http://www.ummah.com/forum/ en Thu, 23 May 2013 07:47:01 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.ummah.com/forum/images/styles/iBusiness/misc/rss.png http://www.ummah.com/forum/ http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364882-A-a-a-Young-muslimah-looking-for-an-au-pair-position-in-the-uk&goto=newpost Tue, 21 May 2013 16:04:15 GMT I hope you are all doing well and enjoying a great health while reading this short introduction.

First of all, my name is Miriam (or in arabic Meryem) and I'm a 19-year-old muslim girl.
I was born in Italy in a moroccan family and this was a great opportunity for me to get in touch with two different cultures, traditions and languages.

Even though I love Italy and I really do fancy this country, I would like to move to the Uk as soon as possible in order to start university there and to build a new life in a country that offers many more opportunities than Italy.

As far as my studies are concerned, I am a final-year student. My study course will finish by the beginning of July.
This course specifically provides the students a really good linguistic knowledge, for they can choose up to three foreign languages among German, Spanish and French+ English and Italian, which are obligatory.
For this reason, I developed a good knowledge of English, Spanish and German.
In addition to these languages, I also used to follow a sunday course of Arabic, which helped me acheving quite good capabilities in reading and writing
Added to Moroccan dialect and Italian language, as you can see, I am quite a polyglot. :-)

As far as my family is concerned, we are an average italian family: open-mindness and respect are the basis of the education my siblings and I have been given.
Though we are muslim -as people may think- we don't discriminate or judge the other people's faith or culture.
We just live following Islam's teachings which are based upon peace and justice.
I live with my parents, -who have been living in Italy for more than twenty years now-, my 20-year-old brother who studies at university and my 11-year-old sister who studies at Middle School.
I have always been used to taking care of kids and children -though I've never worked as an Au-pair- because of the great number of cousins and tiny relatives I have, starting from my little sister first of whom I've always been taking care.
Patience and fantasy are the keys I always use to make children enjoy their time with me and to make them learn more and more without getting bored.
One of the things I learnt by staying with children is that they don't ask for that much: they only want our time. They want someone who listens to them, who spends some time with them, who plays with them and encourages them doing what they like to do - as far as sports and activities are concerned-.
Is not by giving them videogames that they will be happy.
The real satisfaction comes from being around them and seeing them learning and growing up. Having fun with children will never, ever be a waste of time. :)

Another point I would like to share with you as far as children's treatment is concerned, is the essenciality for an Au-Pair worker to treat them as their own children/siblings: being the best towards others in character and manners is one of the main teaching of my religion. Without taking into account religion, it still remains an essential point in ethics and morality.

Last but not least, another important matter is of course householding.

In my everyday reality I have many responsabilities at home such as cooking (above all italian food), cleaning (do the dishes, do the washing up, do the dust, vacuum cleaning, to hang out the clothes etc.), ironing, do the shopping and everything that has to do with the household.
My mum always counts on me because of her job, so I'm the first responsible of all that concernes our home.
I'll be available from July 2013, after my high school diploma.

For more pieces of information feel free to ask. :)

Jazakum Allahu khairan for reading this description and inshaAllah I hope you enjoyed it and you find me reliable enough to have the pleasure to work for you and your lovley families.

Best wishes.
Miriam Amrane. ]]> Islamic Parenting Meryem3amran http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364882-A-a-a-Young-muslimah-looking-for-an-au-pair-position-in-the-uk http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364848-Bed-sharing-raises-cot-death-risk-fivefold&goto=newpost Tue, 21 May 2013 10:13:44 GMT Sharing a bed with a newborn increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome fivefold, research claims. The risk applies even if parents avoid tobacco, alcohol and drugs - other factors firmly linked to cot deaths. The BMJ Open research compared nearly 1,500 cot deaths with a control group... Sharing a bed with a newborn increases the risk of sudden infant death syndrome fivefold, research claims.

The risk applies even if parents avoid tobacco, alcohol and drugs - other factors firmly linked to cot deaths.

