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    How to make parents happy

    How to make parents happy



    A while back I asked mum if she wants to go to some place with me/spend time together (its an exhibition place) but she said she didnt want to. Her age is 60 plus. I made another suggestion and she declined as well. And then I thought looks like I've run out of ideas.
    Hence this thread.
    So I thought it be a good idea if we can all share our experience and knowledge on this matter so everyone can benefit and be inspired to do the same.
    So please share what are the creative ways that you can think of to make parents happy.

    This thread aims to follow and propegate the sunnah of being good to one's parents and is dedicated to parents.
    Do not scroll down first
    Here's how it works, you open up notepad, (type it in notepad, save them somewhere) list down all the ideas via number format.
    Then post them here.
    Then scroll down to see answers and how you and other posters thought of the same idea. It be cool.

    I will post mine after this,inshaAllah.

    Allah says in the Quran
    https://quran.com/4/36
    Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good,




    In hadith

    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/78/2
    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/56/213

    Some links on parenting

    http://www.hadithoftheday.com/parents/
    http://abuaminaelias.com/honor-your-...ther-in-islam/

    May Allah allow us to continue to be good/kind to our parents

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    1. Do not become problematic
    2. Eat out at restaurants
    3. Make jokes with them.
    4. Accompany them to places where they need to go.
    5. Etc

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Wslmwwb

    I think the best thing we can do for parents is not to make their lives more difficult.

    Like having to deal with drug addict kids etc...

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    -tell them stories about your day
    -listen to theirs, attentively
    -ask if you can clean their rooms
    -overlook their weird habits unless it's something worth mentioning
    -follow them to grocery store so you carry the heavy bags
    -avoid saying no when they ask for favours
    -make dua for parents after every prayer

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Its the small things that make the most impact for our mothers

    1. Ask how her day went, listen to her ....can't emphasis how important this is, often our mothers are so wrapped up in caring for their family that they never get a chance to just sit down and get things off their chest

    2. Make her food ...even if its just tea

    3. Wash the dishes/clean the house ....before she even asks it of you

    4. Just give your parents as much ease as possible by taking some of their responsibilities onto your shoulders ....could be financially, housework, looking after siblings etc ...depends on your family dynamics

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by Ekoor View Post
    Wslmwwb

    I think the best thing we can do for parents is not to make their lives more difficult.

    Like having to deal with drug addict kids etc...
    True, same thinking! Something so basic that at times we may overlook.


    Quote Originally Posted by nudgetheputri View Post
    -tell them stories about your day
    -listen to theirs, attentively
    -ask if you can clean their rooms
    -overlook their weird habits unless it's something worth mentioning
    -follow them to grocery store so you carry the heavy bags
    -avoid saying no when they ask for favours
    -make dua for parents after every prayer
    mashaAllah , agree
    Also, the last sentence, reminder for myself.



    Quote Originally Posted by MyUsernameIs... View Post
    Its the small things that make the most impact for our mothers

    1. Ask how her day went, listen to her ....can't emphasis how important this is, often our mothers are so wrapped up in caring for their family that they never get a chance to just sit down and get things off their chest

    2. Make her food ...even if its just tea

    3. Wash the dishes/clean the house ....before she even asks it of you

    4. Just give your parents as much ease as possible by taking some of their responsibilities onto your shoulders ....could be financially, housework, looking after siblings etc ...depends on your family dynamics
    Inspiring
    True true, an extra listening ear will help.

    Jazakullah khair everyone.

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    Re: How to make parents happy



    1. Agree to marry the Stani of their choosing.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by MuslimThinker View Post
    How to make parents happy



    A while back I asked mum if she wants to go to some place with me/spend time together (its an exhibition place) but she said she didnt want to. Her age is 60 plus. I made another suggestion and she declined as well. And then I thought looks like I've run out of ideas.
    Hence this thread.
    So I thought it be a good idea if we can all share our experience and knowledge on this matter so everyone can benefit and be inspired to do the same.
    So please share what are the creative ways that you can think of to make parents happy.

    This thread aims to follow and propegate the sunnah of being good to one's parents and is dedicated to parents.
    Do not scroll down first
    Here's how it works, you open up notepad, (type it in notepad, save them somewhere) list down all the ideas via number format.
    Then post them here.
    Then scroll down to see answers and how you and other posters thought of the same idea. It be cool.

    I will post mine after this,inshaAllah.

