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    I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Salam brothers and sisters.
    (I am a sister so ignore my profile info pls. It's a mistake)

    I have a "problem" which I cannot call a real problem but I still want to know if it's a problem. This sentence makes no sence but anyway...

    I have always been a dreamer. Not sleep-dream, but daydream. I can sit alone for hours thinking about everything I can think about and personally I find nothing wrong with it. It's some kind of relaxation for me when stressed. I can get emotionall too, for example if I think about something that makes me mad, I cam get mad. But because it's a dream I can still twist it and solve the problem in the dream. So the dreams is a world I can control how I want. I has always been a dreamer and deep thinker.

    But lately, it started to get worse. I talk to myself now. Alot. And I mean it. It's just... To much. When someone annoys me for example, I retreat to somewhere and I start to speak to myself. With hand gestures and face expressions as if that annoying person is standing in front of me! Before, I could wake up of the dream and continue with my daily life but now I can still be annoyed during the day. If it's something happy, I can be cheerfull throughout the whole day. People around me gets confused because I shift emotions all the time.

    I think I developed this habbit of talking to myself because I have no other way to get my feelings out. I have no friends to talk to and even if I wanted to, it's just to private to share with anyone. The feeling as I am talking to someone helps me alot. But I am afraid to take this into the next level. Now I even started to daydream in the precense of other people without realizing that I am doing it. I am getting scared of myself now, as if I am sick in my head or something. But I'm aware of this habbit so calling it a sickness is to much.

    Idk, I am a sister seeking help. What should I do?

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Wa alaikumsalam, go see a professional/therapist
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much



    It sounds like you've made a regular habit of this and so whenever you get triggered by a feeling your brain automatically responds by day-dreaming.

    I would suggest that the second you realise you are going to day-dream say bismillah and change your thoughts unto a different direction. Talk/make dua to Allah.

    Shaytaan will be your enemy on this path because he probably wants you to be in this state. He would also hate that your making dua but keep making it no matter how painstakingly hard it becomes because there are angels on the side of a Muslim and as believers Allah is sufficient for us.

    Now this won't be something you can fix in one day but you just have to keep at it and go for long streaks of days without daydreaming until your brain has fully adjusted.
    (It's said that 40 days of no day dreaming is enough to have changed the pathways in your brain)


    The other step you should take is to tackle your loneliness and this could be done by getting married, studying 'ilm and finding friends on the deen or memorising Qur'an I.e: doing hifdh and internalising it with understanding and practise.

    May Allah make it easy for you @P1RAT3N
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    The more you worry and concentrate on this the worse it will seem. Try ignore it

    Also make a thread in help desk and ask mods to change the gender on your profile inshaAllah they'll be happy to help out
    Last edited by eesa the kiwi; 02-11-17 at 07:57 AM.
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Cptn._.Mario View Post
    Wa alaikumsalam, go see a professional/therapist
    I wish I could but I can't put words in what actually makes me like this. Yes it might be loneliness, but what is it that makes me lonely? I can sit around 50 people and still feel lonely. I don't know the roots of the problem so a therapist will be unable to help me out
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Jumpski View Post


    It sounds like you've made a regular habit of this and so whenever you get triggered by a feeling your brain automatically responds by day-dreaming.

    I would suggest that the second you realise you are going to day-dream say bismillah and change your thoughts unto a different direction. Talk/make dua to Allah.

    Shaytaan will be your enemy on this path because he probably wants you to be in this state. He would also hate that your making dua but keep making it no matter how painstakingly hard it becomes because there are angels on the side of a Muslim and as believers Allah is sufficient for us.

    Now this won't be something you can fix in one day but you just have to keep at it and go for long streaks of days without daydreaming until your brain has fully adjusted.
    (It's said that 40 days of no day dreaming is enough to have changed the pathways in your brain)


    The other step you should take is to tackle your loneliness and this could be done by getting married, studying 'ilm and finding friends on the deen or memorising Qur'an I.e: doing hifdh and internalising it with understanding and practise.

