Masturbation

[amk]

Salam
My frend asked me a question wich i cudnt find ne answer for so i ask u: Is masturbation allowed in Islam ?

[the-green-revol]

Salam
My frend asked me a question wich i cudnt find ne answer for so i ask u: Is masturbation allowed in Islam ?

well im no expert, but ive heard a few people tell me it isnt allowed! i heard one mate of mine say whilst your still a young learning muslim it you can get away with it maybe untill you get marriend, im not sure but i doubt your allowed, one of the experience muslims should answer!

[K@M]

Its haram.

Sorry, don't want to type in the question on Islam Q.A, when the history of search results shows up, my bro's will get suspect :p

[wizard]

in short :
wsalam,

masturbation is not allowed in islam.

the people who perform marriage with their hands will have their hands pregnant at the day of judgement - if i remember correctly.

[BHAI]

no
,it ruins the organ,when married.. a man is unable to truly satisfy his wife,it weakens every aspect of the man

[Desi_Madam]

no
,it ruins the organ,when married.. a man is unable to truly satisfy his wife,it weakens every aspect of the man

agreed :up:

[TDOT]

I came across this site which has some very good answers. Check it.
http://www.themodernreligion.com/index2.html

You might have to go down the list...because its a type of question answer thing...but it is really helpful..hope it helps answer your question.

x

[ze leetle elper]

If a Muslim is not married is it permissible for him to relieve himself by masturbating?



In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful & Compassionate

Wa Alaykum Assalam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuhu,


Both the Hanafi and Shafi’i positions on Masturbation are found in the links below.


Please see the following links related to your question:



The Hanafi School


Not married yet: How to control sexual desires that leads to masturbation? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00003838.aspx)

Why Is Masturbation Haram? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00000220.aspx)


Rukhsa on Masturbation? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00000210.aspx)


Is it really a serious sin to masturbate or is it ok if one does? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00003773.aspx)

Masturbation: Advice for someone who wakes up with this problem... (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00000206.aspx)

Masturbating to avoid pornography; reading sexual advice; avoiding bad deeds (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00001941.aspx)

Wudu lost through sin? How is wudu broken? Would masturbation be allowed to avoid major sins? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00002753.aspx)

Masturbation, Sin, Fasts, and Expiation (RE: does it break fast?) (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00002245.aspx)

The Ruling on Masturbation: Prohibitively Disliked (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00000212.aspx)


Masturbation: A Disastrous Problem Faced by the Youth (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00000207.aspx)


Why is masturbation haram? Don't doctors state that there is no harm in it? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00003354.aspx)


If a woman masturbates, does she have to perform ghusl? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00004686.aspx)



The Shafi’i School


The prohibition of masturbation (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00003412.aspx)


Masturbation and ghusl (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00004784.aspx)


I look at women frequently, which throws me into masturbation. I try to repent but I return to unlawful looking. What should I do? (http://www.sunnipath.com/resources/questions/QA00003353.aspx)

[OthaEllen]

no
,it ruins the organ,when married.. a man is unable to truly satisfy his wife,it weakens every aspect of the man

You can also look at it like this:

When a husband is separated from his wife, the fact that he masterbates will curb his sexual desires, and may ward off infidelity.

[FollowerOfMuhammad]

Its better he marries again than masturbate.

[Al-Nasser]

إذا قدر الرجل على التزوج أو التسري حرم عليه الاستمناء بيده

imam Ibn Al Qayyim said

if the man can marry or get a slave then it is haram for him to masturbate

also read that Al Salaf said that masturbation is disliked and not haram because of this verse

And speak not, concerning that which your own tongues qualify (as clean or unclean), the falsehood: "This is lawful, and this is forbidden," so that ye invent a lie against Allah. Lo! those who invent a lie against Allah will not succeed.
16:116

so they didn't say it is haram because it is dangerous

final note : i found this during random surfing of Arabic websites trying to find articles on smoking

[Unregistereded]

