problem with infidelity

[sawan]

Salam, I have a question. I am doing higher studies abroad and I am living in the house one of my blood relatives for the summer vacation. The vacation is going to be very long and I do not have the option of moving out. This relative along with the other members of the family care for me and they took care of me and brought me up when I was young and my mother was doing her studies.
The relative who I am living with is married and her husband is away most of the time. And she uses a lot of time to talk on the phone with another man who is also married. They were friends before while doing their studies. The husband doesn’t seem to mind, and this friend sometimes helps her out and drops her off across town or wherever she needs to go, the thing is their friendship seems a bit overdone to me. For example, I noticed that when they leave in the car, even while I am with them, my relative sits in the front seat beside the other man, and even while joking, would it be permissible for the man to touch the woman even slightly even if it is by accident? The husband doesn’t seem to mind but I suppose he doesn’t know about these things, and what’s more he seems to be a little bit islamic as he prays now and then.
The man is married and has children. My relative also has children, and both families seem to get on fairly well. No one in my family except me is into Islam, the rest are mostly very modern and have a lifestyle. I don’t want to see the people who had brought me up be like this, but I cannot jeopardize my situation here as I have to stay somewhere for quite some time. Is it permissible for me as a Muslim to live in someone’s house who may be in a possible adulterous relationship?

[Unregistereded]

i am not by any means an authority on this, but my opinion would be if you have no other option then it would be permissible as long as you stay out of it and don't encourage it in any way. just try to be the best person YOU can and inshaallah maybe they will feel guilty and follow your good example. again, not the opinion of a scholar, just what i would think.

[ur_yusra]

How can you say the relationship is adulterous.. have you seen them committing adultery??

I think you should just tell your relative that you are concerned about this and tell them from an islamic viewpoint. This may take time but insha'Allah they'l come to understand..

['Inayah']

A relationship cannot be deemed adulterous until the act of adultery has been witnessed by 4 witnesses or a person involved confesses to it.

I don't know the exact hadith but there was a sahabah who came to the prophet (SAW) and confessed to adultery ... the prophet(SAW) walked away ... but the sahabah insisted on confessing and also on his punishment ... I think the prophet (SAW) tried to make excuses like perhaps you only kissed her or touched her and continued to walk away ... I believe the prophet(SAW) walked away several times before he(SAW) had no choice but to decree the sahabah be put to death as the sahabah would not retract the confession.

Please correct me (or give the actual wording of the hadith) if I am mistaken in anyway ... but I would think that the above would imply that kissing n touching is not adultery ... although they are sinful.

I think the best thing would be to do what ur yusra suggests.