    Allah says in the Quran
    https://quran.com/4/36
    Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good,




    In hadith

    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/78/2
    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/56/213

    Some links on parenting

    http://www.hadithoftheday.com/parents/
    http://abuaminaelias.com/honor-your-...ther-in-islam/

    May Allah allow us to continue to be good/kind to our parents
    I'm a parent, and all my kid has to do to make me happy is me knowing they are happy.. Most amazing feeling ever seeing your kids happy. No gift, holiday, event, idea can come close.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    I'm a parent, and all my kid has to do to make me happy is me knowing they are happy.. Most amazing feeling ever seeing your kids happy. No gift, holiday, event, idea can come close.
    Not money, even?

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by nudgetheputri View Post
    Not money, even?
    Getting money from my kid would make me feel like a failure. Insha'allah I hope to never live to see such an awful, insulting, embarrassing day.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    Getting money from my kid would make me feel like a failure. Insha'allah I hope to never live to see such an awful, insulting, embarrassing day.
    Oh, you'd feel like a failure? I've never come across one like that.

    What I meant was giving the parents money when they're retired. I would think usually parents would appreciate being provided for by their working children. Sometimes it's expected from them.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post


    1. Agree to marry the Stani of their choosing.

    Oh ok, Stani? It means?

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    I'm a parent, and all my kid has to do to make me happy is me knowing they are happy.. Most amazing feeling ever seeing your kids happy. No gift, holiday, event, idea can come close.
    MashaAllah, yes sometimes the most basic of things.
    inshaAllah, in the near future once Im a parent I'll consider opening up a thread called "How to make children happy"
    I'll insert this one in , credits to you.

    So I'll sum up this as, we should be happy and not sad, that will make parents happy.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by nudgetheputri View Post
    Oh, you'd feel like a failure? I've never come across one like that.

    What I meant was giving the parents money when they're retired. I would think usually parents would appreciate being provided for by their working children. Sometimes it's expected from them.
    Something like allowance you mean. Yes, I think that is part of the things that can make parents happy.
    The higher the allowance the more happier they are.

    Jk jk.

    Its the thought that counts.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by nudgetheputri View Post
    Oh, you'd feel like a failure? I've never come across one like that.

    What I meant was giving the parents money when they're retired. I would think usually parents would appreciate being provided for by their working children. Sometimes it's expected from them.
    When retired, that means I've had 60 to 70 years to earn money and set something up to earn me money automatically when i am no longer able to work. That will mean I had 40 years to achieve that. If I was unable to achieve that by the time I retire, and had to rely on handouts from my kids, the shame of failing to setup continuous income for myself during the 40 years would be unbearable. If I had to rely on kids to provide for me, the shame would probably be so extreme. Need to start praying to god to never put me in such an awful situation insha'allah.
    Last edited by oshirowanen; 04-07-17 at 02:12 PM.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    When retired, that means I've had 60 to 70 years to earn money and set something up to earn me money automatically when i am no longer able to work. That will mean I had 40 years to achieve that. If I was unable to achieve that by the time I retire, and had to rely on handouts from my kids, the shame of failing to setup continuous income for myself during the 40 years would be unbearable. If I had to rely on kids to provide for me, the shame would probably be so extreme. Need to start praying to god to never put me in such an awful situation insha'allah.
    That's good thinking. Being financially independent, financial freedom etc.
    because of the rising medical costs/ costs of inflation etc.

    I think what @nudgetheputri meant also is extra income. On top of the savings that the elderly already had.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by MuslimThinker View Post
    MashaAllah, yes sometimes the most basic of things.
    inshaAllah, in the near future once Im a parent I'll consider opening up a thread called "How to make children happy"
    I'll insert this one in , credits to you.

    So I'll sum up this as, we should be happy and not sad, that will make parents happy.
    But not fake happyness, i.e. if I felt they were just putting on a happy face to make me happy, that would make me upset. When I say happy, I mean, when they are genuinely happy. That would be the best gift I could ever get from my kids. Knowing they are genuinely happy.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    When retired, that means I've had 60 to 70 years to earn money and set something up...
    lol...

    Quit trolling.

    People usually retire by 65-70 and do not start working until they are around 21 so that gives them 44-49 years not 65-70 years as you said.

    I've called out your blunder.

    You're a troll and I've been watching your antics for a while now.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Get married and give them grandchildren.
    إن الصلاة تنهى عن الفحشاء والمنكر

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by islamuslim View Post
    Get married and give them grandchildren.
    I second this, all parents absolutely love seeing their grandchildren. I'm not even married and I can't wait to have grandkids inshaAllah.
    “You do not do evil to those who do evil to you, but you deal with them with forgiveness and kindness." Sahih al Bukhari

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by islamuslim View Post
    Get married and give them grandchildren.
    Quote Originally Posted by Ibn Warsame View Post
    I second this, all parents absolutely love seeing their grandchildren. I'm not even married and I can't wait to have grandkids inshaAllah.
    Alhamdulilah
    Yes, marriage and grandchildren.

