I dunno why we worry a lot about marriage...

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

It's bizarre but i never used to think about marriage much but over the past few months i thought the word a lot :p Due to pressure and all the other stuff that comes with being of a 'marriageable age' i became worried like what if i don't find the right brother, what if this happens in our marriage, what if.... the list seems endless.

Alhamdulillah over the past few weeks i've been thinking on parallel tracks and i'm not worried at all about marriage, Allah knows who we are going to marry and Allah loves His slaves dearly :love: , so instead of spending all this time, some spend years :eek: worrying about 'your future spouse' just leave it all to Allah :insha: you won't be dissapointed. :love: Dua is very important, i know one day Allah will bless us all with great spouses :insha: if we don't have one already :)

And even if one feels hurt/dissapointed at one time because something occured which meant they weren't able to marry, or weren't able to marry the one they thought they loved.... LAA TAHZAN- don't be sad. Allah in His infinite wisdom knows what we don't.

LOL i actually thought i was ready for marriage a few months back but Allah in His infinite wisdom and generosity is looking after me i feel i'm clearly not ready for that big step, in fact right now i'm away from my parents and i seriously can't wait to get back and be daddy's little girl and Mummy's gem again :D

So don't worry about the marriage thing, i know a lot of youths do spend a lot of time worrying about the whole topic and concept :) Keep making Dua to Allah and He will Bless you with a great person :) :love: :insha:

Remember everything happens for a reason and Allah tests those whom He loves. :love:


:salams

[MMS]

i only want to get married so i have a mehrem to travel with :p atm i dont get out of the house much, can get abit depressing.
First thing i wanna do is go see Madinah iA :D

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

i only want to get married so i have a mehrem to travel with :p atm i dont get out of the house much, can get abit depressing.
First thing i wanna do is go see Madinah iA :D

SubhanAllah me too!

The Mahrems i have are too busy or the timing is not convenient, i also think a hubby will be a great 'spacker deflector' (IG word :p ). Basically when creepy guys come to annoy me, a hubby by my side would be a great asset :D

I can't find any other use for him right now, lol i told you i'm not ready :D

But MashaAllah an extra Mahrem would be nice!

:salams

[ur_yusra]

i only want to get married so i have a mehrem to travel with :p atm i dont get out of the house much, can get abit depressing.
First thing i wanna do is go see Madinah iA :D

Very good point..

I think thats the case with alot of sisters..

[Emelianenko]

Very good point..

I think thats the case with alot of sisters..
Purpose of Marriage for a sis: So they can get out and about :p :eek3: :rotfl:

[ur_yusra]

Purpose of Marriage for a sis: So they can get out and about :p :eek3: :rotfl:

erm ... yeah..

shopping in oxford street isnt the same without a mahram..

who else is gnna take out their credit card.. :up:

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams


:D LOL

There's nothing wrong with going out with your husband/wife :D

I don't want his credit card, i want his library card! i could take an extra 15 books out to read :inlove:

:salams

[.: Anna :.]

This is a nice post masha allah lol. It's true... we worry too much. I also used to worry a lot about this topic lol :embar: thinking where and how am I gna find a decent person worth marrying?! then alhamdulillah b4 I even started looking I found one lol... sometimes it is like that :up:

loool @ u want his library card, thats so sweet :p masha allah

[Cashew]

I don't think there's much point to worrying about marriage, but I do think it's very important to take time to seriously consider what you're looking for in a spouse and the sort of homelife you want to share with someone.

When I look at the most successful marriages I've known, what I've noticed is that they were marriages in which the couple had shared well-defined goals, such as, "We want to make sure our children get the best Roman Catholic education possible," or, "We want to make enough money so we can afford to buy a home outside the city so our kids can have room to play."

The reason this works is that, when a couple shares goals, they become more like a "team."

And when a couple acts as a team, it's easier to set aside differences and disagreements. In other words, the team and its goals are more important than the individual.

I think this really helps a lot. Especially, if you plan on having more than one child.

[.: Anna :.]