    May Allah make it easy for you @P1RAT3N
    I need to marry because of alot of other reasons, not just have to, I need to marry. I need someone to be able to cheer me up but having that mindset of mine aka just doing it to fix my problems is not healthy for the marriage. The man deserves better than me because I am no good like this.

    I read and write hadith alot. I try to learn but whenever I stumble at something that catches my interest, I start to think about it, then goes slowly into deep thoughts that end up with me talking to myself. Reading about marriage can drift me away til I end up thinking about that time I fought that dude in my class which happened 10 years ago. My mind makes no sense. My fantasy has no boundaries.
    I am even starting uni soon but how am I supposed to study like this? If reading Islamic books makes my brain work, their books will not make anything better.

    I am praying everyday to Allah. Sabr is what keeps me standing and inshallah He will make it easy on me.

    JazakAllahu kheyr

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by eesa the kiwi View Post


    The more you worry and concentrate on this the worse it will seem. Try ignore it

    Also make a thread in help desk and ask mods to change the gender on your profile inshaAllah they'll be happy to help out
    Wrote in helpdesk yesterday but still got no answer...

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    I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Ws please don’t marry for the sake of fixing your problems, change starts from within and by yourself and Allah.

    May Allah make it easy for you
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    Wrote in helpdesk yesterday but still got no answer...
    @admin @moderators @-Yassar @Fais @.Hajar. @Abu 'Abdullaah @Jenicca @samin62 @علي @Meriadoc @Darul Ilm @device can you please help this sister out
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    I have this problem as well...

    Not sure how to help. It probably is a loneliness thing, I don't really have anyone to talk to. Even the couple of friends I do have if I start talking to them about problems they don't seem to care, they say "idk" or change the subject fast. But then, when they have a problem they come to me??? So I vent to myself. I don't really do the movements like I'm speaking to someone, but I do talk to myself excessively.

    I can get lost in daydreaming too.

    Wish I could be more help :/, maybe it'll help to know you're not alone in doing this. If it's a major problem for you I hope you can get help for it.

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    Salam brothers and sisters.
    (I am a sister so ignore my profile info pls. It's a mistake)

    I have a "problem" which I cannot call a real problem but I still want to know if it's a problem. This sentence makes no sence but anyway...

    I have always been a dreamer. Not sleep-dream, but daydream. I can sit alone for hours thinking about everything I can think about and personally I find nothing wrong with it. It's some kind of relaxation for me when stressed. I can get emotionall too, for example if I think about something that makes me mad, I cam get mad. But because it's a dream I can still twist it and solve the problem in the dream. So the dreams is a world I can control how I want. I has always been a dreamer and deep thinker.

    But lately, it started to get worse. I talk to myself now. Alot. And I mean it. It's just... To much. When someone annoys me for example, I retreat to somewhere and I start to speak to myself. With hand gestures and face expressions as if that annoying person is standing in front of me! Before, I could wake up of the dream and continue with my daily life but now I can still be annoyed during the day. If it's something happy, I can be cheerfull throughout the whole day. People around me gets confused because I shift emotions all the time.

    I think I developed this habbit of talking to myself because I have no other way to get my feelings out. I have no friends to talk to and even if I wanted to, it's just to private to share with anyone. The feeling as I am talking to someone helps me alot. But I am afraid to take this into the next level. Now I even started to daydream in the precense of other people without realizing that I am doing it. I am getting scared of myself now, as if I am sick in my head or something. But I'm aware of this habbit so calling it a sickness is to much.

    Idk, I am a sister seeking help. What should I do?


    You sound pretty normal to me. You don't have the stimuli around you so you make your own. When your environment changes so will you

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    I need to marry because of alot of other reasons, not just have to, I need to marry. I need someone to be able to cheer me up but having that mindset of mine aka just doing it to fix my problems is not healthy for the marriage. The man deserves better than me because I am no good like this.

