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CHARATCTERISTIC OF THE BEST OF WOMENS
FROM A TAPE by Shaikh Saleem al Hilaalee
Verily Allah created us to worship Him, and He created everything in pairs (male and female) in order that life may continue and that His worship may be established. Allah says, "And Allah did create you (Aadam) from dust, then from Nutfah (male and female discharge semen drops i.e. Aadam's offspring), then He made you pairs (male and female)." (2)
Both the man and the woman have obligations and duties to fulfill, each one's duties in harmony with the other's; the woman's duties complete and perfect those of the man, and the man's duties complete and perfect those of the woman. From those qualities which Allah and His Messenger (SAWS) have praised, and which are required in a believing woman in order for her to perform her duties correctly, the greatest of these is the quality of her possessing the Deen.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her Deen. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." (3)
As for the husband, he should also be a righteous man, as the Prophet (SAWS) said, "When someone with whose Deen and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption". (4)
Indeed the Prophet (s) was sent to perfect the people's character, and he (SAWS) praised the woman who possesses these noble qualities of Deen and perfect character, saying that she is to a man the best possession in this world - "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." (5)
Allah has created the woman as a companio! n for the man, in order that they may live in this world performing their duties and observing Allah's commands correctly.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "I was sent to perfect good character,"(6) and, "Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well." (7)
In order to achieve success in this world and the Hereafter the woman must adopt this methodology of perfecting her character, beginning with those affairs concerning her home. The woman is an essential component in the building of the home in order that it may be established upon Taqwaa (fear of Allah & piety).
Allah says that those who believe say, "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of ! our eyes..." (8)
Thus, the correction of the household is the first step towards the correction of the society. THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN is the one who knows her responsibilities, her rights and obligations, and performs those acts which are obligatory upon her.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "If a woman prayed her five daily prayers, fasted in the month (of Ramadhaan), protected her private parts from illegal sexual intercourse, and obeyed her husband, it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise from whichever gate you like'," (9)
And he (SAWS) said, "Islam is based on (the following) five (principles): to testify that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah and that Muhammad is His Messenger, to offer the prayers dutifully and perfectly, to pay Zakaat, to perform Hajj, and to observe fast during the month of Ramadhaan." (10)
This is the first thing which the woman must take care of in all circumstances; whether difficulty, ease, pleasure or dislike - i.e. to perform the five obligatory pillars of Islam. Allah says, recorded in a hadeeth qudsi, "And the most beloved things with which My slave comes nearer to Me is what I have enjoined upon him." (11)
THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN should know the rights of her husband upon her and should obey him in all that is obedience to Allah. When Mu'aadh (RA) came to the Prophet (SAWS) and wanted to make sajdah (prostration) to him [as an act of respect], he (SAWS) stopped him and said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I should order a woman to prostrate herself before her husband." (12)
This is because of the great position of the husband with regards to
his wife. He (SAWS) also said, "Whenever a man calls his wife to their bed but she refuses to come, letting him spend the night angry with her, she is cursed by the angels until she relents." (13)
And he (SAWS) also said, "By the One in whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman has fulfilled her obligations to her Lord until she has fulfilled her obligations to her husband. Even if he were to! ask her for herself when she is mounted in the saddle, she would not refuse his request." (14)
These ahaadeeth emphasize the great responsibility of the woman to obey her husband in all that is in obedience to Allah, for surely
obedience to the husband is part of obedience to Allah. Allah has ordered the woman to be obedient to her husband and the Prophet (SAWS) praised the woman who brings happiness and pleasure to her husband.
He (SAWS) said, "Marry the loving and fertile, for I will compete with the other prophets with the number of my followers." (15)
This type of woman is the one through which a man would receive
happiness in his home and one who will raise a righteous family.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "Everyone of you is a guardian, and is responsible for what is in his custody. A lady is a guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it." (16)
And Allah (SWT) said, "And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance." (17)
By doing this, a woman can become of those truly obedient to Allah. It must be noted that obedience to the husband is mentioned as being only in those affairs which are good, i.e. only in that which complies with the shari'ah (Laws) of Allah. So, if he orders her to pray, fast, and take care of the home, then this is all good and she should obey him in doing so.
