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Asalama alaykum.....wlc this topic is self explanatory u will understand as you read. In brief its my opinion (agreed by many sisters) on how to win the key to your wifes heart.
How does one win the key to a womans heart.......hmm this is a tough one, simply because women are tough and not all want the samething...we differ in how we give this key away, but one thing women world wide have in common is that urge to belong....to be appreciated, this my friends is the vital aspect needed to be covered so as to gain this key....HOWEVER!
the key alone is not enough.........we all know every key has teeth right? of course we do.
U know some women like that conditional love and some like that unconditional love.....the women who likes to love a guy conditionally...somewhere deep in her world she aches for that unconditional love....though the material things given to her dilude her for a while.....material things keep the mind happy....but the heart not at ease...THIS IS SOMETHING she has to learn for herself.
the human being in general is a TRINITY..combined of mind body and soul....if conditional love sattisfys the mind and body what about her soul?....whose jacket is the heart?
A man must never forget this.
to stimulate the mind is a good thing, but to stimulate the heart of a woman is a blessing.
many situations occur when a man (not all) doesnt know the differences between lust, crush and love.....this is due to short attention span of the reality. The reality of knowing where he stands.
do i have a crush on her? do i lust after her for the obvious? do i love her etc.
i think its important that we all (both genders) get to know these differences in depth. whether u are a practicing muslim or not.
Moving ON...........
APPRECIATION.....<this comes in many forms.
every women your mothers included need to know she is appreciated, without this a womens motivation in loving u & in catering for you become limited. without motivation, expect treatment consisting of severe negligence.
Why? bcoz she feels deprived of recognition. even the toughest women amongst us need this.
see fella's to appreciate a women is a matter of the heart, it is something u cant control........just like admiration....one can find themselves appreciateing a certain aspect of a women ...and yet he may not tell her, just like u can admire a certain skill of ur enemy but u dont tell him.
when u neglect to appreciate a women, she feels her work is not only useless but see's any future attempts as futile. this is when trouble occurs and the relationship is doomed 2 failure....this is the core reason and main argument to 78% of divorces "he dont appreciate me"
even if what she does is little....appreciation whether u show this verbally, intimately, or physically.....means the world to her..no matter how small the gesture....the impact on a women is surreal.
RESPECT
is one of the major things some brother lack (this could be in some cases she doesnt deserve it, ..<fair enough...because u have got to earn respect to get respect i digg that. but also its due to the cultural mindset of some husbands, whose definition of husband and wife = order and obedience (in the unjust sense) or master and maid. as opposed to the equal companions ALLAH made them to be, whom he subhana wa ta'ala wished would live in tranquility.
once a wife is given back her true status, marital bliss is around the corner, brothers have to learn to emphasise on the little things she does for u, because its most likely that these little things carried the best of thought and intention. with out doing so at times lack of respect can come to surface. no one respects what they do not acknowledge in the first place.
to win a womens key a man has to be merciful.....brothers have to realise that not all emotions are for the weak, balance is the key, rasoululaah scw was serious as well as playful, hard to his enemies, soft to his wives. mature around his companions, but didnt hesitate acting silly with his children.
some (brothers) think being ROMANTIC is the key...but no.
see romance is a branch of conditional love......to gain the key to a womens heart u have to love her UNCONDITIONALLY.
To love her unconditionally 1 must look further than what the eye can see........<METAPHOR...pls dont go looking around her literally lol.
Mercy again is an important virtue.
Jealousy
A womens jealousy. is something ALLAH tests us woman with
Allah tests us women thru jealousy just like u brothers are tested thru fear of the battlefield (jihad in fi si bi lilaah)
our jealousy is something if a man protected can be overcome.
when you protect her of this.......u are close to winning her love..why u ask? because u then have earned her trust.
The key is almost complete.
Protect her honer, sometimes we may huff and puff about men being protective over us, but deep down we admire you for it.
If a man protects the honer of a woman especialy by sacrificing his needs, he leaves a lasting impression on her
You put your wife before u and u win the key 2 her heart.
u appreciate her and u then have truely earned it
u have mercy upon her and indeed u get 2 keep her.
fullfill those and she will treat u like her HAIR and that is to love it, nurish it, keep it clean, present it well......and most of all be mindful of it.(whats good for the hair, what it dislikes what it likes etc.)
