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  • Handsome

    1 1.89%
  • Brave

    2 3.77%
  • Strong/Fit

    5 9.43%
  • Funny

    9 16.98%
  • Educated

    5 9.43%
  • Nice

    19 35.85%
  • Rich

    8 15.09%
  • Other/ Pls specify

    4 7.55%
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    Top characteristic in husband

    Pls submit ur answer in the poll.

    Assuming that he is religious.

    Just sisters pls, brothers can vote in the wife threads.

    P.S. I hope brothers and sisters who are ok with free mixing to talk out side the thread... Pls no offense.

    P.S. I didnt put All the above cos everybody will chose that. Maybe we could make another thread that is what is the second characteristic...etc
    Last edited by insann; 14-01-15 at 04:48 PM.
    Sorry I dont carry a conversation nor an argument with a sister. I just put my point of view in general for everybody and it is up to you to take it or leave it.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by zainah View Post
    I think it has to do with the culture of some members on this forum. If I have to believe how much money and status comes at first place in some culture's I can totally understand why they can't find spouses.
    Yeah I get where your coming from, I still cant believe handsome got zero votes

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by youngheart View Post
    So handsome has zero votes, but rich is in the top 2? hmmm
    They'r after the man's money
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by zainah View Post
    Yes subhanAllah how bizarre. I prefer handsome over rich anytime. Infect I don't want a rich husband. Just someone with normal income.
    I have seen what money can do to a family and it ain't nice.
    Teach this to our young generation...

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    oh i havent even voted

    ill vote now

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Ria View Post
    oh i havent even voted

    ill vote now
    omg... like everybody was waiting fr you to cast ur vote!

    ****smack on the head***

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Revertbrother View Post
    omg... like everybody was waiting fr you to cast ur vote!

    ****smack on the head***
    no


    basically i forgot to vote in all of the vote threads. i commented but forgot to vote

    i know im not that famous that everyone will wait for my vote

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Nice to see my guess is winning
    I write novels for posts. Beware.

    Ummah Forum seems pretty black and white. Was thinking of offering Skittles as Dawah to introduce a rainbow.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Constant Hope View Post
    Nice to see my guess is winning
    What was your guess?
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Sky Lark View Post
    What was your guess?
    Guy with a sense of humour.

    Although I also correct predicticted the "Where's the 'All of the Above' option?" responses too lol
    I write novels for posts. Beware.

    Ummah Forum seems pretty black and white. Was thinking of offering Skittles as Dawah to introduce a rainbow.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Nice and funny. But nice first because you can be funny but completely rude and/or mean.
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Constant Hope View Post
    Guy with a sense of humour.

    Although I also correct predicticted the "Where's the 'All of the Above' option?" responses too lol
    Yeah you'r right and as nousername said it, just summed it up.
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Sky Lark View Post
    Yeah you'r right and as nousername said it, just summed it up.
    Yeah, being funny in a nice way is safe, but some people also respond to teasing in a 'meanie' way if you know what I mean. Fine line and all that caveat though.
    I write novels for posts. Beware.

    Ummah Forum seems pretty black and white. Was thinking of offering Skittles as Dawah to introduce a rainbow.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Ria View Post
    no


    basically i forgot to vote in all of the vote threads. i commented but forgot to vote

    i know im not that famous that everyone will wait for my vote
    Ok

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Revertbrother View Post
    Ok
    Why you always saying ok, are you basically sugar coding shut up
    Ya Allah,
    Make me a stronger person today. Make me a better person out of all these. It is no longer bearable for me for my heart is aching and You are the only One who knows how I feel. Nothing is making sense to myself and for anyone else for that matter especially to the one person I wish to understand me better than anybody else.
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    So are women really willing to pass on educated and nice guys for the funny ones?

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    We do need clowns sometimes lolol
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Hanasaeed View Post
    Why you always saying ok, are you basically sugar coding shut up
    OK


    Keep guessing.....

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    Wow. Didn't think being rich would be so important.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by budi.sudaryo View Post
    So are women really willing to pass on educated and nice guys for the funny ones?
    No..id take the mature, educated, friendly guy who can have a laugh time to time, over the joker anyday!
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Rich!!!!! Where is that funny Mercedes user?

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    This one is a lot easier to answer than the worst characteristic one lol
    I'd pick Nice, since that encompasses all of the above aswell
    For real I'd pick nice if by that one means kind caring etc, because that is vital.
    Like from the above..I think wealths not important, and education not really either because someone can be intelligent without that and also knowing aboutIslam more important, beauty is very subjective, humour is good yeah, but not at the expense of not being nice, the other two are a bit random kinda.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Not one vote for "Handsome"??? I feel robbed.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by Virus View Post
    Not one vote for "Handsome"??? I feel robbed.
    just noticed that

    clearly us sistas aint that shallow
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    Quote Originally Posted by Muslima London View Post
    just noticed that

    clearly us sistas aint that shallow
    ML on the main forum> am I seeing things? that's funny no one chose handsome lol
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by .Singaporean View Post
    Rich!!!!! Where is that funny Mercedes user?
    who me?

    I think that is me

    I still haven't got a Mercedes yet, I think I'm getting bored, I want something else now. Something more expensive and WOW.
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    Nice, I am not nice or funny.

    Guess strong, fit, and handsome is of no use.

    Made for singledom

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Protective

    I want to feel cherished and protected by him
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    lol @ nice

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    You can't really choose one characteristic. Someone could say honesty but that doesn't mean they want someone horrible who is honest about it.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Stuff all the ones listed.