The BMJ Open research compared nearly 1,500 cot deaths with a control group of more than 4,500 parents.

Current guidance in the UK is that parents should decide where their baby sleeps, but says the safest option is in a crib or cot in the same room.
No consensus

Many other countries, such as the US and the Netherlands, go further and say parents should not share a bed with their baby for the first three months of his or her life.


The safest place for a baby to sleep for the first six months is in a crib or cot in the same room as a parent or carer”

Frances Bates The Lullaby Trust

Prof Bob Carpenter, from the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, carried out the analysis and says the UK should now follow suit and "take a more definitive stance against bed-sharing for babies under three months".

The government said it had asked the public health watchdog NICE to urgently examine its guidance on co-sleeping in light of this new study.

Unicef UK is concerned that any guidance that recommends the total avoidance of bed-sharing could end up forcing parents into much riskier practices such as feeding in arm-chairs or sofas where the risk of suffocating the baby is far higher.

Others question how robust the latest analysis is.

Prof Carpenter maintains avoiding bed-sharing would save lives - by his calculations, 120 of the 300 cot deaths that occur in the UK each year.

ADVICE ON SIDS

Place your baby on their back to sleep.
Cut smoking in pregnancy, including dads. Don't let anyone smoke in the same room as your baby.
The safest place for your baby to sleep is in a crib or cot in a room with you for the first six months.
Never sleep with your baby on a sofa or armchair.
Do not let your baby get too hot, and keep their head uncovered.

Source: The Lullaby Trust

In his analysis, one or both parents had been sleeping with their child at the time of death in a fifth of cases.

Only one in every 10 parents in the control group said they had shared a bed with their baby.

Even in very low-risk breastfed babies, where there were no risk factors for sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) other than that they had slept in their parents' bed, 81% of cot deaths in infants under three months of age could have been prevented by not bed sharing.

Prof Carpenter says he is not suggesting that babies should be banned from being in the parents' bed for comfort and feeding.

This has been investigated in previous studies and has not been found to be a risk factor, provided the infant is returned to his or her own cot for sleep.

But he says evidence shows that babies are safest sleeping alone in their own cot in the same bedroom as their parent or carer.

Francine Bates, of the safer baby sleep charity The Lullaby Trust, said: "We recognise that some parents will choose to sleep with their babies as opposed to placing them in a cot or a Moses basket next to their bed.

"The Lullaby Trust supports parental choice but we would also urge every new mother and father to weigh up the known risks of sharing a bed with their baby and, in light of their own situation, take appropriate precautions.

"Our core message remains that the safest place for a baby to sleep for the first six months is in a crib or cot in the same room as a parent or carer."

The Royal College of Midwives offers the same advice.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-22594587 ]]> Islamic Parenting deen1984 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364848-Bed-sharing-raises-cot-death-risk-fivefold http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364736-Warn-young-children-about-pornography-Facebook-say-head-teachers&goto=newpost Mon, 20 May 2013 10:15:18 GMT Young children should hear about the dangers of pornography as soon as they have access to the internet, leading head teachers say. The ready availability of explicit material online has prompted serious concerns from the National Association of Head Teachers. General secretary Russell Hobby... Young children should hear about the dangers of pornography as soon as they have access to the internet, leading head teachers say.

The ready availability of explicit material online has prompted serious concerns from the National Association of Head Teachers.

General secretary Russell Hobby said "the conversation should start" when children started going online.

But he stressed this was not about showing pornography in class.

He told reporters at his association's annual conference in Birmingham: "There isn't an easy answer, but as soon as children are getting access to this, it's time to begin the conversation."

Stephen Watkins, head teacher of Millfield School in Leeds, said: "Children as young as three - nursery age children - access computers. If they see something that shouldn't be there, they should know to go and tell an adult."
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Young people need to know how to cope with and avoid these distorted views of relationships.”

Russell Hobby NAHT

He recalled having to respond to a boy in class who had turned up some explicit images when researching the North Pole on the internet. And he said an approach which responded to issues when they arose in a low-key way was the option he favoured.

