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    Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

    Sunday December 3, 2006
    By NADIA ABOU EL-MAGD


    CAIRO, Egypt (AP) - Heba Kotb is a conservative Muslim, wears an Islamic head scarf, and goes on television once a week to talk - frankly and in great detail - about sex.

    On her show, ``Big Talk,'' Kotb answers questions from Muslims all over the Middle East about the most intimate bedroom issues with an openness that is shocking and revolutionary in a society where discussing the subject is taboo.

    ``How do I talk about these issues? Very seriously,'' the Egyptian sexologist says. ``I put on a mask-like face and make sure I speak in the right tone of voice.''

    She also does it by talking about sex in an Islamic light, arguing that the faith is in favor of pleasure for both men and women, with one important caveat - that it be only in the context of marriage.

    ``I'm very proud of my religion,'' Kotb told The Associated Press in an interview at Cairo University, where she teaches forensic medicine. ``My studies revealed to me more and more how Islam was ahead in all sexual matters ... I discovered that Islam understood sex long before the rest of the world.''

    For example, Islam ``stresses the importance of foreplay,'' Kotb said, and she often stresses to listeners that women should also enjoy sex.

    Kotb's frankness is a hit in a region where sex education is minimal, male-female contact is often discouraged and talk on the subject is usually in hushed tones, allowing myths to circulate freely.

    She lectured in Saudi Arabia and Yemen recently, where she said many men in the audience where shocked, while women - some with veiled faces - bombarded her with questions.

    Kotb, 39 and married with three daughters, studied sexology with Maimonides University, a private school in Florida, and combined it with her own knowledge of her religion to produce a dissertation titled ``Sexuality in Islam.'' She opened a sexology clinic in Cairo in 2002, wrote sex advice columns in newspapers, appeared on talk shows and answered questions on an Arabic Web site.

    She started ``Big Talk'' on the independent Egyptian satellite channel El-Mehwar more than two months ago.

    Much of her advice is straight biology - laying out facts rarely aired elsewhere. Nothing is too sensitive. She discusses sexual positions, female orgasm, oral sex (allowed, ``since there is no religious text banning it''), even masturbation (frowned upon but at least preferable to unmarried or adulterous sex, which is ``haram,'' meaning forbidden by religion).

    She takes a strict Islamic line on homosexuality - she calls it a disease.

    Along with doctors, she sometimes brings Islamic clerics onto her show, and many callers ask about the religion's rulings on sexual issues.

    Because Islam trumps all else on her show, some complain that it's part of a general inclination in the Middle East to view everything through the prism of religion.

    ``After Islamic banks, Islamic fashion, Islamic TV channels, Islamic hairdressers, Islamic swimsuits, Islamic writers ... now Islamic sex? This is too much,'' protested feminist writer Mona Helmi in a column in the Egyptian pro-government weekly Rose el-Youssef.

    ``Sex is an emotional and human condition, not a religious or identity issue,'' she said.

    Some complain that youngsters are watching the show.

    ``So now girls and boys have heard all about Heba's talk about sex ... that will let them know more than they should and will get them excited,'' Somia, a housewife, told AP as she watched ``Big Talk,'' too embarrassed to give her full name.

    Kotb says frankness is essential and believes 80 percent of divorces in the Arab world are due to sexual problems brought on by ignorance and societal pressure, such as the idea that man must marry a virgin.

    ``Many women know nothing about their bodies, not to mention sex, and they were raised to believe sex is for men and a dirty thing,'' she says.

    She gives sex education courses for unmarried youths with the consent of their parents, but in her consulting practice takes only married couples. She says she is booked up for two months with couples from across the Arab world.

    ``It's a beautiful thing what she is doing,'' said Abier El-Barbary, a psychotherapist and faculty member of American University in Cairo. ``It's a long overdue topic tastefully done,'' she said.


    On The Net: Kotb's Web site, in Arabic, with some English: www.hebakotb.net

    http://www.guardian.co.uk/worldlates...256042,00.html
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    #2
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    I kind of feel a bit hyprocritical for saying this after I made a recent topic but T.V. that's a bit much it's best suited to have classes.
    EACH DAYS A GIFT THATS WHY TODAY IS CALLED THE PRESENT

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      #3
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      bismillaah, walhamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu 'alaa rasoolulilah (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa salaam)...

      as to what proceeds:

      Allaah says in surah adh-dhariyaat, verse 55 to "remind, for verily the reminding profits the believers."

      shaykh al-albaanee, in his book "the etiquettes of marriage" brings forth the prohibition of spreading bedroom secrets. it is as follows:

      23. The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
      It is forbidden for either the husband or the wife to spread any of the secrets of their bedroom to anyone outside. The following two hadith are about this:

      First: "Verily among the worst people before Allaah on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets." [Muslim, Ibn Abi Shaiba, Ahmad and others].

