My husband spent time in his home country to take care of his sick father for several months. I didn’t realize that while he’s away he get in touch with his ex-girlfriend of more than 20 years ago (my husband is 47 years old and his ex-also 47 years old and never get married).
When he’s back to USA, I saw a lot of different in his behavior and manner, he’s different from before he left USA about a few months ago. He has more temper than before.
Then one day I saw the text from his ex-girl friend with inappropriate words, after that I realised that there are a lot of phone calls/texting either from this girl or from my husband to her.
When I brought this issue to him, he said that we have to love someone because of Allah, since this girl has never been married in her life so my husband wants to give happiness to this girl by marrying her, on top of that this girl can also taking care of his elder parents, because I have job in USA, hence I would not be able to spend time to take care of his parent in his hometown, not like her ex-lover who can always visit and take care of his parent since they live not far from each other. I called his mom, his mom said that this girl frequently comes to their house to visit his sick father and massage his feet.
My iman is not strong enough to face the reality that my husband will marry a second wife. I was thinking of asking for a divorce before, but I spoke to my mom and my mom said “no, please think about your children and let Allah decides what is the best for my family”, she said.
What I have done to deserve this? I never had any affairs with other man in my life (before and after I married him). This reality is very difficult to swallow. Why he did this to me?
Islamicly is it permissible for a husband to marry a second wife because this woman doesn’t have a husband yet?
What is the right/strongreason for polygamy?.
Should a man just ignore his wife feeling .. that by marrying this girl he will break his wife and his children heart?
Since this girl is not his wife yet, Islamicly, is it lawful for my husband to talk with her over the phone, is this haram or no?
I am seeking for your Islamic advise,