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    Why have you left it unusually late to get married?



    Much later than others.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    I think so many times it's akin to dating, they get to know each other, if it's good, great. Otherwise it's a cancellation of the engagement and everyone moves on easily "no harm done".
    Akhi it's no different to dating,

    They just use engagement as an excuse to justify it.

    Without a mahram present it's Haraam.

    Until the nikaah has taken place, they are not husband and wife.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    i got married young, it has its pros and cons

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Simply_Logical View Post
    i got married young, it has its pros and cons
    Oooooh zippy!
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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Eorlingas View Post
    Oooooh zippy!
    zippy

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Simply_Logical View Post
    i got married young, it has its pros and cons


    Please can I ask what they are in your experience?

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rifqah View Post


    Please can I ask what they are in your experience?
    pros the responsibility keeps your head screwed on,
    cons you have to be strong headed because when your young you dont think of things in life and expect a lot which can sometimes be unrealistic

    although i said its a pro that it keeps your head screwed on,
    ive seen some peeps marry young and it makes them turn lose the screws and makes them do bad things, they cant handle the responsibility

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by RaNdOm View Post

    Prioritise Allah swt pleasure - if this means you will not be able to fulfil the rights of your husband because he is someone you cannot respect then what wrong is there in saving yourself from Allah swt displeasure. .
    Thats intersting. Perhaps such women would be better served to identify the defects in their own character which would cause them to be unable to fulfil their husbands rights. In a way its good that these women don't get married rather then inflict their warped notions of the ideal husband on some poor guy...are their parents perfect? their managers at work? yet they still manage to fulfill their rights. But when it comes to the husband they would rather ignore obligations using the excuse that they cant respect him? and the icing on the cake to delude themselves that are "prioritising Allah swt pleasure" in doing so. Strange reasoning.
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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Eorlingas View Post
    Thats intersting. Perhaps such women would be better served to identify the defects in their own character which would cause them to be unable to fulfil their husbands rights. In a way its good that these women don't get married rather then inflict their warped notions of the ideal husband on some poor guy...are their parents perfect? their managers at work? yet they still manage to fulfill their rights. But when it comes to the husband they would rather ignore obligations using the excuse that they cant respect him? and the icing on the cake to delude themselves that are "prioritising Allah swt pleasure" in doing so. Strange reasoning.
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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Eorlingas View Post
    Thats intersting. Perhaps such women would be better served to identify the defects in their own character which would cause them to be unable to fulfil their husbands rights. In a way its good that these women don't get married rather then inflict their warped notions of the ideal husband on some poor guy...are their parents perfect? their managers at work? yet they still manage to fulfill their rights. But when it comes to the husband they would rather ignore obligations using the excuse that they cant respect him? and the icing on the cake to delude themselves that are "prioritising Allah swt pleasure" in doing so. Strange reasoning.
    It is a bit feeble excuse, you are not going to know what you are or are not capable of doing before marriage anyway. No one is perfect so you will expect mistakes from both sides.

    Respect seems to be banded about quite flippantly, it's gained and lost in a instant. Does make you wonder how it's defined and how tolerant we all need to be.

    You can be a good Muslim and be married at the same time, let's not forget that small detail.

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    Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    You make me laff

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Faith reloaded View Post
    You make me laff
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    Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    @Simply_Logical

    you must be having a laff

    What age did you get married akheee? I hope you dont mind me asking

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by RaNdOm View Post
    Lol are u zizous son?
    People are allowed to disagree with you, it's okay you know.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Faith reloaded View Post
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    you must be having a laff

    What age did you get married akheee? I hope you dont mind me asking
    i was 20, so young and innocent lol

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by RaNdOm View Post
    Lol are u zizous son?
    LOL..
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    Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    @Simply_Logical



    Very young indeed. Did you have a job you were happy with at that age or were you slightly struggling financially?

    I didnt even get my first job until 21

    I am 22 now. 22 sounds like a proper adult age but i still feel like a little kid. I guess we mature at different rates. I also play on my playstation a lotta time.

    If you saw me irl, you’d think I’m in my mid-to-late teens

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Faith reloaded View Post
    @Simply_Logical



    Very young indeed. Did you have a job you were happy with at that age or were you slightly struggling financially?

    I didnt even get my first job until 21

    I am 22 now. 22 sounds like a proper adult age but i still feel like a little kid. I guess we mature at different rates. I also play on my playstation a lotta time.

    If you saw me irl, you’d think I’m in my mid-to-late teens
    yea i started a good job when i first got married,
    22 is a good ge to get married if you feel mature enough that is

    i play on my ps3 and xbox 360, age doesnt matter when it comes to consoles
    i used to play mortal kombat on the xbox 360 with my mrs she used to whip me so badly lol

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Wa aleiykum salaam


    Also, why do you guys wait to do the nikah like 2 years after saying yes to a guy
    Yeah, I find that strange too, because people change a lot in 2-3 years.
    If I say yes and then wait for a long time before changing my mind, I just wasted like 2 years of his life, which isn't very nice. I know many people who had this happen to them. A few months is okay, for both parties to get themselves ready.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Fakhri View Post
    Can it not be asked for or suggested on behalf of sister by someone else, if that's the case?

