fallen out help

[ineedurhelpplz]

assalamu alaykum
i was hoping someone could help me out here
there is a sister ( i am a sis too) who i had a fall out with, and since then we have not spoken to each other, i know that this is very wrong, and believe me, i really want to repair our severed ties, but don't now if this is the correct thing to do - because she might be harsh to me and this would just make matters worse. and even if it is the correct thing to do, i don't know how to start talking to her, how do i approach this sister? what do i say? there must be a correct approach that i must use, can anyone help??

[.: Anna :.]

wa alaykum salam
hmmm why dnt u jst call her up, give salams and say ur sorry for whatever has happened between u and u dnt want 2 hav severed ties between u both... so insha allah she can agree for u both 2 forgive each other n put it behind. best 2 try 2 do this b4 ramadan ends, bc shaytan is locked during this month

[zaki]

yea a sister I know had a same problem, didn't talk to her friend cause something stupid that happened, they never talked for a year and then she told me that she missed her friend and i told her text her, tell her that you miss talking to her and want to start fresh and become friends again.

There is no harm in trying, if something happened say your sorries and say that whatever happened isn't worth losing a friend that you are close to.

[kanize]

write her a letter with lots of smili faces.loll. that always worked in kindergarden...

[asaajhsshdfs]

Salaam Alaikum

I say you should ring/meet her ASAP and just say sorry and that you want to make up, that you miss her friendsip whatever, even if you think she was in the wrong just say sorry and say was right, swallow your pride because we're in the last 10 days of Ramadan, you will get much reward for making the first move for the sake of Allah. Even If she still has a negative attitude (which she shouldn't/wouldn't) then at last you tried your best for the sake of Allah. Do it today (thu) if you can cause it could be laylt qadr today! Also invite her or take her out for iftari!

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

trzt me sis juz cht 2 da sis u mke da effrt n if she stl dnt vana n0 @lzt ya tryd man 0nzt an0 me n 1 0f ma m8z dnt cht 4 ageeeez c0z 0of sumfin pr0pa tick :smack: she cnme uup ma skulda 0da day n i v0z lak :shock: so0o i vlkd uup 2 er n i v0z lak slmz man lng tym n d@ n den she juz HUG ME n i v0z lak hlllld up :p lo00oo0ol nah seeri0ouz it v0z vkd!!! n v juzlak wo0ooh0o0o nw :nuts: @) :hidban: :D:D:D:D

[ineedurhelpplz]

My Salaams
JazakAllah u Khair, May Allah reward you all greatly for your advice, I really appreciate it alot. I took up your advice, apologized and let her know, but sadly she still hasn't replied yet :"(
maybe she just needs some more time

[ineedurhelpplz]

ok, she didnt reply, should i just tae the hint and give up?

[IffiePatel]

um... well wot xactli did u du??? it must b v.bad den....??

[PaGaL~LaDo0]

ermmm vel uve dun ur bit n sed s0rri itz up 2 her nw if she vntz 2 d0 sumfin b0ut it innit.....

[umme ahmed]

give it a couple of days sis then try again :) Make dua' and don't worry too much, it'll all work out inshAllah :)

[-Espérer-]

give up.

I havent been talking to someone since 2003 because she dissed my mum. I told her I forgive her bla blah but she's too arrogant so I just keep my distance (after having smashed her head open with a chair). ;)

live your life as you would, forgive this girl with all your heart and youve made an effort to build ties. you've done your part. dont worry too much insha`allah :)

[zaki]

how did you talk to her, email? text?

go see her if she hasn't replied back, maybe there is a reason to why she hasn't replied back, no credit? no internet etc

[ineedurhelpplz]

um... well wot xactli did u du??? it must b v.bad den....??

err nope, just that she backstabbed me pretty badly , i didnt approach her about it (i was too shocked and horrified because i never expected it) but we just stopped talkin ... oh well, i've done my bit, made the effort, JazakAllah everybody for all your advice, may Allah reward you greatly Ameen