      Second: "On the authority of Asmaa bint Yazid who narrated "that she was once in the presence of the Prophet and there were both men and women sitting. The Prophet then said: "Perhaps a man might discuss what he does with his wife, or perhaps a woman might inform someone what she did with her husband?" The people were silent. Then I said: "O, Yes! O Messenger of Allaah verily both the women and men do that." Then the Prophet said: "Do not do that. It is like a male shaitaan who meets a female shaitaan along the way, and has sex with her while the people look on!" [Ahmad: Hasan or Saheeh due to supports]

      Allaah, the Most High knows best.wa subhaanaka Allaahumma wa bihamdika; ash-shadu an laa ilaaha illa-Anta; astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.

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        #4
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        Originally posted by abdur_Rahmaan View Post
        bismillaah, walhamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu 'alaa rasoolulilah (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa salaam)...

        as to what proceeds:

        Allaah says in surah adh-dhariyaat, verse 55 to "remind, for verily the reminding profits the believers."

        shaykh al-albaanee, in his book "the etiquettes of marriage" brings forth the prohibition of spreading bedroom secrets. it is as follows:

        23. The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
        It is forbidden for either the husband or the wife to spread any of the secrets of their bedroom to anyone outside. The following two hadith are about this:

        First: "Verily among the worst people before Allaah on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets." [Muslim, Ibn Abi Shaiba, Ahmad and others].

        Second: "On the authority of Asmaa bint Yazid who narrated "that she was once in the presence of the Prophet and there were both men and women sitting. The Prophet then said: "Perhaps a man might discuss what he does with his wife, or perhaps a woman might inform someone what she did with her husband?" The people were silent. Then I said: "O, Yes! O Messenger of Allaah verily both the women and men do that." Then the Prophet said: "Do not do that. It is like a male shaitaan who meets a female shaitaan along the way, and has sex with her while the people look on!" [Ahmad: Hasan or Saheeh due to supports]

        Allaah, the Most High knows best.wa subhaanaka Allaahumma wa bihamdika; ash-shadu an laa ilaaha illa-Anta; astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.
        I'm not a Muslim, but it seems to me that the above is discussing gossip, or idle chatter about one's sexual life.

        Since Islam was long at the forefront of medical science, and since Islam places such a strong value on marriage and procreation, I can't imagine that all discussion of sexual matters is prohibited.

        Men and women should know how each other's bodies work. There's nothing shameful or sinful about anatomy or biology.

        I would think this would especially important for men, since Islam places responsibility for the wife's welfare squarely on the husband.

        Men should understand how a woman's body works and, moreover, men should know enough to detect possible signs or symptoms of disease. It's not uncommon, for example, for a husband to notice a suspicious lump in his wife's breast before she herself is even aware of it.

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          #5
          Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

          Originally posted by abdur_Rahmaan View Post
          bismillaah, walhamdulilaah, was-salaatu was-salaamu 'alaa rasoolulilah (sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa salaam)...

          as to what proceeds:

          Allaah says in surah adh-dhariyaat, verse 55 to "remind, for verily the reminding profits the believers."

          shaykh al-albaanee, in his book "the etiquettes of marriage" brings forth the prohibition of spreading bedroom secrets. it is as follows:

          23. The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
          It is forbidden for either the husband or the wife to spread any of the secrets of their bedroom to anyone outside. The following two hadith are about this:

          First: "Verily among the worst people before Allaah on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets." [Muslim, Ibn Abi Shaiba, Ahmad and others].

          Second: "On the authority of Asmaa bint Yazid who narrated "that she was once in the presence of the Prophet and there were both men and women sitting. The Prophet then said: "Perhaps a man might discuss what he does with his wife, or perhaps a woman might inform someone what she did with her husband?" The people were silent. Then I said: "O, Yes! O Messenger of Allaah verily both the women and men do that." Then the Prophet said: "Do not do that. It is like a male shaitaan who meets a female shaitaan along the way, and has sex with her while the people look on!" [Ahmad: Hasan or Saheeh due to supports]

