So I'm 29 yo...not quite ready to get married, but my parents have started talking to me about it. Obviously, I'm most likely going to end up with an "arranged" marriage, if any at all, and I'm not complaining about that.
However, I've read some of the posts here and people have stated that whats important in these Islamic 'arranged' marriages is of course deen and character. That doesn't bother me too much because, I'm sure I'll find someone on my level who is appropriate for where I am now and where I want to be by the time I die.
However, people talk about compatibility, shared interests, etc. In fact, I'll quote what one Sister (assuming its a sister) has stated from the "love marriage/arranged marriage" thread:
First of all, I don't have any shared interests in common with any girls. I like sports and enjoy talking and thinking about current events, trivia, and philosophy. Most girls are not into any of those things. Not unless their nerdy, which I guess I am. I don't know anything about fashion (even for a guy, I'm pretty bland). I don't even know what girls talk about, but I know its not sports or philosophy or trivia.At the meetings with a potential you shold be looking for someone who's practicing, has good character and is compatible with you, in terms of things like similar sense of humour, shared interests, being able to sustain a conversation together.
Because of that, I can't sustain a conversation of any length with women. As a result I've never really ever talked to girls. I do fine with guys cuz we can talk about whatever, and I'll usually crack jokes...my buddies think I'm a riot. But I have a very "male" sense of humor and so sisters wouldn't find anything funny about it.
As a result, I feel who'd marry me except a person who - no offense - is just as "boring" as me or even more boring...or some butch woman who is basically a man!
This makes a lot of sense because I'm not an ugly dude...I'm quite decent looking (average). Guys just like me get a lot of attention from women. But I bore them to death, and then when they're dead, bore them some more, lol.
Please someone give it to me straight!