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    Icon11 Your first child: son or daughter and why?



    If Allah wills for you to get married and have children. would you make du'a for your first child to be a son or daughter? And give reasons.

    May Allah provide you all with righteous spouses and children that will be the coolness of your eyes.

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    Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    @Miss Foxxy

    Really.. You don't wanna get married? Haha wait, was that meant to be a joke in guji language, if so then ahahaha funny hehe lol.
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by iRepIslam View Post
    @Miss Foxxy

    Really.. You don't wanna get married? Haha wait, was that meant to be a joke in guji language, if so then ahahaha funny hehe lol.
    haha lol.... that was urdu @iRepIslam
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by AwRastaale View Post
    With this environment and society we live in, Allah forbid, I don't want a daughter AT ALL.
    This...

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Deeni Akh View Post
    Alhamdulillah how's your son doing?

    And why are you surprised? Why wouldn't people want girls
    Alhamduillah he's a month old now.

    I guess it's an Arab thing but the guys that I know want boys more than girls
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    It actually doesnt matter. Children are cool either way

    I would love to have many insha Allah and increase our Ummah
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by ugabs View Post
    It actually doesnt matter. Children are cool either way

    I would love to have many insha Allah and increase our Ummah
    we already have alot , you having 10 more wouldn't be that different than gullu butt having 15




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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by noobz View Post
    we already have alot , you having 10 more wouldn't be that different than gullu butt having 15
    The more the better
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Abu Saeed Britani View Post
    DAUGHTER.

    Bcz they r way cuter <3
    I agree

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    I can't choose, I want both, sons and daughters, In sha'Allah.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Son. I want to make him a hafiz, and teach him tajweed, and make him memorize hadith books and all that good stuff which is much easier for a child.
    A daughter can do this too, but women can't go around preaching and giving lectures. Regardless little children are adorable.
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Deeni Akh View Post


    If Allah wills for you to get married and have children. would you make du'a for your first child to be a son or daughter? And give reasons.

    May Allah provide you all with righteous spouses and children that will be the coolness of your eyes.
    not this again.......
    Last edited by Spicen; 16-10-16 at 05:58 PM.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Spicen View Post
    no this again.......
    Why bro. Don't you want some mini versions of yourself walking around?

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Deeni Akh View Post
    Why bro. Don't you want some mini versions of yourself walking around?
    remember what got me banned......?

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Spicen View Post
    remember what got me banned......?
    Lol can't remember exactly. Was it your views on women?

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Deeni Akh View Post
    Lol can't remember exactly. Was it your views on women?
    I said I wanted a male child and gave a few reasons why. Things didn't go smoothly for me from there on.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Spicen View Post
    I said I wanted a male child and gave a few reasons why. Things didn't go smoothly for me from there on.
    Oh yes I remember.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    I must have daughters, although they'll need a older brother to provide protection

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    boy- so any girls that come after will have a big brother

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    I would never make dua for a specific gender. It's easy for us to say,

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    never really thought about it till this thread.

    I voted for son as first child in the poll listed in OP.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Does it really matter? ... No, it does not. To have a healthy, and pious, child is one of the biggest blessings of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by dots View Post
    Does it really matter? ... No, it does not. To have a healthy, and pious, child is one of the biggest blessings of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
    It matters yes. Having a healthy baby is the MOST important thing but if you don't think gender is important than you should really hear the stories about man divorcing their wives because she didn't give birth to any boys
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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Allah's_Servant View Post
    It matters yes. Having a healthy baby is the MOST important thing but if you don't think gender is important than you should really hear the stories about man divorcing their wives because she didn't give birth to any boys
    I am one of many girls and never have I witnessed my dad regret having only daughters or blame my mom or his kismet or cuss on having so many girls, not even after losing 3 sons. Then again men like my dad are rare, indeed. Things like these matters to those who are either ignorant, cultural oriented and/or just do not associate same value/importance to girls as they do to the boys.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    No preference. Both are cute It's a Maryam if it's a daughter and an Ibrahim if a son.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by Allah's_Servant View Post
    It matters yes. Having a healthy baby is the MOST important thing but if you don't think gender is important than you should really hear the stories about man divorcing their wives because she didn't give birth to any boys
    Hmm, the Nabi had mostly daughters, and loved them and respected them, treated them extremely well- so we should follow his example, not a cultural tradition.
    وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

    And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


    أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

    Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    The poll should have a third option for "Doesn't matter to me either way" as I think there are parents who don't really have a preference.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by LondonGal View Post
    I would never make dua for a specific gender. It's easy for us to say, I would love a boy cos he'd do xyz or i would love a girl cos she'd do xyz.

    But these are massive assumptions and stereotypes.

    Our boy could end up being a drug dealer or a womanizer whilst our daughter could get into shoplifting or whatever

    We just don't know.