    As long as he can give you a small loan of a million dollars.

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    RICH is 3RD MOST VOTED wth !!!!! HAHA !!!!

    A girl in an option for two guys, will always chose the one with the better resume...

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband



    Nice, funny and romantic (this should've been an option)

    Nice: If someone is rude then it turns me off big time. Being nice is VERY important and seriously a guy can have nothing but if he's very nice and understanding of other's feelings then he can be the most attractive guy in this world to me. I'm really terrified of being physically or emotionally abused by my husband so I really really hope he'll be nice

    Funny: Most of the time, I hear that husbands are really serious to their wives but I want to laugh with my husband and have fun with him. He really doesn't have to make me laugh 24/7 but every now and then will do. I'm not a funny person myself so it's completely ok if he can't make me laugh all the time! As long as he's not serious all the time

    Romantic: Muhammad was very romantic to his wives and I sort of want my husband to be a little romantic too..

    Out of the 3 if I had to choose 1 then I guess being nice is the most important to me. If someone is nice then that means he's not arrogant, he's not mean and rude, he won't go around doing bad things because he'll be considerate of people's feelings and most importantly he'll be making Allah happy because Allah loves those who are nice

    Hmm wealth came in 3rd. I guess we all have different things we want from our spouses but in my opinion wealth attracts a lot of enemies so it's not important to me at all as long as he can provide the necessities.
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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    I'd love him to be protective, a leader type, loving and compassionate.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Nice = good khuluq.

    The value of a man with good khuluq is that which will lead you to happiness in this life. Someone who treats his wife like she is the most precious thing in the world, with kindness and compassion, I do not think any woman who has such a man would trade for any of the other traits listed.
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    There's just so many but I truly appreciate thoughtfulness and being considerate of others.

    It really increases your love for someone when you see how they put others first and are willing to sacrifice their time, ego, self in order to make someone else feel better.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by al-siddiq View Post
    Nice = good khuluq.

    The value of a man with good khuluq is that which will lead you to happiness in this life. Someone who treats his wife like she is the most precious thing in the world, with kindness and compassion, I do not think any woman who has such a man would trade for any of the other traits listed.
    Well said, sis. Definitely true, if you have good akhlaaq you pretty much have all the characterstics a woman would want in a man and you no longer need to name positive traits one by one since they come under that umbrella.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bintmydad View Post
    Well said, sis. Definitely true, if you have good akhlaaq you pretty much have all the characterstics a woman would want in a man and you no longer need to name positive traits one by one since they come under that umbrella.
    But I kept hearing from people that if a husband is too nice with the wife, she will take advantage of him and exploit him for her needs. Is this true? It scares me a little

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deeni Akh View Post
    But I kept hearing from people that if a husband is too nice with the wife, she will take advantage of him and exploit him for her needs. Is this true? It scares me a little
    I just saw a thread with the exact scenario you've mentioned. Sad that women (not all) are like that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deeni Akh View Post
    But I kept hearing from people that if a husband is too nice with the wife, she will take advantage of him and exploit him for her needs. Is this true? It scares me a little


    There's no denying that some women are like that and the fault lies with her if she exploits her kind and gentle husband and it's not because of him or his kind nature but because of a deficiency that she's got. You don't hear of the women who appreciate their kind husbands and don't treat him like a doormat because they won't broadcast their happy marriages. The same goes for women, some end up with husbands that take advantage of her good character and manners and when their husbands mistreat them, people will blame her and said that it's because she was too kind and she should have been harsher with him so he doesn't abuse her.

    SubhaanAllaah this is terrible advice and completely wrong! Imagine the person gets remarried and they treat a good man/woman like filth because they previously felt being kind didn't pay off. They have failed to understand that Allaah has tested them by putting them into a situation like this and perhaps it was too see if they truly follow the way of our prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam when he said: ""Be kind, for whenever kindness becomes part of something, it beautifies it. Whenever it is taken from something, it leaves it tarnished."

    Our behaviour shouldn't depend on what we get out of it but it should depend on whether or not we are following what Allaah and his messenger salallahu alayhi wa salam commanded and having full belief that this is better than anything else. That's the sincerity that Allaah rewards.

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    Re: Top characteristic in husband

    Quote Originally Posted by bintmydad View Post


    There's no denying that some women are like that and the fault lies with her if she exploits her kind and gentle husband and it's not because of him or his kind nature but because of a deficiency that she's got. You don't hear of the women who appreciate their kind husbands and don't treat him like a doormat because they won't broadcast their happy marriages. The same goes for women, some end up with husbands that take advantage of her good character and manners and when their husbands mistreat them, people will blame her and said that it's because she was too kind and she should have been harsher with him so he doesn't abuse her.

    SubhaanAllaah this is terrible advice and completely wrong! Imagine the person gets remarried and they treat a good man/woman like filth because they previously felt being kind didn't pay off. They have failed to understand that Allaah has tested them by putting them into a situation like this and perhaps it was too see if they truly follow the way of our prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam when he said: ""Be kind, for whenever kindness becomes part of something, it beautifies it. Whenever it is taken from something, it leaves it tarnished."

    Our behaviour shouldn't depend on what we get out of it but it should depend on whether or not we are following what Allaah and his messenger salallahu alayhi wa salam commanded and having full belief that this is better than anything else. That's the sincerity that Allaah rewards.
    right, it can happen to either the man or woman. It depends who you marry and why you choose to marry them.

    there are a few members on hear that fear acting nice to their wife and ending up being treated like a doormat.
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

 

 

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