    I read and write hadith alot. I try to learn but whenever I stumble at something that catches my interest, I start to think about it, then goes slowly into deep thoughts that end up with me talking to myself. Reading about marriage can drift me away til I end up thinking about that time I fought that dude in my class which happened 10 years ago. My mind makes no sense. My fantasy has no boundaries.
    I am even starting uni soon but how am I supposed to study like this? If reading Islamic books makes my brain work, their books will not make anything better.

    I am praying everyday to Allah. Sabr is what keeps me standing and inshallah He will make it easy on me.

    JazakAllahu kheyr
    Ameen

    You will manage just fine at uni in sha Allah don't be too hard on yourself
    And your not too bad marriage wise you make the Islamic effort you try your best and because once the loneliness goes you'd lose the habit of daydreaming just don't use that as a reason to delay fixing your problems
    It all starts with a thought

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Every time you feel the need to start daydreaming or talking to yourself, recite quran or do dhikr until you're calm again.
    Also keep yourself busy, these problems come when there's nothing for your brain to focus on. Go to an event or something and meet sisters. If you're in the uk, there's no shortage of events and places where you can meet other muslims. You need to socialise and get stuff out of your system, not bottle it up.

    Lastly, start writing out your thoughts when your mind is racing or when things are bothering you. It's really effective.
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    فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
    وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
    ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post


    You sound pretty normal to me. You don't have the stimuli around you so you make your own. When your environment changes so will you
    I come from a big family so I don't really have an excuse to feel lonely. I don't live alone nor do I have a boring life. I hate myself for this and feel like a burden to my family.

    A few weeks ago I was in deep thoughts about something that angered me. I got so mad that I actually raised a fist and then woke up, realizing that all of it was just a dream.... Is that really normal? What if I really hurt someone?

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
    Every time you feel the need to start daydreaming or talking to yourself, recite quran or do dhikr until you're calm again.
    Also keep yourself busy, these problems come when there's nothing for your brain to focus on. Go to an event or something and meet sisters. If you're in the uk, there's no shortage of events and places where you can meet other muslims. You need to socialise and get stuff out of your system, not bottle it up.

    Lastly, start writing out your thoughts when your mind is racing or when things are bothering you. It's really effective.
    I did try to write and then burn the papers to get rid of it. But it felt like I couldn't get everything out fast enought while writing so I just got aggressive.
    I live in Sweden and we have a shortage on muslim events. The sisters here just commits to much haram so I had to cut ties with them. And being an introvert does not make it easy for me to find any new friends.

    I am hopeless

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Salaam sister,

    I have the exact same problem too. Google "maladaptive daydreaming" it's an actual disorder that people have; myself included.

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Deen95 View Post
    Salaam sister,

    I have the exact same problem too. Google "maladaptive daydreaming" it's an actual disorder that people have; myself included.
    Thank you brother.
    I read about it and all of it is spot on. But may I ask how you knew you had it? Do I have to go to a therapist?

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by brightesthour View Post
    I have this problem as well...

    Not sure how to help. It probably is a loneliness thing, I don't really have anyone to talk to. Even the couple of friends I do have if I start talking to them about problems they don't seem to care, they say "idk" or change the subject fast. But then, when they have a problem they come to me??? So I vent to myself. I don't really do the movements like I'm speaking to someone, but I do talk to myself excessively.

    I can get lost in daydreaming too.

    Wish I could be more help :/, maybe it'll help to know you're not alone in doing this. If it's a major problem for you I hope you can get help for it.
    Salam sister. Thank you for your post I appreciate all kind of answers

    It makes it easier to know I am not alone. It's not like I wish people the same lol. Just that I am tired of being "that one odd gal".

    I tried to talk to people but I am so bad at expressing myself. I can't get the words right and everything comes out wrong. I have no friends I can trust and I don't want to look like a whiny baby in front of my family so I keep it for myself.
    Holding it in makes me so sick If I don't get to speak out, I can get extremely aggressive over time which makes me stressed out. That leads to me eating much less and my weight starts to drop. I get physically sick if I don't let it out somehow...