Of course its haram, the quran tells us to guard our private parts from anything except our wives, and who ever seeks ANYTHING BEHIND THIS is an enemy. The word enemy is quite a strong word, I wouldn't take my chances and masturbate anyway. You need to have takwa, which means putting a partition between you and god's punishment, and that means that you are almost certainly sure that you should go to heaven (you don't stare at women, you pray five times a day, you did haj, you did sawm, you do extra sawm, I.e. you're CLEAN and ready to meet god with confidence and itm2nan). So you're all trying to convince yourself that masturabtion is ok, not all people masturbate, I never masturbated, I have a lot of muslim friends who never ever masturbated, its quite easy, get over it, its a sin, don't you want ganat tagry min tahteha al anhar?....do you think its easy?.....no, someone who abstains is not like someone who doesn't abstain, he will go to better daraga in shaa allah.

[HelpingHand]

Asslamo Allaikum Dear Brothers,

We are men and gone through the same stages/growing up as you guys. I know that there are temptations out there but “AVOID MASTURBATION"

There are plenty of sites on the Internet that tell you that there is nothing wrong with it & so on…but Islamically “AVOID MASTURBATION"

There are differences of opinion in Islam about this with the harshest being “HARAM” and least being “MAKROOH…FROWNED UPON”

So “AVOID MASTURBATION"

If you are sincere then believe me a lot of us (older guys) understand what is going through your heads but try to understand why you have these urges:

1) Is it something you are reading?
2) Something you are watching?
3) Something you are discussing?
4) Someone you are fantasising about?

Please note that 1,2,3 & 4 are all HARAM in Islam as they are termed as “leading to ZINA (fornication” please use self-control and “AVOID MASTURBATION"


If you are unable to control yourself ask your parents to get you married (I know that they will say that you are young, not educated yet, not working yet etc…)

AND/OR

Fast as previously suggested

[Sulaiman Harun]

Assalam-o-Alaikum
Firstly, masturbation is completely haram in Islam. I would like to quote a hadith, (May ALLAH forgive me if I am wrong) the Prophet said: Whoever masturbates, it is as if he has married his finger. Secondly, ALLAH curses the one who masturbates.

[salik zahid]

Assalam-o-Alaikum
Firstly, masturbation is completely haram in Islam. I would like to quote a hadith, (May ALLAH forgive me if I am wrong) the Prophet said: Whoever masturbates, it is as if he has married his finger. Secondly, ALLAH curses the one who masturbates.

Salaam Alaikum

can you let us know who narratted this hadith. I don't believe there is any authentic hadith about masterbation.

I think that masterbation is hated. I believe in tafsir Ibn kathir he states that it is forbidden going along with the verse that says what is your right is your wives and what your right hand posesses.

one fatwa-online.com (the opinion that I think is good reason) is that for the most part it is forbidden such as eating pork is but under certain circumstances it is lawful.

Things like this if we fall victim to them, we should repent but we shouldn't overburden ourselves with guilt. So stay away from it as much as possible.

Salaam Alaikum

[salik zahid]

Salaam Alaikum

I believe in ibn kathir about the verse where it says what is lawful to you is your wives and what your right hands possess (your slaves) he states from this ayat masterbation is forbidden because the only things lawful is what the ayah states.

I read what is below on www.fatwa-online.com and it makes sense that it is forbidden in the sense that pork is forbidden but if you are about to die of starvation and pork is the only thing around you are able to eat enough to sustain your strength.


The one who masturbates
*Please appropriately reference this fatwa to: www.fatwa-online.com, thankyou!*
Question: We have heard alot about the one who masturbates, so is there a hadeeth with the meaning that the one who masturbates and the one who has intercourse with a slavewoman is cursed whatever the situation? I implore you to give this subject it's right, and may Allaah cause you to be of benefit.

Response: I do not recall any hadeeth regarding the masturbator being cursed, however, I have read that a youth was sitting in the gathering of Ibn 'Abbaas (radhi-yAllaahu 'anhumaa) and waited until everyone had left, whereupon he asked Ibn 'Abbaas about that. So Ibn 'Abbaas said: ((Oh! Oh! Having intercourse with the slavewoman is better than that, and that is better than committing zinaa)), [Transmitted by al-Bayhaqee and Ibn Hazam in al-Muhallaa].