    Meaning?

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

    They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    My situation is a bit different, in that I’ve been married twice. My first marriage was in my early 20s through late 20s. When that ended, I waited 5-6 years before making the choice to get married again in my mid 30s. The reason I waited was I wanted time to heal from the prior situation and attempt to figure out why I made a poor choice the first time. It took a lot of self-work to move on, but I ended up with a new husband that is completely different than the types I attracted the first time around. Other posts mentioned this, so I’ll share on it: I did not find a difference in the quantity of proposals I had from early 20s versus mid 30s. The difference was more in quality. When I was able to value myself, I found that I was able to find someone who values me. I changed very much as far as what I would accept/tolerate. I didn’t feel desperate to be married, and that really helps. My thoughts are that it’s best to do what you feel you’re capable of. If you’re young and ready, go for it. If you’re not, that’s okay. Fertility is not guaranteed, even at a young age. I only have 1 child, and there is nothing wrong with me physically, so really you don’t know what your future holds.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

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    If you're too scared then maybe someone else can ask for you. I think that's what the brother meant.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
    I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

    They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

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    Us women arent investing in our husbands either. Lets be real here for a second. Very few women are going to marry someone still in university and grow together or whatever BS idea of marriage you have cooked up in your fantasy. So get off your high horse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Identical View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
    I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

    They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

    .
    Us women arent investing in our husbands either. Lets be real here for a second. Very few women are going to marry someone still in university and grow together or whatever BS idea of marriage you have cooked up in your fantasy. So get off your high horse.
    Yep. After he's done all the hard work of establishing himself, that's when most women want to conveniently walk in and reap the benefits.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
    I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

    They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

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    When you say invested and development could you elaborate
    Like what do you want someone to bring to the table

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Abu julaybeeb View Post
    When you say invested and development could you elaborate
    Like what do you want someone to bring to the table
    I don't even know. What she just described is what most guys look for in a wife (not to sound misogynistic or anything but domestic skills are defs prioritized) especially me though I do look at her deen a fair bit too. What do you mean he's not going to invest in you? Is he not paying for the wedding or the house and other things/not supporting you in your endeavours. And no most guys don't view our future wives as replaceable like jeez. I don't get it, you can reject any guy for any reason you want but some reasons are more valid than others. What plans do you want them to have? career? deen? I mostly want to get married one day so I can have someone to build a good relationship and family with. That's literally 90% of my reasoning. I don't have much of a vision beyond that or expectations. It's more of a wait and see what happens and deal with it then approach.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
    I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

    They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

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    I’m really feeling you on this. I had a difficult time feeling like I had anything to gain. I mean, if he’s just going to provide money/house/food in exchange for cooking and cleaning, I can do that for myself. Anyway, I felt that really strongly. I think men with high expectations are great; they really have the potential to push you to be great. It’s kind of hard to explain, but I understand that.

    Now, people mention women not wanting to invest in the husband, or her marrying him after he’s already established. I think this varies. I know quite a few women who were with their husbands through years of school and such. Some men come already established. I met my husband after he had finished school and established a career and savings because that’s when he started looking. I invest in him now as far as supporting his sports and career. It can really be as simple as encouraging him to do more of the things that he loves or volunteering at his work if he’s short on staff.

    I’m feeling the main theme here is that it’s beyond cooking and cleaning, or providing food and shelter, but more about going above these very basic acts and wanting more from yourself and your spouse.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sister_2009 View Post
    I’m really feeling you on this. I had a difficult time feeling like I had anything to gain. I mean, if he’s just going to provide money/house/food in exchange for cooking and cleaning, I can do that for myself. Anyway, I felt that really strongly. I think men with high expectations are great; they really have the potential to push you to be great. It’s kind of hard to explain, but I understand that.

    Now, people mention women not wanting to invest in the husband, or her marrying him after he’s already established. I think this varies. I know quite a few women who were with their husbands through years of school and such. Some men come already established. I met my husband after he had finished school and established a career and savings because that’s when he started looking. I invest in him now as far as supporting his sports and career. It can really be as simple as encouraging him to do more of the things that he loves or volunteering at his work if he’s short on staff.

