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    Exclamation I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    I have 2 little baby's, the youngest is 4mths, I am NOT ready for another baby.

    Is it haram to have a abortion? I read into it a little, apparently the soul does not enter the baby until around 4 mths..can I have a abortion.

    pls help.

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Quote Originally Posted by pregnantwife View Post
    I have 2 little baby's, the youngest is 4mths, I am NOT ready for another baby.

    Is it haram to have a abortion? I read into it a little, apparently the soul does not enter the baby until around 4 mths..can I have a abortion.

    pls help.
    Rulings to do with abortion
    I would like to know the rulings that have to do with abortion of the foetus at various stages.

    Praise be to Allaah.

    Firstly:

    We have already stated in the answer to question no. 42321 the ruling on abortion. Please refer to this information.

    Secondly:

    With regard to the rulings following an abortion, they vary according to the time of the abortion, and fall into four categories, as follows:

    1 – If the pregnancy is aborted within the first two stages (the nutfah (drop) stage which results from the mixing of the “two waters” which is the first forty days after the embryo attaches itself in the womb, and the ‘alaqah (clot) stage where it turns into solid blood during the second forty days), which add up to a total of eighty days, then in this case if it is aborted as a nutfah or ‘alaqah, there are no rulings to be followed, and there is no scholarly dispute on this point. The woman should continue to fast and pray as if she had not had an abortion, but she has to do wudoo’ for each prayer if she has any bleeding, as in the case of a woman suffering from istihaadah (non-menstrual vaginal bleeding).

    2 – If the pregnancy is aborted in the third stage, the mudghah (chewed piece of flesh) stage, when the embryo looks like a piece of meat with the limbs and features beginning to appear, which lasts for forty days from the eighty-first to the one hundred and twentieth day, then there are two scenarios:

    (i) This embryo does not have any human features and the midwives or other attendants did not testify that this was the beginning of a human being. In this case the ruling on abortion of this mudghah is the same as the ruling on abortion in the first two stages, and there are no rulings to be followed.

    (ii) The embryo has complete human features or some human features such as a hand or foot, etc, or there are features but they are indistinct, or the midwives or other attendants testified that this was the beginning of a human being. In this case the rulings on nifaas are to be followed, and this signals the end of ‘iddah (waiting period following divorce or death of the husband, if applicable).

    3 – If the pregnancy is aborted in the fourth stage, i.e., after the soul has been breathed into the foetus, which is after the beginning of the fifth month or after one hundred and twenty days of pregnancy have passed. Here there are two scenarios:

    (i) If the foetus did not cry after birth, then the rulings mentioned with regard to the second stage of the mudghah are to be followed, but in addition the foetus should be washed, shrouded and the funeral prayer offered for him; he should be given a name and the ‘aqeeqah offered for him.

    (ii) If the foetus cried after birth, then the rulings concerning a full-term baby apply, as mentioned above; in addition the child may take possession of wealth bequeathed or inherited; he may inherit or be inherited from, etc.

    Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 21/434-438.

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    http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/12475/abortion

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Ruling on aborting a pregnancy in the early stages
    What is the ruling on aborting a pregnancy in the early months (1-3) before the soul is breathed into the foetus?.

    Praise be to Allaah.

    The Council of Senior Scholars issued the following statement:

    1 – It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy at any stage unless there is a legitimate reason, and within very precise limits.

    2 – If the pregnancy is in the first stage, which is a period of forty days, and aborting it serves a legitimate purpose or will ward off harm, then it is permissible to abort it. But aborting it at this stage for fear of the difficulty of raising children or of being unable to bear the costs of maintaining and educating them, or for fear for their future or because the couple feel that they have enough children – this is not permissible.

    3 – It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy when it is an ‘alaqah (clot) or mudghah (chewed lump of flesh) (which are the second and third periods of forty days each) until a trustworthy medical committee has decided that continuing the pregnancy poses a threat to the mother’s wellbeing, in that there is the fear that she will die if the pregnancy continues. It is permissible to abort it once all means of warding off that danger have been exhausted.

    4 – After the third stage, and after four months have passed, it is not permissible to abort the pregnancy unless a group of trustworthy medical specialists decide that keeping the foetus in his mother’s womb will cause her death, and that should only be done after all means of keeping the foetus alive have been exhausted. A concession is made allowing abortion in this case so as to ward off the greater of two evils and to serve the greater of two interests.



