http://www.ummah.com/forum/ This forum allows users to post anonymously. Please note, all anonymous threads and posts will be subject to moderation before they are visible . en Fri, 24 May 2013 06:39:41 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.ummah.com/forum/images/styles/iBusiness/misc/rss.png http://www.ummah.com/forum/ http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?365006-I-want-to-divorce-my-wife-but&goto=newpost Wed, 22 May 2013 21:46:20 GMT I want to divorce my wife. I feel she is an evil person, and she even physically and mentally abuses our 4 year old child. She treats me terribly, and she can't handle it when she doesn't get her way. It's her way, or the high way (so to speak).

The only reason why I have not divorced her yet is because of my child. I don't know who will look after my child. We have no relatives here, and all my friends are busy with their own thing, and I can't afford a nanny.

So my question is, if I divorce my wife, how will I look after my daughter? Will I have to quit my job and go on benefits? ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum wife_hater http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?365006-I-want-to-divorce-my-wife-but http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364936-I-think-I-m-losing-Islam-(&goto=newpost Wed, 22 May 2013 08:33:41 GMT I really think I'm starting to lose my faith in Islam. :( I have no motivation to pray, because I just feel like I'm talking to myself, and going through motions for nothing. I feel no connection. Sometimes I feel like I just desperately want to believe in Islam, and I don't know if I truly believe it in my heart. I feel so confused. & Some people have said "Don't lose hope in Allah" but that does nothing for me. If I read Quran I feel like I'm just reading.. some verses, yeah they're beautiful, but I don't feel like I'm reading this sacred word of God. I'm missing something :( Please help. I don't want to feel this way, my deen is slipping through my fingers fast. Idk what to do, nothing gives me iman. I'm just completely lost. ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum Lost00 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364936-I-think-I-m-losing-Islam-( http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364900-CANT-fix-this&goto=newpost Tue, 21 May 2013 19:51:22 GMT I have a major problem in my relationships with men. As soon as I meet someone who shows little interest in me I feel very strongly about them. I cant stop thinking about them, almost crazy. Then when someone shows intest in me I dont care about them and run the opposite direction. I treat them... I have a major problem in my relationships with men. As soon as I meet someone who shows little interest in me I feel very strongly about them. I cant stop thinking about them, almost crazy. Then when someone shows intest in me I dont care about them and run the opposite direction. I treat them badly and they do not deserve it. What is wrong with me? How will I ever be in a happy relationship if I cant stop feeling like this? ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum dontgothere http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364900-CANT-fix-this http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364360-what-does-a-normal-marriage-look-like&goto=newpost Fri, 17 May 2013 04:37:56 GMT After 9 years in a marriage which brought me more tears than happiness I'm wondering what makes a normal marriage? On the surface we look like a 'happy couple' -- we are professionals, he supports my work and have two lovely kids and we are civil. BUT. There is no love, intimacy or communication. My husband has a routine where he comes home, sits in front of the telly - uses FB and text chats with his mates - goes to bed, goes to work. He expects me to cook, clean and feed him but he has shown little intimate interest in me in the past 4 years though it has started before this - no hugs, compliments or sex . I've been hurt and depressed about this in the beginning but starting to feel angry because I also think that I've been bullied into silence because of his passive aggression towards me, when I complain previously, he always turned my complaints back on me, made me look like a bad mother or counter with 'oh you're on FB too' or 'stop being a drama queen' -- he would ignore me for days over a silly argument about a none issue and then just start talking to me normally again. ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum confusedwife http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364360-what-does-a-normal-marriage-look-like http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364252-Sunnat-gair-mokkada&goto=newpost Mon, 13 May 2013 19:39:15 GMT Do we read tashuad and durood and dua and Do we read sana in 3rd raakah? Can we include sunnat gair mokada in niyyat? Do we read tashuad and durood and dua and Do we read sana in 3rd raakah? Can we include sunnat gair mokada in niyyat? ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum Riki372 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364252-Sunnat-gair-mokkada http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364218-Am-I-losing-all-my-friends-because-of-Islam&goto=newpost Mon, 13 May 2013 13:06:44 GMT Salaam I've always been popular but since I was 16 when I started to wonder about my purpose in life, and since my friends have sorts drifted away slowly and its painful that I've not had real friends since because I pray and quote I not fun no more, now years later I wonder did Islam which has blessed me with so much make me lose the people dearest to me? I know people say oh it don't matter you have God and I know that but everyone my friends Muslim and non Muslim included tell me I'm missing out on the best years of my life, lots of experiences, a chance at finding who I really am (don't really know what they mean) because I won't do anything beyond go to the cinema ect, strictly girls only but I guess I just wanted to ask everyone were human so do you ever feel like your watching life pass you by and your not engaging with it because your family say don't do this don't do that and your so restricted anyway is it hard seeing your friends go on friends holidays and great places and you can't go well I could but I can't do that because I fear the consequences of travelling without a guardian and the comments from my Muslim friends are more hurtful than the non Muslim because they should know where I'm coming from, but they say things like your so backward its the 21st century, your educated so why are you like this, since when are you so religious chill your only young once, live life have fun don't be so bitter or just get religious when your older, or be a liberal progressive Muslim what the hell is that?