And I have also read in some of the books of the Hanaabilah the permissibility of masturbating for he who fears falling into zinaa. However, (the) gravity (of masturbating) is regarded the same as eating from the (already) dead carcass (i.e. if you have no other food and fear you will die if you do not eat from it), so it is not permissible for him to do so except for that which alleviates the dire necessity. And Allaah is the Most knowledgeable.

Shaykh Mahmood Khaleel Harraas
Fataawa Shaykh Mahmood Khaleel Harraas - Page 282-283

[islamirama]

Fatal Consequences of Excessive Masturbation


Frequent masturbation and ejaculation stimulate acetylcholine/parasympathetic nervous functions excessive can result in over production of sex hormones and neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, dopamine and serotonin. Abundant and unusually amount of these hormones and neurotransmitters can cause the brain and adrenal glands to perform excessive dopamine-norepinephrine-epinephrine conversion and turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. Other words, there is a big change of body chemistry when one excessively masturbation.


The side effects of such changes to the body include: http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Fatigue. Feeling tired all the time http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Lower back pain http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Stress / Anxiety http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Thinning hair / Hair Loss http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Soft / Weak Erection http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Premature Ejaculation http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Eye floaters or fuzzy vision http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/overmas/images/gifani_experience.gif (http://64.4.16.250/cgi-bin/linkrd?_lang=EN&lah=4dcff64bcaddd1eaac81ec5703108235&lat=1088633908&hm___action=http%3a%2f%2fwww%2eherballove%2ecom%2f library%2fresource%2fovermas%2fstudy%2easp) http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Groin / Testicular Pain http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/images/icon_arrow.gif Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity or/and tail bone
If above symptoms are experienced, you need to restore the balance of brain's acetylcholine / parasympathetic ratio, reduces the level of sex hormones in the body, and sedates sympathetic nervous function, or the symptoms would become worsen.
http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/overmas/fatal.asp (http://64.4.16.250/cgi-bin/linkrd?_lang=EN&lah=7d895cc6d337f71769c21e6c8d577700&lat=1088633908&hm___action=http%3a%2f%2fwww%2eherballove%2ecom%2f library%2fresource%2fovermas%2ffatal%2easp)


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http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/overmas/study.asp (http://www.herballove.com/library/resource/overmas/study.asp)

Masturbation in Islam
Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:


First from the Qur'aan:
Imam Shafi'i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur'aan (interpretation of the meaning):

"And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.


"And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty." 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.


Secondly, from the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
Abdullaah ibn Mas'ood said, "We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allah's Messenger said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.


There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allah knows what is best and most correct.


As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:


1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allah's orders and fearing His punishment.


2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet's hadeeth.


3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.


4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden). Allah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet's hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):

"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.)... " 24.30-31

Allah's messenger said: "Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look." Al-Tirmidhi 2777. This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).


5) Using one's available leisure time in worshipping Allah and increasing religious knowledge.


6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.


7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.


8) Strengthening one's willpower and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet when he said "Do not spend the night alone" Ahmad 6919.


9) Following the Prophet's aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible because fasting will temper one's sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one's promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one's oath to Allah. Also, note that medication to diminish one's sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one's sexual ability.


10) Trying to follow the Prophet's recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).


11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth: "Whoever seeks chastity Allah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience." Bukhari:1469.


12) Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allah.


13) Finally, Allah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah's forgiveness will be accepted, by His will.


And Allah knows what is the best and most correct


* Some of the Fuqahaa have drawn their conclusion from a narration reported
by Hasan bin Arfah that Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'Seven
persons are such that Allah will not look at them on the Day of Qiyaamat nor
will He purify them nor will He include them among the learned and Allah
will enter them into Jahannam. They will enter Jahannam first except for
those who repent. As those who repent Allah will accept their repentance.