Yeah Cashew those things are important once u have found someone or some people that ur considering :p

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Yeah Cashew those things are important once u have found someone or some people that ur considering :p

Exactly, the worrying part is the way people worry about not find that 'special person' cuz technically that's not worrying because Allah looks after us so no worries :D

:salams

[muslimah85]

mashallah IG this is great!

seems the advice worked! :D :love:

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Dua is a powerful tool for the Believer. :love:

:salams

[lantern]

gud post ... lol yep, i reckon marriage is one o dem tings on d mind, worrying niggling thought ... ders a sea full o ppl, how will dat "speshl person" eva find u??!! d worse is how dya kno your ready for marriage?? r der signs?? dya jus sit bak nd wait for your parents to tell u?? wot if der waitin for you to say u wna get marrid?? uh oh... do i sownd wurrid?? lol!! i mek dua for us all man!!

[MG]

This is a nice post masha allah lol. It's true... we worry too much. I also used to worry a lot about this topic lol thinking where and how am I gna find a decent person worth marrying?! then alhamdulillah b4 I even started looking I found one lol... sometimes it is like that :up:

loool @ u want his library card, thats so sweet :p masha allah


awww mashallah sis :D

im still at the worrying stage :embar:

i jus want two "Book-Shopping" trips a month .......not much that im asking :D

[nsr_kid]

lol subhanllah intresting post :up:
Im 18 but allhumdulillah im married, even though we dnt live together as yet, due to both of us studying in darul uloom etc, but its great to know that u have some1 who has ure back an vise versa. Always pray to Allah that thier is compatibilty between the u and ure partner. Lol my wifes a black belt, has a 600cc motorbike, memorized the quran and it becoming an alimah, but the best bit is that ive got the exact same lol. Once u thiers compatibility then, Subhanllah u have jannah in this world :inlove:
This sounds crazy but, lol we love sparring (fighting as a joke) wiv each other, cause we're both black belt even though it get a little chanllanging sumtimes lol but ALLHUMDULILLAH :up: I could not do enough shukr for what Allah has given me. So the moral is, MAKE DUA :up:

[imran1976]

worry' arey no need to worry. just expect good & make Dua and everything will be fine :up:

[Niqaabi]

Yep i need a mahram to travel with, who needs a husband? :rolleyes:

[K@M]

Some of you lot want husbands JUST so you can have a mahrem? I hope you are joking because that is not the purpose of marriage, and if you go in expecting just that don't be suprised if your guy goes and starts checking out other women, but you wouldnt mind that right, after all, he is out with you as a mahrem and thats all you wanted.

What would you lot think if the guy who you were maryying only wanted you just so you could cook for him. And btw, this wasn't aimed at anyone.

On another note, people are worrying about marriage? Man, I can't wait for it (inshaAllah) :D

[ur_yusra]

Some of you lot want husbands JUST so you can have a mahrem? I hope you are joking because that is not the purpose of marriage, and if you go in expecting just that don't be suprised if your guy goes and starts checking out other women, but you wouldnt mind that right, after all, he is out with you as a mahrem and thats all you wanted.

What would you lot think if the guy who you were maryying only wanted you just so you could cook for him. And btw, this wasn't aimed at anyone.

On another note, people are worrying about marriage? Man, I can't wait for it (inshaAllah) :D

hmmm.. u know I wasnt actually joking.. :S

of course there are other benefits.. but thats the main one I think.. :scratch:

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

:love: LAA TAHZAN :D :love:

:salams

[K@M]

So you don't want to do it because its Sunnah? You don't want to do it because its "half your imaan", you dont want to do it because your husband is your way to Jannah? You dont want him to be your best friend aswell?

OK, fair enough, I'm guessing you don't really want to get married, and thats cool. But if you go into your marriage just wanting that from him, dont tell him that or you won't get much back..

[Niqaabi]

There is nothing wrong with getting married because you need a mahram.
Just like there is nothing wrong with getting married because you want to complete half your deen.
And there is nothing wrong with getting married because you have certain desires that need to be fulfilled.

All these things are connected with Islam, it is better for a woman to get married and travel, then her to travel by herself.
It is better for a man/woman to get married to complete half their deen so :insha: it brings them closer to Allah.
And it is better for a man/woman to get married instead of commiting fornication.

Just because your intention to marry isnt because "i am deeply in love" doesnt mean you will be a lazy wife and not carry out your duties towards your husband thus leading him to find a second wife.
And just because a guy wants to get married so his wife can cook for him when he comes home doesnt mean he will be a bad husband, he would just like a warm home to come to.