    Al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah, 3/1056

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    sis a baby is a blessin from Allah...y wud u wish to rid urself of this blessing?
    inshAllah u will find the strangth to cope, but is it fair that u kill this baby cos u arent "ready"?
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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    inshAllah this should help you sister

    In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

    Abortion and the termination of pregnancy is the expulsion of a foetus from the womb of a woman. This may either be by consuming of certain drugs or by emptying the womb through the process of suction.

    Life is sacred:

    Islam regards human life sacred. Allah Most High says:

    “And verily we have honoured the children of Adam” (Surah al-Isra, V.70).

    It does not matter where the life exists. Whether the life is extra-uterine or intra-uterine, its location has no significance on its sanctity. This sanctity applies not only to human life, but to the human body as well. Hence, according to Shari’ah, the physical body of a human after death is just as sacred as it was before death. The degree of sanctity of life is greater than that of the body. This is one of the reasons why it is unlawful (Haram) to consume the meat of a human, dead or alive.

    The Shari’ah ruling on abortion:

    Abortion can be divided into two stages:

    a) Abortion after the soul (Ruh) enters the foetus

    b) Abortion prior to the entry of the soul in to the foetus

    Before mentioning the ruling on abortion with regards to these two stages, it must be remembered here, that according to Shari’ah the soul (Ruh) enters the foetus at 120 days (4 months) from conception.

    The Jurists (Fuqaha) have based this duration upon a Qur’anic verse and a statement of the beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace). In the verse Allah states the stages of development of the embryo in the womb of the mother. Allah Almighty says:

    “And verily we did create man from a quintessence (of clay). Then we placed him (as a drop of sperm) in a place of rest, firmly fixed. Then we made the sperm into a clot of congealed blood. Then of that clot we made a (foetus) lump. Then we made out of that lump bones and clothed the bones with flesh. Then we developed out of it another creature (by breathing life into it). So blessed be Allah, the most marvellous creator” (Surah al-Mu’minun, 12/13/14).

    In the Hadith recorded by the two most authentic authorities, Imam al-Bukhari and Imam Muslim in their respective Sahih collections, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) discussed in detail the periods elapsing between these stages, mentioned by the Qur’an.

    Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:

    “The seed of one of you remains in the womb of the mother for forty days in the form of a Nutfa (sperm). Then it remains like a clot for another forty days, and then for a same number of days like a lump of flesh (when the formation of the limbs and the growth of the bones begin) (Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim).

    The great Hanafi Faqeeh Ibn Abidin States in his Radd al-Muhtar:

    “The soul enters the foutus at one hundred & twenty days (4 months), as established by the Hadith” (Radd al-Muhtar, 1/202)

    The ruling on abortion in stage (a) i.e. after the entry of the soul into the foetus which is (as explained) 120 days, is that, it is totally impermissible and tantamount to murder, as it results in the taking out of an innocent life. All the scholars have unanimously condemned such a ghastly act.

    Imam Ibn Tamiiyah states in his Fatawa collection:

    “Aborting a foetus has been declared unlawful (Haram) with the consensus of all the Muslim scholars. It is similar to burying an infant alive as referred to by Allah Almighty in the verse of the Qur’an: “And when the female infant, buried alive, will be asked as to what crime she was killed for” (Surah al-Takwir, 8) (Fatawa Ibn Tamiyya, 4/217).

    Ibn Abidin (Allah have Mercy on him) also states the prohibition of this gruesome act in his treatise ‘Radd al-Muhtar’:

    “If a woman intends to abort her pregnancy, then the Fuqaha have said: If the period of the soul being blown into the foetus has elapsed, it will be impermissible” (Radd al-Muhtar, 5/276).

    However, some Fuqaha and contemporary scholars have given a dispensation to abort the pregnancy after 120 days, in the situation where the life of the mother is in certain and absolute danger. This is based on the Juristic principle stated in the books of Usul al-Fiqh:

    “If one is overtaken by two evils, one should choose the lesser of the two” (al-Ashbah wa al-Naza’ir, P.98)

    They state that the mother’s life should be saved and the foetus aborted, as the mother is established in life, with duties and responsibilities, whereas the unborn child is still in the mother’s womb. But it should be remembered that the mother’s life must be in certain danger, and that this should be advised by a qualified and experienced Muslim doctor.

    With regards to stage (b) i.e. prior to the entry of the soul into the foetus (120 days), the ruling is that, even in this case it is unlawful (Haram) to abort the pregnancy.

    The reason why abortion prior to the soul entering the body will not be permitted is that, although there may not be life in the foetus, but the foetus is considered to be part and parcel of the mother’s body as long as it remains in the womb. Thus, just as one’s very own life and also all the limbs and organs of the human body are trust given by the Almighty Creator, so too is the foetus also a trust given to the mother by Allah, and she will not have a right to abort it.

