ٱللَّهِ قَرِيبٌ

Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while such [trial] has not yet come to you as came to those who passed on before you? They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said,"When is the help of Allah ?" Unquestionably, the help of Allah is near.

These struggles your going through are tests from Allah. If you patient and persevere through them with righteousness then know that paradise will be yours for eternity. But you have to go through hardship first.

Ash-Sharh 94:6

إِنَّ مَعَ ٱلْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا

Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.

And Allah will not allow you to go through something that you cant handle. Be patient and know that if you are then your sins will be forgiven as the prophet said your sins can be forgiven by Allah when your tested even the prick of a thorn can lead to your sins being forgiven (this wasnt the word for word of what the hadith said but the gist of it )

Look to Allah for everything from hope to hapiness. Some may have said it already but try sincerely open up to Allah pray and make duas to Allah and read quran in arabic and english so u know what Allah is telling you
And persevere through these struggles. Dont give up on life. The shaytaan wants you to but dont give in. If you persevere then

As-Saffat 37:42

فَوَٰكِهُۖ وَهُم مُّكْرَمُونَ

Fruits; and they will be honored

As-Saffat 37:41

أُولَٰٓئِكَ لَهُمْ رِزْقٌ مَّعْلُومٌ

Those will have a provision determined -


As-Saffat 37:44

عَلَىٰ سُرُرٍ مُّتَقَٰبِلِينَ

On thrones facing one another.

As-Saffat 37:45

يُطَافُ عَلَيْهِم بِكَأْسٍ مِّن مَّعِينٍۭ

There will be circulated among them a cup [of wine] from a flowing spring,

As-Saffat 37:46

بَيْضَآءَ لَذَّةٍ لِّلشَّٰرِبِينَ

White and delicious to the drinkers;
As-Saffat 37:47

لَا فِيهَا غَوْلٌ وَلَا هُمْ عَنْهَا يُنزَفُونَ

No bad effect is there in it, nor from it will they be intoxicated.
As-Saffat 37:48

وَعِندَهُمْ قَٰصِرَٰتُ ٱلطَّرْفِ عِينٌ

And with them will be women limiting [their] glances, with large, [beautiful] eyes,

Az-Zumar 39:20

لَٰكِنِ ٱلَّذِينَ ٱتَّقَوْا رَبَّهُمْ لَهُمْ غُرَفٌ مِّن فَوْقِهَا غُرَفٌ مَّبْنِيَّةٌ تَجْرِى مِن تَحْتِهَا ٱلْأَنْهَٰرُۖ وَعْدَ ٱللَّهِۖ لَا يُخْلِفُ ٱللَّهُ ٱلْمِيعَادَ

But those who have feared their Lord - for them are chambers, above them chambers built high, beneath which rivers flow. [This is] the promise of Allah . Allah does not fail in [His] promise.

Az-Zukhruf 43:71

يُطَافُ عَلَيْهِم بِصِحَافٍ مِّن ذَهَبٍ وَأَكْوَابٍۖ وَفِيهَا مَا تَشْتَهِيهِ ٱلْأَنفُسُ وَتَلَذُّ ٱلْأَعْيُنُۖ وَأَنتُمْ فِيهَا خَٰلِدُونَ

Circulated among them will be plates and vessels of gold. And therein is whatever the souls desire and [what] delights the eyes, and you will abide therein eternally.

So be patient and persevere

And in regards to your sister
this happens sometimes
we know their religion is complete baatil
i advice u to read quran a-z in arabic if u know the meaning if not whatever ur language is
so u know what the quran says what Allah says what happened to your grandfather ibrahim yaqub ismail yusef
your father muhammed saw
Nooh alayhi salaam his own son went against him
and he gave dawah to kuffar for over 900 years
lut alayhi salaam his own wife went against him
and even with muhammed saw his own uncle
have sabr this is the life of a believer they are tested in every way
keep giving dawah to your sister
and watch videos about miracles of quran and how to give dawah to christians how to refute them and the contradictions in their books and learn more about your deen so you can become steadfast

this is the life of a believer test after test if he wants high ranks in jannah
and if hes chilling in this world alhamdullilah Allah blessed him but tests give opportunity to earn reward if u have sabr and gratitude to Allah

i also advice you that when its possible for you
to leave macdonalds as its not permissable to sell haram meat products
When u can try to get a better job slowly either save up for university and go uni when your mindstate is better and maybe do a course that you find easier but do something beneficial and somethng that will get u a job
otherwise if u can look for a job where u can just work your self up but make sure its halal

if you need any advice never hesitate to ask

[Abu julaybeeb]

Do u think its possible for you to come to the uk sister as a refugee life would be alot easier for you

[LailaTheMuslim]

Do u think its possible for you to come to the uk sister as a refugee life would be alot easier for you

She's in a European country within the EU akhi, i think it said that in her old post. So, maybe there is a chance for her to come to the UK to study or another EU country, and start her studies again.