Many muslim youth are being brainwashed slightly by the west and thinking marriage should always be because "you both love each other", and any other intention or reason gives the marriage a no purpose.
But as muslims, our marriage firstly should be fisabeelillah, as every action is for Allah.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Some of you lot want husbands JUST so you can have a mahrem? I hope you are joking because that is not the purpose of marriage, and if you go in expecting just that don't be suprised if your guy goes and starts checking out other women, but you wouldnt mind that right, after all, he is out with you as a mahrem and thats all you wanted.



I'll never forgive him and i'd poke his eyes out with my trusted compass if he even gazes at another women like that :mujahida:

Darn my Italian blood is showing :rolleyes:

:salams

[K@M]

The reason seemed a bit :scratch: to me but if its allowed in Islam, then I'll accept it. And the reasons I did name were feesabililah. All I was saying was people want the perfect spouse and then whats the point of having the perfect person if all you are going to use them for is to travel with.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

You've been disillusioned br k@m there's no such thing as the perfect spouse here on earth anymore. We all have flaws.

:salams

[Niqaabi]

:start:

:salams



I'll never forgive him and i'd poke his eyes out with my trusted compass if he even gazes at another women like that :mujahida:

Darn my Italian blood is showing :rolleyes:

:salams
LOL, i think i'd poke his eyes out too! LOL but then i wouldnt want to be married to someone who looks at other women :(
I mean if a man wants to gaze and check out a woman, it should be his wife right? why some next woman?

And although a lot of people here have said they want to marry becaus they need a mahram to travel with, no one said they would only use them for this purpose. I am sure someone people dont want to get personal and go into detail :rolleyes:

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams



And although a lot of people here have said they want to marry becaus they need a mahram to travel with, no one said they would only use them for this purpose. I am sure someone people dont want to get personal and go into detail :rolleyes:

Exactly, some one feels they need to marry to avoid falling into sin, we wouldn't say 'he's only marrying cuz he feels horny' would we?

Cuz as you've said lets not go into detail :)

A Mahrem would be advantage, thank Allah we think like this and not 'Oh man another guy would be more overcrowding and my independance would be gone' etc. :rolleyes:

:salams

[K@M]

:start:

:salams

You've been disillusioned br k@m there's no such thing as the perfect spouse here on earth anymore. We all have flaws.

:salams
All I was saying was people want the perfect spouse and then whats the point of having the perfect person if all you are going to use them for is to travel with.
:)

And although a lot of people here have said they want to marry becaus they need a mahram to travel with, no one said they would only use them for this purpose.

And I'm sorry, I read it as they only wanted a husband for this purpose and thats the only reason they would marry and thats all they would use them for, my mistake.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams


I've lost my compass :eek:

:salams

[Niqaabi]

:start:

:salams



Exactly, some one feels they need to marry to avoid falling into sin, we wouldn't say 'he's only marrying cuz he feels horny' would we?

Cuz as you've said lets not go into detail :)

A Mahrem would be advantage, thank Allah we think like this and not 'Oh man another guy would be more overcrowding and my independance would be gone' etc. :rolleyes:

:salams
Yup a brother should be happy that a girl wants to marry because "I would like to make hijrah and i cant do that untill i have a mahram" then "no thanks i dont want to marry, im going travelling all by myself"

It shows that the girl is following the commands of her Lord and that she does care about herself not to fall into the sin and put herself in danger.
And like we both said we dont want to get into detail, but there is actually nothing wrong with marrying because of the S word. Its actually natural for that to be a reason :rolleyes::embar:

*runs away before someone says :eek:*

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

:insha: i won't ever have to use the compass :)

:salams

[imran1976]

lol, a good thread on the benefits of getting married :D

[lantern]

mashaA ... hmmm i dint mean worrid bowt bein marrid, marrid lyf sownd wonderful, lyk in d Quran descryb husband and wife as garments, dats how close, nd luvin nd warm der r (awww, beautiful!!:inlove: ) but rather wurrid bowt gettin married ... lyk fyndin d ryt person (without oversteppin shar'i boundaries), knowin he's Mr Ryt, nd d rest ...onc ur past base 1, ur ok ... but base 1 is kinda wurryin!!
Some of you lot want husbands JUST so you can have a mahrem? I hope you are joking because that is not the purpose of marriage, and if you go in expecting just that don't be suprised if your guy goes and starts checking out other women, but you wouldnt mind that right, after all, he is out with you as a mahrem and thats all you wanted.

