While I use the term spouse, i'm leaning more specifically towards the amount of time the husband spends with his wife.
Islamically, what are the rights of the wife in regards to the husband spending time with her?
Also, how much time do men willingly want to give their wives every day, and then on the weekends?
I myself feel rather neglected. My husband is very caring and loving and i definitely appreciate the fact that he is a practicing muslim. the only (main) thing I think is lacking in our relationship is the amount of time we spend together. I understand that speaking about this is a great way to solve the problem but its not that my husband doesnt realise he isnt spending enough time with me, he feels that spending too much time with me would make him less in the eyes of his family and friends
his family perceive him as a man with strict principles and strong opinions. All man, and nothing else (no romance, no mush) While he does show his other side to me (in private) and hes very different, i cant help but feel hurt when he treats me indifferently infront of his family, like i dont mean anything to him, his tone of voice and attitude with me will change.
however, that wasnt really the issue i wanted to raise, what i wanted to know that in my situation, is the time he's spending with me okay, and am i asking for too much?
first off, during the week he spends his days at work and he usually comes home to eat. i give him his lunch and breakfast but he either eats elsewhere for dinner, or my sis inlaw gives it to him cause i work for a couple of hours in the evening.
his evenings are spent with his friends until very late at night. we don;t go to sleep together or wakeup together.
sometimes when he comes home at night he wakes me up (very gently) because he says he hasnt seen me during the day and he would liek to spend some time with me. this is usually only for approx an hour and then we both go to sleep.
do you see my problem. for intimacy he will either come back early or wake me up, (sometimes i havnt gone to sleep yet tho). throughout the time he always treeats me properly and is very caring, please fdont get the wrong impresssion. its just that i feel like i come second to his friends even though he tells me im most important. if his friends call him at night and hes not with them and hes with me, he will go and come back to me later. (am usually asleep then so he just sleeps as well)
thursday nights he will spend in a mosque, on fridays and weekend he usually comes very late. i normally get to see him at a respectable time on weekdays only.
you have to understand because i am married with no children i get bored very easily. the people i have for compnay are too old and they have different mentalities to me (i hav been bron and bred in engladn)
he doesnt have a prob with me occasionly (prob about evry month) going to my friends on weekends, but then there is the problem of transprt. he is never around and/or is with his friends and cant be bothered to drop me off and pick me up
your verdict please and how do i tackle this problem.