What do you do when your imaans so shaken, and you feel so confused? Lives a test maybe I should just deal with it, but everyone needs friends. ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum 2013458 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364218-Am-I-losing-all-my-friends-because-of-Islam http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364191-Gay-Marriage&goto=newpost Mon, 13 May 2013 05:34:32 GMT I am thinking about converting to Islam, but I am a homosexual and deeply in love with a man. Can any brother tell me if there are any mosques in any of the American states that perform gay marriage ceremonies?

Also (and I hope this doesn't seem inappropriate, but it's a question I really need answered) is anal sex halal or haraam, and does wearing a condom make any difference in its acceptance? ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum Goldstein http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364191-Gay-Marriage http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364181-Height-difference-between-couple&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 23:27:30 GMT Salaam

I have recently started looking for a spouse. I came across one potential who seems suitable. She seems practicing, well educated both deen and dunya wise, also cooks, willing to help out around the house, so she seems to have everything I'm looking for BUT the issue thats standing out to me is our height difference. She is 5'2 and I am 5'11.

I feel silly making an issue out of it, as its just the way Allah has created her but I just keep thinking about it like that.

So would appreciate some advice. Is such a height difference normal? Won't it be awkward? ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum adviceorsomting http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364181-Height-difference-between-couple http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364146-help-whispers-nd-douts&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 15:58:16 GMT salams my bros and sis, so i been perfectly ok iman-wise,when all of a sudden am hit with these doubts and whispers of shaytan.i mean i was perfectly ok before that..... these doubt and and whispers refuse to let up ,i try ignore them,then they go away for abit but all come back again.its... salams my bros and sis,

so i been perfectly ok iman-wise,when all of a sudden am hit with these doubts and whispers of shaytan.i mean i was perfectly ok before that.....
these doubt and and whispers refuse to let up ,i try ignore them,then they go away for abit but all come back again.its seriously affecting me mentally and emotionlly,i literally feel me iman draining away......................
please give me some advices and ways get them to go away from me..i want to my iman to come back and increase and my heart to be calm and fill with iman and peace........................
may allah grant to all those who help with highest janna............ ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum heeelllppp http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364146-help-whispers-nd-douts http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364134-can-I-leave-before-i-do-something&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 14:00:16 GMT i am a 25 year old woman, and my father terrorizes me every single day. He is a drug addict, and spends his whole days and night intoxicated, when the stuff leaves his system he becomes violent. he has already broken his own 96 year old mothers arm and leg, which i can not do anything about because... i am a 25 year old woman, and my father terrorizes me every single day. He is a drug addict, and spends his whole days and night intoxicated, when the stuff leaves his system he becomes violent. he has already broken his own 96 year old mothers arm and leg, which i can not do anything about because she wont say it in front of anyone who can lock him up. everyone in the home has either left or been kicked out, my mother being the latest one to be kicked out, he's done it many times before but this time i forced her not to come back. she's in a hostel waiting to be placed somewhere. my younger brother in his alevels left to go live with his wife's parents cos they couldnt deal with it. my older brother left after years of physical abuse and he and my father dont communicate. my sister's married lucky her and lucky her twice as she's banned from this house. that leaves me, and im going to kill him one of these days as im on edge and feeling extremely violated. I am better of leaving but i want permission that islamically im allowed to leave. plz provide daleel. jazakallah ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum sanity http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364134-can-I-leave-before-i-do-something http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364130-Stressed-out-and-worried&goto=newpost Sun, 12 May 2013 12:12:15 GMT Salaam to everyone

