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    Marriage Positivity

    Salaams,

    I want to make this section positive about marriage, I don't like the way it looks/sounds, anyone who wants to help is welcome. It makes marriage sound bad and it's a Sunnah, nothing about the Sunnah can EVER be bad. If it doesn't works out for us it's due to our own limited intellect and shortcomings

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    I wish I could read some of the positive side of marriage but to many makes it a war between the genders. Who should do this, who should do that, he said this she said that, he made this she made that and it goes on. If you marry, you compromisse no one is better than the other, done.
    If people could share some good stories about marriage, that would be of great help. I am not married and tbh I sometimes see it as negative which I shouldnt. But I am changing my view and people should too

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    it's good to hear you are changing your view, marriage sounds like war on the forum, them vs us, him vs her, mars vs venus, load of nonsense.

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    Re: Marriage Positivity

    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    Salaams,

    I want to make this section positive about marriage, I don't like the way it looks/sounds, anyone who wants to help is welcome. It makes marriage sound bad and it's a Sunnah, nothing about the Sunnah can EVER be bad. If it doesn't works out for us it's due to our own limited intellect and shortcomings
    Bold part not always true, unless you decide to live and put up with living in a bad marriage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    Bold part not always true, unless you decide to live and put up with living in a bad marriage.
    there's always exceptions, but that's when we have to allow our belief in qadr to take over our intellect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    I wish I could read some of the positive side of marriage but to many makes it a war between the genders. Who should do this, who should do that, he said this she said that, he made this she made that and it goes on. If you marry, you compromisse no one is better than the other, done.
    If people could share some good stories about marriage, that would be of great help. I am not married and tbh I sometimes see it as negative which I shouldnt. But I am changing my view and people should too
    positive side to marriage is like when you come home tired, had a bad day and you find your wife in the kitchen making your favourite meal, ready to serve you without any complaints

    ok, I'm messing with you

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    there's lots of positive stuff guys, come on help me out here....

    like when you buy her a gift and surprise her out of the blue, the look in her eyes, the excitement.
    when you feeling down and out and she can just sense it, and gives you a cuddle or a hug.
    when you sacrifice that one thing you've always wanted just so you can buy her what she always wanted but never demanded it.
    when she makes that extra bit of effort to mix and be with your family not because you asked her to, but because she knows they mean a lot to you.
    when she is ill and you just take over the house and kids coz you know she deserves it, cos you love her and nothing hurts you more than seeing her in pain.
    when she does something really stupid and you blow the roof off, then you see she is hurting and maybe even a tear, you just give her a hug and say sorry, it's ok, it was a mistake I understand.

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    Marriage Positivity

    This thread seems a little too naive and will get the young ones excited and dying for Marriage. :| lol

    gone are the days where we had threads like this. We used to take the mick.
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    Re: Marriage Positivity

    sometimes being positive seems naive

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    I think 90% of people on here are married now after your thread
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    Re: Marriage Positivity

    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    positive side to marriage is like when you come home tired, had a bad day and you find your wife in the kitchen making your favourite meal, ready to serve you without any complaints

    ok, I'm messing with you
    OOOH you did it again!!! I'll get you for this!!

    But I have nothing to insult u with. What makes men offended?!
    oh I know!

    The "I am not gonna make you a sandwish" sentence probably ticks you off

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    I think 90% of people on here are married now after your thread
    that was quick

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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    OOOH you did it again!!! I'll get you for this!!

    But I have nothing to insult u with. What makes men offended?!
    oh I know!

    The "I am not gonna make you a sandwish" sentence probably ticks you off
    I'm tired of sandwiches

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    Rice and curry
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    there's lots of positive stuff guys, come on help me out here....

    like when you buy her a gift and surprise her out of the blue, the look in her eyes, the excitement.
    when you feeling down and out and she can just sense it, and gives you a cuddle or a hug.
    when you sacrifice that one thing you've always wanted just so you can buy her what she always wanted but never demanded it.
    when she makes that extra bit of effort to mix and be with your family not because you asked her to, but because she knows they mean a lot to you.
    when she is ill and you just take over the house and kids coz you know she deserves it, cos you love her and nothing hurts you more than seeing her in pain.
    when she does something really stupid and you blow the roof off, then you see she is hurting and maybe even a tear, you just give her a hug and say sorry, it's ok, it was a mistake I understand.
    I'll pretend to be sick everyday and cuz you guys can't sense other peoples feelings, u can't know if I am lying or not

    Ah snap, my plan is leaked

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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    I'll pretend to be sick everyday and cuz you guys can't sense other peoples feelings, u can't know if I am lying or not

    Ah snap, my plan is leaked
    just have to send you off to hospital then

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    Rice and curry
    if cooked with love, sure. I'm starting to sound jelly now ain't I?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    just have to send you off to hospital then
    No thanks I just recovered a while ago. But I will propably get sick next day lol

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    You are.. a jelly that’s toppled off and in mushy pieces.
    إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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    Thanks to the positivity in this thread, I just got married!