Mr Watkins added that many parents were concerned about the easy access of such material on other people's portable devices and smart phones, which they could not block in the same way as their home computers.

He also warned that parents were setting up under-age Facebook accounts for their children which potentially left them able to access inappropriate material. Youngsters under the age of 14 are not permitted to have their own accounts.

He said of 33 10-and 11-year-old children in his own school's top year, he had discovered 24 were already on Facebook.

Mr Watkins said he had written to their parents to warn them they were going against the social network's own rules and that they were potentially exposing their children to inappropriate material.
Self-image

An independent survey of 1,009 parents for the NAHT suggested 83% felt pupils should learn about the dangers of pornography in sex education lessons.

Four out of 10 thought this should happen in the early primary school years, while 51% believed it was more appropriate to tackle the subject in the teenage years.

The NAHT said the issue was increasingly troubling to teachers and heads as they grapple with the impact of pornography on pupils' self-image and their perceptions of sexuality.

Mr Hobby said his association had been working with a number of agencies for some time to address these concerns.

He added that his association had said repeatedly that young people must be protected from pornography and children should receive appropriate guidance as part of relationship and sex education.

"We would also like to see improved advice for schools to help them manage these issues most effectively.

"There is no place for explicit materials in the classroom or school, even in the course of teaching about their dangers, but many young people are exposed to such materials on the internet and phones.

"In the face of this, young people need to know how to cope with and avoid these distorted views of relationships."

The vast majority of parents, 83%, had sufficient confidence in schools' ability to help their children understand the issues, the survey suggested, while 13% felt the subject should be left to parents alone.

Nine out of 10 felt all equipment allowing internet access should have a default block on pornographic websites.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-22585414 ]]> Islamic Parenting deen1984 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364736-Warn-young-children-about-pornography-Facebook-say-head-teachers http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364696-Please-help&goto=newpost Sun, 19 May 2013 22:46:27 GMT Salam I have a problem and would be grateful for some feedback as to how to deal with this situation.. I recently discovered my 12 year old daughter has a secret Facebook account...she has added girls and boys mostly from her school...but also added friends of friends..people she hardly... Salam
I have a problem and would be grateful for some feedback as to how to deal with this situation..

I recently discovered my 12 year old daughter has a secret Facebook account...she has added girls and boys mostly from her school...but also added friends of friends..people she hardly knows..she introduces herself with her real name and forbids them to use her name in public "because Im not allowed fb and my mum will kill me if she found out"..
she has also added pics of her in tight English clothes and make up and asks people to "rate her"..

This is not the worst bit...

Having gone through all of her messages I discovered she has "bought blueberry for a tenner" which is slang for the marijuana drug!!? she also admits to using shisha in
class where the "teacher doesn't notice"...?!!!
she uses a lot of bad words and swears a lot and is also the head of A "***** gang"??!

I AM SO UPSET..I CANT BELIEVE THIS IS MY DAUGHTER..I thought I had brought her up well since she has completed umrah, reads namaz, goes to masjid and always
wears the scarf! Its like a different person...

She has had the account on fb a few months now and its around that time the school made me aware of her behaviour problems at school...
shes was having a lot of detentions and is disruptive in class...and even after having family members involved in trying to stop this behaviour and not knowing what the problem was...it MAKES SENSE now....is shes doing drugs and shisha that would def make her attitude change wouldn't it..and effect her behaviour in class...?

I DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS WITHOUT MAKING IT MORE WORSE....do I tell her I know..get the school involved??? what

PLEASE ADVISE.. ]]> Islamic Parenting alish http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364696-Please-help http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364389-Those-With-Children-Complain-amp-Those-without-Children-Complain!&goto=newpost Fri, 17 May 2013 10:59:27 GMT If those without children complained about not having children, those with only boys complained about not having girls, those with only girls complained about not having boys and those with both complained about how much of a handful they are, then WHO is going to show gratitude & satisfaction with the Divine Decree of the Almighty?

