Question of Divorce answered

[Marwan]

Islamic question regarding divorce answered by Shaykh Marwan al-Kanadaee

I don't understand why a woman who divorces her first husband, has to marry another man and divorce the other man before re-marrying her first husband. Does anybody know the reasoning behind this?

Also, is the requirement the same for males?

It is the counterbalancing act that is ever present in Islam. In all aspects. When a privilige or right is given to one person or party, severe checks are put. The right to divorce is given to a man but its reversal is not as to prevent men from playing a game with divorce. The condition as well is GENIUSLY having to do with a man's wife having to marry someone else which reaches to the very core of man's natural characteristic of jealousy and pride. It is saying to a man "You divorce your wife, you can not go back to her, you will have to pay her and she can marry another man. "
Man has also been given the right to marry more than one woman, again removing incentive for divorce. For the same reason, the requirement is not the same for the man as he can remarry anyways.

Questions like these make us think and appreciate the phenomenal harmony of Islam.

-Sheikh Marwan

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[puella]

are you answering these questions or u getting ans from elsewhre?..coz i have one

[muslimahonline]

Assalamu'alaikum wrh wbt,

After a woman has been divorced THREE times, she would have to marry another man before remarrying on condiiton that her second marriage was genuine, meaning they both do it for the right reasons, not for the sake of 'renewing' her first marriage. They would also have to consumate the marriage and stay at least 6 months together.

This would certainly scare MOST men. Its not easy for a man to accept a wife that has been married to another man before and remarrying your own wife after she married another is even worst. As I would like to put it, Its like a warning for men not to divorced their wives so easily and if they do then its a lesson they would have to learn. Three things you cant play around with, marriage, divorce and freeing a slave.

Wallau a'lam

Wassalaamu'alaikum wrh wbt

[Marwan]

are you answering these questions or u getting ans from elsewhre?..coz i have one

This is just my take on it. Someone asked this question to me on MSN, and I answered it on the forum for him to see.

[puella]

ok then i have q for u, lets say a couple split up and the husban drefuses to present the wife with an islamic divorce...this carries on for approx three years or so...eventually he agrees to divorce her..so then
a) does he have to pay maintenance for her during that time
b) does she still have to observe the idaa period as she is obviously not with child and alhamdulilah is devoid of any feelings for her husband?...as in my mind the purpose of the idaa period is to recover from the marriage whichthe wife will obviously have done during her three years separation

Alhamdulilah, this is not about myself but something that intrigued me when i was reading about divorce

[peace2u]

good questions but you should really ask an imam or sheikh, someone who is qualified to answer and give you daleel for his answers.


Peace