WHY Is a women like this with her hair?
thats easy.........everytime she looks in the mirror her hair tells her she is beautifull...........this makes her smile and then she loves it. This builds her self esteem, and she feels security, she feels content.
be like a womens hair my friend....in other words..show affection
A women will follow ur lead,how u treat her is how she will treat u and then some.
romance isnt buying her flowers.......flowers die mate!.
true romance is that which she remembers......that which comes naturally, planned romance is a branch of conditional love.natural romance is an planned, its when u find yourself doing stuff because it feels right.
Be ambitious, have goals in life and ur relationship........this is the key part of the key that makes her feel safe and secure.
potential in a man is like kinder bueno in my mouth mmm pleasing!
Conclution
a womens life is not measured by the breaths she takes.BUT BY THE MOMENTS THAT TAKE HER BREATH AWAY.
do that.......there is a feeling between the touch and the feel make her feel it. and she will treat u like the Amir you are
Quest
p.s i understand some sisters may have things to add or may not agree with some parts feel free to drop your views:up:
please brothers, dont all comment at once(!)
a womens life is not measured by the breaths she takes.BUT BY THE MOMENTS THAT TAKE HER BREATH AWAY.
Wow, good advice all the way through but that line just jumped at me. My wife and I will have been married for 23 years come June 13. Mind you, she often jokes that if she had of killed me, she would be out by now :eek3:
beautiful post mashaAllah. i especially like the part about protecting your wifes' honour, which goes for the husbands' honour too.
protecting one womans' honour is like protecting the honour of all the women in islam; aside from the act of complete submission to Allah in his every day actions, a husband would be highly revered by his wife for his natural protection of her.
but with respect to both genders, women tend to want to be more independant, and break loose from the 'shackles' of men, and men for want of a 'quiet' life just abide by the wishes of the wife...and i am sure there are many who can say that they have seen this happen but none say that is them.
khayr, the meaning of my saying that was that it really turns the status quo on its head and in some cases men and women tend to lose insght about their true roles in the family way and as part of the bigger picture
namesake
26-04-06, 08:33 PM
Ms. Quest...if you dont mind me asking...where do you get the time and energy to post a million threads?
MalikOne™
26-04-06, 08:36 PM
....material things keep the mind happy....but the heart not at ease...THIS IS SOMETHING she has to learn for herself.
Something very very hard for her to learn tho :p :outta:
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 08:46 PM
The way to a mans heart.....
Through his tummy :D :D :D
my advice is have PATIENCE with her, lots and lots of patience :nuts:
women are usually very ungreatful and almost impossible to please @)
you have to appreciate her but you have to get the balance right, appreciate her too much and she will use it against you :help:
"O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray."
:nervous:
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 08:51 PM
my advice is have PATIENCE with her, lots and lots of patience :nuts:
women are usually very ungreatful and almost impossible to please @)
you have to appreciate her but you have to get the balance right, appreciate her too much and she will use it against you :help:
"O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray."
:nervous:
Excellent post :D :D :D
my advice is have PATIENCE with her, lots and lots of patience :nuts:
women are usually very ungreatful and almost impossible to please @)
you have to appreciate her but you have to get the balance right, appreciate her too much and she will use it against you :help:
"O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray."
:nervous:
Appreciating too much...hmm dunno if that would lead someone astray....not all women are evil you know...the being led astray doesn't have anything to do with appreciation I don't think..
Submission
26-04-06, 09:11 PM
Asalam'ulaikum to all my brothers and sisters.
Q that was a beautiful post to show those the truth, am sure some feel libarated and ready to marry hehe.
I pray to Allah one day Inshallah I'll be able to meet someone and be able to fufill my wife's needs and Inshallah I can be a good example for her and her for me. A companion for life makes me smile and want to thank Allah more.
But I got to have a bit of a radical, strong in Imam and intellectual wife... I love debates and gaining knowledge from close ones. Looking forward to marridge unlike some.
Thanks Quest - Nice post as always, keep spreading the faith.