Indeed, He chooses, we don’t!

So let’s stop complaining and start being thankful.

The Almighty definitely knows what is best for us! - Mufti Menk ]]> Islamic Parenting Umar_ http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364389-Those-With-Children-Complain-amp-Those-without-Children-Complain! http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364374-The-people-with-a-religious-duty-to-have-children&goto=newpost Fri, 17 May 2013 08:46:11 GMT The Quiverfull: The evangelical Christians opposed to contraception


A Christian evangelical movement where followers avoid contraception and have as many children as they can is spreading to the UK. They are The Quiverfull.

"Get married. Have a quiver full of kids if you can."

So said unsuccessful presidential candidate Mitt Romney in a recent speech to graduates. It was a conscious echo of Psalm 127.

The psalm - where children are compared to arrows for war - is the inspiration for the Quiverfull movement.

"Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They shall not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate."

Christians in the movement believe in giving up all forms of contraception and accepting as many children as God gives, both as a sign of obedience to God and in a bid to ensure the future of the faith.

In the US, Quiverfull families frequently reach up to a dozen children with the numbers of adherents in the tens of thousands. But now the movement is gaining popularity in other countries.
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Mitt Romney

Get married, have a quiver full of kids if you can”

Mitt Romney's speech to Southern Virginia University graduates

In the UK, where the average family size is 1.7 children, this makes couples who follow its teachings stand out.

Vicki and Phil have just had their sixth child. "I feel this is the normal [situation] God created and God initially wanted, and that actually society has gone a little skew-whiff," says Vicki, of south London.

Vicki and Phil were both raised as Christians, but came to Quiverfull ideas after they were married. Early on, they used contraception, but after Vicki responded badly to the contraceptive pill, they began merely avoiding sex during Vicki's most fertile time of the month. From there they decided to do without contraception completely.

"Over time, we realised that actually if He [God] wants to conceive a baby during that time, and he made her naturally desire her husband more, maybe that's what he'd prefer us to do," she says.

In common with other Quiverfull families, Vicki had to wait for her husband to come round to her ideas.

"He saw it wasn't such a scary thing to do after all, and that God wouldn't overwhelm us with more than we could handle. One baby at a time arrived, and we were handling it, so we felt our marriage was being blessed by this choice and we continued."

Vicki and Phil were encouraged by the teachings of Nancy Campbell, a Tennessee-based preacher influential in the movement. Her ministry, Above Rubies, advocates motherhood as a woman's highest calling. Its magazine is distributed to more than 100 countries worldwide, with a circulation topping 160,000.
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Vyckie Garrison and family

Cat McShane's documentary, The Womb as a Weapon, will be broadcast on the BBC World Service on 18 May at 19:32 GMT.

Pictured are Vyckie Garrison and family, before they left Quiverfull.

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Vicki found out about the ministry through a blog by a mother and began subscribing to the magazine and attending Campbell's annual retreats. This year's European tour saw Campbell visit six countries in a month, preaching at women-only and also family retreats attended by like-minded couples and their burgeoning broods.

Campbell believes that many women have forgotten their biological, and for her, God-given function. "He created her with a womb. And in fact that's the most distinguishing characteristic of a woman. In the American Webster's 1928 dictionary, it says that woman is combination of two words: womb and man. She is a womb-man."

But there's more to the Quiverfull mindset than a love of big families. It's based on a backlash against the growing acceptance of birth control and feminism within Christianity.

Sarah Dawes, 34, from Derbyshire, has six children. She had worked in an office and a shoe shop before embracing the Quiverfull life. "I always wanted a big family, but when I read Above Rubies it was like drinking when you're thirsty," she says.

Dawes says that her career didn't offer her any comparable fulfilment. "If you look at the children you're filled with so much love for them that even if it's a rough day there's nothing better. You don't get that from a job."

Quiverfull ideology also advocates a return to "traditional" roles in the home, where women are wife and mother first of all. They are their husband's "helpmeet", designed to support him as head of the household and primary breadwinner.