What would you lot think if the guy who you were maryying only wanted you just so you could cook for him. And btw, this wasn't aimed at anyone.

On another note, people are worrying about marriage? Man, I can't wait for it (inshaAllah) :D

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

awww mashallah sis :D

im still at the worrying stage :embar:

i jus want two "Book-Shopping" trips a month .......not much that im asking :D

I think those demands are fine :up:
:D

:salams

[Emelianenko]

mashaA ... hmmm i dint mean worrid bowt bein marrid, marrid lyf sownd wonderful, lyk in d Quran descryb husband and wife as garments, dats how close, nd luvin nd warm der r (awww, beautiful!!:inlove: ) but rather wurrid bowt gettin married ... lyk fyndin d ryt person (without oversteppin shar'i boundaries), knowin he's Mr Ryt, nd d rest ...onc ur past base 1, ur ok ... but base 1 is kinda wurryin!!


:rotfl:

WooOOOOOoOOOoooO LaDoOoOO GoT CmPteTn LaK LooOlOoOOOOOOOOoooOL

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams


MArriage topics are always a hit :D


Need i say more? :)

:salams

[Niqaabi]

Yeah why cant divorce be just as big :p

LOL

[lantern]

:rotfl:

WooOOOOOoOOOoooO LaDoOoOO GoT CmPteTn LaK LooOlOoOOOOOOOOoooOL


dat english?? lol i honestly dnt kno wot u written

[baba]

K@M,

Masha-Allah, judging by your posts on the forum and the glint in your eye, you are quite a character.

It was unfortunate - more so taking the glint into consideration - that we didn't get a chance to talk on the Evening of Inspiration. The Evening really took it's toll on my legs and feet, particularly since I couldn't wear trainers, and my shoulders from carrying things about. By Allah I really appreciated being married when I came home that night! :D

Anyway, we do need to arrange a meet-up quite soon. Perhaps in Tooting, where numerous opportunities exist for a "fat munch"?

In any case, I must trace the source of that glint in your eye and was disappointed not to see you on Monday. I was wondering if the glint was indicative of intentions for marriage and possible plans for action :D

Will call you to arrange :D


Fi amanillah,


Mohammed

P.S. On second thoughts this post has turned out to be a personal message to K@M, so should have been PM'd. But oh well.

[Bachooobaka]

The main reason for getting married would be to help one another face the journey to paradise.

[ur_yusra]

The main reason for getting married would be to help one another face the journey to paradise.

yeh.. very true.. inshaAllah :up:

[sawan]

Marriage Marriage Marriage
Wife Wife Wife
NOW NOW NOW

:D j/king


The main reason for getting married would be to help one another face the journey to paradise.

how many ways are mentioned marriage help to get into paradise ?

[ur_yusra]

Marriage Marriage Marriage
Wife Wife Wife
NOW NOW NOW

:D j/king

:rolleyes: ....

[MalikOne™]

Yeh its true most sistas are on lock and they have to be back real early or all hell will be raised etc etc because they dont have a mehrem to travel wid- whilst we have a license to go where we want- stay out as late as we want :D....I feel sorry for sistas :p

[puella]

Yeah why cant divorce be just as big :p

LOL

divorce tends to be a taboo subject though isnt it..or is it??

Alhamdulilah i am pleased to see so many young minds so aware of the intricacies of marriage..i was completely clueless about it before mine..yes of course everyone knows about the islamic textbook marraige thing, the obedience of a wife, the ruling-the-roost of the husband etc etc but putting that into practice requires an enormous amount of devotion and strength, honesty, trust etc....and i think its right that we worry about marriage because when choosing a spouse one will be more aware about what they (the spouse) should be about.

[puella]

Yeh its true most sistas are on lock and they have to be back real early or all hell will be raised etc etc because they dont have a mehrem to travel wid- whilst we have a license to go where we want- stay out as late as we want :D....I feel sorry for sistas :p

its even worse i guess when you do have a mahram ( in the form of a husband) and you are not able to go out with them in terms of, he refuses to take you out anywhere

[MalikOne™]

its even worse i guess when you do have a mahram ( in the form of a husband) and you are not able to go out with them in terms of, he refuses to take you out anywhere

You always have to think negativley innit :rolleyes:

[puella]

simply stating the fact my dear brother!...take it as a personal experience relating lesson!