Sub:up:
Appreciating too much...hmm dunno if that would lead someone astray....not all women are evil you know...the being led astray doesn't have anything to do with appreciation I don't think..
ofcourse all women are not evil :alhumdull :p
what i mean is the woman becomes a mans weakness, and she can use it to lead him astray if she wished
im sure i am not the only one who see's homes being split, son's being turned against his family and parents due to women :rubeyes:
Quest, LOL!! at the 'flowers die mate'.....he he
ur_yusra
26-04-06, 09:15 PM
Quest, LOL!! at the 'flowers die mate'.....he he
lol.. hmmm...
You know its this whole unconditional love concept that bugs me.. its like say a woman stopped cooking for her husband.. would he still love her??
my advice is have PATIENCE with her, lots and lots of patience :nuts:
women are usually very ungreatful and almost impossible to please @)
you have to appreciate her but you have to get the balance right, appreciate her too much and she will use it against you :help:
"O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray."
:nervous:
good post :up:
ofcourse all women are not evil :alhumdull :p
what i mean is the woman becomes a mans weakness, and she can use it to lead him astray if she wished
im sure i am not the only one who see's homes being split, son's being turned against his family and parents due to women :rubeyes:
Yes, I guess so, such 'too much appreciation', I guess would stem from his own weakness like you said and failure to be a man. Also women who cause this know what they are doing, as if their husband is unjust, they would help him to be more just even if that is against herself. But good women don't push men to such fitnah and good men don't allow themselves to be led astray in such a manner either. So, both would be at fault, in the scenario you mentioned.
lol.. hmmm...
You know its this whole unconditional love concept that bugs me.. its like say a woman stopped cooking for her husband.. would he still love her??
EDIT: on consideration, lets take this to the sisters forum.... :embar:
Ps, I love flowers really :inlove: ...who cares if they die...:inlove:
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 09:25 PM
lol.. hmmm...
You know its this whole unconditional love concept that bugs me.. its like say a woman stopped cooking for her husband.. would he still love her??
Unconditional love is only from Parents for definite..theyll love u no matter what.
ur_yusra
26-04-06, 09:27 PM
Unconditional love is only from Parents for definite..theyll love u no matter what.
yeh thats what I thought.. parents and cats...
MalikOne™
26-04-06, 09:30 PM
what i mean is the woman becomes a mans weakness, and she can use it to lead him astray if she wished
Yep see brothers...this is what I basically told y'all in tha bros forum :p They'll take advantage of u if ur too whipped.
What are the conditions for 'love' from the point of view of the husband???? cook my rotis, make sure they are circular and make sure the mirch in the masala is just right???
I doubt it.
or should I say, I certainly hope not.
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 09:33 PM
yeh thats what I thought.. parents and cats...
Actually cats aint very loyal :p however Dogs are loyal :D :D
meet my dog..his names bob
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiK2GN9zw1c
:D :D
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 09:34 PM
Yep see brothers...this is what I basically told y'all in tha bros forum :p They'll take advantage of u if ur too whipped.
Aye but our budy..Kh...oops..our buddy said he likes tht in a woman tho :p :p
Seems a few are confused, this isnt the brothers forum...
MalikOne™
26-04-06, 09:43 PM
Aye but our budy..Kh...oops..our buddy said he likes tht in a woman tho :p :p
well my man needs to learn quikkkkkkk :p I guess it depends on the piety and taqwa of the wife too. If she has good levels of taqwa it'll be easier for her to control her evilness :p
For all those who can't seem to get anywhere with thier wife/husband, I recommend you listen to "10 ways to please your Husband/Wife" by Mohammed Al Shareeef. After listening to that, your wife/husband will or at least should love you like no one's business.
Al-Irhaab
26-04-06, 09:54 PM
lol.. hmmm...
You know its this whole unconditional love concept that bugs me.. its like say a woman stopped cooking for her husband.. would he still love her??
would you love a husband who beat u and swore at u and treated u like dirt and didnt let u go see ur family or meet ur friends? :rolleyes:
what is this man?
wife and hubby beating?
geez..let go!
ur_yusra
26-04-06, 10:21 PM
would you love a husband who beat u and swore at u and treated u like dirt and didnt let u go see ur family or meet ur friends? :rolleyes:
Talk about taking it next level..
your food obviously means alot to you.. :rolleyes:
would you love a husband who beat u and swore at u and treated u like dirt and didnt let u go see ur family or meet ur friends? :rolleyes:
there is a slight difference in not making roti and being flung about the living room by a miswak weilding 'maniac' who apparently dislikes the inlaws...and besides..just out of interest...what would u do if your wife didnt make u roti..or the equivalent?