Dawes's husband Damian, who is self-employed, admits the pressures of raising a large family on a single income can be stressful. "They're all great kids, but sometimes it's a bit overwhelming and you think, how am I going to pay?"

He has doubts about continuing to follow Quiverfull teachings on family planning. "I don't want any more at the moment. I'd like to have a break."
Vyckie Garrison and her children after the birth of her youngest child Garrison nearly died after the birth of her last child

One woman who tested her faith in Quiverfull to the limit is Vyckie Garrison, a mother of seven. Once a cornerstone of the Quiverfull movement in the US, she left in 2008. Her website No Longer Quivering is described as a "place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse".

Garrison suffers from a rare bone condition that made pregnancy dangerous. Her husband had a vasectomy after baby number three. But after reading Campbell and other Quiverfull authors, her ideas and the vasectomy were reversed.

Garrison continued to get pregnant against all medical advice, almost dying with the birth of her last - and seventh - child. But for a true believer, dying in childbirth is supposedly a noble act, she says.

"I really believed that I wouldn't die unless God willed that I die, and if he did then I would accept that, because obviously he's the smart one, and has the big picture and knows the whole plan."

There are plenty of critics of the Quiverfull beliefs. Heather Doney, who grew up in a Quiverfull household in the US, says the emphasis on men leading the house is a problem.
Heather Doney as a child - and in 2012 Heather Doney - pictured left as a child - grew up in a Quiverfull household

"Absolute power corrupts absolutely. In these situations you're giving the man ultimate power - you're saying the only one that can check his power is God," she says.
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Head of the household

Quiverfull families tend to believe in male headship - the principle, also derived from the Bible, that men should lead households.

Feminists are perhaps the fiercest critics of the budding Quiverfull movement.

They accuse it of trying to undo the equality and freedom won for women over decades of struggle, and claim that the idea of automatic male leadership is anachronistic.

But advocates say their approach to family life is both authentically Christian, and the best training for children to take on what he sees as the moral decay afflicting American society.

The US families fighting the 'contraceptive mentality'

Within the Quiverfull movement, having larger families is part of a broader plan.

"Mothers determine the destiny of the nation," Campbell says. "We're in a battle for the kingdom of God and the kingdom of darkness. And our children are all part of that battle."

Campbell believes there are specific groups of people with high birth-rates that she is worried will soon outnumber Christians. "We are limiting our children. And then we are allowing other cultures to come into our nation who are having a lot more children than us.

"Gradually, down the line, the culture is going to change, without anyone doing anything except having children, or not having children," she says.

Back in south London, affecting the destiny of the nation was something Vicki could identify with. "I do think I'm raising my children to be future voters, and possibly to be future politicians, the MPs."

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22526252 ]]> Islamic Parenting deen1984 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364374-The-people-with-a-religious-duty-to-have-children http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364119-Save-Islam!-Save-Religion!-Save-Bangladesh!&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 09:56:58 GMT Save Islam! Save Religion! Save Bangladesh! Please read the bellow videos....Fund need, is it possible? (Skype: hmadnanbd)

http://www.youtube.com/results?searc...c.2.11.youtube. ]]> Islamic Parenting hmadnanbd http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364119-Save-Islam!-Save-Religion!-Save-Bangladesh! http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363721-URGENT-Need-your-help-regarding-whooping-cough-vaccination-in-pregnancy&goto=newpost Wed, 08 May 2013 13:07:38 GMT Salam alikom sisters and brothers, I am pregnant in my second trimester and I need your help in taking an important decision regarding a vaccine proposed during this trimester: whooping cough vaccine. I know that the NHS is recommending all pregnant women in the UK to have this vaccine but I... Salam alikom sisters and brothers,

I am pregnant in my second trimester and I need your help in taking an important decision regarding a vaccine proposed during this trimester: whooping cough vaccine.