    In my dream

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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    No thanks I just recovered a while ago. But I will propably get sick next day lol
    runny nose and sinus doesn't count

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    You are.. a jelly that’s toppled off and in mushy pieces.
    the dog gonna lick me off the floor

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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    Thanks to the positivity in this thread, I just got married!

    In my dream
    there's still hope for you, don't despair, mr magic is running as fast as he can with his short legs

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    some day we will all be happily married

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    Marriage is overrated
    إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    there's still hope for you, don't despair, mr magic is running as fast as he can with his short legs

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    Re: Marriage Positivity

    marriage is over rated, until you get old and wrinkled, all alone with no memories, no love and nobody to call your own.

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    .......
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    Re: Marriage Positivity

    It's negative mind sets that destroy marriages, men are like this, women are like, marriage is very difficult, in laws are bad, he this, she that

    it's not perfect but it is what you make out of it. You can't change the world, you can't even change your spouse but you can change yourself, stop looking for happiness in someone else, be someone else's happiness

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post

    .......
    I'm sorry if I hurt you.

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    Can I ask what everyone is finding difficult when it comes to Marriage searching? What are the obstacles you are facing?
    إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    It's negative mind sets that destroy marriages, men are like this, women are like, marriage is very difficult, in laws are bad, he this, she that

    it's not perfect but it is what you make out of it. You can't change the world, you can't even change your spouse but you can change yourself, stop looking for happiness in someone else, be someone else's happiness
    I am marrying and then moving out to an abandoned island.
    I'll build a treehouse and move in there.
    My best friends will be monkeys and lions. Maybe pigeons but I don't like them that much.
    Who needs inlaws or laws anyways?
    Lets live like in the Stone Age

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    Can I ask what everyone is finding difficult when it comes to Marriage searching? What are the obstacles you are facing?
    I am introvert and shy. And people like to make fun of me when this topic is discussed. Whenever I say something they look at me like:
    "Do you have someone in mind...? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) "

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    Hmmmm
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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    I am introvert and shy. And people like to make fun of me when this topic is discussed. Whenever I say something they look at me like:
    "Do you have someone in mind...? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) "
    nothing wrong with that, shyness is a much sort after trait, especially in women

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    I think 90% of people on here are married now after your thread
    I think ..... 91%..
    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    there's lots of positive stuff guys, come on help me out here....
    when she does something really stupid and you blow the roof off, then you see she is hurting and maybe even a tear, you just give her a hug and say sorry, it's ok, it was a mistake I understand.
    If you make her shed a tear,you better give her a 7 days holiday in Japan champ :P , not just an 'I am sorry'

    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    I'll pretend to be sick everyday and cuz you guys can't sense other peoples feelings, u can't know if I am lying or not
    :
    What if he is a doctor?
    'A slave's life is all you understand, you know nothing of freedom. For if you did, you would have encouraged us to fight on, not only with our spears, but with everything we have'

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    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    Can I ask what everyone is finding difficult when it comes to Marriage searching? What are the obstacles you are facing?
    Me its my passport and the fact that I am a convert.I was born in a bad country and everybody thinks I want them for papers.Well I didnt actually proposed much,only one girl i did,but my friends who are in my position went in other countries and proposed and got rejected for the same thing. ehh,may Allah help us
    'A slave's life is all you understand, you know nothing of freedom. For if you did, you would have encouraged us to fight on, not only with our spears, but with everything we have'

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aetos View Post
    Me its my passport and the fact that I am a convert.I was born in a bad country and everybody thinks I want them for papers.Well I didnt actually proposed only one girl,but my friends who are in my position went in other countries and proposed and got rejected for the same thing. ehh,may Allah help us
    your day will come, and if it doesn't, you can still dream, her loss
    It's not about me, it's all about you, coz you're special

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    your day will come, and if it doesn't, you can still dream, her loss
    Thank you brother , JazakhAllah...I think I would make a good husband in shaa Allah. Every girl I was friends with before Islam fell in love with me so :P In shaa Allah thats a good sign lol
    'A slave's life is all you understand, you know nothing of freedom. For if you did, you would have encouraged us to fight on, not only with our spears, but with everything we have'

 

 

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