Looking for advice or other people in this situation who can give me correct islamic proof/guidence on what to do. Me and my husband constantly argue over the issue of sex. He wants sex very day. With 3 small children, that is very hard for me. Since he wants to have sex very night and i am too tired, we agreeded to at least every other day or try every day.
Many times he has the desire to have me at night, but the children wake up and need me. which means i leave him and go take care of the babies/children. when i come back to the bed he is sleeping. and i am too tired so i dont want to wake him. the next morning he is mad and goes days without speaking to me. This is a common occurrence, since i have young babies who still wake up at night.
Am i at fault??
1. Is it islamically permissible to attend to the children when they are crying, which means leaving my husband in the bed by himself?
2. If you have back pain and you are tired, is it islamically permissible to ask your husband to have sex another day?