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    Have you ever experienced burnout?

    1.) Have you ever experienced burnout?

    2.) Why do you think so many reverts have?

    3.) How can you prevent this from happening?

    4.) If someone is going through this, how can they recover?

    You don't have to be a revert to participate in this.

    By the way, I didn't create this thread because I am going through this, alhamdulillah. Sharing your experiences can help someone who is.


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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Yes i have

    Dont do too much in one go take your time not too slow not too fast study islam and practise and implement just make sure your consistent reminder for my self as well as it still happens to me

    I think reverts may get this as they get so passionatr that they do too much in one go although same happens for non reverts who were jaahil and then discovered the deen

    As i said be consistent and take your time and inshAllah u dont burnout

    Create a time table so u have a designated amount of time for religious studies/ or extra acts such as dawah or days of fasting or whatever it maybe
    Then you have time where you could be doing normal hobbies or whatever it is u do in life so u dont burnout

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    I'm not that knowledgeable on this but I do have some input.

    Many people burn out because of their "hot-bloodedness" so to speak. They all of a sudden want to do everything and don't have a guide to help them. That's why company and association with the wise and the pious is necessary. Associating with such people keeps you going, keeps you level headed and out of confusion. Insha'Allah, and Allah knows best.

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Yes,Major and minor burnouts

    slow and steady wins the race which is something many reverts need to learn.

    Too much too fast and the religion becomes difficult.

    Reading seerah to learn how the Sahaba went from some of the most backward and ignorant of people to the very finest is a very valuable tool as it
    gives a template for how to become muslim successfully.
    Many things that reverts rush into were not legislated in islam for the sahaba for many years,prayer,fasting etc.
    Prophet Muhammad sallahu alyhi wasalam spent a full ten years on just Tawheed and not much else as without this strong foundation others aspects of the
    Deen like prayer are difficult.

    Nowadays reverts are expected to pray five times a day minimum and fast ramadan right from the beginning and that was not how the sahaba were cultivated.
    the sahaba also had each other for support and yes rarely a couple will accept islam together but mostly it's single people with no community support and no support from their family and many
    times outright hostility from both.

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    I am a burnout
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

    Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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    Have you ever experienced burnout?

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBYIl3mq8T4

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    Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Moderation and balance is key

    If your body is telling you to stop, then stop. Dont overdo things

    You are not superwoman or superman

    Take the deen easy on yourself and nourish your growth. Dont try to do too much in a little amount of time.

    Otherwise you’ll just oppress yourself and fall into extremities

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    I am a burnout
    high five

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by nudgetheputri View Post
    high five
    Loll i see how it is
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

    Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Loll i see how it is
    yeah you do

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by .khayriyyah. View Post
    1.) Have you ever experienced burnout?

    2.) Why do you think so many reverts have?

    3.) How can you prevent this from happening?

    4.) If someone is going through this, how can they recover?

    You don't have to be a revert to participate in this.

    By the way, I didn't create this thread because I am going through this, alhamdulillah. Sharing your experiences can help someone who is.



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    We all progress through ups and downs in life, the trick is steadily go upwards, not to be going downwards which leads to destruction, or to be unbalanced swinging from large highs to large lows, which often leads to the same place.
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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by .khayriyyah. View Post
    1.) Have you ever experienced burnout?
    Very much so

    2.) Why do you think so many reverts have?
    Most dawah material to new converts come from the same sect types. Leads to useless and pompous debates over minutiae. Get the words "bidah" and "kafir" out of your mouth.

    Also, a lack of spiritual development..

    3.) How can you prevent this from happening?
    Avoid debates and anyone who spends their time criticizing all the time. Run from saved sect takfiri types.

    4.) If someone is going through this, how can they recover?
    Find a community, a teacher, a spiritual guide (for lack of a better term). Stay involved. Never leave the jamat.

    Also, I must stress: convert, not revert... that's so pompous.
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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    How do you help a revert then?