Al-Irhaab
26-04-06, 11:03 PM
there is a slight difference in not making roti and being flung about the living room by a miswak weilding 'maniac' who apparently dislikes the inlaws...and besides..just out of interest...what would u do if your wife didnt make u roti..or the equivalent?
if my wife didnt cook for me like i mean refused to cook full stop... then id go through the process of speakin to her and getting people to speak to her off separating the bed etc... wouldnt hit her ... then id just divorce her and get married to someone who would cook...
im intrigued, i really am...why would u not hit her..not even with a miswak?
and you would divorce her staright away?seriously??
and i take it you not very handy with kitchen utensils..?
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 11:31 PM
With all due respect some of the sisters r coming out with some silly stuff..:rolleyes: their coming out with stuff which mainly exists amongst people not practising deen and are labelling those practising deen with the same title :rolleyes: grow up! all this if i didnt cook for u wud u stop loving me bla bla bal..if u bloomin love ur husband soo much why bloomin go do such a thing..forgetting all the things he does such as go out earn the bread and so on.the way some of u talking here indicate its bout no1..urselfs!
Al-Irhaab
26-04-06, 11:34 PM
im intrigued, i really am...why would u not hit her..not even with a miswak?
and you would divorce her staright away?seriously??
i dont need to hit her... being away from me enough punishment as it is for her... im cruel like that... she dont want to live with me by my rules then she can go live with whoever she wants and his rules... a woman who doesnt obey her husband then ... she aint very good in the deen is she ... why would i want my kids to have a mum like that... :rolleyes:
MalikOne™
26-04-06, 11:36 PM
grow up! all this if i didnt cook for u wud u stop loving me bla bla bal..if u bloomin love ur husband soo much why bloomin go do such a thing..!
Exactly :up:
On another note wit women they will ALWAYS find something to worry about...they never stop worrying- so to become a more successful husband u gotta learn how to listen- if u dnt listen and pay attention things will go wrong between you. Women appreciate good listeners.
Al-Irhaab
26-04-06, 11:39 PM
Exactly :up:
On another note wit women they will ALWAYS find something to worry about...they never stop worrying- so to become a more successful husband u gotta learn how to listen- if u dnt listen and pay attention things will go wrong between you. Women appreciate good listeners.
bro u barely gone through.... and u giving advice on how to treat a lady :rolleyes:
that was a very feisty testerone filled comment!!..i am sure it was all in jest about the will-u-love-me-if-i-dnt-cook-for-u post....however its just interesting to see how some of us may react to certain irregularities in life, which i pray we do not have to face, but its still interesting to know, from a psychology point of view.
MalikOne™
26-04-06, 11:42 PM
bro u barely gone through.... and u giving advice on how to treat a lady :rolleyes:
I dont live ina box u kno :p
I observe things that go on around me.
ur_yusra
26-04-06, 11:43 PM
lol..
The not loving if not cooking statement was made as a demonstration to show that there is no such thing as unconditional love.. :up:
sad though.. :rolleyes:
i dont need to hit her... being away from me enough punishment as it is for her... im cruel like that... she dont want to live with me by my rules then she can go live with whoever she wants and his rules... a woman who doesnt obey her husband then ... she aint very good in the deen is she ... why would i want my kids to have a mum like that... :rolleyes:
straightforward...its good!..so all this would be clarified with her before the solemn agreement?
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 11:43 PM
If she didnt cook for me on the trot for no reason whatsoever after a long day..i wouldnt say owt..just cook meself..give her silent treatment..and when she asks for some money..ill say go earn it yourself :rolleyes: :D :D
Emelianenko
26-04-06, 11:44 PM
lol..
The not loving if not cooking statement was made as a demonstration to show that there is no such thing as unconditional love.. :up:
sad though.. :rolleyes:
As we agreed earlier..only our parents have unconditional love towards us.
lol..
The not loving if not cooking statement was made as a demonstration to show that there is no such thing as unconditional love.. :up:
sad though.. :rolleyes:
:rotfl:
yeh...and my circular rotis one was trying to demonstrate that and all....oops, sorry.