    How did I end up like this?

    Can I ask what happens if you do not speak to yourself? Do you feel the urge to do it? What do you do to help yourself stop daydreaming?

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    I dont think u need a therapist i think you just overthink plus shaytaans waswas

    I overthink alot and daydream alot about good and bad things
    Just try not to think about these topics that could trigger these situations
    Also read quran and listen to ruqya and occupy tourself with activities
    You need friends
    Even if your married you will still need friends
    Dont go into marriage with a problem expecting your marriage to fix it unless its to do with the main purposes of marriage
    If you have an issue fix it before dont expect someone to come sweep u away and fix everything
    And im sure there are good muslim girls in sweden youl have to go to a masjid and see the sisters that go there regularly to find good sisters

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    I come from a big family so I don't really have an excuse to feel lonely. I don't live alone nor do I have a boring life. I hate myself for this and feel like a burden to my family.

    A few weeks ago I was in deep thoughts about something that angered me. I got so mad that I actually raised a fist and then woke up, realizing that all of it was just a dream.... Is that really normal? What if I really hurt someone?
    It depends on the relationships you have. You can be in a family and surrounded by many but still not communicate effectively with them.

    You are having vivid dreams. I had some where I could fly...it was problematic when I used to sleep on the top bunkbed and then wake up on the floor.

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    Thank you brother.
    I read about it and all of it is spot on. But may I ask how you knew you had it? Do I have to go to a therapist?
    No problems, sister

    I just mentioned it on a website called Reddit and someone linked me to a category on that website called R/Maladaptive daydreaming.

    As for therapists im not sure, I haven't been and i know of no cure, it's not really a widely known problem, I think a lot of therapists won't even know about it since others with our problem have reported little success by going to therapy.

    All the best, insha'Allah.

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    This is so weird, I have the exact same problem... I am so ashamed that I let it take over my life and idk who I should talk to about this? Hopefully, things will get busy and it'll become less frequent. InshaAllah

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

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    Salam brothers and sisters.
    (I am a sister so ignore my profile info pls. It's a mistake)

    I have a "problem" which I cannot call a real problem but I still want to know if it's a problem. This sentence makes no sence but anyway...

    I have always been a dreamer. Not sleep-dream, but daydream. I can sit alone for hours thinking about everything I can think about and personally I find nothing wrong with it. It's some kind of relaxation for me when stressed. I can get emotionall too, for example if I think about something that makes me mad, I cam get mad. But because it's a dream I can still twist it and solve the problem in the dream. So the dreams is a world I can control how I want. I has always been a dreamer and deep thinker.

    But lately, it started to get worse. I talk to myself now. Alot. And I mean it. It's just... To much. When someone annoys me for example, I retreat to somewhere and I start to speak to myself. With hand gestures and face expressions as if that annoying person is standing in front of me! Before, I could wake up of the dream and continue with my daily life but now I can still be annoyed during the day. If it's something happy, I can be cheerfull throughout the whole day. People around me gets confused because I shift emotions all the time.

    I think I developed this habbit of talking to myself because I have no other way to get my feelings out. I have no friends to talk to and even if I wanted to, it's just to private to share with anyone. The feeling as I am talking to someone helps me alot. But I am afraid to take this into the next level. Now I even started to daydream in the precense of other people without realizing that I am doing it. I am getting scared of myself now, as if I am sick in my head or something. But I'm aware of this habbit so calling it a sickness is to much.