    The only difference here is that the sin of aborting the foetus will be of a lesser degree then aborting it after 120 days. It would not be regarded as murder, rather violating the rights of a human organ entrusted to the mother by Allah Almighty.

    It is stated in Radd al-Muhtar:

    “It is not permissible to abort the pregnancy before and after the entry of the soul into the foetus” (Radd al-Muhtar, 5/279).

    However, in certain extreme circumstances, it would be permitted to abort the pregnancy, before the entry of the soul (120 days), such as: when the woman conceives after being raped, the mothers life or health is in danger, or repeated pregnancies severely damages her health, etc…

    Imam al-Haskafi writes in Durr al-Mukhtar:

    “Aborting the pregnancy will be permissible due to a valid reason, provided the soul has not yet entered the foetus”.

    It should be remarked here that pregnancy due to unlawful and illegal sex is no reason and excuse for abortion. The embryonic life farm in the mother’s womb is honoured and sacred even though it is a result of adultery (Hidaya, 2/292).

    In conclusion, abortion after 120 days is totally unlawful and tantamount to murder. Some Fuqaha, however, have given a dispensation only in the situation where the mothers life is in certain danger. As far as abortion before the 120 days have elapsed is concerned, it will still be unlawful, though the sin will be of a lesser degree, and it will become permissible if there is a genuine and valid reason.

    And Allah knows best

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Salaam Sis

    I STRONGLY suggest that you do not ask for advice on abortion on this forum. Instead, please consult a Scholar on this matter.

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Ruling on aborting a pregnancy in the early stages
    What is the ruling on aborting a pregnancy in the early months (1-3) before the soul is breathed into the foetus?.

    Praise be to Allaah.

    The Council of Senior Scholars issued the following statement:

    1 – It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy at any stage unless there is a legitimate reason, and within very precise limits.

    2 – If the pregnancy is in the first stage, which is a period of forty days, and aborting it serves a legitimate purpose or will ward off harm, then it is permissible to abort it. But aborting it at this stage for fear of the difficulty of raising children or of being unable to bear the costs of maintaining and educating them, or for fear for their future or because the couple feel that they have enough children – this is not permissible.

    3 – It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy when it is an ‘alaqah (clot) or mudghah (chewed lump of flesh) (which are the second and third periods of forty days each) until a trustworthy medical committee has decided that continuing the pregnancy poses a threat to the mother’s wellbeing, in that there is the fear that she will die if the pregnancy continues. It is permissible to abort it once all means of warding off that danger have been exhausted.

    4 – After the third stage, and after four months have passed, it is not permissible to abort the pregnancy unless a group of trustworthy medical specialists decide that keeping the foetus in his mother’s womb will cause her death, and that should only be done after all means of keeping the foetus alive have been exhausted. A concession is made allowing abortion in this case so as to ward off the greater of two evils and to serve the greater of two interests.

    Al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah, 3/1056


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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Oh gosh..No please don't do that..I know it may seem daunting but you've just got to go with it.InshaAllah just make use of the 9months preparation time that you have and just do your best..I know it will be difficult with a very young child already in tow,but you and your husband need to work together inshaAllah in order to try and ease this pregnancy.Think about all the people who are desperate to have children but cannot due to various reasons..Allah 'azza wa jal has blessed you with another child subhanAllah,cherish what may be taken for granted..

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.



    Please please please don't do it.
    How can you possibly think of abortion?
    Why do you want to kill your own child?
    Allah has blessed you....see how lucky you are....some people can't have children.....
    abortion is haraam...and is also a crime in Allah's eyes.
    The only time abortion is acceptable is when the mother's life is in danger.
    sis, I plead you please keep the baby...fear Allah
    I know you didn't plan it...but some of the best things happen unplanned....as Allah is the best of planners.
    Seriously sis.....look at your children....the ones who are with you now....look at them.....look at their innocent face.....if some one came to harm your child...what would you do? how would you feel?....angry....upset....sad....
    your heart would be torn apart and you would want to protect them in any way poissible.....you couldn't possibly just leave them and let them suffer. Now imagine about the child in your womb....Allah created this child too just like you and me.....imagine how Allah would feel......you would be responsible....you would be killing Allah's creation....how angry will He be? can you imagine?
    ohhh...sis i cannot stress to you how wrong this is......please don't commit this crime. Allah will help you through this....have faith in Allah. Try to remember what you felt when you held your babies in your arms for the first time.....do you remember the pleasure....the happiness....the peace that you felt....don't you want to feel that again?

    please read this....ruling on abortion
    http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/42321
    This world is a prison for the believers and a paradise for the unbelievers..........