Honestly, this post hurts me with sadness. Sis I'll make dua for you and your sister. Can I PM you sis, I have come from a similar situation to u sis.

[Kiro]

Is there no way for the Muslims to donate to you?

[Abu julaybeeb]

If u have a polish passport sister maybe u can migrate to another countrt such as germany or uk
im sure peoole can helo with funds

[islamlife00]

Your sister has made her choice. I will make dua asking Allah to keep your eeman firm in Him and make it easy for you to continue live Islam.
You are not alone. Allah is always with the believers. You are part of big family, over a billion of us.
We are not alone in our sorrows and joys. Allah is always with us.

[tumbirs]

Rather you threw yourself into darkness that was beyond your ability to manage assuming it was a test and now you cant find the way out into the light.

Did not the biography advice backfire leading to the sisters catholicism and boyfriend?
Causing distress and failure at university and dreams.
Envying of the sister in deviation and joyful life for a fleeting moment, causing suicide and resulting in taking medication pills to suppress that depression.

You did not ask for advice or help.

The lesson to be learnt here, is to not engage in invitation (da'wah) until one clears oneself of all doubts first by studying the knowledge before sharing it.
So that one knows how to counter arguments that could possibly arise (against one's nafs) before it becomes a problem and that is what I always do.

I've a relative just like your sister and she was already in catholicism and enshrined her room with idols until I taught her what Abraham () once said to his people.
That Allah () created us and what we do. - This made her use reason... and within a week, she threw away the idols.

Only Allah () knows best.

[abufulaans]

So she came on here to type that all but does not want help?
Great.

[Abu julaybeeb]

Rather you threw yourself into darkness that was beyond your ability to manage assuming it was a test and now you cant find the way out into the light.

Did not the biography advice backfire leading to the sisters catholicism and boyfriend?
Causing distress and failure at university and dreams.
Envying of the sister in deviation and joyful life for a fleeting moment, causing suicide and resulting in taking medication pills to suppress that depression.

You did not ask for advice or help.

The lesson to be learnt here, is to not engage in invitation (da'wah) until one clears oneself of all doubts first by studying the knowledge before sharing it.
So that one knows how to counter arguments that could possibly arise (against one's nafs) before it becomes a problem and that is what I always do.

I've a relative just like your sister and she was already in catholicism and enshrined her room with idols until I taught her what Abraham () once said to his people.
That Allah () created us and what we do. - This made her use reason... and within a week, she threw away the idols.

Only Allah () knows best.

Wheres your adaab

manners before knowledge

the sisters been through alot some stuff not even mentioned in the thread
fear Allah and give advice with kindness like the prophet saw

[Abu julaybeeb]

So she came on here to type that all but does not want help?
Great.

Maybe shes busy working

[Fakhri]

Not sure but br Abufulaans may have been replying to something in the post above his?

[tumbirs]

Wheres your adaab

manners before knowledge

the sisters been through alot some stuff not even mentioned in the thread
fear Allah and give advice with kindness like the prophet saw

I fear to lose the love of Allah ().
I seek forgiveness of Allah ().

@YoungMuslimah78 , I was harsh, forgive me sister I was in the wrong.
(peace be upon you)

[.khayriyyah.]

Some of you guys need to be careful with your words. She's already in a dark place and snarky comments won't help her at all. If you don't want to help then keep whatever comments you would have made to yourself.

[abufulaans]

Some of you guys need to be careful with your words. She's already in a dark place and snarky comments won't help her at all. If you don't want to help then keep whatever comments you would have made to yourself.

It's a forum, its much easier to say what you want and ignore what you want here.

It is not like we are infront of her, speaking.

[abufulaans]

Maybe shes busy working

Read what she said at the end of her post.

[Abu julaybeeb]

She just needs to let out abit