Al-Irhaab
26-04-06, 11:45 PM
straightforward...its good!..so all this would be clarified with her before the solemn agreement?
yup ive already told her :rolleyes:
why would i wanna live with someone who wont be obediant to allah (SwT) and follow the orders of her husband... whats point of being married...
ur_yusra
26-04-06, 11:48 PM
:rotfl:
yeh...and my circular rotis one was trying to demonstrate that and all....oops, sorry.
lol.. :p:p
I best go and learn how to cook then.. :eek:
glad to hear it...she must be a saint!!
MalikOne™
26-04-06, 11:52 PM
Ur_yusra and Al-Ihraab are at it again :smack:
and then u got nutella^ over here making things worse :|
lol.. :p:p
I best go and learn how to cook then.. :eek:
Yeh 'cooking' is the next stage after, remember I told you, the pouring the juice and making the tea protocols.... ;)
Dont make me explain how to make rotis man, its long with all the ruler and diameter, circumferance and thickness measurements...:nuts: ....
Al-Irhaab
26-04-06, 11:53 PM
glad to hear it...she must be a saint!!
no shes a muslimah alhamdulillah and good in the deen alhamdulillah that is enough... :rolleyes:
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:00 AM
Ur_yusra and Al-Ihraab are at it again :smack:
and then u got nutella^ over here making things worse :|
:rotfl: @ nutella :rotfl:
Maureen
27-04-06, 12:06 AM
The way to a mans heart.....
Through his tummy :D :D :D
My mother used to say that too, ie. the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
I was thinking that everything that Quest mentioned, could be turned around and applied to men from women (everything that is except the "hair" bit).
It comes down to the fact that we all need to be wanted, and want to be needed. I have noticed that where marriages fail, it is because the rule of the above has been neglected or ignored.
Al-Irhaab
27-04-06, 12:06 AM
:rotfl: @ nutella :rotfl:
hey stop it , stop it.. no.... no ok :nono:
Khadhijah
27-04-06, 12:10 AM
If she didnt cook for me on the trot for no reason whatsoever after a long day..i wouldnt say owt..just cook meself..give her silent treatment..and when she asks for some money..ill say go earn it yourself :rolleyes: :D :D
:rotfl::rotfl:
This thread is jokes man!
:jkk: Quest for the beautiful post.
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:15 AM
hey stop it , stop it.. no.... no ok :nono:
okie... :embar:
Al-Irhaab
27-04-06, 12:15 AM
:rotfl: @ nutella :rotfl:
:rotfl: :rotfl:
sorry :(
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:16 AM
:rotfl: :rotfl:
sorry :(
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:18 AM
Brothers and Immaturity.. :rolleyes:
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:18 AM
Brothers and Immaturity.. :rolleyes:
Sisters and instigating trouble :rolleyes:
...:embar: lol :p
Al-Irhaab
27-04-06, 12:21 AM
Sisters and instigating trouble :rolleyes:
...:embar: lol :p
which sister :rolleyes:
ur yusrahs a sister :rubeyes:
get out of here :rolleyes:
Someone remind me what the topic of the first post was, Ive forgotton :rolleyes:
Ahh yes, that was it, how to treat your wife, the keys to her heart..
Back to the topic then.
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:25 AM
Someone remind me what the topic of the first post was, Ive forgotton :rolleyes:
Ahh yes, that was it, how to treat your wife, the keys to her heart..
Back to the topic then.
The keys to her heart??? ££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££
:p
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:28 AM
The keys to her heart??? ££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££
:p
you shouldnt judge sisters..
I mean its not like I ever judge brothers now is it??
Abu' Maryam
27-04-06, 12:29 AM
I remember a time when this thread was quite a nice place containing some nice nasihah, also some nice comments about good wives, husbands, flowers, parents, cats :inlove: but now :( its like another warzone.
:(
Al-Irhaab
27-04-06, 12:29 AM
The keys to her heart??? ££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££££
:p
She take my money when I'm in need
Yea she's a trifflin friend indeed
Oh she's a gold digga way over town
That dig's on me
(She takes my money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in Need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke niggaz
(She takes my money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke niggaz
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haha ^^^ what happened there!!!!!
quite cool that is
:rotfl:
Yes well, I think Ive illustrated the point.