          Allaah, the Most High knows best.wa subhaanaka Allaahumma wa bihamdika; ash-shadu an laa ilaaha illa-Anta; astaghfiruka wa atoobu ilayk.
          Indeed I have to agree with Cashew that this seems to be more along the lines of discussing things by boasting or to demean or embarass one's spouse. I think there is more benefit from someone learning techniques for the pleasure of their spouse from someone that knows what they are doing then from following the traditional methods of listening to their friends boast about things that they have never done and only read in a maxim magazine. IMHO That's worse then an inexperienced couple fumbling around in the dark without a clue.
          Sex is a fact of life that insha'allah we will all experience within the Islamic limits. For a man, sex is easy but a woman's POV is much more complicated and our young men need to learn how to make sure that their wives enjoy their conjugal encounters and look forward to them rather then viewing them as a duty that needs to be fulfilled.
          I have seen bad relationships with good sex lives but I have never seen a good relationship with a bad sex life
          I took the road less traveled...where the heck am I? :scratch:

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            #6
            Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

            damn moderates....

            their stupidity will not go unquestioned...
            There's nothing natural about natural disasters. Think about it...

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              #7
              Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

              This is absolutly ridiculous.

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                #8
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                Since when did name-calling constitute a valid argument?

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                  #9
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                  Possibly the info which she is giving is correct and educational and all from Islamic stance such as fiqh questions, what is permissable and what is not permissable, correct ettiquette etc BUT it is totally not appropriate for her to go and talk in this way on the television, anyone can tune in and watch... it jst lacks haya in an extreme level to have such a thing :S
                  Already we have scholars, and people if they have a query can go to them and ask it... including queries of this nature, and they would ask them and get an answer, and does not need to be all over the tv.
                  Even if she wants to write a book about the correct ettiquette of this in Islam, okay... its a topic which people may need knowledge about, and I think ppl have written such books, or more often a chapter about it within books of marriage. That may be beneficial for people, and also does not involve her sitting in public speaking about these topics with people looking at her face, including men in the audience, i dont know if studio audience or jst at home, but imo that is shameful :S straight face and business like tone of voice of not...
                  Also to have it on tv, is it really wise? the young children can turn on the tv and they find a women there saying "islam encourages foreplay" n whatever else... they should not know what this means and they dont need to know it until they are becoming in their teenage yrs when they will b soon getting married :S
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                    #10
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                    Heba Kotb is a conservative Muslim, wears an Islamic head scarf,
                    wow what a conservative. she wears a head scarf! amazing.

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                      #11
                      Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

                      Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?????????????

                      There is no need for a muslim woman to be so 'frank' inshallah. and this definately crosses the boundry of hayya, far and beyond hayya. Allahu akbar. There is no shyness of such things in Islam, people need to learn, but there are avenues and ways to do it Islamically. A muslim womans modesty should not be comprimised, it should be upheld always.

                      Totally un-neccessary.

                      Firstly there is no need for her to be on tv.

                      Secondly there is no need for her to give advice to men.

                      Thirdly, if she wants to give such advice, she can give it privately.

                      Fourthly, she should give advice to women.

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                        #12
                        Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

                        hey hey hey hey hey!!!!!!!!!!

                        HOLD ON!!!

                        Doctor Heba is NOT one of those "moderate" Muslims

                        she is a VERY respectful woman

                        her program is very pontifical and very Islamic.....she clear many STUPID misconceptions in a very respectful and educational style

                        it is not a cheap program

                        oh and btw......she is Hijabi
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                          #13
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                          Originally posted by Al-Nasser View Post
                          hey hey hey hey hey!!!!!!!!!!

                          HOLD ON!!!

                          Doctor Heba is NOT one of those "moderate" Muslims

                          she is a VERY respectful woman

                          her program is very pontifical and very Islamic.....she clear many STUPID misconceptions in a very respectful and educational style

                          it is not a cheap program

                          oh and btw......she is Hijabi

                          Firstly there is no need for her to be on tv.

                          Secondly there is no need for her to give advice to men.

                          Thirdly, if she wants to give such advice, she can give it privately.

                          Fourthly, she should give advice to women.


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                            #14
                            Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

                            So now we got names like "Hijabi"? What happened to Muslim or Muslimah?

                            I agree with Sis.Nawar tho.

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                              #15
                              Re: Muslim Woman Gives Sex Advice on Arab TV

                              Originally posted by Al-Nasser View Post
                              hey hey hey hey hey!!!!!!!!!!

                              HOLD ON!!!

                              Doctor Heba is NOT one of those "moderate" Muslims

                              she is a VERY respectful woman

                              her program is very pontifical and very Islamic.....she clear many STUPID misconceptions in a very respectful and educational style

                              it is not a cheap program

                              oh and btw......she is Hijabi
                              Hmm but dont u agree it will be better for her to put this info into a book format not TV? I have not seen it but I cnt imagine how she can talk these topics like publically and infront of men without it going accross the boundary of haya?

                              Doesnt her husband mind that?! I also find it hard how the hubby would accept her to do it?

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