Sisters, would you marry someone younger than you?

[Sophiia]

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So, would you? Im not sure if i would, i would feel like im babysitting the dude ..

I will be 21 next week, and i wouldnt mind marrying a bro in his early 30s. Lets say 32-33 max.

[Hayaa]

sister, this topic has been discussed before..you can search for it and bump it up if you want

[Sophiia]

Ahh sorry /:

[sis_on_sunnah]

assalamu alaykum,

if one of the best women khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her) did, then it should be good enough for us too.

however, it goes without saying that rasulullah(may the peace and blessings of Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala be upon him) was the BEST of mankind and had qualities that no man older than him could match, so if there is a young brother(obv not tooo young lol) with excellent qualities, then rather than look at his age and think 'he is too young', look at his qualities

obviously there would be factors such as if the brother could provide which you would also have to consider

[Zoya09]

^That and yes I would consider marrying someone younger since in today's world you cant afford to be too picky with the lack of good muslims around and bachelors etc. As long as the deen is there and the meeting of minds and attraction then why not?

[Ani_19]

I'm not sure.. guys mature really late and there are even guys who are in their 30's who lack that lol I'm happy with someone if they are mature, responsible and think alike. Age doesn't matter but seeing as though i'm only 20 i won't go for anyone younger atm, but if i wasn't married and was still single i'll take it into consideration. Question is, will brothers marry someone older than them?

[sis_niqabi]

No I wouldn't. Men tend to mature later than women do.

[Jenicca]

some men never mature.

Its spiritual maturity thats matters the most

[mundo]

some men never mature.

Its spiritual maturity thats matters the most

Spiritual maturity?

[MuslimSoljah]

I'm mature.

[AlHabeshi]

Prob not i'm 17 18 in a few months lol but when i do get married i wouldn't mind someone 5-10 years older then me.
I just think when it's a guy older is better.

[.mirror.]

Babysitting the dude?
How young are you thinking exactly? Five?

If he's anywhere around 18 and acts mature and knows his obligations/rights, he'll be a good husband.
And, then there are those who are 32 and still need babysitting. :P

Question is, will brothers marry someone older than them?

Yes.

[~ Jumana ~]

well , am 22 and i would like a spouse who is from 7-15 years older than me ... because maturity does matter to me ... but in case i ever said yes to a groom who`s younger than me (shouldn`t be less than 3 years ) that would mean he is REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY GOOD person !!

[~ Jumana ~]

[QUOTE=.mirror.;4162642]Babysitting the dude?
How young are you thinking exactly? Five?

If he's anywhere around 18 and acts mature and knows his obligations/rights, he'll be a good husband.
And, then there are those who are 32 and still need babysitting. :P



well we have to admitt ! some of the brothers need long time to mature ! so it`ll be like babysitting a BIGGER child ! LOL!

[.mirror.]

I was mature when I was 18.

I'm mature.

Lol, 'm kidding, MS.

[MuslimSoljah]

[QUOTE=Leemar Tayem;4162648]

Babysitting the dude?
How young are you thinking exactly? Five?

If he's anywhere around 18 and acts mature and knows his obligations/rights, he'll be a good husband.
And, then there are those who are 32 and still need babysitting. :P



well we have to admitt ! some of the brothers need long time to mature ! so it`ll be like babysitting a BIGGER child ! LOL!

This.

[faithheals]

well we have to admitt ! some of the brothers need long time to mature ! so it`ll be like babysitting a BIGGER child ! LOL!

^Oww man, I couldn't handle this, I definately have to marry someone who is more mature than me otherwise it's probably going to be a lot of arguments and disaster, I hate arguments unless it's just joking around.

So yeah note to self: marry someone who is more mature, more religious and better in character than me so I can learn from them and become closer to Allah. Or should I marry someone who is immature and less spiritual than I and patiently guide him to become a better Muslim. oww marriage is such a complicated matter and I'm sure my marriage is going to be a disaster (I feel sorry for whoever has to put up with me) but got to complete half of my deen somehow and no one will say it is easy.

[Yuu]

Question is, will brothers marry someone older than them?

I'm 26 now, and maybe I could marry a lady a couple of years older than me (probably 3 years max), but when I was younger (a good few years ago), I was interested in marrying an older sister (a few years older than me), however she wanted someone older than her. We're still both single, though I'm not sure if I would want to marry her now (and yep, it would be becuase of her age).

[.Abu.Rambo.]

age don't matter so much

[NGE]

Mental age does.

[.Abu.Rambo.]

Mental age does.

skill in call of duty does

how you doing bro ?

[Soliloquy]

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So, would you? Im not sure if i would, i would feel like im babysitting the dude ..

I will be 21 next week, and i wouldnt mind marrying a bro in his early 30s. Lets say 32-33 max.

Yes, but at the most, a year younger than me; I guess that's both being realistic and personal preference.

If I was like 25+, then it would be different... Well, I think it would. =/

[Sophiia]

I was mature when I was 18.





Lol, 'm kidding, MS.

I dont think a brother is mature enough when he is 17-18. Men are always 3 years younger than women mentally if they are at the same age. Dont you know bio...:roflt:

Men are "better" when they are 5-10 years older than the woman. But yeah there are some men who are mature enoguh when they are 18, but thats really rare :P

[Supernova Nebula]

Yes!

[NGE]

skill in call of duty does

If that's the case then that's another reason why you are marriage material akh. What are the ladies waiting for eh?

how you doing bro ?

Alhamdulillah, better than I thought.