1. A person who masturbates.
2. A person who performs the act of sodomy.
3. The person upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
4. A perpetual drunkard.
5. The person who hits his parents so much that they appeal for help.
6. The person who harms his neighbours so much so that they curse him.
7. The person who commits adultery with his neighbour's wife. (Ibn Katheer vol. 5 p. 458)

Hadhrat Anas (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu
Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'The person who performs Nikah with his hands (i.e.
masturbates) is cursed. (Tafseer Mazhari vol. 12 p. 94)


SAYINGS OF OUR PIOUS PREDECESSORS WITH REGARD TO MASTURBATION


* Saéed bin Jubayr (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu
Álayhi Wasallam) said, 'Allah Taãla will inflict a punishment on a group of
people because they played with their private parts.'


* Attaa (RA) says, 'Some people will be resurrected in such a condition that
their hands will be pregnant, I think they are those who masturbate.'
And Allah knows what is best and most correct

[Unregistered1]

There is a difference of opinion over masturbation depending on circumstances.
One hanbali opinion is that if you fear or are close to committing zina then it becomes halal to relieve yourself, avoiding the greater evil. Other scholars say it is haram under any circumstances but less of a sin than zina.

I'd like to mention that if a person fears that he will commit zina it becomes FARD to get married. The hukm for someone who fears falling into zina is that he is obligated to get married.

Being unmarried we have to avoid and fight our desires but sometimes we make mistakes.

Heres a fatwaa of shaykh salmaan al awdah


Question: What is the Islamic ruling on masturbation?

Answered by Sheikh Salman al-Oadah

The ruling on masturbation is a matter of disagreement. Some scholars say it is lawful, others say it is not preferred, while a third group of scholars says that it is unlawful.

The most likely of these opinions - and Allah knows best - is that masturbation is something that is not preferred. In case of a dire need, it becomes lawful, but resorting to it excessively can result in serious problems.

It’s most serious harm is that the young man who does it feels a severe regret – particularly if he is pious – hates himself and can become afflicted with depression. It may lead him to weakness in strength, particularly if he tries to give it up and fails.

It is worth saying that even if it is deemed to be unlawful, it is a misdeed such as other misdeeds that could be expiated by repentance and asking Allah for forgiveness.

The young people who do this should not let themselves fall into depression and go too far in blaming themselves and wallow in feelings of deep sadness. It is surprising that many people do sins more serious than masturbating – such as lying, backbiting and sleeping through the time of Morning Prayer – but they do not blame themselves with a fraction of the blame they feel after masturbating.

In fact, they deal with masturbating too sensitively, which affects their other aspects of life like dealing with others, their education or their worship.

It is preferable to deal with everything fairly, as Allah determines everything in a balanced way.

The sheikh makes an important point for those of us suffering from the problem to put the sin in perspective, make tawbah regularly and strive hard.

[neelu]

If a person does not have the means to marry but still has to struggle with desires, then according to a hadith on the issue, he should fast because fasting helps to control the desires. This should be the first course of action. There is difference of opinion on the issue of masturbation; hanafis and hanbalis permit it (as a last resort means of preventing zina) but the other schools forbid it.

[Unregistered1]

my intention is that the deed should be put in perspective, especially where guys feel very guilty and full of shame. If a person fears zina getting married becomes Wajib, as the sister said men should fast to decrease their desire and eat light food. Eating light food causes your desires to be less severe and your heart to be softer.

[XtasyXpress]

If a person does not have the means to marry but still has to struggle with desires, then according to a hadith on the issue, he should fast because fasting helps to control the desires. This should be the first course of action. There is difference of opinion on the issue of masturbation; hanafis and hanbalis permit it (as a last resort means of preventing zina) but the other schools forbid it.

My teachers are hanafi scholars and they say masturbation is perfectly haraam and from the ahadith also we have an incident where a Sahabi radhiallahu ata'la anhu was told to keep fasting or many days until his desire vanished but there was no mentions of masturbating inthe hadith.
It wasnt considered even as an option to save from zina.

besides Masturbation is imagined sexual fantasies.

It means one doesnt indulge in it without provoking himself by watching haraam stuff or imagining it, so it is actually a result of haraam desires and is obviously haraam.

[Abdelrhman]

:salams

Just a correction Xtasy:
so it is actually a result of haraam desires and is obviously haraam.

The desires aren't haram, they're natural. It's what you do with them that may be haram, and may be halal.

