Basically, some comments are truly disgusting:
"It is cheating when it is done so dishonestly without your consent! I feel for you dear sister. Sending you love, hugs and peace."
"Really saddened by your story.
Polygamy is cheating, especially in your situation as there was no consent. It actually went on for 6 months, if not more, behind your back.
It seems that your husband has done irreversible damage to your relationship. Children can always sense problems between their parents. Be the strong woman you are and make a decision for yourself. Your children will be damaged more by watching the damaged marriage of their parents.
And don't let anyone give you an Islamic justification for this. The context is never understood and the bottom line is, it isn't easing your pain.
Lots of duas for you."
I don't get this, Polygyny is a sunnah, our Prophet practiced it and many of his companions did it too, why is it so hard for women to accept it?
Please explain, because where I come from, polygyny is common and monogamy is common, and usually, co wives over there become friends, they don't go crazy if a man marries a second, third or the fourth time, it's normal and nobody cares. I've been raised with relatives in my family who have second wives, so maybe it's harder for me to understand why it's such a big problem?
Can someone please clarify this for me?
(I will probably get no replies but it's worth a shot)