    Idk, I am a sister seeking help. What should I do?
    Well I dont know where you and the guys here see the problem.I may seem weird here but according to me this is not from shaytan or anything.It is just your brain operating in a higher level of consciousness.All scientists used to daydream,a lot.A lot of discoveries happened cuz of daydreaming.There are new studies showing that daydreaming is related to high intelligence. After all daydreaming is imagination.We all know,imagination is intelligence having fun. In my opinion dont go to a therapist,they are good for nothing.All therapists need therapists themselves

    Or maybe this is a way for your brain to escape reality.Maybe it is because you feel so lonely,your brain tries to fill these "holes" in your life.I say this from my experience,as I daydream everyday,even on purpose,to escape the life am living.Maybe that is true for you too.
    In conclusion,dont worry,its a sign of high intelligence and complex neuron connection

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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Aetos View Post
    Well I dont know where you and the guys here see the problem.I may seem weird here but according to me this is not from shaytan or anything.It is just your brain operating in a higher level of consciousness.All scientists used to daydream,a lot.A lot of discoveries happened cuz of daydreaming.There are new studies showing that daydreaming is related to high intelligence. After all daydreaming is imagination.We all know,imagination is intelligence having fun. In my opinion dont go to a therapist,they are good for nothing.All therapists need therapists themselves

    Or maybe this is a way for your brain to escape reality
    .Maybe it is because you feel so lonely,your brain tries to fill these "holes" in your life.I say this from my experience,as I daydream everyday,even on purpose,to escape the life am living.Maybe that is true for you too.
    In conclusion,dont worry,its a sign of high intelligence and complex neuron connection
    You summarized my text again lol. I pretty sure this is why I dream. I need to be extremely focused on something to not daydream. If I get a little distracted then I will daze off.
    This is why I couldnt call it a sickness cuz I know I am not. I just felt odd when people pointed it out, calling me weird n' stuff.

    I burned the rice once, because I was focusing on the bubbles in the water bottle next to me. Seeing them float, and then explode one after another. Thinking they are like human lives. When some dies, Allah creates another. And it goes on like that...
    The next thing I see is a furious mom next to me cuz I burned her favourite pan. I never did it again but oh man, that's some good ol' times xD.

    I feel great talking to myself or fading in deep thoughts. I've been able to avoid alot of problems because I already experienced it in my dreams. I sort of see it coming and can kinda handle the situation according to what I've planned before.
    Even my english improved alot.

    But somehow, explaining it becomes hard. What I think about will never come out the same. Therapist can't help, and if daydreaming somehow helps the intellect, then I am happy to continue to dream. Sorry Therapists, but you won't get my money this time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by P1RAT3N View Post
    You summarized my text again lol. I pretty sure this is why I dream. I need to be extremely focused on something to not daydream. If I get a little distracted then I will daze off.
    This is why I couldnt call it a sickness cuz I know I am not. I just felt odd when people pointed it out, calling me weird n' stuff.

    I burned the rice once, because I was focusing on the bubbles in the water bottle next to me. Seeing them float, and then explode one after another. Thinking they are like human lives. When some dies, Allah creates another. And it goes on like that...
    The next thing I see is a furious mom next to me cuz I burned her favourite pan. I never did it again but oh man, that's some good ol' times xD.

    I feel great talking to myself or fading in deep thoughts. I've been able to avoid alot of problems because I already experienced it in my dreams. I sort of see it coming and can kinda handle the situation according to what I've planned before.
    Even my english improved alot.

    But somehow, explaining it becomes hard. What I think about will never come out the same. Therapist can't help, and if daydreaming somehow helps the intellect, then I am happy to continue to dream. Sorry Therapists, but you won't get my money this time.

