serious question. Islam thoughts on funerals

[umm_huraiyrah]

This is a serious question. My health is not great so I'm trying to think of the future. Whats Islam's guidelines on Funerals, Burial? cremation?:confused:

:lailah:
Sister Habiba

[Emelianenko]

After death, Ghusl...Islamic bath..shrouding in 3 white sheets known as the Kafan...funeral prayer and then buried. :D any more Q's :p

[mgk81]

As salaamualaik,

its not only the sickly that should prepare, its all, but will keep u in my duahs and so too for all Insha-allah and Allah knows best.

The other thing in your signature i see u have convert muslim, rather put in muslim Insha-Allah :-)

On the basis of burial we keep it to the minimal thus its unislamic to cremate, etc to use money which could have been given to the needy or islamic instution or zakah fund or something like that, then to spend unnecessary costs.
Another reason is that all of us are put in the same way(wrapped in cloth) facing the Qiblah.
Dont know if thats what u needed to hear.

[bint]

This is a serious question. My health is not great so I'm trying to think of the future. Whats Islam's guidelines on Funerals, Burial? cremation?:confused:

:lailah:
Sister Habiba

im really sorry to hear that...

islamiclly we do not cremate..we have very simple burial..

there are 3 pices of white cloth u need..
a cofffin box
and if u wish u can have a tombstone providing it is kept simple..as its only meant to be a mark as where the actual body is in the graveyard..

u can also write a will..but the inheriatnce is according to shariah there is a set amount of wealth that goes to ure hubby kids..parnets..etc..
so u would have to consult a well learned practiced and experienced aalim for this..

if u want i can recommend someone to u..just pm me..and ill gif u details.inshallah.

and most importantly pray..jazakallah for this thread..it was a complete reminder for me persoanlly as i was reminded that i will die one day..:(

[PASHTUN WARRIOR]

salam alykum sister dana,
dana, the best way to find out is to ask an islamic scholar or go to website (www.islamqa.com) try to go to your local mosque and ask the sisters if they can help you out in the case you die. The sisters should be able to help you and explain you how everything is performed. Try to find a salafi (mostly arab) mosque, no sufi or shia mosque. inshallah, the people there will help you.
i found this for you.
Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly, it is obligatory to carry the deceased and follow the funeral. This is one of the rights that the dead Muslim has over the Muslims, which will bring great reward and virtue to the one who does it. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever attends the funeral from the house (of the deceased) [according to one report: whoever follows the funeral of a Muslim out of faith and the hope of reward] until the funeral prayer is offered will have one qeeraat, and whoever attends the funeral until the deceased is buried will have two qeeraats.” He was asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, what are the two qeeraats?” He said, “Like two huge mountains.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Janaa’iz, 1240).

It is not permitted to follow funerals in manners that go against the sharee’ah. That includes:

Crying or weeping in a loud voice; following it with incense (bukhoor) etc.; reciting dhikr in a loud voice in front of the coffin as it is being carried, because that is bid’ah – Qays ibn ‘Abbaad said: “The companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to regard it as makrooh to raise the voice in front of the coffin” – and because it is an imitation of the Christians.

Secondly: the burial

Muslims should not be buried with kaafirs, nor kaafirs with Muslims. The Muslim should be buried in the Muslim graveyard.

The Sunnah is to put the deceased into the grave from the end, then he should be turned onto his right side in the grave, with his face facing towards the qiblah. The one who puts him into the lahd (niche in the grave) should say, “Bismillaahi wa ‘ala sunnat Rasool-Allaahi or ‘ala millat Rasool-Allaahi (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) (In the name of Allaah and according to the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah or according to the religion of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)).”

(narrated by al-Tirmidhi, al-Janaa’iz 967; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 836)

It is mustahabb for those who are at the grave to throw handfuls of earth, three handfuls scooped up in both hands, after the lahd has been sealed.

After the burial is complete, there are several things which are Sunnah:

To make the grave a little higher than the ground, approximately a handspan, and not to make it level with the ground, so that it may be distinguished as a grave and respected, and not subjected to disrespect. It should be made approximately a handspan higher than the ground, and there is nothing wrong with placing a marker such as a stone or something similar, so that others of his family may be buried near him later on. Water should be sprinkled on the grave so that the soil will settle and not fly around. No one should stand by the grave telling the deceased that he will be questioned soon etc., as is the custom among some people Rather people should stand at the grave and pray for the deceased to be made steadfast and for forgiveness for him. Those who are present should be told to do this, because of the hadeeth of ‘Uthmaan ibn ‘Affaan (may Allaah be pleased with him), who said: “When the deceased had been buried, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would stand by (the grave) and say: ‘Pray for forgiveness for your brother and ask for him to be made steadfast, for even now is he being questioned.’” (narrated by Abu Dawood, al-Janaa’iz, 2804; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 2758).

