birds of a feather or opposites

[Quest]

Birds of a feather flock together
or do opposites truely attract?

hmm i think this is pretty tricky i cant give a straight forward answer for this, i think i choose the mid way path. i think its nice when spouses have many things in common but are opposite in weakness, so his strengths can be her weaknesses and vice versa

i remember when i was a jahil, i use to see the brother down the street with the big beard and dont touch my shoes pants and think "one day am gonna swing your way"

so yes opposites attract, he was a devout muslim, i was what society called a renegade with a heart, but that natural fitra of mine somehow attracted me to him. i would be just chilling and when ever i saw a practicing brother i would feel weird, my friends would joke saying u dont have a chance lool how cold.

but i was optimistic, i would smile and think "only Allah knows my destiny" or "soon come i will jump off this jahil ship deep down am not happy"

if birds of a feather flocked together one would think i liked the bad boy.
truthfully i wasnt stupid i knew they were not hubby material from day one, i would laugh and joke with them, but i respected the practicing brothers. its all about the brother who is loyal 2 Allah. such a man will cater to ur needs without measure.

what are ur views regarding the 2 options i gave at the begining. i think its best 2 have a balance.

[seven]

opposites attract

my wife is the fiery one ( :up: ) whilst i'm the calm one :D

[muslimah85]

Birds of a feather flock together
or do opposites truely attract?

hmm i think this is pretty tricky i cant give a straight forward answer for this, i think i choose the mid way path. i think its nice when spouses have many things in common but are opposite in weakness, so his strengths can be her weaknesses and vice versa
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thats sooo true and i believe it 100% :up:

Well im not married (yet ;) ) but from what i;ve seen I don't think compatibility can occur if the couple are too similar or too opposite either however in terms of charecteristics i think both rub off on each other :D .

My parents for instance my mum is soo organised, plans everything, worries about everything :eek:, is passionate about eveything etc :p my dad on the other hand calm as a feather, laid back , relaxed, easy comes easy go attitude :p, yet their perfect for each others and balance each other out completly :love:

the best of couples learn from each other:)



i think its best 2 have a balance.

:D

[seven]

the example of a religious vs non-religious person can't really be considered as opposites.

two religious people can be considered as opposite as well as two non-religious.

it's more about temprement and mentality, and not sprituallity

[seven]

My parents for instance my mum is soo organised, plans everything, worries about everything :eek:, is passionate about eveything etc :p my dad on the other hand calm as a feather, laid back , relaxed, easy comes easy go attitude :p, yet their perfect for each others and balance each other out completly :love:

the best of couples learn from each other:)


kinda reminds me of a couple :scratch:

[muslimah85]

kinda reminds me of a couple :scratch:
im off to tell zee :eek:


:p

[MMS]

i think you can have really different personalities but it will only work if you both want the same things from life

[Tahiyah]

i ve noticed that many muslim couples seem to be each others balance

one spouses strengths balance out the others weaknesses

Mashaa Allah, I truly believe this is Allah (swt) guiding us to the right partner

ask Allah (swt) to guide you to the right mate for your life

[Quest]

muslima lool my parents were the opposite (dad is dead may allah mercy on him)

he was a clean "freak" mum was normal, less fussed then him
he was just kind merciful considerate wise passionate laid back and reserved, mum was loud wore her heart on her tongue fierce merciful and open

i took after them both, i am told am just and merciful like my father wear my heart on my tongue and fierce like my mother

lol mix it up and i could be the latest power ranger haha

tahiya mashallah yes uktii ALLAH is the perfect match maker hence why istaqkara is so important

seven u make a great point, am talking personality mentality to :_)

[muslimah85]

quest go look in the sis forum ;)

run :eek: :p

[.: Anna :.]

lol masha allah m85 @ ur parents, I think I am bit like ur mum, Baba is bit like ur dad (in attitudes and temperaments etc)
Its good to compliment each other that way. You have two panickers and organisers and it's gonna cause bit of trouble, two totally laid back people and nothing will get acheived lol.
But then total total opposites in terms of interests and opinions also could cause problems, what would you talk about and you might always argue.
Balance is always best :up:

[ur_yusra]

Well I do believe that opposites attract. Your partner is your other half.. so all the qualities you lack its nice to see in your partner. For example if the sister is an intravert.. Im sure she'd like an extravert brother.. if one panics in a situation.. its nice to see the other calm (thats usually the guy)..

But at the same time when the charge is far too opposite they lose the attraction and start to repel. If two people both practising, have personalities that are so opposite that they find eachother revolting then thats where a problem could occur.

The middle path where you may have different personalities but have hobbies etc that you share, is quite ideal. One will never reach this ideal because there is noone out there who is absolutely perfect for you. However you can mould yourself so this middle path can be reached. You appreciate what your partner has to offer and you pick up things they are fond of.. you co-exist if you like..

Thats all very well.. but hmmm me thinks marriage is scary when both parties are stubborn :S

[MalikOne™]

Id say birds of a feather mostly..To me a partner is someone you can jam wit and relate to...u cant really jam wit someone who is on a diff level to you if u get what im sayin or doesent share the same mentality/interests as you. then again too much in common can be boring it has to be a balance.