However, if he orders her with disobedience to Allah, then "There is no obedience to the creation when it involves disobedience to the Creator." (18)
So if he orders her to be neglectful of her prayers or in her fasting, or he wants her to beautify herself in a way which is not permissible, or to leave the house wearing perfume etc., then she should not obey him in this as this is disobedience to Allah.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "No obedience for evil deeds, obedience is required only in what is good." (19)
THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN should take care of and guard her ownself and her honour. Allah praised Maryam the mother of 'Isa (AS) for possessing this great quality of chastity. From this guarding of chastity comes many other affairs.
1. Lowering the gaze. Allah has ordered both the men and the women to lower their gaze and to protect their private parts. (20)
2. Not leaving the house wearing perfume or displaying ornaments. Allah has ordered the woman to cover herself up in order to protect her honour and chastity. It is the practise of jaahiliyyah (ignorance) for the women to go out uncovered, and they consider this to be
progress and liberation! Rather, it is from the ways of shaytaan(satan). Allah mentions in the Qur'aan that when shaytaan whispered to Aadam and Hawwa(eve), and they ate from the tree, their private parts became apparent to them.(21)
So the way of shaytaan is to make apparent and to display the 'aurah. Every society in which open displaying of the people's private parts is prolific is an evil society and is upon the path of destruction.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "When a woman applies perfume and then goes about in an assembly, she is like such and such i.e. an adulteress." (22)
THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN should not be one who is given to complaining and nagging, rather she should be one who brings happiness into the home. We can take an example from the story of Ibraaheem(Abraham) (AS), when he left his wife, Hajar, in Makkah. Hajar said to him, "Who has ordered you to do this?" Ibraaheem (AS) answered her, saying, "Verily, my Lord has ordered me to do this". So she said, "If this is Allah's order, then Allah will n! ever leave us and destroy us." A further example can be found in the story of Ismaa'eel (AS) and his wife. Ibraaheem (AS) continued to visit Hajar and his son Ismaa'eel (AS), until when his son had grown up and married he visited him at his home in Makkah. He knocked on the door and found that Ismaa'eel was not home. His wife was present but she did not recognise her husband's father. Ibraaheem (AS) began to question her as to her situation and whether or not she was contented etc. She replied that they were in a period of great poverty and trials, and she began complaining about her situation. So Ibraaheem (AS) said to her, "When Ismaa'eel (AS) returns, tell him to change the outer screen (lit. veil) of his house. So when Ismaa'eel (AS) returned, his wife informed him that an old man had visited him whilst he was out and that he had asked her about her situation, to which she replied as she had replied. Then she told him of the message Ibraaheem (AS) had left. Ismaa'eel (AS) then said to his wife, "Verily, it was! my father and he ordered me to divorce you." So he divorced her and married another woman. Some time later Ibraaheem (AS) came again to visit his son and again found that he was not home. So he asked Ismaa'eel's (AS) new wife about her situation and whether or not she was content. She replied, "Alhamdulillah. Allah has given us great blessings and given us all that we need," even though at the time she had absolutely nothing in her house. So, before Ibraaheem (AS) left he said, "Tell Ismaa'eel (AS) to keep the outer screen of his house." When Ismaa'eel (AS) returned, his wife told him of his visitor and what he had said. Ismaa'eel said, "That was my father and he told me to keep you as my wife." (23)
Note how Ibraaheem (AS) , this great Prophet of Allah, described the woman as the outer screen of the house. This is because she is the keeper and protector of the house and those affairs concerning it. Whoever enters the house does so by her permission and knowledge. The shayateen wish for the women ! to leave their homes in their beautification, leaving behind their clothing, so that when the people have taken their pleasure from them, then they turn away from them as if they were nothing. Rather, the woman is as Ibraaheem (AS) described her, as she is the one who takes care of the affairs of the home.