I know that the NHS is recommending all pregnant women in the UK to have this vaccine but I am really hesitating as I read conflicting views about it on the net. Would it be fine for both my baby and me? Is it really wise to take a vaccine while I am pregnant? What was your personal experience with this kind of vaccine? I am really lost...

Your help will be greatly appreciated as I intend to base my decision on your feedback/ experiences.

Thank you in advance.

Salam ]]> Islamic Parenting Labiba http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363721-URGENT-Need-your-help-regarding-whooping-cough-vaccination-in-pregnancy http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363609-Islamic-actions-for-welcoming-a-new-baby&goto=newpost Tue, 07 May 2013 14:18:28 GMT what should I do or be prepared with in receiving my new born baby in 1 or two days time. Any sunnah that I should follow. Praise be to Allaah. Firstly: We ask Allaah to bless your new baby for you and to make him among the righteous and pious so that he will weigh in the balance of your... what should I do or be prepared with in receiving my new born baby in 1 or two days time. Any sunnah that I should follow.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:


We ask Allaah to bless your new baby for you and to make him among the righteous and pious so that he will weigh in the balance of your good deeds, because it was reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When the son of Adam dies, all his good deeds come to an end, apart from three: sadaqah jaariyah (ongoing charity, such as a waqf or endowment), beneficial knowledge, and a righteous son who will pray for him.” (Narrated by Muslim, 1631).


Secondly:

There is no action prescribed in sharee’ah for preparing to welcome a new baby a day or two before he is born, as far as we know. But one can recite general du’aa’s, such as praying for the newborn to be safe and sound, to be guided, and so on. Allaah mentioned in His Book the prayer of the righteous woman, the wife of ‘Imraan, who said (interpretation of the meaning):


“(Remember) when the wife of ‘Imraan said: ‘O my Lord! I have vowed to You what (the child that) is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services (free from all worldly work; to serve Your place of worship), so accept this from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing.’


Then when she gave birth to her [child Maryam (Mary)], she said: ‘O my Lord! I have given birth to a female child,’ — and Allaah knew better what she brought forth, — ‘And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam (Mary), and I seek refuge with You (Allaah) for her and for her offspring from Shaytaan (Satan), the outcast.’” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:35-36]


There follows an outline of what should be done on the day of the child’s birth, and after that:

It is mustahabb to do tahneek for the baby and to pray for him.


It was reported that Abu Moosa said: “I had a baby boy, and I brought him to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He named him Ibraaheem, did Tahneek with some dates and prayed for Allaah to bless him, then he gave him back to me.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5150; Muslim, 2145). Tahneek means putting something sweet, such as dates or honey, in the child’s mouth when he is first born.


It is permissible to name the child on the first day or on the seventh.


It was reported that Anas ibn Maalik said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A boy was born to me this night and I have named him with the name of my father Ibraaheem.” (Narrated by Muslim, 3126).


It was reported that ‘Aa’ishah said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did ‘aqeeqah for al-Hasan and al-Husayn on the seventh day, and gave them their names. (Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, 12/127; al-Haakim, 4/264. Classed as saheeh by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 9/589).


‘Aqeeqah and circumcision


It was reported from Salmaan ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For the boy there should be an ‘aqeeqah. Slaughter (an animal) for him and remove the harmful thing [i.e., the foreskin] from him.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1515; al-Nasaa’i, 4214; Abu Dawood, 2839; Ibn Maajah, 3164. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’, 4/396).


It was reported that Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A boy is ransomed by his ‘aqeeqah. Sacrifice should be made for him on the seventh day, he should be given a name and his head should be shaved.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1522; al-Nasaa’i, 4220 and Abu Dawood, 2838. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’ 4/385).

Imaam ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:


Among the benefits of ‘aqeeqah are:

It is a sacrifice by means of which the child is brought close to Allaah soon after he comes into this world.

It is a ransom for the newborn; his ‘aqeeqah ransoms him so that he can intercede for his parents.

It is a sacrifice by which the newborn is ransomed just as Allaah ransomed Ismaa’eel with the ram. (Tuhfat al-Mawdood, p. 69).