[MG]

:start:





I think those demands are fine :up:
:D

:salams

:salams

;) i knew you would agree :p

actually, i think i would want it in my marriage contract, "2 book-shopping trips a month (even if we have had an argument and are not speaking) :D"

among other things.

wa alaikum asalaam

[MG]

Yeh its true most sistas are on lock and they have to be back real early or all hell will be raised etc etc because they dont have a mehrem to travel wid- whilst we have a license to go where we want- stay out as late as we want :D....I feel sorry for sistas :p

hmmmm...i had the unfortunate time of being out (not my decision may i add) out at midnight, travelling home (from brum ;) ) and had a drunk nearly fall me, sit with drunks on the train home :(

saw an unconscious drunk being dragged on the platform by his mates, people constantly swearing cos of whatevea they been drinking...yuk, sent shivers down my spine. My home never seemed more appealing to me, then it did at that time :)

so i feel sorry for you brothers, CHOOSING to be out among these foolish and blind people, ill sit at home anytime thanks !! :D

[MG]

its even worse i guess when you do have a mahram ( in the form of a husband) and you are not able to go out with them in terms of, he refuses to take you out anywhere

if a husband is making his decisions from an islamic perspective then im sure he would hve a good reson for saying no to taking u out?

if he hasnt got a good reason for saying no, then i think it would be our job as a wife to point this out, (and i dont mean nag him to death) :p

[MalikOne™]

hmmmm...i had the unfortunate time of being out (not my decision may i add) out at midnight, travelling home (from brum ;) ) and had a drunk nearly fall me, sit with drunks on the train home :(

saw an unconscious drunk being dragged on the platform by his mates, people constantly swearing cos of whatevea they been drinking...yuk, sent shivers down my spine. My home never seemed more appealing to me, then it did at that time :)

so i feel sorry for you brothers, CHOOSING to be out among these foolish and blind people, ill sit at home anytime thanks !! :D

Yeh but its cool cos we can handle them :cool:

I need a car :( public transport at night sucks :| actually public transport sucks full stop

[muslimah85]

lol subhanllah intresting post :up:
Im 18 but allhumdulillah im married, even though we dnt live together as yet, due to both of us studying in darul uloom etc, but its great to know that u have some1 who has ure back an vise versa. Always pray to Allah that thier is compatibilty between the u and ure partner. Lol my wifes a black belt, has a 600cc motorbike, memorized the quran and it becoming an alimah, but the best bit is that ive got the exact same lol. Once u thiers compatibility then, Subhanllah u have jannah in this world :inlove:
This sounds crazy but, lol we love sparring (fighting as a joke) wiv each other, cause we're both black belt even though it get a little chanllanging sumtimes lol but ALLHUMDULILLAH :up: I could not do enough shukr for what Allah has given me. So the moral is, MAKE DUA :up:
aaw Mashallah Thats So Sweet may Allah Swt Bless Your Marriage Inshallah :love:

[MG]

Yeh but its cool cos we can handle them :cool:

I need a car :( public transport at night sucks :| actually public transport sucks full stop

violence isnt the answer ...plus why ptu yourself thru all that wen u could be sitting in teh comfort of your own home? very strange indeed ...

[bint]

yeah thats sweet..sounds like a couple from heaven..he he

anyways..most people worry cos they dont wanna end up with problems in their marriage..guy doesnt want a demanding wife and the wife..remains a wife!:rubeyes: ye so anyways..urmm..persoanllay i worry about the personality clashes..im an upbeat person...im adventurous..i like going out and making a difference but obviously according to shariah..i mean who said we women in ninja cant do anything? thats just pure baqwaas..but at the same time..oh actually i dont think i shall go on..sounds like shadi.com:scratch:weird huh? anyways..i guess that s it!did i even make sense?:rolleyes:

[muslimah85]

off topic but my fave poem of all time :love:


A moment of happiness,
you and I sitting on the verandah,
apparently two, but one in soul, you and I.
We feel the flowing water of life here,
you and I, with the garden's beauty
and the birds singing.
The stars will be watching us,
and we will show them
what it is to be a thin crescent moon.
You and I unselfed, will be together,
indifferent to idle speculation, you and I.
The parrots of heaven will be cracking sugar
as we laugh together, you and I.

In one form upon this earth, and in another form in a timeless sweet land.



(J Rumi)

[MalikOne™]

...plus why ptu yourself thru all that wen u could be sitting in teh comfort of your own home? very strange indeed ...