A poet once said, "The mother is (like) a school. If you take care of the mother, you take care of the whole society."
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "O women, you should give charity and ask for much forgiveness. For I saw you in bulk amongst the dwellers of Hell."
A wise lady among them said, "Why is it, Messenger of Allah, that our folk are in bulk in Hell?" He (SAWS) replied, "You curse too much and are ungrateful to your husbands. If one of you has a husband who is good to you ! for all of his life and then you see one thing from him which displeases you, you say 'Verily, he was never good to me at all'." (24)
So, as the intimate companion of her husband, the woman must ensure to take care of these affairs, for if she is good and righteous then the whole society becomes good. But if there are conflicts and disputes in the home, then this leads to the destruction of the society.
1. Taken from the tape 'Characteristics of the Best Women of Creation'
by Sheikh Saleem al-Hilaalee.
2. Suratu-Fatir (35):11.
3. Bukhaaree.
4. Tirmidhee, Nasaa'i & Ibn Maajah.
5. Saheehul-Jaami' 3407.
6. Al-Muwwatta Imaam Maalik.
7. Tirmidhee.
8. Suratul-Furqaan (25):74.
9. Saheehul-Jaami' 674.
10. Bukhaaree.
11. Bukhaaree.
12. Tirmidhee.
13. Bukhaaree & Muslim.
14. Ibn Maajah & Ahmad.
15. Abu Daawood & Nasaa'i.
16. Bukhaaree.
17. Suratul-Ahzab (33):33.
18. Related by Al-Baghaw! ee in Sharhus-Sunnah 10:44.
19. Bukhaaree.
20. Suratu-Nur (24):30-31.
21. Suratu-TaHa (20):121.
22. Tirmidhee, Abu Daawood & Nasaa'i.
23. Bukhaaree.
24. Muslim.
FROM A TAPE by Shaikh Saleem al Hilaalee
Verily Allah created us to worship Him, and He created everything in pairs (male and female) in order that life may continue and that His worship may be established. Allah says, "And Allah did create you (Aadam) from dust, then from Nutfah (male and female discharge semen drops i.e. Aadam's offspring), then He made you pairs (male and female)." (2)
Both the man and the woman have obligations and duties to fulfill, each one's duties in harmony with the other's; the woman's duties complete and perfect those of the man, and the man's duties complete and perfect those of the woman. From those qualities which Allah and His Messenger (SAWS) have praised, and which are required in a believing woman in order for her to perform her duties correctly, the greatest of these is the quality of her possessing the Deen.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her Deen. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." (3)
As for the husband, he should also be a righteous man, as the Prophet (SAWS) said, "When someone with whose Deen and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption". (4)
Indeed the Prophet (s) was sent to perfect the people's character, and he (SAWS) praised the woman who possesses these noble qualities of Deen and perfect character, saying that she is to a man the best possession in this world - "The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman." (5)
Allah has created the woman as a companio! n for the man, in order that they may live in this world performing their duties and observing Allah's commands correctly.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "I was sent to perfect good character,"(6) and, "Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their wives well." (7)
In order to achieve success in this world and the Hereafter the woman must adopt this methodology of perfecting her character, beginning with those affairs concerning her home. The woman is an essential component in the building of the home in order that it may be established upon Taqwaa (fear of Allah & piety).