Perhaps another benefit of the ‘aqeeqah is the gathering of relatives and friends for the waleemah (feast).


4.Circumcision is part of the Sunan al-Fitrah (practices related to the pure and natural inclinations of man). It is obligatory in the case of boys because it is connected to matters of purity which are essential conditions of prayer.

It was reported from Abu Hurayrah: “Five things are related to the Fitrah: circumcision, removing the pubic hairs, plucking the armpit hairs, cutting the nails, and trimming the moustache.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5550; Muslim, 257).

Thirdly:

Among the Sunnahs for welcoming the newborn, the scholars mentioned that the Adhaan should be recited into the baby’s right ear so that the first thing he hears in this world will be the words of Tawheed, which will have a great and blessed effect on the child. With regard to reciting the iqaamah in the child’s left ear, there is nothing to prove that this is required. (See al-Silsilat al-Da’eefah, 1/491).


Fourthly:

Shaving the child’s head then anointing the child’s head with saffron is very beneficial. Then it is prescribed to give in charity gold or silver equal in weight to the hair. This does not have to be done by actually weighing the hair; if it is too difficult to do that, it is sufficient to estimate the weight and give paper currency equivalent to the price of that amount of gold or silver. We ask Allaah to protect us and our children from all evil and to keep them safe and sound in this world and in the Hereafter. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.


Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

http://islamqa.info/en/ref/7889/new%20baby ]]> Islamic Parenting deen1984 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363609-Islamic-actions-for-welcoming-a-new-baby http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363463-Must-be-so-kool-having-your-own-children-oh-parents&goto=newpost Sun, 05 May 2013 23:31:54 GMT Despite all the challenges and wotsits that accompany children, it must be really amazing to have something living that's a physical part of you. It must be special and just generally kool to have a child/children under your care who are from you.

Canny recall what more I wanted to say but it must be really amazing to have you your own children ]]> Islamic Parenting F_R http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363463-Must-be-so-kool-having-your-own-children-oh-parents http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?362609-feeding-5-month-old&goto=newpost Fri, 26 Apr 2013 11:57:17 GMT Asalaam aleykum .can I feed my 5month 2dys yogurt.she has refused her milk for like a week now and I fed her mashed fruits and she likes it.. May Allah subhana wataalah make easy for all parents to raise our kids in the right way. Ameen Asalaam aleykum .can I feed my 5month 2dys yogurt.she has refused her milk for like a week now and I fed her mashed fruits and she likes it.. May Allah subhana wataalah make easy for all parents to raise our kids in the right way. Ameen ]]> Islamic Parenting Aishal http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?362609-feeding-5-month-old http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?362399-Islamic-Parenting-tips-collection-box&goto=newpost Wed, 24 Apr 2013 14:42:22 GMT Assalamu aleykum wa rahmatuallah wa barakatuhu,

I am going to be a mum soon by September this year insha'Allah :inlove:

Raising up a child is a very important task and I hope that we will achieve to raise up a believing Muslim and to provide him / her with the best of knowledge of Islam. I am spending a lot of time searching for tips on how to raise a child in Islam and found some great ideas and tools as well as informative sources. Even though our child is not born yet, I do believe that it is absolutely important to be prepared even for the coming years. Hence I have created a page where I keep all the great things I find so I can check later even in a few years to see which of the tips I would still like to follow or I might even decide that it might be a good recommendation but not fitting for us.

I first thought of keeping the page just to myself but then I thought maybe some of you sisters would be interested in it as well. It would also be great to exchange ideas and to establish a huge collection box with all the many great parenting tips we could find for raising up a Muslim child.
It would be great if you join the page and share the excitement and beauty of being or becoming a mother. I started the page only recently, hence there is still much more to come but please have a look here: https://www.facebook.com/pages/edit/...94129947386891

I would also love to hear any feedback from you.

Jazakallah ]]> Islamic Parenting AsiyahRayaan http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?362399-Islamic-Parenting-tips-collection-box