    A revert who I knew before and after she took shahada moved away from home to go to uni and it was good in a way because she could pray and fast without her family knowing but hard because she doesn’t necessarily have Muslim friends where she is. I lost contact with her for a while and then reconnected with her in Ramadan. She said she wasn’t fasting because she wanted to revise for exams. I advised her to fast as tactfully as I could but she got a little defensive and I think she thought I was judging her. I told her I understand it is hard to incorporate these things into her life and hoped Allah would make it easy for her. I felt bad because I didn’t know how to strike the balance between being understanding but also not making out like not completing obligatory acts is ok. I think about her and worry I might have failed her a bit. So how are you supposed to support reverts esp if you don’t get to see them because they live away?
    And when it is said to them, "Do not cause corruption on the earth," they say, "We are but reformers." (11) Unquestionably, it is they who are the corrupters, but they perceive [it] not. (12) - Surat al-Baqarah
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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by EenieMeanie View Post
    How do you help a revert then?

    A revert who I knew before and after she took shahada moved away from home to go to uni and it was good in a way because she could pray and fast without her family knowing but hard because she doesn’t necessarily have Muslim friends where she is. I lost contact with her for a while and then reconnected with her in Ramadan. She said she wasn’t fasting because she wanted to revise for exams. I advised her to fast as tactfully as I could but she got a little defensive and I think she thought I was judging her. I told her I understand it is hard to incorporate these things into her life and hoped Allah would make it easy for her. I felt bad because I didn’t know how to strike the balance between being understanding but also not making out like not completing obligatory acts is ok. I think about her and worry I might have failed her a bit. So how are you supposed to support reverts esp if you don’t get to see them because they live away?
    Idk. I know that fasting is really hard for converts. Maybe advise her to practice fasting before Ramadan?

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    AW: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by .khayriyyah. View Post
    1.) Have you ever experienced burnout?

    2.) Why do you think so many reverts have?

    3.) How can you prevent this from happening?

    4.) If someone is going through this, how can they recover?

    You don't have to be a revert to participate in this.

    By the way, I didn't create this thread because I am going through this, alhamdulillah. Sharing your experiences can help someone who is.

    Everyday

    Because of lack of good support by the Ummah or harsh tests

    Good support from the Ummah

    Making duaas and being around good brothers/sisters
    'A slave's life is all you understand, you know nothing of freedom. For if you did, you would have encouraged us to fight on, not only with our spears, but with everything we have'

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    AW: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by .khayriyyah. View Post
    1.) Have you ever experienced burnout?

    2.) Why do you think so many reverts have?

    3.) How can you prevent this from happening?

    4.) If someone is going through this, how can they recover?

    You don't have to be a revert to participate in this.

    By the way, I didn't create this thread because I am going through this, alhamdulillah. Sharing your experiences can help someone who is.

    Everyday

    Because of lack of good support by the Ummah or harsh tests

    Good support from the Ummah

    Making duaas and being around good brothers/sisters
    'A slave's life is all you understand, you know nothing of freedom. For if you did, you would have encouraged us to fight on, not only with our spears, but with everything we have'

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    Re: AW: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    I think I'm going through it right now, emaan's never been this low. And I even know the cause but I'm still struggling smh.
    إن الصلاة تنهى عن الفحشاء والمنكر

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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by .khayriyyah. View Post
    1.) Have you ever experienced burnout?

    2.) Why do you think so many reverts have?

    3.) How can you prevent this from happening?

    4.) If someone is going through this, how can they recover?

    You don't have to be a revert to participate in this.

    By the way, I didn't create this thread because I am going through this, alhamdulillah. Sharing your experiences can help someone who is.

    Can you elaborate on exactly what you mean by a Burnout?
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    Re: Have you ever experienced burnout?

    Quote Originally Posted by islamuslim View Post
    I think I'm going through it right now, emaan's never been this low. And I even know the cause but I'm still struggling smh.
    That's not what I mean by burnout because from my understanding you're not going through one. But it's the same for me, my iman was at it's worst in early 2017 and I don't want to fall into that again. I didn't experience a burnout, but I feel like if I went further I would have gone through one. There have been a lot of ups and downs within the last few weeks but it's not even as close to being as bad as it once was. I keep getting distracted -_-

    Quote Originally Posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
    Can you elaborate on exactly what you mean by a Burnout?
    I mean when you give up on practicing Islam and you become careless about what's halal and haram. You give up salah or rarely pray and to some degree you return to your life before Islam even though you may still identify as a Muslim. I don't mean apostasy, but very, very weak iman. People have different definitions, though.
    Last edited by .khayriyyah.; 13-11-17 at 06:01 PM.

 

 

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