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    What should i ask the sister

    1.her height as i need to know she could be a beanstalk for all i know

    2.her background not important but i aint got a clue where she is from or what she looks like

    3.cook

    4.degree/qualifications not important too me what so ever but should i ask

    5.anger do u get angry or stressed

    6.smoke

    7.kids

    8.car

    9.wealth

    actualy sack it i am just going to talk about deen what should i ask if she requires too meet me thoughts?

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    Re: What should i ask the sister

    Have a look at the 100 pre-marital questions sticky post at the top, you'll get some good ideas from there Insha'Allah

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    Re: What should i ask the sister

    ok thanks

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    Re: What should i ask the sister

    Her expectations of you as her husband so you can have an idea as to whether or not you can give what she requires.
    Her salaah, hijaab etc. How much she practises them. Its very important
    Ask her if she can read quraan and if she attends any islamic gatherings and so on.
    Her aims and plans for the future... Do you have similar ones?
    Think of what you expect of her and ask if she is willing to accomodate you in those fields
    Her circle of friends; does she socialise often and if so how and where
    How she manages her day to day life and her free time and so on. This can give you an insight into how well you could merge after marriage and her lifestyle etc
    Ask what changes she expects once she has married. Assess how reasonable they are.
    Ask if she works and so on.
    There isnt much wrong with asking about anger and stress, its important to know a persons tolerance levels especially if you plan on marrying them. Some are very sensitive and others very reserved. Alot of misunderstanding can happen if these sorts of things are not clarified.
    You can ask all of the above points you have mentioned, there isn't anything wrong in doing so. Think carefully about the deeni aspects before mentioning them, dont just voice all your knowledge, bring what is relevant into the discussion.
    Allah make it easy for you both and guide you to that which is most befitting. If your union is meant to be then it will be and if its not good for you, it wont happen so dont despair.

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    Re: What should i ask the sister

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    Re: What should i ask the sister

    Ask her how she envisages marriage in terms of what kind of husband is she looking for?

    What are her views on stuff like 'division of labour' or how much the husband should help around the house?

    How important is her work to her and would she consider giving it up or drastically reducing her hours if she went on to have kids?

    How do her parents treat each other and would she like to go on to have the kind of relationship that they have?

    How important is family to her in terms of how often she'd want to see or call her parents or in laws?

    Are there any pet hates or absolute no nos that she really doesn't want to see in her own marriage (eg beard or no beard, husband who smokes or often spends his evenings out with his mates or watches tons of football etc)?

    I'm sure there's a ton of other things that can be asked but that's all that springs to mind for now.

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    Re: What should i ask the sister

    Why do you use the word sister? Stop using it.
    الصلوۃ والسلام علیک یا سیدی یارسول اللہ

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    Re: What should i ask the sister



    Quote Originally Posted by Kas1m View Post
    Why do you use the word sister? Stop using it.
    Why? lol.

    Even your wife is your sister in Islam.
    Call onto Allah, such that you are certain that He, al-Mujib wal-Kareem, will answer your call before you even lower your hands.
    وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ


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