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    asalaamu alaikum...i'm sure it must be very tiring and stressful looking after young children but sister a child is a blessing from Allah 'azza wajal it is haram to abort a child unless you have a medical reason or something...inshaAllah you will find what you are looking for in this link...http://islamqa.com/en/ref/42321/abortion

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    We always say "consult a scholar" but this isn't easy, I don't know of any in my area that I could speak to if I needed help. Maybe some contact info might help the sister out if someone has any?

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Quote Originally Posted by pregnantwife View Post
    I have 2 little baby's, the youngest is 4mths, I am NOT ready for another baby.

    Is it haram to have a abortion? I read into it a little, apparently the soul does not enter the baby until around 4 mths..can I have a abortion.

    pls help.
    So why have sex then?

    It's haram full stop. Were you raped? Is your life in danger? If It's a no for both questions. Then yes, its haram to have an abortion.

    Think about itn the future. In a few years time, tell that to your kids. See the reaction on their face when they find out that their mother killed they're brother/sister because she wasn't "ready".

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    keep it, have it and if u really can't handle it, give away to couples who can't have babies...
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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Quote Originally Posted by pregnantwife View Post
    I have 2 little baby's, the youngest is 4mths, I am NOT ready for another baby.

    Is it haram to have a abortion? I read into it a little, apparently the soul does not enter the baby until around 4 mths..can I have a abortion.

    pls help.
    Sis, my mom had me and two of my siblings very close together (my older one is only not even a year older than me and my other one is a year and 2.5 weeks younger). If you keep having faith in Allah, He will provide for you. But if you abort your child and then find that in a few months time you're able to take care of him/her, you'll regret it. You have a husband and family, if you feel like you're overworked with the kids ask for help inshallah.
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    salam sis i know it must be really hard and you must feel really scared but like everyone has said that children are gifts from allah. By the time you will have this baby your other children will have gone bigger the 4 month old will inshallah be crawling and be eating solids so it will be a little easier. i dont know if your oldest child has started school or nursery but if they havent send your oldest to a creche if theres one near you even if its for a couple of hours a day it will help. if your parents or your husbands parents are near send your oldest child there for the day let them help you. My own sister went through what your going through and with Allahs help she got through it and she hardly got any help from family and now mashallah her youngest isl nearly 4. REMEMBER ALLAH NEVER BURDENS A SOUL WITH MORE THEN THEY CAN BEAR. So my sis put your trust in Allah he is the one who has willed for this to happen and he is the one who will help you

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Do not murder your son/daughter!!
    In the future they may be the new Salahudeen and will liberate Al-quds.

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    as mentioned previously abortion in your case is haram. u cannot abort a child unless it is proven by 3 independent medical doctors, that u will die from carrying the child. ur child is now 4 months old and will be a year old when your next child is born. u will be fine Allah ta ala does not burden a soul with more than they can bear. abortion should not even be a thought in the mind of a muslim, killing an innocent child is one of the gravest sins anyone can commit, and for anyone who says it is not a child, its certainly not a vegetable growing there it is for sure. it is a baby, your baby, your husbands child, the grandchild of your parents and only Allah ta ala knows, but maybe that very child will be a blessing to you, and your family and this ummah! u will not be able to live with yourself if u kill it. abortion is never an option in these circumstances.
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    "Whosoever leaves off obedience and separates from the Jamaa'ah and dies, he dies a death of jaahiliyyah. Whoever fights under the banner of the blind, becoming angry for 'asabiyyah (nationalism/tribalism/partisanship) or calling to 'asabiyyah, or assisting 'asabiyyah, then dies, he dies a death of jaahiliyyah."

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    sis its not allowed, you will not get any scholar that tells you to have an abortion in these circumstances. it is a close age gap but people have babies like that and they do cope, Allah wont give this child to you if you can't cope. if ur 4 months baby is difficult at the moment mayb by the time ur 3rd child is born is one will be alot easier for you, like if that one doesnt yet sleep thru by that time im sure they would be
    and children grow so quickly soon they will all be older and more independant that they can do a bit more for themselves, and it will b so nice for you to see all 3 of them playing together and growing up close to each other
    i think this idea of abortion is just coming through panic, just put it out of ur mind completely and think positive of how it will be to have 3 kids, try to imagine the good parts of it and do dua and make ur self start planninga bit mentally so u get used to the idea. this is ur child & ur husbands child, how can u get rid of him/her cos its not convenient for you now? ur just not thinking straight.. dont worry sis u will cope somehow, may Allah make it easy for u
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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Quote Originally Posted by pregnantwife View Post
    I am NOT ready for another baby.
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    All I want to say is that Allah never burdens anyone with more than they can handle, and also He decides whether your child will be born or not. Therefore, there is no point in worrying about whether you feel you are ready or not, and just accept the fact that you are pregnant, and that Allah Knows Best.