Allah says that those who believe say, "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of ! our eyes..." (8)
Thus, the correction of the household is the first step towards the correction of the society. THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN is the one who knows her responsibilities, her rights and obligations, and performs those acts which are obligatory upon her.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "If a woman prayed her five daily prayers, fasted in the month (of Ramadhaan), protected her private parts from illegal sexual intercourse, and obeyed her husband, it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise from whichever gate you like'," (9)
And he (SAWS) said, "Islam is based on (the following) five (principles): to testify that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah and that Muhammad is His Messenger, to offer the prayers dutifully and perfectly, to pay Zakaat, to perform Hajj, and to observe fast during the month of Ramadhaan." (10)
This is the first thing which the woman must take care of in all circumstances; whether difficulty, ease, pleasure or dislike - i.e. to perform the five obligatory pillars of Islam. Allah says, recorded in a hadeeth qudsi, "And the most beloved things with which My slave comes nearer to Me is what I have enjoined upon him." (11)
THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN should know the rights of her husband upon her and should obey him in all that is obedience to Allah. When Mu'aadh (RA) came to the Prophet (SAWS) and wanted to make sajdah (prostration) to him [as an act of respect], he (SAWS) stopped him and said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I should order a woman to prostrate herself before her husband." (12)
This is because of the great position of the husband with regards to
his wife. He (SAWS) also said, "Whenever a man calls his wife to their bed but she refuses to come, letting him spend the night angry with her, she is cursed by the angels until she relents." (13)
And he (SAWS) also said, "By the One in whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman has fulfilled her obligations to her Lord until she has fulfilled her obligations to her husband. Even if he were to! ask her for herself when she is mounted in the saddle, she would not refuse his request." (14)
These ahaadeeth emphasize the great responsibility of the woman to obey her husband in all that is in obedience to Allah, for surely
obedience to the husband is part of obedience to Allah. Allah has ordered the woman to be obedient to her husband and the Prophet (SAWS) praised the woman who brings happiness and pleasure to her husband.
He (SAWS) said, "Marry the loving and fertile, for I will compete with the other prophets with the number of my followers." (15)
This type of woman is the one through which a man would receive
happiness in his home and one who will raise a righteous family.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "Everyone of you is a guardian, and is responsible for what is in his custody. A lady is a guardian of her husband's house and is responsible for it." (16)
And Allah (SWT) said, "And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance." (17)
By doing this, a woman can become of those truly obedient to Allah. It must be noted that obedience to the husband is mentioned as being only in those affairs which are good, i.e. only in that which complies with the shari'ah (Laws) of Allah. So, if he orders her to pray, fast, and take care of the home, then this is all good and she should obey him in doing so.
However, if he orders her with disobedience to Allah, then "There is no obedience to the creation when it involves disobedience to the Creator." (18)
So if he orders her to be neglectful of her prayers or in her fasting, or he wants her to beautify herself in a way which is not permissible, or to leave the house wearing perfume etc., then she should not obey him in this as this is disobedience to Allah.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "No obedience for evil deeds, obedience is required only in what is good." (19)
THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN should take care of and guard her ownself and her honour. Allah praised Maryam the mother of 'Isa (AS) for possessing this great quality of chastity. From this guarding of chastity comes many other affairs.
1. Lowering the gaze. Allah has ordered both the men and the women to lower their gaze and to protect their private parts. (20)
2. Not leaving the house wearing perfume or displaying ornaments. Allah has ordered the woman to cover herself up in order to protect her honour and chastity. It is the practise of jaahiliyyah (ignorance) for the women to go out uncovered, and they consider this to be
progress and liberation! Rather, it is from the ways of shaytaan(satan). Allah mentions in the Qur'aan that when shaytaan whispered to Aadam and Hawwa(eve), and they ate from the tree, their private parts became apparent to them.(21)
So the way of shaytaan is to make apparent and to display the 'aurah. Every society in which open displaying of the people's private parts is prolific is an evil society and is upon the path of destruction.