    I've always made dua that Allah blesses me with healthy children that are righteous and good to their parents in old age. Regardless if that's 3girls or 6boys.
    My mom is asked me that question years ago and this is how I answered. I pondered and pondered and put aside my desires and answered, "It does not matter for me. What matters is this: The child is healthy (nowadays so many children are born with birth defects and mental redardation), good character (how many children daughter or son are good to their parents in old age?),and have strong Iman and die Muslim in the end. It is irrelevant at the end if you have such sweet spot for girls or love boys when the end of it all they lack imam and their destintation is hellfire. If such blessings are put to girls then girls if such blesings are put to boys then boys. It is not what is between the legs I am looking for it is the health, character and iman are what I look for a child.

    I don't want a daughter who will grow up a feminist man hating lesbian as a daughter. No thanks. Nor do I want a daughter who she feels she is her boss and no one tells her what to do and go out day and night partying having boyfriend or even girlfriend left and right. Nor do I want a daughter who is arrogant and arguemtative all the time and it is her or the highway. I don't want a son whose is gay, criminal, drug dealers, argumentative his way or the highway.

    What matters of the gender if the package that comes with it is disaster? They all sweet at the beginning...but what you get when they reach adult THAT IS WHAT COUNTS. Raising children in the west is hard for both genders. How can you protect your son from pornography or bad friends. How do you protect your daughter from walking with non muslim girl and believing the women empowerment mantra that is infesting the west?

    If I was to choose between boy or girl I woudl choose neither. I have enough in my plate in the afterlife....addding responsbility on my kneck from other mouths to feed no...thanks!

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    I always wanted a son...didn't want my old clothes going to waste.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    I always wanted a son...didn't want my old clothes going to waste.
    again it is irrelevant what we want. You get a son, he goes to paradise you end up in hellfire...you gain nothing or vice versa. Focus on the character, imam and health of the child and not gender. Focus on yourself in achieving success in the afterlife In the end, the things you get in paradise is more better than any son or daughter or mother or father or wealth or intelligence of this world. We need to think in the bigger picture more than i want to have a million dollar or be the smartest person in the world or have pretty sweet daughters or have sons to play with and teach him to be a man or have power or or or...all of these are wordily things. I never look at it this way...I look at in the perspective of deen and that is it.

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    LOL @zi-zizou! That's nice

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by A500DaBest View Post
    again it is irrelevant what we want. You get a son, he goes to paradise you end up in hellfire...you gain nothing or vice versa. Focus on the character, imam and health of the child and not gender. Focus on yourself in achieving success in the afterlife In the end, the things you get in paradise is more better than any son or daughter or mother or father or wealth or intelligence of this world. We need to think in the bigger picture more than i want to have a million dollar or be the smartest person in the world or have pretty sweet daughters or have sons to play with and teach him to be a man or have power or or or...all of these are wordily things. I never look at it this way...I look at in the perspective of deen and that is it.
    Isn't is true that whoever raises two daughters and treats them well will be admitted into Jannah?

    It was narrated on the authority of Jabir that the Prophet ﷺsaid: "‘Whoever has three daughters whom he gives refuge to, provides for and shows mercy to, Paradise is certainly guaranteed for him.” A man asked, “And (for) two, O Messenger of Allah?” He ﷺreplied: “And also (for the one who has) two (daughters)." [Ahmad] [Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]
    وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ ۚ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ - 31:19

    And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys."


    أَلَمْ تَرَوْا أَنَّ اللَّهَ سَخَّرَ لَكُم مَّا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَأَسْبَغَ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعَمَهُ ظَاهِرَةً وَبَاطِنَةً ۗ وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَن يُجَادِلُ فِي اللَّهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ وَلَا هُدًى وَلَا كِتَابٍ مُّنِيرٍ - 31:20

    Do you not see that Allah has made subject to you whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth and amply bestowed upon you His favors, [both] apparent and unapparent? But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book [from Him].


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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    Quote Originally Posted by LailaTheMuslim View Post
    Isn't is true that whoever raises two daughters and treats them well will be admitted into Jannah?

    It was narrated on the authority of Jabir that the Prophet ﷺsaid: "‘Whoever has three daughters whom he gives refuge to, provides for and shows mercy to, Paradise is certainly guaranteed for him.” A man asked, “And (for) two, O Messenger of Allah?” He ﷺreplied: “And also (for the one who has) two (daughters)." [Ahmad] [Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad]
    2 or 3

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    I dont care as long as they are like julaybeeb or nusayba ra

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    Re: Your first child: son or daughter and why?

    I always dreamed of having an older brother, or well.. I have one but he died in the womb in month 9..., so I always wanted the first to be a boy so he can be someones big brother. And my first and only child was a son. But of course a girl would have made me just as happy

 

 

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