    Woooh,I was right.Really high level of intelligence you have there,and also a working 6th sense.I guess you daydreamed about being a real pirate too because you speak like them: ol' , n' . I got some more [ ''''''''''' ].Feel free to use them for your next n's and ol's haha.
    Dont worry about the rice.Cooking is my hobby and I have also have a Certificate as a cook,and I have never in my life cooked a good rice.That food is just lvl:Extreme
    Yeah I understand what you mean.Sometimes I even make 20 min long duaa and not get to the point,so I just tell Allah: You know what I mean.Or sometimes I switch in 2 or 3 languages while talking to explain myself better.You are not alone,there are others like us,and its a pretty good thing,Elhamdulillah,so relax,and dont forget....to keep on dreaming ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aetos View Post
    Woooh,I was right.Really high level of intelligence you have there,and also a working 6th sense.I guess you daydreamed about being a real pirate too because you speak like them: ol' , n' . I got some more [ ''''''''''' ].Feel free to use them for your next n's and ol's haha.
    Dont worry about the rice.Cooking is my hobby and I have also have a Certificate as a cook,and I have never in my life cooked a good rice.That food is just lvl:Extreme
    Yeah I understand what you mean.Sometimes I even make 20 min long duaa and not get to the point,so I just tell Allah: You know what I mean.Or sometimes I switch in 2 or 3 languages while talking to explain myself better.You are not alone,there are others like us,and its a pretty good thing,Elhamdulillah,so relax,and dont forget....to keep on dreaming ..
    I love Pirates, Cowboys, Vikings, Marines, Soldiers... you name it. Their lifestyle is always facinating! I'll make sure to use all of those [ '''''''''' ]. And as of that rice.. I aint cookin' it no more. T'is all 'bout thee potatoes getting cooked after that incident

    ان الله يعلم ما في الصدور . God knows what's inside of us. If your intentions is right, Allah is always forgiving. Everyone can't express themselves with words.

    I will keep dreaming inshallah, Now I don't feel bad about it anymore

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    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    It depends on the relationships you have. You can be in a family and surrounded by many but still not communicate effectively with them.

    You are having vivid dreams. I had some where I could fly...it was problematic when I used to sleep on the top bunkbed and then wake up on the floor.
    Lol
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    You shouldn't normalise this behaviour especially when it gets to a level when it's uncontrollable. There is a line between this and going mental and it's not well defined so don't spend too much time doing this before your dreams become what your reality should be.
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    This is not normal unnatural and a waste of brain power.
    Your brain would get used to high levels of stimulation and would crave it and things that can't stimulate your brain to such a level you would easily get bored of therefore leading to problems like ADHD and this would further lead to social problems and depression.

    To add to this, your daydreaming is actually using up a lot of resources and leaving substances in your brain you need to get rid of, making it tired. Thus you'd encounter many more difficulties and lose the will to do more things IRL like studying Islam, memorising..

    I won't disagree that there are some benefits to it but it should not become a habit because of all the problems it can lead to. Also, there has always been benefit in things which are bad for you even alcohol but that doesn't mean it's okay especially when there are alternative methods to gaining more intellect and ability to dealing with problems. Some of which are regarded as fard or sunnah.
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Jumpski View Post
    This is not normal unnatural and a waste of brain power.
    Your brain would get used to high levels of stimulation and would crave it and things that can't stimulate your brain to such a level you would easily get bored of therefore leading to problems like ADHD and this would further lead to social problems and depression.

    To add to this, your daydreaming is actually using up a lot of resources and leaving substances in your brain you need to get rid of, making it tired. Thus you'd encounter many more difficulties and lose the will to do more things IRL like studying Islam, memorising..

    I won't disagree that there are some benefits to it but it should not become a habit because of all the problems it can lead to. Also, there has always been benefit in things which are bad for you even alcohol but that doesn't mean it's okay especially when there are alternative methods to gaining more intellect and ability to dealing with problems. Some of which are regarded as fard or sunnah.
    @Aetos @P1RAT3N
    Jumpski thank you for your advise.Her brain already gets bored.Idk where I read somewhere that she feels alone even when she is with others.But if these people talked about things which give high stimulation,like Islam for example,then she wouldnt feel bored.I know this because she is active in an Islamic forum.If it bored her,she wouldnt be here.So if it doesnt take her away from Islam,let it take her away from things with low level of stimulation.