    Me too, Can't wait to have grandchildren too.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Ill summarise the tips so far
    Jazakullah Khair


    Muslimthinker
    1. Do not become problematic (Muslimthinker and Ekoor)
    2. Eat out at restaurants
    3. Make jokes with them.
    4. Accompany them to places where they need to go.
    5. Etc

    nudgetheputri
    -tell them stories about your day
    -listen to theirs, attentively (MyUsernameIs... and nudgetheputri)
    -ask if you can clean their rooms
    -overlook their weird habits unless it's something worth mentioning
    -follow them to grocery store so you carry the heavy bags
    -avoid saying no when they ask for favours
    -make dua for parents after every prayer


    MyUsernameIs...
    2. Make her food ...even if its just tea
    3. Wash the dishes/clean the house ....before she even asks it of you
    4. Just give your parents as much ease as possible by taking some of their responsibilities onto your shoulders ....could be financially, housework, looking after siblings etc ...depends on your family dynamics

    oshirowanen
    I'm a parent, and all my kid has to do to make me happy is me knowing they are happy.. Most amazing feeling ever seeing your kids happy. No gift, holiday, event, idea can come close.

    zizou/ islamuslim/ Ibn Warsame
    Get married and give them grandchildren.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    1) Talking on the phone or in person & not judging when she talks "bit crazy". Realizing that we talk "crazy" with our close friends, things we won't share with others. well most of our moms don't have close friends & we are the next best thing. So listen without judging, let her have an avenue to express her emotion because there is so much filter one can do
    2) My mom rejects me on fancy or big trips too, its just not something she is use to. But if we do family activity, often times she will agree just to be with family. Small, local trips she is happy with. Same with going out shopping
    3) visit relatives with her. More than vacation spot, by age 60 most people want to visit other people instead of seeing landmark.
    4) Buy her gifts
    5) Do something nice for her family, maybe your siblings or your aunt/uncle.

    6) I added this after reading comments, yes on Grandkids and marriage part. Even if someone doesn't want to deal with screaming kid at 60, they still want the stamp of "grandma" and seeing 2nd generation of something they created.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    When retired, that means I've had 60 to 70 years to earn money and set something up to earn me money automatically when i am no longer able to work. That will mean I had 40 years to achieve that. If I was unable to achieve that by the time I retire, and had to rely on handouts from my kids, the shame of failing to setup continuous income for myself during the 40 years would be unbearable. If I had to rely on kids to provide for me, the shame would probably be so extreme. Need to start praying to god to never put me in such an awful situation insha'allah.

    you don't work for 60-70 years. Working life for most people is 40 years at max. Which means you have 20 years left to achieve this based on your comments in bold. since you are a mom & I am assuming you are planning on spending most of your time raising your kid instead of building a career or accumulating wealth, which takes lot of time away from childcare. since kids don't become adult until age 18. This means you really only have 2-5 years to build your retirement fund. In other word, you won't have any more money in retirement as you do now. Of course you could be super rich and be wealthy enough to sustain retirement life on current income but the reality of the matter is most retire people do relay on kids or/and state fund. It is not a shame

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by Morose View Post
    lol...

    Quit trolling.

    People usually retire by 65-70 and do not start working until they are around 21 so that gives them 44-49 years not 65-70 years as you said.

    I've called out your blunder.

    You're a troll and I've been watching your antics for a while now.
    Quote Originally Posted by Kya View Post
    you don't work for 60-70 years. Working life for most people is 40 years at max. Which means you have 20 years left to achieve this based on your comments in bold. since you are a mom & I am assuming you are planning on spending most of your time raising your kid instead of building a career or accumulating wealth, which takes lot of time away from childcare. since kids don't become adult until age 18. This means you really only have 2-5 years to build your retirement fund. In other word, you won't have any more money in retirement as you do now. Of course you could be super rich and be wealthy enough to sustain retirement life on current income but the reality of the matter is most retire people do relay on kids or/and state fund. It is not a shame
    at 40 years

    I still think it's shameful to have to rely on your kids for money. I pray that I never have to experience such shame. Plus I'm not a mom...

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Some continue to work even at a very late age I would say.
    Not all though. Some elderly ( late 60s )have to work due to financial issues, and some work simply because its better rather than staying at home and nothing to do.
    In other words to get away from boredom.

    Some are happy working , depends on the job.