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:36 AM
haha ^^^ what happened there!!!!!
quite cool that is
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rofl1::rofl1::rofl1:
Id rather look at that then a jahil post.. :up:
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:38 AM
you shouldnt judge sisters..
I mean its not like I ever judge brothers now is it??
Its all in good fun..:D :D chill :p
:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rofl1::rofl1::rofl1:
Id rather look at that then a jahil post.. :up:
:rofl1:
I dunno what happened man, I swear I only pressed 'submit' once!!!...I couldnt stop laughing when I saw all of them....8 you know!!!!!!! sheesh
but undercover khayr inshallah, I think it was better in illustrating the point :rolleyes: ....
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:39 AM
Its all in good fun..:D :D chill :p
That was a sarcastic remark designed to have a hint of irony.. :smack:
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:41 AM
That was a sarcastic remark designed to have a hint of irony.. :smack:
I kno but if i responded to it as i woulda wished to have then it mighta spoilt this thread, like ur "hit wife" one has been spoilt :p
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:41 AM
:rofl1:
I dunno what happened man, I swear I only pressed 'submit' once!!!...I couldnt stop laughing when I saw all of them....8 you know!!!!!!! sheesh
but undercover khayr inshallah, I think it was better in illustrating the point :rolleyes: ....
:rofl1: :rofl1::rofl1::rofl1::rofl1:
you make me laugh..
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:41 AM
:rofl1: :rofl1::rofl1::rofl1::rofl1:
you make me laugh..
Shudnt u two be revising :scratch:
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:42 AM
I kno but if i responded to it as i woulda wished to have then it mighta spoilt this thread, like ur "hit wife" one has been spoilt :p
oh ok nice thinking on your part..
:up: :up: :up: :up: :up:
lol
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:45 AM
Shudnt u two be revising :scratch:
good point.. :scratch:
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 12:48 AM
good point.. :scratch:
nawar?? aint u got exams also?.....:scratch:
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 12:50 AM
nawar?? aint u got exams also?.....:scratch:
yeh she has ... :p :p :p
Im allowed to speak for her by the way I've got written authority from ...
oh does it matter..
yeh she has ... :p :p :p
Im allowed to speak for her by the way I've got written authority from ...
oh does it matter..
lol..
I cant sleep :(....
General point, about the issue, I dont think you can center the success of a marriage based solely on emotions and feelings, and how to please a woman in that sense, lets face it-thats not an easy task, and the husband would be stepping on egg shells all his life, and vice versa.
Its important that both know their rights before they enter in to the marriage, their roles and responsibilties and what is expected of them, so that they know how to fulfill those roles in the marriage, and they are prepared...and then Allah (swt) instills love, mercy and blessings in the marriage inshallah, and all those things in the first post kind of dont need to be said, unconciously the marriage will be successful and they happen...
what dya fink???you get ME....do I sound like a muppet.
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 01:29 AM
lol..
I cant sleep :(....
General point, about the issue, I dont think you can center the success of a marriage based solely on emotions and feelings, and how to please a woman in that sense, lets face it-thats not an easy task, and the husband would be stepping on egg shells all his life, and vice versa.
Its important that both know their rights before they enter in to the marriage, their roles and responsibilties and what is expected of them, so that they know how to fulfill those roles in the marriage, and they are prepared...and then Allah (swt) instills love, mercy and blessings in the marriage inshallah, and all those things in the first post kind of dont need to be said, unconciously the marriage will be successful and they happen...
what dya fink???you get ME....do I sound like a muppet.
Yeah I get you.. :badguy:...
:boom: :bang: :2hammers: :banghead: :spunch: :buttkick: :mujahida: :bangbang: ...
Im a pacifist.. I don't believe in violence.. can u tell?
Abu' Maryam
27-04-06, 01:34 AM
Yeah I get you.. :badguy:...
:boom: :bang: :2hammers: :banghead: :spunch: :buttkick: :mujahida: :bangbang: ...
Im a pacifist.. I don't believe in violence.. can u tell?
Yes- same here. :)
You two need some much needed Zzzzzz :zzz: as your way too hyper like :hidban: .
:rubeyes:
Yeah I get you.. :badguy:...
:boom: :bang: :2hammers: :banghead: :spunch: :buttkick: :mujahida: :bangbang: ...
Im a pacifist.. I don't believe in violence.. can u tell?