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "When a woman applies perfume and then goes about in an assembly, she is like such and such i.e. an adulteress." (22)
THE RIGHTEOUS WOMAN should not be one who is given to complaining and nagging, rather she should be one who brings happiness into the home. We can take an example from the story of Ibraaheem(Abraham) (AS), when he left his wife, Hajar, in Makkah. Hajar said to him, "Who has ordered you to do this?" Ibraaheem (AS) answered her, saying, "Verily, my Lord has ordered me to do this". So she said, "If this is Allah's order, then Allah will n! ever leave us and destroy us." A further example can be found in the story of Ismaa'eel (AS) and his wife. Ibraaheem (AS) continued to visit Hajar and his son Ismaa'eel (AS), until when his son had grown up and married he visited him at his home in Makkah. He knocked on the door and found that Ismaa'eel was not home. His wife was present but she did not recognise her husband's father. Ibraaheem (AS) began to question her as to her situation and whether or not she was contented etc. She replied that they were in a period of great poverty and trials, and she began complaining about her situation. So Ibraaheem (AS) said to her, "When Ismaa'eel (AS) returns, tell him to change the outer screen (lit. veil) of his house. So when Ismaa'eel (AS) returned, his wife informed him that an old man had visited him whilst he was out and that he had asked her about her situation, to which she replied as she had replied. Then she told him of the message Ibraaheem (AS) had left. Ismaa'eel (AS) then said to his wife, "Verily, it was! my father and he ordered me to divorce you." So he divorced her and married another woman. Some time later Ibraaheem (AS) came again to visit his son and again found that he was not home. So he asked Ismaa'eel's (AS) new wife about her situation and whether or not she was content. She replied, "Alhamdulillah. Allah has given us great blessings and given us all that we need," even though at the time she had absolutely nothing in her house. So, before Ibraaheem (AS) left he said, "Tell Ismaa'eel (AS) to keep the outer screen of his house." When Ismaa'eel (AS) returned, his wife told him of his visitor and what he had said. Ismaa'eel said, "That was my father and he told me to keep you as my wife." (23)
Note how Ibraaheem (AS) , this great Prophet of Allah, described the woman as the outer screen of the house. This is because she is the keeper and protector of the house and those affairs concerning it. Whoever enters the house does so by her permission and knowledge. The shayateen wish for the women ! to leave their homes in their beautification, leaving behind their clothing, so that when the people have taken their pleasure from them, then they turn away from them as if they were nothing. Rather, the woman is as Ibraaheem (AS) described her, as she is the one who takes care of the affairs of the home.
A poet once said, "The mother is (like) a school. If you take care of the mother, you take care of the whole society."
The Prophet (SAWS) said, "O women, you should give charity and ask for much forgiveness. For I saw you in bulk amongst the dwellers of Hell."
A wise lady among them said, "Why is it, Messenger of Allah, that our folk are in bulk in Hell?" He (SAWS) replied, "You curse too much and are ungrateful to your husbands. If one of you has a husband who is good to you ! for all of his life and then you see one thing from him which displeases you, you say 'Verily, he was never good to me at all'." (24)
So, as the intimate companion of her husband, the woman must ensure to take care of these affairs, for if she is good and righteous then the whole society becomes good. But if there are conflicts and disputes in the home, then this leads to the destruction of the society.
1. Taken from the tape 'Characteristics of the Best Women of Creation'
by Sheikh Saleem al-Hilaalee.
2. Suratu-Fatir (35):11.
3. Bukhaaree.
4. Tirmidhee, Nasaa'i & Ibn Maajah.
5. Saheehul-Jaami' 3407.
6. Al-Muwwatta Imaam Maalik.
7. Tirmidhee.
8. Suratul-Furqaan (25):74.
9. Saheehul-Jaami' 674.
10. Bukhaaree.
11. Bukhaaree.
12. Tirmidhee.
13. Bukhaaree & Muslim.
14. Ibn Maajah & Ahmad.
15. Abu Daawood & Nasaa'i.
16. Bukhaaree.
17. Suratul-Ahzab (33):33.
18. Related by Al-Baghaw! ee in Sharhus-Sunnah 10:44.
19. Bukhaaree.
20. Suratu-Nur (24):30-31.
21. Suratu-TaHa (20):121.
22. Tirmidhee, Abu Daawood & Nasaa'i.
23. Bukhaaree.
24. Muslim.