    I’m feeling the main theme here is that it’s beyond cooking and cleaning, or providing food and shelter, but more about going above these very basic acts and wanting more from yourself and your spouse.
    You and rumaysah sound asexual btw. Not sure how your husband can even tolerate this.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

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    I don't even know. What she just described is what most guys look for in a wife (not to sound misogynistic or anything but domestic skills are defs prioritized) especially me though I do look at her deen a fair bit too. What do you mean he's not going to invest in you? Is he not paying for the wedding or the house and other things/not supporting you in your endeavours. And no most guys don't view our future wives as replaceable like jeez. I don't get it, you can reject any guy for any reason you want but some reasons are more valid than others. What plans do you want them to have? career? deen? I mostly want to get married one day so I can have someone to build a good relationship and family with. That's literally 90% of my reasoning. I don't have much of a vision beyond that or expectations. It's more of a wait and see what happens and deal with it then approach.
    Tbh i dont care about domestic skills she can learn them

    I care about her religious skills i need a wife who can help me boost my imaan when it falls
    And a mother who can teach and raise muwahideen
    If you have religion everything else will fall in place as long as they learn the social aspect of religiom as well as the spiritual

    By investment im assuming she meant in religious or secualar studies or maybe some kind of job

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    You and rumaysah sound asexual btw. Not sure how your husband can even tolerate this.
    Thats rude

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    You and rumaysah sound asexual btw. Not sure how your husband can even tolerate this.
    You’re entitled to your opinion.

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    Thats rude
    Im not here to pander to anyone's sensibilities

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    Yep. After he's done all the hard work of establishing himself, that's when most women want to conveniently walk in and reap the benefits.
    a woman has a right to be looked after, there is nothing wrong in this approach for sisters in principle, and nothing wrong with helping build up a man in marrying young and helping him establish himself. Both have merit, neither is blameworthy.

    The problem with sisters going after an already established man is that most of them are married, and so the available market is much smaller.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gingerbeardman View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Stoic Believer View Post
    Yep. After he's done all the hard work of establishing himself, that's when most women want to conveniently walk in and reap the benefits.
    a woman has a right to be looked after, there is nothing wrong in this approach for sisters in principle, and nothing wrong with helping build up a man in marrying young and helping him establish himself. Both have merit, neither is blameworthy.

    The problem with sisters going after an already established man is that most of them are married, and so the available market is much smaller.
    I think if a man can get married at the very start of his career or even in university he is extremely lucky.

    Rest of us will just have to wait I suppose.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

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    I don't even know. What she just described is what most guys look for in a wife (not to sound misogynistic or anything but domestic skills are defs prioritized) especially me though I do look at her deen a fair bit too. What do you mean he's not going to invest in you? Is he not paying for the wedding or the house and other things/not supporting you in your endeavours. And no most guys don't view our future wives as replaceable like jeez. I don't get it, you can reject any guy for any reason you want but some reasons are more valid than others. What plans do you want them to have? career? deen? I mostly want to get married one day so I can have someone to build a good relationship and family with. That's literally 90% of my reasoning. I don't have much of a vision beyond that or expectations. It's more of a wait and see what happens and deal with it then approach.
    Eh not wanting to be rude but yeah pretty certain she'd reject you at this point. I would too if someone with the same traits came to ask about one of my daughters in a few years time. You can disagree, but if someone came with such a lack of ambition in life then yeah politely show him the door, it's a big character rejection point for me.

    So I don't disagree with her, I work in a call centre which is about 50% Muslim at least, mostly young people and the males here have little substance, no interest or sometimes even awareness of what it takes to become and act like a man.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gingerbeardman View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by s86ahmed View Post
    I don't even know. What she just described is what most guys look for in a wife (not to sound misogynistic or anything but domestic skills are defs prioritized) especially me though I do look at her deen a fair bit too. What do you mean he's not going to invest in you? Is he not paying for the wedding or the house and other things/not supporting you in your endeavours. And no most guys don't view our future wives as replaceable like jeez. I don't get it, you can reject any guy for any reason you want but some reasons are more valid than others. What plans do you want them to have? career? deen? I mostly want to get married one day so I can have someone to build a good relationship and family with. That's literally 90% of my reasoning. I don't have much of a vision beyond that or expectations. It's more of a wait and see what happens and deal with it then approach.
    Eh not wanting to be rude but yeah pretty certain she'd reject you at this point. I would too if someone with the same traits came to ask about one of my daughters in a few years time. You can disagree, but if someone came with such a lack of ambition in life then yeah politely show him the door, it's a big character rejection point for me.

    So I don't disagree with her, I work in a call centre which is about 50% Muslim at least, mostly young people and the males here have little substance, no interest or sometimes even awareness of what it takes to become and act like a man.
    What kind of ambitions do you think a Muslim man should have?

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

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    I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

    They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

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    It’s a great trait to be able to grow and do something meaningful. But then there are not many practicing sisters who think that way. So the stereotype woman, men want is propagated by their behavior as well.

    BTW, one does not need to be married to grow. It should be an ongoing process.

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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Quote Originally Posted by Identical View Post
    Us women arent investing in our husbands either. Lets be real here for a second. Very few women are going to marry someone still in university and grow together or whatever BS idea of marriage you have cooked up in your fantasy. So get off your high horse.
    masha Allah,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Identical View Post
    You and rumaysah sound asexual btw. Not sure how your husband can even tolerate this.
    On a mixed forum what else are we supposed to "sound like"
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    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    men want to marry homemakers , not home-talkers.


    its a 2 way street, certain women feel so entitled cause they're daddy's little girl that what happens is that forgo their youth and then when they touch their 30's they start anything that comes their way cause they're desperate as their age is passing by.




 

 

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