Yeh man...:1peace: :1peace: :love: :inlove::inlove::meow: :p :love: :love: :love: :love: :p :meow: :there: :inlove: :inlove: :love: :1peace: :1peace:
Yeh totally, but I disagree....peace and love are NOT the way...thats what I believe....can you tell????
IPM taking its toll then, its cursed that module I tell ya
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 01:37 AM
Yes- same here. :)
You two need some much needed Zzzzzz :zzz: as your way too hyper like :hidban: .
:rubeyes:
Ur a pacifist too ???? :rubeyes: :rubeyes:
welcome to the ummah pacifism association where all pacifists can freely talk about pacifism (UPAWAPCFTAP)..
You are the second member.. Nawar was the first.. (dunno if she knows though)..
Our logo is the following..
:bangbang: :bangbang: :bangbang:
Enjoy your stay..
Abu' Maryam
27-04-06, 01:42 AM
Ur a pacifist too ???? :rubeyes: :rubeyes:
welcome to the ummah pacifism association where all pacifists can freely talk about pacifism (UPAWAPCFTAP)..
You are the second member.. Nawar was the first.. (dunno if she knows though)..
Our logo is the following..
:bangbang: :bangbang: :bangbang:
Enjoy your stay..
:sub: you lot like start up these gangs waaay to quick :eek3: , one sec a dude like me is gettin' to grips with all this Pacifism what not and the next he's shoved into some association- same with that Tree crew thingy- I was all there yappin' about Miswak than I was all a member!!! :eek:
But yeah I am a peaceful bloke. :1peace:
ur_yusra
27-04-06, 02:39 AM
A day in the life of a woman -
11am..... :crying:
1pm ..... :mad:
3pm .......:nuts:
5pm..........:bangbang:
7pm........ :2hammers:
9pm.......:torture:
11pm......:mad::mad:
yeh so basically thats what we women are like..
:1popcorn:........................................ .......... :outta:
Emelianenko
27-04-06, 02:50 AM
A day in the life of a woman -
11am..... :crying:
1pm ..... :mad:
3pm .......:nuts:
5pm..........:bangbang:
7pm........ :2hammers:
9pm.......:torture:
11pm......:mad::mad:
yeh so basically thats what we women are like..
:1popcorn:........................................ .......... :outta:
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Ms. Quest...if you dont mind me asking...where do you get the time and energy to post a million threads?
time - 30 seconds, most of my posts like this one i just pasted from my account on another website, as for the others, that i write on the spot they take me no more then 10 mins to write and 2 mins to proof read, as for energy my fuel is boredom.
Wow, good advice all the way through but that line just jumped at me. My wife and I will have been married for 23 years come June 13. Mind you, she often jokes that if she had of killed me, she would be out by now :eek3:
hehe T that quote is not mine, cant remember where i got that from. but its one of my faveriotes. lol ur wife is a character.
Emel nawar yusra al irtab (spell check) and abu maryam looool you guys have taken this thread to a next level :rolleyes: play on though i couldnt stop laughing, especialy at nawars duplicates.
nawar you made some important points as usual:up:
Emel nawar yusra al irtab (spell check) and abu maryam looool you guys have taken this thread to a next level :rolleyes: play on though i couldnt stop laughing, especialy at nawars duplicates.
nawar you made some important points as usual:up:
Jazakamullah khayr....awww.....but ehmmm please direct me to the important points...where are they :scratch:.............LOL!!
Yeh that 8 x duplicate thing was scary........:nervous:
I have noooooooo idea how that happened subhanallah....lol
A day in the life of a woman -
11am..... :crying:
1pm ..... :mad:
3pm .......:nuts:
5pm..........:bangbang:
7pm........ :2hammers:
9pm.......:torture:
11pm......:mad::mad:
yeh so basically thats what we women are like..
:1popcorn:........................................ .......... :outta:
LOL!!!!!!! Just saw this.....:rotfl:
ahem ahem....is that supposed to make us look good???? :cool: @)
if my wife didnt cook for me like i mean refused to cook full stop... then id go through the process of speakin to her and getting people to speak to her off separating the bed etc... wouldnt hit her ... then id just divorce her and get married to someone who would cook...
The wife is not the man servant. You can hire a cook if you are so concerned about food:rolleyes: or what about you to learn to cook:rolleyes: :rolleyes:
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