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    Question Power vs love



    So I've noticed that people start off fine

    sooner or later it becomes about power and who will submit and obey who. Games are played and neither side likes to admit they care. It's more like if u really loved me u u would be like this. Does it cross over into control?

    i always thought u would help each other become the best version of yourself but I guess u would both need to have the ambition to do this

    Lies are just too frequent amongst people. It makes me feel sick.
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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by muzzybee View Post
    We say deen and character rightfully so ,but definition of this is totally misunderstood or taken from an outside observation,unless deep scrutiny is done on potentials.
    Everybody says Deen and character, or at least most people do,

    However at the back of their mind is where Deen and character is, at the forefront ... Every other criteria under the sun,

    Hence the problems in marriage many a times,

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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
    Everybody says Deen and character, or at least most people do,

    However at the back of their mind is where Deen and character is, at the forefront ... Every other criteria under the sun,

    Hence the problems in marriage many a times,

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    Re: Power vs love

    I am no more but an unmarried, young squire. This is purely my opinion.

    Men wish above all to be respected by their women. If she doesn't respect him and treats him small, or like nothing, you've injured him.

    Women wish to be loved. They hold themselves to unleash it on a lucky person. If she feels unloved and discarded like a cigarette but, you've broken her.

    Husband wife should grow together and help each other.

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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by RaNdOm View Post


    So I've noticed that people start off fine

    sooner or later it becomes about power and who will submit and obey who. Games are played and neither side likes to admit they care. It's more like if u really loved me u u would be like this. Does it cross over into control?

    i always thought u would help each other become the best version of yourself but I guess u would both need to have the ambition to do this

    Lies are just too frequent amongst people. It makes me feel sick.
    V scary world.

    Love is about power. Feeling love for somebody gives them power over you. This is why you shouldn't love.

    Check yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
    Everybody says Deen and character, or at least most people do,

    However at the back of their mind is where Deen and character is, at the forefront ... Every other criteria under the sun,

    Hence the problems in marriage many a times,

    Red herring.

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    Re: Power vs love

    Just seems really annoying tbh
    ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
    "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
    [Al-Imran 3:159]

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    AW: Re: Power vs love

    We take women for granted.So we stop trying to earn their love.We think she has nowhere else to go.We bring food,we protect them,we are the leaders here,she should obey and follow.
    She didnt sign up in a military camp,nor started a job as a maid.Ofc she would rebel and try to take power.

    Why should it be : " if you really loved me you would be like this" , and not be "I would be like this to make you really love me"

    I grew up in a masculine society.Masculinity disgusts me

    But maybe I shouldnt be this harsh to my kind.Or should I ?
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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by RaNdOm View Post
    Just seems really annoying tbh
    Then don't ponder over it.

    Here's something interesting: some people (if not many) are depressed or severely upset because they choose to be. You could actually overpower your own mind and convince yourself of happiness, disregard desponding thoughts, but people choose not to. I guess the aspect of self pity gives them pleasure. The point is, likewise you can ignore annoying things and thus not become annoyed.

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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by RaNdOm View Post


    So I've noticed that people start off fine

    sooner or later it becomes about power and who will submit and obey who. Games are played and neither side likes to admit they care. It's more like if u really loved me u u would be like this. Does it cross over into control?

    i always thought u would help each other become the best version of yourself but I guess u would both need to have the ambition to do this

    Lies are just too frequent amongst people. It makes me feel sick.
    About power or is it about those who can't admit that the man is the leader of the family, those who have ego problems listening to somone in authority?
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    Re: Power vs love

    there is no honesty left in the world, people are dishonest to themselves and others, the is very little taqwa, our reason for everything we do needs to be questioned. Power struggles are definitely a big thing in marriages
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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by Morose View Post
    Red herring.
    Looks like your favourite phrase nowadays. -_-
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    Re: Power vs love

    Quote Originally Posted by Scrooge View Post
    there is no honesty left in the world, people are dishonest to themselves and others, the is very little taqwa, our reason for everything we do needs to be questioned. Power struggles are definitely a big thing in marriages
    Not in the majority of marriages,

    Power struggle isn't an issue, because most people are aware that with authority comes responsibility.

    It's become an issue nowadays due to stuff like Feminism
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