    Yes but depends how you use it.Putting alcohol on a wound is full of benefits but if you drink it there is no benefit.If she daydreams during the salah ok that is really bad and need to stop but if she goes from water bubble to meditate on the things Allah created,that is pretty good I think.

    Yeah ofc,you get even good deeds when you follow the sunnah.I am starting to get obssessed in following the sunnah now.But what sunnah do I follow to deal with the problem that I have no muslim friends,or depression from not being able to pray? Its been years since I even shook hands with a muslim,and I am still practising as much as I can secretly.The forum doesnt satisfy my social need that much so I turn to daydreaming.If Id never escape with my mind from the reality I am living,I would be shattered.Daydreaming about going to Mecca or about the marriage topic,can give me a good sleep at least.The sister says it also helps her with her loneliness,apart from other stuff,so thats why I think it is not a waste of brain power.

    I think I am in this sisters shoes and I know how she feels,thats why i am talking with such "assurance"
    You arent wrong though,but in my opinion in this scenario its better to daydream

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    Me too sis ive daydreamed like an actual whole day
    Worst part is i had this for about a week where i daydreamed about my parents death and their funeral and then actually selling the house and redecorating my also dead in the daydream brothers house and move in there and get married and have children and then make hijra and sell my brothers house as well

    Seriously its crazy

    Also i talk to myself as well, a lot
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    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Me too sis ive daydreamed like an actual whole day
    Worst part is i had this for about a week where i daydreamed about my parents death and their funeral and then actually selling the house and redecorating my also dead in the daydream brothers house and move in there and get married and have children and then make hijra and sell my brothers house as well

    Seriously its crazy

    Also i talk to myself as well, a lot
    Gosh this sounds similar to myself. Do you also think you may have a maladaptive daydreaming disorder? Because I certainly do.

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    Gosh this sounds similar to myself. Do you also think you may have a maladaptive daydreaming disorder? Because I certainly do.
    Nah i stopped trying to fit in a disorder Alhamdulillah
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    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Me too sis ive daydreamed like an actual whole day
    Worst part is i had this for about a week where i daydreamed about my parents death and their funeral and then actually selling the house and redecorating my also dead in the daydream brothers house and move in there and get married and have children and then make hijra and sell my brothers house as well

    Seriously its crazy

    Also i talk to myself as well, a lot
    Hope you are still around in forum when I want to buy a house,you seem like a pro in this business

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aetos View Post
    Hope you are still around in forum when I want to buy a house,you seem like a pro in this business
    I've been imaginary decorator since i was 12

    When i go in a house i redecorate it in my mind
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    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

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    jumpski thank you for your advise.Her brain already gets bored.Idk where I read somewhere that she feels alone even when she is with others.But if these people talked about things which give high stimulation,like Islam for example,then she wouldnt feel bored.I know this because she is active in an Islamic forum.If it bored her,she wouldnt be here.So if it doesnt take her away from Islam,let it take her away from things with low level of stimulation.
    @Aetos I don't really have an issue with you two using the forum. I know her brain gets bored and stuff but by maladaptive daydreaming your only digging a bigger ditch because it does cause social problems instead one should work on fixing them.
    And honestly a solution is to turn to Allah and talk to him no matter how painstakingly difficult it gets. Check my first response it's more detailed.

    Yes but depends how you use it.Putting alcohol on a wound is full of benefits but if you drink it there is no benefit.If she daydreams during the salah ok that is really bad and need to stop but if she goes from water bubble to meditate on the things Allah created,that is pretty good I think.
    Even when you drink alcohol there are some benefits. And if I was reading correctly its problematic for her in some instances. It's not the same as meditating on Allah's creation and thinking Alhamdulillah how beautiful more like no offence going to lalaland and jumping around with the pixies at the end of the rainbow or imagining life as a viking to the point where she is being emotionally stimulated by these experiences.