If uv got a car ur not really gonna bump in2 those type of ppl. Plus Home is boring :D

[MG]

If uv got a car ur not really gonna bump in2 those type of ppl. Plus Home is boring :D


home is great!!

omg! wen i go out i itch to go home! put my feet up! read, play computer games, entertain guests, cook ..ooohh love it love it.

driving a car sounds boring, and u dont escape the dru ks that easy, their the ones that walk in front of your car, or cut u up and abuse YOU :D

[bint]

nahh ure wromg sis...when u drive..u get a great breather..think and talk to ureself..or just let go!and playing computer games..lol.mg :D

[MG]

nahh ure wromg sis...when u drive..u get a great breather..think and talk to ureself..or just let go!and playing computer games..lol.mg :D

Driving = Stress in London

computer games, lol, oh yes, another reason i wanna get married , so my hubbie can kill the bosses on some levels of the game, cos some of them are hard :(

[(*_Hamzah]

:salams

I must admit I worry allot, :insha: I’ll be able to emulate the Prophet :saw: and be best of man.

Allah Hafiz

[bint]

Driving = Stress in London

computer games, lol, oh yes, another reason i wanna get married , so my hubbie can kill the bosses on some levels of the game, cos some of them are hard :(#



oooh stress

i get ya

[MG]

#



oooh stress

i get ya

i knew you would understand :up:

[K@M]

K@M,

Masha-Allah, judging by your posts on the forum and the glint in your eye, you are quite a character.

It was unfortunate - more so taking the glint into consideration - that we didn't get a chance to talk on the Evening of Inspiration. The Evening really took it's toll on my legs and feet, particularly since I couldn't wear trainers, and my shoulders from carrying things about. By Allah I really appreciated being married when I came home that night! :D

Anyway, we do need to arrange a meet-up quite soon. Perhaps in Tooting, where numerous opportunities exist for a "fat munch"?

In any case, I must trace the source of that glint in your eye and was disappointed not to see you on Monday. I was wondering if the glint was indicative of intentions for marriage and possible plans for action :D

Will call you to arrange :D

Fi amanillah,

Mohammed
P.S. On second thoughts this post has turned out to be a personal message to K@M, so should have been PM'd. But oh well.
Baba,

Masha-Allah, judging by your posts on the forum and the smile on your face, you are quite the happy guy.

It was unfortunate- more so taking the smile into consideration - that I didn't get to talk to you properly on that night either. The evening took its toll on my iman and by Allah I would have realy appreciated it if I had a wife at home that night! :D

But anyways, indeed we need to meet up soon inshaAllah to have a fat munch. I don't really like eating but you can do the munching and I'll do all the talking. And there's only one thing I'm gong to be talking about :D

I must find the source to the smile and I'm sorry I was unable to meet you that Monday, I had college but would like to meet up with you soon inshaAllah. I was wondering if that smile was indicative of life after marriage and benefits of the action :D

I await your call,
Fi amanillah,
Your brother in Islam
K@M

P.S. On second thoughts this post has turned out to be a personal message to Baba, so should have been PM'd. But ah well, you know how it is.

[K@M]

OK, I don't know why I just did that so do't ask, I'm feeling a little @). On a serious note, jazakAllah hu khair akhi Baba for the kind words, I love you for the sake of Allah. Although what is this glint you talk about mr married one. It was probably just the lighting in the room.

And possible plans for action? Lol, no way man, as much as I would probably like to, realistically, I know I'm way too young.Maybe in a few months or a year or so we'll see. Anyways, the person would have to be really really super duper special..

On the level though, we gota meet soon inshaAllah. just ring a ding me and don't fall for the voicemail.

p.s if you're looking to get me married to one of your cousins, it ain't happening ;)

[.: Anna :.]

lol no it was ibn khattab who was after the cousin, and now she has been taken. too late! lol

[Guardian Hijab]

Driving = Stress in London

computer games, lol, oh yes, another reason i wanna get married , so my hubbie can kill the bosses on some levels of the game, cos some of them are hard :(
lol!

I never thought of that! Good point sis:D

[lantern]

ok, a question, dis ones for the guyz and the gyalz ...
define married life?? women xpect full access to library card and credit card and holidayz!! guyz xpect a hot meal- hmmm ... will pot noodles do??

[baba]

No, Pot Noodles will not suffice. And women don't necessarily expect frequent holidays and "full access" to your cards. But of course they should expect to have what is reasonable.