    Khuda Na Khasta, tomorrow in the future some time comes when you want to get pregnant, and you find out that you cant, you'll regret an abortion for the rest of your life...

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Sister it is not allowed.

    Allah has given you this gift because you can deal with it, remember Allah never burdens a soal with more than it can bear!

    Put your trust in Allah!
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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Have the baby. If, after seeing your newborn baby, you still think you don't want him or her, give him or her up for adoption. There are many infertile couples who would LOVE a child, and would take your child and love him or her as their own and provide for them in every way. InshaAllah they will thank Allah many time over that you gave them a child to love.

    If, after seeing your newborn baby, you decide that actually, you do want this child, then inshaAllah you will thank Allah over and over that you didn't kill him or her.





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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    وَإِذَا الْمَوْءُودَةُ سُئِلَتْ
    بِأَيِّ ذَنبٍ قُتِلَتْ

    And when the female infant (Al-Maw'udah) buried alive is questioned:
    For what sin was she killed?

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Quote Originally Posted by prashantnew View Post
    We always say "consult a scholar" but this isn't easy, I don't know of any in my area that I could speak to if I needed help. Maybe some contact info might help the sister out if someone has any?
    If the sis wants to "pm" me, I will provide suitable contact details.

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    sis, u do not understand how blessed you!

    Firstly- subhanallah, Allah (swt) has given you the amazing ability to actually conceive and HAVE children! how many women are out there who are praying and constantly making dua to be in your position?? count yourself lucky.

    Secondly- every child is Allahs creation. you, no matter what, do not have the permission or authority to kill one of His creation. When your childnre grow up will u not be ashamed to admit to your kids that you killed their brother or sister?

    Imagine on the Day of judgment when you will have to face your lord and the child that you may kill- what will be your explaination?

    Thirdly- Allah has assured us not to ever worry about having children for He, the most high, will look after everything for us. if you are worried about finances, trust Allah to make things easy for you.

    Sis, honestly, count urself as blessed. im having personal issues, therefore not able to get married yet, which means havin to delay before i could start my family (if Allah wills). i have been praying to Allah to bless me with a marriage and children soon, and altho we shudnt be jealous of others, i envy those who are married and are able to start having children, whereas i have to delay to meet my future children that Allah will Insha'Allah bless me with.

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    sis, u do not understand how blessed you!

    Firstly- subhanallah, Allah (swt) has given you the amazing ability to actually conceive and HAVE children! how many women are out there who are praying and constantly making dua to be in your position?? count yourself lucky.

    Secondly- every child is Allahs creation. you, no matter what, do not have the permission or authority to kill one of His creation. When your childnre grow up will u not be ashamed to admit to your kids that you killed their brother or sister?

    Imagine on the Day of judgment when you will have to face your lord and the child that you may kill- what will be your explaination?

    Thirdly- Allah has assured us not to ever worry about having children for He, the most high, will look after everything for us. if you are worried about finances, trust Allah to make things easy for you.

    Sis, honestly, count urself as blessed. im having personal issues, therefore not able to get married yet, which means havin to delay before i could start my family (if Allah wills). i have been praying to Allah to bless me with a marriage and children soon, and altho we shudnt be jealous of others, i envy those who are married and are able to start having children, whereas i have to delay to meet my future children that Allah will Insha'Allah bless me with.

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear, so u may feel as though u cannot cope, but its something u can handle which is why it was given to you.

    babies are blessings! im sure u know that, so stay strong- u can cope with the help of Allah inshaAllah!

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    Re: I am over 3 weeks pregnant, I want a abortion.

    A worried woman went to her gynecologist and said:
    "Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your help! My baby is not even 1 yr. old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want kids so close together."
    So the doctor said: 'Ok, and what do you want me to do?'

    She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm counting on your help with this.'
    The doctor thought for a little, and after some silence he said to the lady: "I think, I have a better solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.'

    She smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.
    Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take care of 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms. This way, you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is.

    There would be no risk for your body if you chose the one in your arms.
    The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How terrible! It's a crime to kill a child!

    'I agree', the doctor replied. 'But you seemed to be ok with it, so I thought maybe that was the best solution.'

    The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point. He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb. The crime is the same!


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