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    Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    I know many of you are not parents and do not have adult children, but inshaAllah if you live long enough to do so, would you allow them to marry outside of your ethnicity?

    Also, what kind of conditions would you require someone to have in order for your son/daughter to be allowed to marry them? E.g. do they need to be earning x amount of money etc.?

    Last edited by DaughterOfAdam; 06-08-14 at 02:55 PM.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by brightesthour View Post
    That's a shame coming from you :/...if you're being serious that is
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Insha'Allah if I have children. .I wouldn't marrying outside my ethnicity. As long as they are Muslim.
    If they were not a muslim previously I would want to make sure that they reverted for the sake of Allah swt and not just get married. ..that's the reason I've seen for some marriages not working out. . (By the way. I have nothing against reverts at all ..as long as they are practising)
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    In'Shā'Allah if I have children i would let them marry outside of their ethnicity because in Islam ethnicity, race, culture etc. doesn't apply. It's just about the person being a good Muslim.

    Conditions will only be that they are:
    Practising muslim (I.e. basics - 5x salah, give zakat, knowledgeable etc.)
    Reliable/trustworthy/honest person.

    Obviously if the person is on the deen then In'Shā'Allah all those qualities come with it.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    They can marry whoever they want as long as they meet the Islamic requirements.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by SeoulMuslim. View Post
    They can marry whoever they want as long as they meet the Islamic requirements.
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    I don't intend to marry someone who is not the same ethnicity as me. I'll only marry an Arab girl as I'm Arab myself and that's what my dad did. Tbh, I wouldn't mind who my sons marry as long as they're good muslimahs. I'd rather they marry Arab girls too.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    My son is mix race so it's up to him who he marries

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by SeoulMuslim. View Post
    They can marry whoever they want as long as they meet the Islamic requirements.
    Yeah

    Prefer same ethnicity to make life easier though

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by Talwaar View Post
    Yeah

    Prefer same ethnicity to make life easier though
    Find them Russians, bro.
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by .mirror. View Post
    find them russians, bro.
    da!
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    Yes! Of course! Mixed race IS the future ONE Ummah!
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by Al-Mualim View Post

    Yes! Of course! Mixed race IS the future ONE Ummah!
    People who are mixed are really cute too!

    *high 5*

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Depends on where you live.In my place i will prefer marrying from same race(i am not saying marrying from other race is bad,so no need to call me racist)

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    When I bash where I come from in front if my mother she says " I don't care, but don't mock our town in front of your future wife" and I'm like "woah...I should marry one from the place I hate?"

    But tbh I don't care really. As long as she's the quiet type I won't care. I never have such an expectation for marriage. In fact I prefer marrying from my own ethnicity because its much easier to understand init? I have never felt that looks are important but yeah what's inside also differs

    As for my children I will let then marry whoever or whatever they want. Even if its non-muslim. I hope and pray my children have no sexuality issues but I will never compell them to do anything. A guide is a guide.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    As long as they are on the same wave length, that's all that matters.

    If they are on the same wave length, it will mean they believe in the same religion. It will mean they think in a similar manner, if they think differently, that will cause lots of issues. For example, if an arab born and raised in saudi married an african born and raise in africa, that can cause issues in cultural thinking. They would not understand the cultural differences for example, and would not be able to relate to each other. However, if an arab born and raised in the usa married an african also born and raised in the usa, where their mindsets are very similar, nothing wrong with that IMV.
    Last edited by oshirowanen; 15-08-14 at 09:43 AM.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Yes, they can if they want to.

    It's their choice if they want to marry from the same race, or marry outside of it.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    mashaAllah 90.47% of those who voted said yes. I am proud of ummah forum members
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    I would explain possible difficulties arising out of the differences in cultures and possibly language, etc. That being said, I wouldn't argue against the marriage.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    If you say no it shows a lot about where your priorities lie, meaning your culture is more important than your faith.

    There is no race when it comes to Islam

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    Yes of course if I was a parent. But my parents are not allowing me to, since they thought it would be hard to accept new language and culture. Of course his deen is the most matter thing. Next step, if that person able to speak my language and live in my country for some period of time, they will consider their decision.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by DaughterOfAdam View Post
    I know many of you are not parents and do not have adult children, but inshaAllah if you live long enough to do so, would you allow them to marry outside of your ethnicity?

    Also, what kind of conditions would you require someone to have in order for your son/daughter to be allowed to marry them? E.g. do they need to be earning x amount of money etc.?

    We have authority over daughters, but when sons r old, they r on their own honestly, and doesnt require any of the parents permission for marriage.
    As for the girl: 1. if she agrees, 2. if the other ethnicity is regarded higher then that of mine .

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    @m7md r u Saudi ? and which ethnicity is higher that yours ?
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Never! They have to marry belgian, and not walonian! Flemish!!
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    yeah

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Yes, my sons can. It's their choice ultimately.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by peras1 View Post
    Yes, my sons can. It's their choice ultimately.
    Yea imagine ur daughters marrying a revert
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Yea imagine ur daughters marrying a revert
    Actually, I wouldn't want my sons to marry a revert either to be honest. I thought we were discussing born Muslims whose families are Muslims, but never mind.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by peras1 View Post
    Actually, I wouldn't want my sons to marry a revert either to be honest. I thought we were discussing born Muslims whose families are Muslims, but never mind.
    Exactly the reply i expected
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by Al-Mualim View Post

    Yes! Of course! Mixed race IS the future ONE Ummah!
    I hope not.

    It's nice to see people with different ethnicities. It adds variety to the world.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by aynina View Post
    Yea imagine ur daughters marrying a revert
    What's wrong with reverts? what's wrong with you? Ok that second question might kill the internet, you don't have to answer that one.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    excuse your auntie girl lololololz

    thanks @zi-zizou


    @aynina even if was meant to be sarcasm, still need to be edited IMO
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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    What's wrong with reverts? what's wrong with you? Ok that second question might kill the internet, you don't have to answer that one.
    It was sarcasm on her part, just to see Peras1' response.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by myeverything View Post
    excuse your auntie girl lololololz

    thanks @zi-zizou
    she is a revert

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    What's wrong with reverts? what's wrong with you? Ok that second question might kill the internet, you don't have to answer that one.
    Their families are not Muslim that's what's wrong

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by Abu Jarir View Post
    Their families are not Muslim that's what's wrong
    It's not something the potential can be held responsible for. Perhaps they too will be guided like he/she was.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    It's not something the potential can be held responsible for. Perhaps they too will be guided like he/she was.
    They wont be it's a very slim chance

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Quote Originally Posted by zi-zizou View Post
    It's not something the potential can be held responsible for. Perhaps they too will be guided like he/she was.
    Or maybe they won't be guided, and your child will have kuffar in laws, and your grandchildren that will have kuffar family. Family is very important part of our deen, and I wouldn't want my grandchildren or my children to have to keep ties with kuffar. That's just one of the many problems.

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    I see you resolved that lol, also the fact that they have a history would make him spit on them if they tried to propose
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    It would break my heart

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    Re: Would you allow your children to marry outside of their ethnicity?

    Yes,that's one obstacle removed,
    there's enough trouble in marrying we don't need to make it any harder by imposing obstacles like only marrying from your own ethnicity.

    a good person is a good person regardless.

    I encourage men in my family to marry outside of our ethnicity as i've seen certain dilemmas in our ethnicity that are not as common in other ethnicities,so to avoid that and to mix with another ethnicity,get to know more of another culture,

    there's lots of benefits to be had in mixed marriages.

 

 

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