How do you deal with public western schools?

[Altair]

Assalamu Alaikum

This is directed to Muslims who are in public western school, or have already went. I'd just like to see what everyone's experiences are if any..

Well, so far no one hasn't insulted me intentionally about being a Muslim at school. Although I have sat next to people who said some rude things about Islam, but they don't know I'm a Muslim. So I'm just like sitting next to them shouting in my head:"Hello!? You have a Muslim siiting right next to you! And I won't harm a fly!" Lol, well that is just how I am. I do have people who I talk with who knows I'm a Muslim and there cool with it. Like my computer teacher, she seems actually interested in Islam. She asked me about how I'm doing in Ramadhan and stuff. So ya, it's all good so far.

If you have any experiences you'd like to share about being a school please share if you'd like. :)

Khuda Hafiz

[Nawar]

Wa alaykum salaam

Alhumdulillah my experience wasnt too bad.

When I started wearing hijaab, I got a whole load of attention, questions, but not in a bad way, you just have to answer them in the best way. So Alhumdulillah, if its the same with you, then answering questions can be cool :up:

With rude people, who just make stupid un-intelligent comments, sometimes its best to ignore them. Because in most cases, you cannot argue with them, because they dont have much understanding. Just explaining to them the basics of Islaam at the right moment can be a start.

[Altair]

Indeed, like if someone asks me a question, I'll answer it very simply.

It looks like Muslim females seem to get more attention than Muslim males.

[.: Anna :.]

I didn't get any problems alhamdulillah. When I started wearing hijab some of the brothers from my Arabic school have come 2 me n said if ne1 gives u ne problem, come n tell us and we will deal with them. I never really had ne issues though.

[Nawar]

The thing at school is, the kids can be very immature.

With muslims, there is no teenager rubbish, you are a child, then you are an adult, and obligations like praying/fasting/hijaab become mandatory on you. So a muslim child has this mature understanding.

Non muslim kids are less disciplined, and have limited understanding on things like religion. So if you start talking generally to them first, then about religion once you know them, they are more receptive.

Well this is experience from an all-female school :D

[.: Anna :.]

That is true, I do think non Muslim children and teenagers have less sense of responsibility.
This can probly even be linked to many of their problems, cos they hav more a sense of futility in their life. Deep down all of the things they are doing, going out and drinking and getting the latest phone and all.. they know it is really meaningless and they dont feel ne self value or the point 2 their life. Well.. not all of them feel that, but some of them

[Hijab_19]

when I was in middle school, i had a bit problems, people would ask why i m wearing it or if my parents are forcing me and sort of stuff like that. I think it was because people didn't know much about Islam at the time and in high school, someone made fun of my hijab and he almost got suspended. and now that I am in college no problems at all. Although when I went to pensillvania(USA) people(especially women) were giving me weird looks.

[Altair]

That is very true that alot of non-Muslims are not disciplined. Like I know people at my school they always try to look the best.. The girls try to have the best and most expensive purses. And the guys try to dress the besting buying expensive clothing. Like you said Anna, it is all linked back towards their problems. It could come from family issues, social, whatever you name it.
And alot of times it can very hard for me to make friends with non-Muslims. Like I'll say hi to them at school and stuff, but I can't really see myself hanging outside of school with them unless they don't do haram things around me then I'm cool. Then again, I'm a very shy person in person, so I'm bad at making friends anyways.:(

[.: Anna :.]

Altair to be honest it is better to have ur close friends from the muslims anyway... like be nice to them and polite with them but if u have the option, chose the Muslim because you will be a reminder for each other, like to do salah when the time comes, like if one does something wrong the other will gentley correct them etc insha allah... sorry to hear ur shy even for making friends with Muslims tho, insha allah may Allah make it easy for u, and supply u with some good friends who u can rely on :D

[Altair]

Yeah, I probably can't become close friends with non-Muslims anyways. Good advice Anna. But a friend of mine who is a very hardworking brother told me it's good to make friends with non-Muslims, because by then you are showing them who you are and then they can always tell their family how their Muslim friend is really a great person. And I have met this one brother just last week in my Yoga class lol.:D I did not even know he was Muslim, so I'ma try to hang with him for a bit. He said his parents would take me to Mosque if they ever get to know me, Inshallah. :)

[.: Anna :.]

That is also true... we need the balance, but I wouldnt pick them as my best mate tho

[Altair]

Agreed :)

[Nawar]

Definately not as close freinds :up:

But you can still respond to their questions about Islam etc.

Just an hadith that came to mind.

"The example of a good companion in comparison with a bad one, is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith's bellows (or furnace). From the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof.." (Bukhari)

:)