    Since we're on the topic of jobs also, i think that can be an idea also.
    Suggest a job that is suitable for them to work and they are happy with it. ( i was quoting more for those at retirement age if they choose to work)
    Last edited by MuslimThinker; 06-07-17 at 02:22 PM.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by oshirowanen View Post
    at 40 years

    I still think it's shameful to have to rely on your kids for money. I pray that I never have to experience such shame. Plus I'm not a mom...
    Sorry, I miss read your original post which said "as a parents", I thought it said "as a mom"

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    pray everyday for them

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    Behave well towards their father and mother and consider this good conduct as a propitious act which will earn God’s grace in this world as well as in the next. Next to God, man owes the greatest responsibility to his parents.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Walaykum salam wrwb,

    If you want to do something nice for your mum, then give her a day off. Mum's never get a day off even if it's Eid, their birthday or mother's day. You take over the chores for her especially if she complains about being tired or looks worn out. Run errands for her, whether that means picking up her younger kids or grandkids from school or other things like that. If there are younger kids or grandkids, then offer to look after them or take them out once in a while if that makes it easier for her to get a break from running around after them.

    If you want to do something more special such as for a special occasion, then try to do it on her own terms in a way that she's more comfortable with, even if that seems less impressive to you. If you want to organise a nice dinner for her, then you could eat out, or if she doesn't like eating out, you can order in food, but if you do that, then you should also take responsibility for clearing up and washing the dishes afterwards, otherwise it just becomes more work for her, or sometimes I've suggested to my brother that he organises such events at his house (again so that she doesn't feel compelled to clear up at the end).

    My mum is like yours. She wont go on trips or stay overnight away from home at all. In fact in recent years, she finds going away (even for a holiday) a burden that's more hassle than it's worth and would feel more relaxed just chillin' at home even though my brother finds that boring and like you, he keeps suggesting things to do and places to go and she keeps turning him down.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Make them feel important.

    Listen to their opinions.

    Make dua for them.

    I have found it challenging to make my parents happy. Lol
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    Re: How to make parents happy

    This thread.


    Quote Originally Posted by khamid View Post
    pray everyday for them


    اَللّهُمَّ اغْفِرْلِيْ وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَارْحَمْهُمَاكَمَارَبَّيَانِيْ صَغِيْرَا.


    ALLOHUMMAGHFIRLII WALIWAALIDAYYA WAR HAMHUMAA KAMA RABBAYAANII SHAGIIRAA
    fiqih islam

    yes Important du'a


    Quote Originally Posted by Afzalsheikh View Post
    Behave well towards their father and mother and consider this good conduct as a propitious act which will earn God’s grace in this world as well as in the next. Next to God, man owes the greatest responsibility to his parents.

    What you mean is behave well towards my grandparents.
    Both sides are no longer around already. They have passed away.
    Good idea nonetheless. Missed my grandma.


    Quote Originally Posted by neelu View Post
    Walaykum salam wrwb,


    If you want to do something nice for your mum, then give her a day off. Mum's never get a day off even if it's Eid, their birthday or mother's day. You take over the chores for her especially if she complains about being tired or looks worn out. Run errands for her, whether that means picking up her younger kids or grandkids from school or other things like that. If there are younger kids or grandkids, then offer to look after them or take them out once in a while if that makes it easier for her to get a break from running around after them.


    If you want to do something more special such as for a special occasion, then try to do it on her own terms in a way that she's more comfortable with, even if that seems less impressive to you. If you want to organise a nice dinner for her, then you could eat out, or if she doesn't like eating out, you can order in food, but if you do that, then you should also take responsibility for clearing up and washing the dishes afterwards, otherwise it just becomes more work for her, or sometimes I've suggested to my brother that he organises such events at his house (again so that she doesn't feel compelled to clear up at the end).


    My mum is like yours. She wont go on trips or stay overnight away from home at all. In fact in recent years, she finds going away (even for a holiday) a burden that's more hassle than it's worth and would feel more relaxed just chillin' at home even though my brother finds that boring and like you, he keeps suggesting things to do and places to go and she keeps turning him down.

    Noted on the chores. Reminds me of some viral video back then. They were interviewing people and mentioning it is a 24/7 job. So the interviewees were like puzzled wondering what kind of job is 24/7. At the end they revealed/mentioned the mother's job was 24/7.


    Recent update since the posts I made,we went for a short trip away somewhere. Her idea. I did the administration stuff, bookings, transport etc.
    Quite expensive I guess, but should be worth it. I think I just need to match her interests, just propose something and she if she's ok with it.
    But sometimes, after planning she won't feel the mood to go. And prefer to just stay at home.
    I think its the issue of transport also. If we were able to get them without having them to walk much, they be much more willing I guess.