[Jenicca]

Ummul Mu'mineen Khadijah r.a, married a man much much younger than her.

If a man came to me, that followed in His example and footsteps, I would without a doubt marry him.

[Sophiia]

Ummul Mu'mineen Khadijah r.a, married a man much much younger than her.

If a man came to me, that followed in His example and footsteps, I would without a doubt marry him.

Well said sis..

[,, -alwaysbeme!]

A lot of men are a lot maturer than women their age.
Women don't mentally mature younger than men by nature (physically, they do), it's that for some reason barely any Muslim parents are willing to give their sons the same kick in the arse and responsibilities they do their daughters.

[Jenicca]

Define "mature"

By its nature, its a relative concept.

[NGE]

Mature: fully developed in mind and body, as a person.

The confusion lies in the fact most of us have different ideas of what we judge to be 'mature'.

For example, the way I solve problems and handle difficult situations. People would say "oh he's quite mature".

On the other hand I am quite playful and I like to tell a lot of jokes. Some one can see that and say "oh he's quite immature".

I think generally speaking people define maturity by how many responsibilities one has. The more they have the more mature they must be. For example a man could have a very well payed job as a lawyer handling high pressure cases. You would assume that he must have a high level of maturity. But then you would be very surprised when he gets home and acts like a five year old. But it happens.

[*asiya*]

its some weird old western idea that a man should be 5 + years older, and at least a few inches taller than the woman he marries, alhamdulillah muslims dont follow this kind of thinking, because deen and personality compatability is what makes a marriage work. muhammad and khadijah radiAllahu anha 15 year age gap, Julaybib and the unknown ansai girl radiAllahu anhum a good few inches gap

sisters should marry a man for his deen and good character as our prophet advised.

[seven]

we always get the 'maturity' argument when this subject comes up.

it's a real issue, and i think the problem lies with men and how they're brought up

during the time of the Prophet teenagers used to lead armies! so imagine what their upbringing was like?

are men being mollycoddled way too much these days that prevents them from maturing?

[~ Jumana ~]

A lot of men are a lot maturer than women their age.Women don't mentally mature younger than men by nature (physically, they do), it's that for some reason barely any Muslim parents are willing to give their sons the same kick in the arse and responsibilities they do their daughters.

HMMMMM...... NOPE ! i don`t think so i would say "FEW men are maturer than women their age ..."

[KeeKee]

yeah...i mean, i did.

to be honest men and maturity don't go together. only kidding. i don't think it depends on age. you get men in their 30's who are still mummies boys
and can't think for themselves, and you get younger men who are quite mature in those things that they SHOULD be mature in. and of course, vice versa.
I think this is in a hadith- correct me if im wrong, i'll look it up when i can- but apparently a husband should be playful with his wife but mature when it comes to matters of deen etc.

and at the end of the day, age isn't even really a factor.

[Jenicca]

we always get the 'maturity' argument when this subject comes up.

it's a real issue, and i think the problem lies with men and how they're brought up

during the time of the Prophet teenagers used to lead armies! so imagine what their upbringing was like?

are men being mollycoddled way too much these days that prevents them from maturing?

What do you expect from anyone, who has had tarbiyah and tazkiyah done by Nabi You would not expect any less.
Subhan'allah, they had the oppurtunity to sit in the company of Nabi , and when they left that company, many of them went to the Baituallah.

We are very very far from now, in terms of time, and even location, still its no excuse.

But that real spiritual maturity, whereby their souls and hearts are advanced that they are able to lead, rather than follow.

In this present day, the souls of the parents lack that essence how can we expect it in our children. Most of us dont even know how to bring our children up properly, focusing on a strong and healthy body and the best education, and the most wholesome food, but we neglect the most important thing that needs to be strong to maintain Deen within an individual, the soul.

The Sahabah had their souls nourished, by the speech of Nabi the Qur'an, dhikrullah, sadaqah, Qiyaam.....and ours......well we dont even come close.

[.Abu.Rambo.]

If that's the case then that's another reason why you are marriage material akh. What are the ladies waiting for eh?



Alhamdulillah, better than I thought.

Why are you trying to get me hitched, i love my single life

shukr Alhamdulilah in my duas bro

[NGE]

Why are you trying to get me hitched, i love my single life

shukr Alhamdulilah in my duas bro

appreciate your duas a lot bro.

Why am I trying to get you hitched? Lol cos I know you are ready for your wifey. Seriously, though try and do it soon while you are still quite young and not old and grey like me

[.Abu.Rambo.]

appreciate your duas a lot bro.

Why am I trying to get you hitched? Lol cos I know you are ready for your wifey. Seriously, though try and do it soon while you are still quite young and not old and grey like me

barakallahu bro

loool, trust me if i was ready i'd let you guys know i'm not ready yet

bro you haven't even peaked yet and looking at this thread the sisters like older bros so get out there lool

[NGE]

bro you haven't even peaked yet and looking at this thread the sisters like older bros so get out there lool

I did go out there.. and it was cold.. and it was scary..

[.mirror.]

I think this is in a hadith- correct me if im wrong, i'll look it up when i can- but apparently a husband should be playful with his wife but mature when it comes to matters of deen etc.

I have definitely read that before. Don't know if that's a hadith or not, though.

Even Nabi used to race with Aisha (RA). You can't possibly call this childish.

There are times when a man can act like this to please his wife, make her try to laugh, and just increase the love between them. But, that same man should be able to "man up" when the time comes. However, some are just childish 24/7, while others act like robots all the time with their wives.

A little immaturity/playfulness is healthy in a relationship, in my opinion.