[baba]

OK, I don't know why I just did that so do't ask, I'm feeling a little @). On a serious note, jazakAllah hu khair akhi Baba for the kind words, I love you for the sake of Allah. Although what is this glint you talk about mr married one. It was probably just the lighting in the room.

And possible plans for action? Lol, no way man, as much as I would probably like to, realistically, I know I'm way too young.Maybe in a few months or a year or so we'll see. Anyways, the person would have to be really really super duper special..

On the level though, we gota meet soon inshaAllah. just ring a ding me and don't fall for the voicemail.

p.s if you're looking to get me married to one of your cousins, it ain't happening ;)
This time I will PM you my response :p

[K@M]

lol no it was ibn khattab who was after the cousin, and now she has been taken. too late! lol

I don't want the cousin, from my analysis of Baba's post; it seemed like he had checked out my post history, was impressed, found my match, done a secret nikah for me without telling, and was about to tell me who I was married to on the day we go to get a fat munch i.e the wedding lol

[lantern]

No, Pot Noodles will not suffice. And women don't necessarily expect frequent holidays and "full access" to your cards. But of course they should expect to have what is reasonable.

really?? well i never!! ...

[typical asian]

really?? well i never!! ...

is that what the kuffar call 'sarcasm'? remember prophet (pbuh) dont like sarcasm we frown upon it ok

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Lantern,

Why don't you define married life? :)

Start us off :)

:salams

[typical asian]

how do unmarried people define married life?

same way kuffar define fundamentalism?

[lantern]

is that what the kuffar call 'sarcasm'? remember prophet (pbuh) dont like sarcasm we frown upon it ok

hey man i woz jokin, serius, wallahi, dint mean to ruffle ne feathers. ma bad.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

"And of His signs is that He has created for you - of your own kind - spouses, that you might take comfort in them." (Holy Quraan)

:salams

[Niqaabi]

home is great!!

omg! wen i go out i itch to go home! put my feet up! read, play computer games, entertain guests, cook ..ooohh love it love it.

driving a car sounds boring, and u dont escape the dru ks that easy, their the ones that walk in front of your car, or cut u up and abuse YOU :D
Home:
Walk around the house no stopping, no waiting.

Need the loo? - run up stairs. (oh someones in there, run downstairs)

Want food? - Go to kitchen, open fridge/cabinet/draws etc find food eat at a choice of 6 seats on the table, or eat in living room in front of tele or upstairs in my room.

Bored? - Watch Tv, play video games, go on ummah, do some cooking, do some washing etc, call mates etc.

Outside:
Get pushed my dozens of people, get rude comments from islamaphobes. Have to wait 10 years for the obese man with sweat that amounts to the river nile to move before i can get passed.

Need the loo? - have to find a decent masjid or place that has prayer room with toilet.
Can find a place, have to resort to nasty stinky smelly pooey public toilets in uni/school/restaurants and need to find bottle for istinja.
Cant find bottle, dont go toilet, get constipated the next day.

Want food? - have to take money out from cash point, spend ages finding cash point, stupid line is so long, no money in cash point, find another cash point, only gives out £20.
Spend nearly £5 on food and its all veggie stuff as no halal alternatives are available.

Bored? - yes, i want to go home!!!!!!!

[Niqaabi]

No, Pot Noodles will not suffice. And women don't necessarily expect frequent holidays and "full access" to your cards. But of course they should expect to have what is reasonable.
:rotfl: did anna get you to write that? :p

[lantern]

err im currently at dis phase wher m really confused bwt d whole ting. i used 2 b a really optimistic romantic wen it came to marriage (propa girly girl)!!
newayz ... hmmm ... my definition?? here goes (deep breath!!) smiles, love, trust, support,etc time - dats a difficult one, coz nowadays nobody's got tym for nobody now. errr lots o laffs really, dats vital u kno wah i mean?? d best definition i reckon is garment ... coz its protectin, luvin, warm, comfortin, nd d rest, hopefully a garment dat neva grows old!! (did i warn u i was a romantic!!lol)

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

:salams

[janathi]

:start:

:salams





And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

:salams

:salams

Subhan'Allah :love: ..I actually read the whole thread! ..erm I will make no comment! :embar:

..Just Jazaak Allahu Khair to sis Islamic Girl! excellent post my sis :love: :inlove:

:wswrwb:

[Maureen]

I don't think there's much point to worrying about marriage, but I do think it's very important to take time to seriously consider what you're looking for in a spouse and the sort of homelife you want to share with someone.