    Quote Originally Posted by Ya'sin View Post
    Make them feel important.


    Listen to their opinions.


    Make dua for them.


    I have found it challenging to make my parents happy. Lol

    Noted. Perhaps not to the extent of happy in someway , but maybe satisfied or contented would suffice.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    I'll post a few here.
    Bus rides. They do seem to enjoy bus rides if you are sitting next to them. Maybe its just my mother.
    She'll like to bring snacks too. Father likes the air-con.

    They love picnics too. With the radio on and enjoying the breeze.
    On top of all these, seeing or being with their grandchildren seems to be one of top things that pleasures them the most.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    My mum likes shopping, especially for kitchen utensils

    Lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by MuslimThinker View Post
    I'll post a few here.
    Bus rides. They do seem to enjoy bus rides if you are sitting next to them. Maybe its just my mother.
    She'll like to bring snacks too. Father likes the air-con.

    They love picnics too. With the radio on and enjoying the breeze.
    On top of all these, seeing or being with their grandchildren seems to be one of top things that pleasures them the most.
    Nah

    My mum doesn't like public transport

    She is OTT with hygiene lol, I think all her daughters get it from her as well
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Read Quran with her.
    You, two doing something together, even very simple everyday things, how amazing and bonding that could be.

    Or, what are things she is interested...you can talk about those things with her/ or go see them.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Quote Originally Posted by MuslimThinker View Post
    How to make parents happy



    A while back I asked mum if she wants to go to some place with me/spend time together (its an exhibition place) but she said she didnt want to. Her age is 60 plus. I made another suggestion and she declined as well. And then I thought looks like I've run out of ideas.
    Hence this thread.
    So I thought it be a good idea if we can all share our experience and knowledge on this matter so everyone can benefit and be inspired to do the same.
    So please share what are the creative ways that you can think of to make parents happy.

    This thread aims to follow and propegate the sunnah of being good to one's parents and is dedicated to parents.
    Do not scroll down first
    Here's how it works, you open up notepad, (type it in notepad, save them somewhere) list down all the ideas via number format.
    Then post them here.
    Then scroll down to see answers and how you and other posters thought of the same idea. It be cool.

    I will post mine after this,inshaAllah.

    Allah says in the Quran
    https://quran.com/4/36
    Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good,




    In hadith

    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/78/2
    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/56/213

    Some links on parenting

    http://www.hadithoftheday.com/parents/
    http://abuaminaelias.com/honor-your-...ther-in-islam/

    May Allah allow us to continue to be good/kind to our parents
    I think you should make more of an effort to take you mum out to these places that you think will interest her. Maybe she's never been before and doesn't know what to expect. But I"m sure she'll like it. People at 60 think they've seen everythign and done everything.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    If mummy and daddy haven't been to umrah or hajj then help them towards the cost.

    Making them breakfast.

    Cook them a meal.

    Buy them something they like.

    Take them to visit their friends/relatives.

    If you don't live with them then spend a night there or invite them to stay at your place.

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    Re: How to make parents happy

    Jazakullah khair for the responses
    Quote Originally Posted by Ya'sin View Post
    My mum likes shopping, especially for kitchen utensilsLol
    Yeah mine too, excited over sales and discounts at times. But shopping over hijab/clothes, I will have to sit at the shop and wait for so loooooong. Mum, next shop please. (but before the next shop is another clothes/hijab shop)
    Quote Originally Posted by Ikki View Post
    I think you should make more of an effort to take you mum out to these places that you think will interest her. Maybe she's never been before and doesn't know what to expect. But I"m sure she'll like it. People at 60 think they've seen everythign and done everything.
    Only recently brought her to see the fishes. And some other place. Therapeutic. Its been a while since OP but she seems to be open now to going out. In fact she wants to go out now more , and more full of ideas now. But on a more serious note, I think some saw this thread and made du’a for my mother or etc. Alhamdulilah.
    Quote Originally Posted by Mintchocchip View Post
    If mummy and daddy haven't been to umrah or hajj then help them towards the cost. Making them breakfast. Cook them a meal.Buy them something they like. Take them to visit their friends/relatives. If you don't live with them then spend a night there or invite them to stay at your place.
    Alhamdulilah we did went Umrah together recently. Still living with them. Not good with cooking.
    Quote Originally Posted by uccello verde View Post
    Read Quran with her.You, two doing something together, even very simple everyday things, how amazing and bonding that could be.Or, what are things she is interested...you can talk about those things with her/ or go see them.
    Yes, like watch TV. While usually the person are they are able to do this more , once they are married and have own house etc its no longer as much as the case before.

 

 

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