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    If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    My wife gets tired with the daily routine of looking after two infants. I do my bit to help. She always falls into a deep sleep straight away. I get strong urges to relieve myself. What's wrong with acting on this impulse?

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    Re: If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    try to find a bit of time duing the day; if she falls asleep during the night, then the former is the answer; just pull [lovingly] her away from her daily chores during the day sometimes for 10 minutes and get busy! D:

    mastarbation is a no no, under all circumstances; the only cirsumstance when it will be allowed is if you know that your going to fall into adultery, then you can choose the lesser evil and masturbate

    alternatively, explain your situation to your wife and just tell her, five/ten minutes and then you can go to sleep?

    why not try and employ a house cleaner/nanny as well?; that would take the load of your wife quite a bit so she wont fall asleep straight away...

    and see if you both can 'get busy' during the early hours of the morning [before you/your wife gets out of bed]; basically anything not to masturbate!

    and not sure about this; maybe someone knowledgable can confirm; if she falls asleep, then i think it will probably be ok? to just 'rub up' [sorry for being explicit] against her leg? or something; azl [pulling out just before ejaculation] can be practiced with wife's consent, hence it may be allowed to ejaculate just using wife's outer body... [but do get her consent]

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    Re: If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    help her out with the house work and relive some of her burden and stress, poor woman no wonder she falls asleep.

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    Re: If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    Quote Originally Posted by Frustrated7-11 View Post
    My wife gets tired with the daily routine of looking after two infants. I do my bit to help. She always falls into a deep sleep straight away. I get strong urges to relieve myself. What's wrong with acting on this impulse?
    Nothing. Go ahead and get it over with.

    Maybe do a little more than 'a bit'.

    Drop kids off to someone's house once in a while for the day Return the favour in the future. Have a cleaner come round for a few hours over the weekend and do the main chores. Tell her to go shopping for some shoes or clothing. Better still go with her. Get her in the mood for it. If she still falls asleep there maybe a bigger issue going on.

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    Re: If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    Umm no. Try being a bit more understanding. If at the end of the day your wife is knocked out and you are raring to go there is obviously an imbalance of workload going on so your 'do my bit to help' is not enough if you also want her to sleep with you at the end of the day.

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    Re: If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    I can see it from both sides, your wife will be shattered yes may Allaah reward her struggles with your children, but its also her duty to relieve you so not to cause these situations (and vice versa also!)

    Its not just having relations that's the issue, its the whole ghusul thing that puts us women off LOL I mean who wants to wash their hair at 2am or before Fajr, but maybe a good time for relations is after Fajr? That way in shaa Allaah children are still asleep, wife is refreshed and doesn't need to have shower as next prayer time is hours away.

    Maybe suggest this to her

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    Re: If my wife doesn't satisfy me, am I allowed to masterbate?

    do her while shes sleeping.......


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