    Yeah ofc,you get even good deeds when you follow the sunnah.I am starting to get obssessed in following the sunnah now.But what sunnah do I follow to deal with the problem that I have no muslim friends,or depression from not being able to pray? Its been years since I even shook hands with a muslim,and I am still practising as much as I can secretly.The forum doesnt satisfy my social need that much so I turn to daydreaming.If Id never escape with my mind from the reality I am living,I would be shattered.Daydreaming about going to Mecca or about the marriage topic,can give me a good sleep at least.The sister says it also helps her with her loneliness,apart from other stuff,so thats why I think it is not a waste of brain power.
    Your situation is different to hers and may require more detail from your end.

    I really hope that this is just a small phase in time and once your situation changes you wouldn't feel the need to daydream.
    It's not a big deal if you do it a little but when it becomes excessive well there's a problem.
    Our purpose in life is to worship Allah and so instead of exchanging our time/blessing for daydreaming we can use it to get closer to Allah.
    Imagine turning to Allah everytime you daydream how strong of a Muslim would you become

    It's these kinds of test which really put us into shape and can define how strong of a Muslim we become

    Inshallah you guys gain benefit from these trials allahul musta'an
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    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Quote Originally Posted by Aetos View Post
    Jumpski thank you for your advise.Her brain already gets bored.Idk where I read somewhere that she feels alone even when she is with others.But if these people talked about things which give high stimulation,like Islam for example,then she wouldnt feel bored.I know this because she is active in an Islamic forum.If it bored her,she wouldnt be here.So if it doesnt take her away from Islam,let it take her away from things with low level of stimulation.

    Yes but depends how you use it.Putting alcohol on a wound is full of benefits but if you drink it there is no benefit.If she daydreams during the salah ok that is really bad and need to stop but if she goes from water bubble to meditate on the things Allah created,that is pretty good I think.

    Yeah ofc,you get even good deeds when you follow the sunnah.I am starting to get obssessed in following the sunnah now.But what sunnah do I follow to deal with the problem that I have no muslim friends,or depression from not being able to pray? Its been years since I even shook hands with a muslim,and I am still practising as much as I can secretly.The forum doesnt satisfy my social need that much so I turn to daydreaming.If Id never escape with my mind from the reality I am living,I would be shattered.Daydreaming about going to Mecca or about the marriage topic,can give me a good sleep at least.The sister says it also helps her with her loneliness,apart from other stuff,so thats why I think it is not a waste of brain power.

    I think I am in this sisters shoes and I know how she feels,thats why i am talking with such "assurance"
    You arent wrong though,but in my opinion in this scenario its better to daydream
    I'll hire you as my writer while I hide somewhere else being like:
    "yes yes, that's my work"

    Jokes aside, @Jumpski, if this was the work of shaytan, it would propably be worse. Knowing now what maladaptive daydreaming is, my worries sunk and I am not as troubled anymore. I can control it and it does not interfere with my deen and salat. What I'm daydreaming about is all halal. But if it does interfere with my deen then indeed, it would be wrong.

    I will cut down on unneccecary overthinking, but it's good for me to still do it, or I will get crazy. It just needs to work, that active brain of mine...
    Last edited by P1RAT3N; 06-11-17 at 07:33 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Nah i stopped trying to fit in a disorder Alhamdulillah
    I didn't mean to cause offense :S sorry.

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    Even when you drink alcohol there are some benefits. And if I was reading correctly its problematic for her in some instances. It's not the same as meditating on Allah's creation and thinking Alhamdulillah how beautiful more like no offence going to lalaland and jumping around with the pixies at the end of the rainbow or imagining life as a viking to the point where she is being emotionally stimulated by these experiences.
    Gosh nooo!!! I don't do that!!

    I love history, so I just named a few historical eras. Nothing more loool!! I don't imagine being a Viking or dancing on a rainbow.
    I overthink stuff that I end up in deep thoughts. So it's not like I dream sailing a pirate ship. This is so awkward

    I am sorry but I think I gave the wrong image of myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deen95 View Post
    I didn't mean to cause offense :S sorry.
    Oh you didnt though
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