Salam to all,
I'm pretty sure this has been discussed and continues to be discussed amongst all muslims especially amongst muslim women, islamic clothing for women bascially hijab. I know that it portrays modesty and that it allows others to see you as a human being that has a mind so that a woman will not be judged based on her looks but on what she has to say. As well I have heard it's also a way of discerning a muslim from a non-muslim.
I agree with all of this. However, I know this is going to come off as pretty childish but it's something I just need to say and need to find out. I know in the eyes of Allah all people are created equal. But as you and I know we live in a age of beauty. There seems to be a standard of beauty but also there are people who are beautiful and well people who are...how shall I say it not pretty. I'm only referring to woman here because it's about islamic wear for women. Now of course, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I really believe in that and that's how it should be. But let me tell you a personal story. I am an overweight woman. I do not find myself attractive. I do not wear hijab but i also dress modestly. I wear skirts below the knee, I do not show cleavage, overall I avoid wearing revealing clothing and just plain feel uncomfortable in them. However, I try my best to wear modest clothes that are chic and in fashion. I do not wear hijab and when I go into the streets men never look at me yet my hair isn't covered, i may be wearing a skirt and a t-shirt and sometimes a lot of makeup if I'm going out. It could most likely be that I may not be attractive to them. So my point is that if someone is not attractive they will not be looked at. Of course if someone wears extremely revealing clothing they will be looked out because they stand out and it's not normal to see a woman walking around in a bikini in city streets. So my question is, if I am not attractive why do I have to wear hijab it's not like men are looking at me and why do i have to wear hijab to identify myself as muslim. I mean I am muslim for me and not for others and if someone asks me then I will tell them.
My second question is, I find that you cannot be fashionable with hijab. I know there are hijabs that are designed to be fashionable but from my perspective it still looks plane. I want to be able to wear cute summer dresses that are modest for example. I want to be able to let my hair down and style it, I want to be able to wear the newest fashions and hair-dos because it makes me feel good. I live in the western world and let me tell you most guys do not look and i think the reason being is that seeing women all the time in clothing that is considered non-modest from an islamic perspective they have become used to it and has become the norm. Also I find that men or people in general do not treat me different because my hair is showing they respect me and my opinion. So I think in this age covering everything but our hands feet and face is not necessary. I think dressing modestly and appropriately is fine.
What do others think? Am I looking at this from the wrong perspective?