When I look at the most successful marriages I've known, what I've noticed is that they were marriages in which the couple had shared well-defined goals, such as, "We want to make sure our children get the best Roman Catholic education possible," or, "We want to make enough money so we can afford to buy a home outside the city so our kids can have room to play."

The reason this works is that, when a couple shares goals, they become more like a "team."

And when a couple acts as a team, it's easier to set aside differences and disagreements. In other words, the team and its goals are more important than the individual.

I think this really helps a lot. Especially, if you plan on having more than one child.
I agree that having the same basic defined goals are important. The most basic requirement for a successful marriage though for me, is having a partner who is of the same religion. That is a crucial factor. If we get that right, the chances are that all else will successfully follow.

[K@M]

:start:

:salams

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

:salams

Thats like on every single wedding invitation ever. Im thinking of putting this verse on my first wedding @)

If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry
women of your choice, Two or three or four.
( سورة النساء , An-Nisa, Chapter #4 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=4&translator=2), Verse #3 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=4&translator=2#3))

Speaking of Quranic verses, here's another:

Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.
( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=2), Verse #32 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=2#32))

[janathi]

Thats like on every single wedding invitation ever. Im thinking of putting this verse on my first wedding @)

If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry
women of your choice, Two or three or four.
( سورة النساء , An-Nisa, Chapter #4 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=4&translator=2), Verse #3 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=4&translator=2#3))

Speaking of Quranic verses, here's another:

Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.
( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=2), Verse #32 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=2#32))

:salams

Subhan'Allah :love:

:wswrwb:

[Unique Muslimah]

Thats like on every single wedding invitation ever. Im thinking of putting this verse on my first wedding @)

If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry
women of your choice, Two or three or four.
( سورة النساء , An-Nisa, Chapter #4 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=4&translator=2), Verse #3 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=4&translator=2#3))

Speaking of Quranic verses, here's another:

Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.
( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=2), Verse #32 (http://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=2#32))
MashaAllah..planning to have more than one wife I see:up:

[TEH]

LOL, I dare you...

Yknow, some scientists say that marriage is a gene, and youre born marriage obsessed...

:hidban:

[Muslimah333]

Home:
Walk around the house no stopping, no waiting.

Need the loo? - run up stairs. (oh someones in there, run downstairs)

Want food? - Go to kitchen, open fridge/cabinet/draws etc find food eat at a choice of 6 seats on the table, or eat in living room in front of tele or upstairs in my room.

Bored? - Watch Tv, play video games, go on ummah, do some cooking, do some washing etc, call mates etc.

Outside:
Get pushed my dozens of people, get rude comments from islamaphobes. Have to wait 10 years for the obese man with sweat that amounts to the river nile to move before i can get passed.

Need the loo? - have to find a decent masjid or place that has prayer room with toilet.
Can find a place, have to resort to nasty stinky smelly pooey public toilets in uni/school/restaurants and need to find bottle for istinja.
Cant find bottle, dont go toilet, get constipated the next day.

Want food? - have to take money out from cash point, spend ages finding cash point, stupid line is so long, no money in cash point, find another cash point, only gives out £20.
Spend nearly £5 on food and its all veggie stuff as no halal alternatives are available.

Bored? - yes, i want to go home!!!!!!!

Lol. So true. I always feel uncomfortable anywhere other than home.

Worrying about marriage? I think I'm too young...

[Ninjaress]

Isthikhara prayer helps a lot for anyone seeking Allah s.w.a guidence!!!

[K@M]

MashaAllah..planning to have more than one wife I see:up:

Erm, I don't actually, I actually wrote first to avoid lying :p

And I was seirously thinking of writing that ayah as a joke, just cos it will pee off the in-laws @)If I wrote second wedding it would have been lying because I don't plan on having a second wedding. Ah you see, joking without lying cos lying no good :nono:

[baba]

K@M your avatar is very telling :D

[Unique Muslimah]

K@M your avatar is very telling :D
Hmm indeed it is..i think u need to have a word with him baba..:rolleyes:

[janathi]

Hmm indeed it is..i think u need to have a word with him baba..:rolleyes:

:salams

I don't get it :scratch:

:wswrwb: