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chapter 12
MARRIAGE (NIKAH) IN ISLAM
To have a nikah means to get married, and tatliq means to divorce.
In th book Manahij-ul-ibad, the Islamic nikah is explained as follows:
The seventh chapter of this book covers the etiquette of nikah. The information on marriage sometimes varies because people, times and situations are not always the same. For this reason, while there are Nass (The Divine laws) and news (Narratives) encouraging marriage, there are also others favoring bachelorhood. The times and states of the Ashab al-kiram and Tabiin demonstrate that in their time it was best to get married. There were three reasons for this:
The first reason: During the time of Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa 'sallallahu alaihi wa sallam', Christianity was prevalent throughout the world. Since Isa 'alaihissalam' was equipped with spirituality, bachelorhood, being alone and living a solitary life in seclusion were more appropriate for the times and conditions of his ummat and for his companions. Priests were ordering everyone to become monks and to live a solitary life. They presumed that approaching Allahu ta'ala and being in His way could only be achieved by living alone and by not getting married. Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa 'sallallahu alaihi wa sallam' possessed all spiritual and material realities and superiorities; hence, being alone or being together with others, being single or getting married are all useful for his Ashab and for his Ummat. Thus both ways, and the moderate way, which is between these two, are appropriate for his Ummat. Since priests were ordering everyone to live like monks and to abstain from marriage, the Prophet Muhammad Mustafa 'sallallahu alaihi wa sallam', in order to terminate this way of life, prohibited his Ashab (Companions) to live a bachelor life by saying, "Islam does not contain monkhood." He also said in another hadith, "Getting married is my sunnat; whoever does not follow my sunnat is not one of my Ummat." Numerous similar hadiths annihilated the wrong ideas imposed on the minds of people. Also the thought of "Allahu ta'ala can only be approached by living like a monk" was removed from the hearts. People who lived during the first two hundred years, which was the time of the Ashab al-Kiram and the Tabiin 'radi-Allahu ta'ala 'alaihim ajmain' knew that these hadiths were said in order to refute the wrong allegations of priests. When this era was over, different hadith ash-Sharifs were emphasized. These hadiths informed us that there are good aspects to bachelorhood and to married life depending on the special situations of those involved. Rasul 'alaihissalam' said, "After two hundred years, the best of you is the one who is hafifulhaz." When he was asked the meaning of hafifulhaz he said, "The person who has no wife or child."[/B]
http://serenityfountain.org/bliss5.asp
chapter 12
MARRIAGE (NIKAH) IN ISLAM
To have a nikah means to get married, and tatliq means to divorce.
In th book Manahij-ul-ibad, the Islamic nikah is explained as follows:
The seventh chapter of this book covers the etiquette of nikah. The information on marriage sometimes varies because people, times and situations are not always the same. For this reason, while there are Nass (The Divine laws) and news (Narratives) encouraging marriage, there are also others favoring bachelorhood. The times and states of the Ashab al-kiram and Tabiin demonstrate that in their time it was best to get married. There were three reasons for this:
The first reason: During the time of Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa 'sallallahu alaihi wa sallam', Christianity was prevalent throughout the world. Since Isa 'alaihissalam' was equipped with spirituality, bachelorhood, being alone and living a solitary life in seclusion were more appropriate for the times and conditions of his ummat and for his companions. Priests were ordering everyone to become monks and to live a solitary life. They presumed that approaching Allahu ta'ala and being in His way could only be achieved by living alone and by not getting married. Hadrat Muhammad Mustafa 'sallallahu alaihi wa sallam' possessed all spiritual and material realities and superiorities; hence, being alone or being together with others, being single or getting married are all useful for his Ashab and for his Ummat. Thus both ways, and the moderate way, which is between these two, are appropriate for his Ummat. Since priests were ordering everyone to live like monks and to abstain from marriage, the Prophet Muhammad Mustafa 'sallallahu alaihi wa sallam', in order to terminate this way of life, prohibited his Ashab (Companions) to live a bachelor life by saying, "Islam does not contain monkhood." He also said in another hadith, "Getting married is my sunnat; whoever does not follow my sunnat is not one of my Ummat." Numerous similar hadiths annihilated the wrong ideas imposed on the minds of people. Also the thought of "Allahu ta'ala can only be approached by living like a monk" was removed from the hearts. People who lived during the first two hundred years, which was the time of the Ashab al-Kiram and the Tabiin 'radi-Allahu ta'ala 'alaihim ajmain' knew that these hadiths were said in order to refute the wrong allegations of priests. When this era was over, different hadith ash-Sharifs were emphasized. These hadiths informed us that there are good aspects to bachelorhood and to married life depending on the special situations of those involved. Rasul 'alaihissalam' said, "After two hundred years, the best of you is the one who is hafifulhaz." When he was asked the meaning of hafifulhaz he said, "The person who has no wife or child."[/B]