Well I wanted to say recently I had a vaginal infection and had to go to the doctors for a examination, and it hurt and I bled a little and I also felt a sharp pain and although I didn't ask i was too embarrassed I know or suspect my hymen has broken But the problem is I'm a virgin and I've spent my whole life preserving my chastity and distancing myself from men, by limiting my contact with them even though its hard in this side of the world. And now I fear that my character will be questioned when I get married as well as my purity, I know only Allah is my judge but many men I think would question a woman's virginity if this was the case?

This is worrying me a great deal, but ease my mind. ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum yyyy http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364130-Stressed-out-and-worried http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364077-About-Learning-Holy-Quran-with-Tajweed&goto=newpost Sat, 11 May 2013 21:24:54 GMT *Aslam o Alikum Dear Islam Brothers/sisters We Teach Holy Quran Online. With Proper Tajweed Tafseer And Memorization Of The Quran Online . mashallah we have best Quran tutors who Teach Holy Quran Online Live . The best Thing of our Academy is That we offer 3 Days Trial Class at Free Of Cost Any... Aslam o Alikum
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I needed some advice on credit reports. I have a bad history whereas my hubby has a good one. Mines only fallen in past 6 months.
How badly will this affect me when we apply for a morgage. god forgive me but thing is we have to buy our own home and its really difficult.


I just want to get my report sorted in time b4 my hubby sees this as he is unaware of the situation.

thanks in advance. ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum creditscore http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364036-creditreports http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364015-I-am-so-embarassed-about-going-to-the-doctor&goto=newpost Sat, 11 May 2013 09:48:52 GMT Salaamu alaykum,

I am so embarassed about going to the doctor to ask for a check-up because I am a virgin. I've never even kissed anyone or anything like that but I have a fear of STIs. I'm scared that I will accidently get an STI somehow? How possible is that if I am not and have never been sexually-active? Please tell me that it is impossible because I've heard that you can get them from using other people's toilets or public toilets. I'm really afraid when I know that I shouldn't be. Even if I wanted to go to the doctor to reassure my hypochondriac mind I still couldn't go to the doctor because I wouldn't want anyone looking at me. I wouldn't feel comfortable with a male or female doctor looking at me. What should I do? ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum Unregistered345 http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?364015-I-am-so-embarassed-about-going-to-the-doctor http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363880-Shaking-hands-with-opposite-gender&goto=newpost Thu, 09 May 2013 18:58:02 GMT As-salamo aleykum my brothers and sisters.

If the opposite gender pulls out his/her hand to shake hands with you, what do you respond to excuse yourself?

I usually say "I'm sorry, I don't shake hands with men" and they mostly say "Oh okay"
But one day, I heard a girl (non-Muslim) say she got mysophobia and thus she can't shake hands with people, cause' basically she's afraid of germs...

Do you think it's okay for a Muslim to say she/he got mysophobia even when he/she doesn't? lying is basically haram in Islam... but this just got me wondering... It's quite a good excuse actually... ]]> Anonymous Posting/Counselling Forum K.L http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?363880-Shaking-hands-with-opposite-gender