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    Istikhara before marriage

    I'm not sure what sort of signs I should be expecting with istikhara dua for marriage. I've performed it a few times for someone I want to get married to.

    I'd love it if people can share their experiences with istikhara and their marriages or proposals...

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    If you still feel uncomfortable with your decision it's probably a sign you shouldn't go ahead.

    Always listen to your instincts. So much truth in that. It has worked for me. My doubts have always been a reason to stop, think and question my decision. Usually they are negative.

    Currently in a dilemma, haven't started isthikaara but I'm planning on doing it with the thought that I want to go ahead with this even though I'm divided about it.
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    I prayed istikhara when i was in a confused situation and got a strong feeling that i did not want this. So i decided no matter what happens i will not go ahead with it. I believe that was the answer to the prayer when i was totally confused.
    Last edited by usernametaken; 12-11-17 at 02:44 PM.

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    It helps so much when your family is supportive
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    True
    Last edited by usernametaken; 12-11-17 at 02:51 PM.

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by usernametaken View Post
    True. Asian families can be unpredictable
    Most of the pressure comes from family and society.

    All unnecessary, the sooner these cultural beliefs change the better.

    The fear of what people will say and how people will judge you.

    Another problem as this can effect what suitors think of you, they might even question why you are still single.
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by Ya'sin View Post
    Most of the pressure comes from family and society.

    All unnecessary, the sooner these cultural beliefs change the better.

    The fear of what people will say and how people will judge you.

    Another problem as this can effect what suitors think of you, they might even question why you are still single.
    True
    Being desi means you are owned by your culture which sucks.
    Last edited by usernametaken; 12-11-17 at 03:07 PM.

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Assalamualaikum,

    how do you pray istikhara? I had looked to lectures but I am still confused. It's two rakah, but is there a special dua to speak?

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    http://hadithoftheday.com/how-to-per...t-l-istikhara/
    Theres a dua mentioned in this link

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by usernametaken View Post
    http://hadithoftheday.com/how-to-per...t-l-istikhara/
    Theres a dua mentioned in this link
    Do you have to memorize it or can you print it and read from it?

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by islam1433 View Post
    Do you have to memorize it or can you print it and read from it?
    I think you can read it from phone or paper.

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Quote Originally Posted by usernametaken View Post
    I think you can read it from phone or paper.
    Phone is a good idea, let's save the environment. jazak Allahu khair

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    Re: Istikhara before marriage

    Not always feelings sometimes dreams and how Allah SWT is making things easy for you ...

    I just remembered when my sister's husband proposed to her and she was confused about him for certain reasons then she did istikharah and dreamt about herself wearing a beautiful blue shoes that fitted her so she told me about her dream and I knew she will be married to him loool now alhamdulilah she is happy with him
    Ibn Al Qayyim may Allah have mercy on him said: ("
    The heart on its journey towards Allah the Exalted is like that of a bird. Love is its head, and fear and hope are its two wings. When the head is healthy, then the two wings will fly well. When the head is cut off, the bird will die. When either of two wings is damaged, the bird becomes vulnerable to every hunter and predator..”
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