I've been here almost a year, and I still see so much debate on this sort of men vs women kind of ordeal.
So I'm just going to make this one point and give it to everyone straight.
For everyone's benefit, I went and actually asked very specifically this question. I got an answer. So you are free to read, or you are free to ignore, and even debate, but I hope that at least on the Day of Judgement I won't be held to account inshAllah as I tried to make it clear to the people here.
Allah created insaan (humans). Then he gave them roles based on their context. Politician in public affairs, fighter on the battlefield, mother in the home with children, son to the father, etc. Just like our entire life is based on roles, so Allah helped guide us by revealing to us actions and roles based on context.
So why do people get into these heated debates on what should men do and what should women do? Because we live under the ideas of liberalism. Liberalism deals with the idea that people should do whatever they want, and should be allowed to do whatever they want. Inherently, this idea leads loss of focus and direction, because the one in a liberalist society who sets direction is the same subjective human being who is acting.
What does this have to do with the men and women role debate? Because people just make up whatever roles they want and try to make it work. And sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't.
Inherent to every role is it's focus. The children have a focus different from the parents. The wife different from the husband. The leader different from the follower.
Not everyone can lead the ummah. Not everyone can play husband. Not everyone can be the parents.
Which leads me to the main point, and to save time I am just going to be blunt:
The ahkam of Islam give the men the external roles and women the internal roles in general.
Why? Because men were created with certain strengths and weakness and women with others in general.
Allah warns men severely of pride, and of their weakness in terms of dealing with women. Allah warns women in terms of the strength of their emotions. This is why men can become so hard-headed and arrogant sometimes, and why society without control becomes male-centered. And this is also why women can engage in heavy backbiting, and act based on emotions.
Just in case anyone gets upset, these things have their ups and downs. The heavy logic-based thinking of men (in general) allows them to make tactical deisions, very cold and calculated. This also leads to insensitivity many times, however, and also arrogance. On the other hand, the strong emotions of women give them their great sense of intuition, their ability to understand how people feel and relate to them easier. It does also, however, sometimes lead to emotion over thought.
Now for some of the comments I hear.
Firstly, as indicated by the hadith in sahih Muslim and Bukhari, there were four women who were guaranteed jannah. And the reason for this (which is inherent in the title given to them) is that they reached perfection, as they were always able to overcome their emotion when it came to taking actions.
Secondly, there are comments about the rasool peace be upon him helping at home, and khadija raidalahu anha and her business. These are true, but they are taken out of context and generalized.
The rasool peace be upon him was the best husband to his wives, so he went to perfection to be this way. However, his main responsibility was always dealing with the political realities of the ummah (as it's leader), jihad in the path of Allah, dawah to the muslimeen, etc. These are external realities. He did help with house matters when he could, and he would also try to take certain tasks upon himself (like sewing for instance). But he had a main role and responsibilities, and these were external.
Khadija radiala tala anha did business, but she was in business after the rasool peace be upon him to continue to act as his supporter. That was her role, to be a supportive wife in his external work.
The khilafah of the Muslims provides for all women, based on their role. Thus there is always great incentive for the women to concentrate on their home, and use their spare time in matters of dawah, and other such things.
Thirdly, there are comments about if women manage the home, what about female only doctors and teachers. However, this is a case by case situation. In reality, women would not want to compromise the pleasure they earn with Allah azzawajal in the home for the minimal pleasure in the workforce. But in the cases were there is shortages, the khilafah would again create incentives to for there to be at least a few women who would be willing to sacrifice for the sake of the global ummah and still try to maintain their home life the same.
Also women deal with other things externally (just like the rasool peace be upon him did internally) in terms of dawah to sisters and other such things.
Fourthly, and finally, people mention 'choice' a lot. This is directly as a result of liberalist thinking. Because in reality, what rational Muslim would sacrificial greater rewards for lesser ones? Would you give up 10 houses in jannah for 1 house because of a choice in duniya you prefer? A rational human being would not. It is the same when it comes to fitting into a role. The dislike some people gain in their heart is because of what they observe of 'freedom' because the eyes are shortsighted and only see a few years into the future. They not only forget the reward of jannah, they also forget the misery that eventually catches up even in duniya.
I expect a lot of neg reps, but at least inshAllah ta'ala I have conveyed of knowledge what those with greater knowledge have conveyed to me and I hope to be spared the Wrath of Allah on the final day at least on this topic.
May Allah forgive me for mistakes or for using an incorrect style if I have. Allah good was from Him, and the bad from me.
Feel free to point out all the areas you think are weak or completely wrong, or if something doesn't fit I can always raise the issue up again and get clarification.