Nothing of the Qur’aan should be recited at the graveside, because this is bid’ah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not do this, and neither did his noble Companions. It is haraam to build up graves or to plaster them or to write anything on them, because Jaabir said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade us to plaster graves with gypsum, to sit on them or to build anything over them.” (Narrated by Muslim, al-Janaa’iz, 1610. According to Abu Dawood, “He forbade us to plaster graves with gypsum, to write on them or to step on them.” (al-Janaa’iz, 3226. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, 2763)

Thirdly:

It is prescribed in Islam to offer condolences to the family of the deceased. This should take the form of whatever is thought will bring them consolation, stem their grief and help them to be patient. Condolences should be offered in the manner reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) if one can remember that, otherwise in whatever good words come easily to one which will achieve the same purpose and which do not go against Islam. It was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “To Allaah belongs that which He has taken and that which He gives, and with Him everything has an appointed end, so be patient and seek reward.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, al-Janaa’iz, 1204)

Two things must be avoided:

Gathering to offer condolences, even though the people do that.

The family of the deceased preparing food to offer to those who come to offer condolences.

The Sunnah is for the relatives and neighbours of the deceased to make food enough for the bereaved family. And Allaah knows best.

For more information see Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz by al-Albaani (may Allaah have mercy on him), and al-Mulakhkhas al-Fiqhi by al-Fawzaan (213-216).

inshallah we see you in jannah sister dana :rolleyes:

[bint]

how about she just goes to the mosk that her husband uses? rather than guiding her somewhere else?i mean ure just confusing her like that.

[PASHTUN WARRIOR]

that is what i said, but maybe her husband died or she is not married. that is why i said that she should go to the local mosque and find a sister.

there is no confusion...

[bint]

that is what i said, but maybe her husband died or she is not married. that is why i said that she should go to the local mosque and find a sister.

there is no confusion...

oh lol okay...my bad:up:

[John The Revelator]

This is a serious question. My health is not great so I'm trying to think of the future. Whats Islam's guidelines on Funerals, Burial? cremation?:confused:

:lailah:
Sister Habiba
Cremation is not allowed.

[umm_huraiyrah]

how about she just goes to the mosk that her husband uses? rather than guiding her somewhere else?i mean ure just confusing her like that.
Assalam Alaokum!
My husabnd is not muslim.........yet. Inshallah he'll be guided the right path.


Sister Habiba

[umm_huraiyrah]

Salam Alaikum!

Peace blessings and merci upon you all for youre kindness and guidence! Ameen!

Hmmmm wonder if Oklahoma has any Muslim Cemeteries????? :confused: None in my town thats for sure!!!:lailah:

Sister Habiba

[Arsalan]

Salam

I wish you a speedy return to health.

Read this

http://www.inter-islam.org/Actions/actionsdex.htm

click on the link

Janazah - Funeral Prayers And Burial Rights (Talimul-Haq - Part 10) (http://www.inter-islam.org/Actions/Part10.html)

[sisterKhadija]

Assalaam Alakium,

go to http://www.muslimconverts.com

On the left side scroll bar there is a link to creat an Islamic Will. I read it before and it is GOOD! She also has a lot of info which would be of help.

You and your Husband are always in my prayers :inlove: :hidban:

Salaam,
SisterKhadija

[umm_huraiyrah]

Salam

I wish you a speedy return to health.

Read this

http://www.inter-islam.org/Actions/actionsdex.htm

click on the link

Janazah - Funeral Prayers And Burial Rights (Talimul-Haq - Part 10) (http://www.inter-islam.org/Actions/Part10.html)
salam!

Shokran for the very informative sites!!! May Allah bring peace,merci and blessings for youre kindness. Ameen

Sister Habiba

[banglabhai]

Sister Habiba

nice name :)

[umm_huraiyrah]

nice name :)
Yeah some akhi's got togather and came up with that one :up:

[umm_huraiyrah]

Thanks sister Khadija!! I went there and read the will that what got me curious EXACTLY how a muslim funeral was done.

Sister Habiba

[|zdihaar]

Here is a flash on Washing & Shrouding The Deceased (http://english.islamway.com/flashpage.php?id=4&cat=1&file_name=DeadWash&width=782&hight=438)

And one on Funeral Procession & Burial (http://english.islamway.com/flashpage.php?id=6&cat=1&file_name=EnglishDafen&width=782&hight=438)