[neelu]

I must also point out that although I noticed a difference of opinion regarding whether masturbation by oneself is permitted or not, there is agreement on the fact that a wife can touch her husband's :55: and he can masturbate with her help because that fits into the category of seeking gratification within a marriage. I found info for and against masturbating alone ages ago. I'll just paste what I found:

Janabah
Is becoming Junub without intercourse (by masturbating) haraam? Those who say it’s haraam argue the following:
The majority of scholars consider it haram. Imam Malik bases his judgement on the verse, Those who guard their sexual organs except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors, (23:5-7) arguing that the masturbator is one of those who "crave something beyond that."
What are your comments on the following hadith?
The Prophet said: "Among those whom God will not look at on the Day of Resurrection, and to whom He will say, "Enter the Fire along with those who enter," the Prophet (pbuh) counted the following: The active and the passive partners in homosexuality; the one who has sex with animals; the one who is married to a woman and her daughter at the same time; and the one who masturbates regularly, unless they repent and reform."
Those who say it is permitted, argue the following:
Answer:
I could not find the referred narrative ascribed to the Prophet (pbuh) in any of the more accepted books of the compilation of narratives ascribed to him. Though this narrative is included in a secondary compilation of narratives titled "Jami` al-Ahadith wal-Maraaseel" but the problem with this source is that it does not stipulate the chain of narrators reporting these words.
It is reported that Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal regarded semen as an excretion of the body like other excrete and permitted its expulsion as blood letting is permitted. Ibn Hazm holds the same view. However, the Hanbali jurists permit masturbation only under two conditions: first, the fear of committing fornication or adultery, and second, not having the means to marry.
The Prophet (peace be on him) said, Young men, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at women (lit., lowers your gaze) and preserves your chastity; but those who cannot should fast, for it is a means of cooling sexual passion. (Reported by al-Bukhari.)
Ibn Hazam, in his book "Al-Muhalla" has referred to some of these opinions. Mentioning his own opinion, he writes: "there is no basis of prohibiting it (masturbation) therefore it is allowed, except that I do not approve of it because it cannot be termed as good behavior". Ibn Hazam has also referred to the fact that there has been some difference of opinion in this respect, and then quoting some of the authorities, which do not prohibit it, he has mentioned Ibn `Umar (ra), Ibn Abbas (ra) from amongst the companions of the Prophet (pbuh), and Hasan, `Amr ibn Dinaar, Ziyad Abul-A`laa and Mujaahid from amongst the authorities of the second generation.
Ibn `Umar (ra) has been quoted to have said:
"It [masturbation] is only deceiving oneself" and "It [masturbation] is only to rub a muscle".
Ibn Abbas (ra) is reported to have said:
"It is nothing but to play with one's organ till it orgasms"
Al-`alaa ibn Ziyad reports from his father that he said that they used to do it while [away from their wives,] in battles. Hasan is reported to have said the same.

[Desipower]

It's interesting to see sisters that normally don't post on islamic threads posting in here :). It's good to hear their thoughts as well and lets not forget that this "habit" is something not only guys facing and fall into but Muslim girls also are not safe from it. I think the advices should be directed at both genders equally and not be biased against one gender only. :)

[islamirama]

This act itself is haraam in Islam and also bad for you medically speaking. But this act is halaal when done with a spouse because everything except what is mentioned is halaal between the spouses. So it can be done in a marriage but not individually by a person (married or not), it can be done together as it is a right of your spouse over you.

As for difference of opinions. The act itself is haraam and there's no disagreement in that. What about differential circumstances. Even salafi scholars have said that if you are in a situation where you can't control your desires and are in a place where you know you will commit zina then you can do this act at that moment to shimmer you down a bit. You are doing this to ofcourse a bigger sin (zina)

But let's be realistic here also. One can't put themselves in such a situation on purpose (like being a manager of all girls hostel for example) where he is tempted often. Nor should the person watch any lewd entertainment, magazines,etc or indulge in such conversations or topics that may lead to desires. Women are normally more open in discussing these topics while men are more open in joking about these topics, neither is a good idea. And when we go outside, we see quite a lot of haraam and it's our duty to lower our gaze and conduct ourselves properly so as to not go down that path. Remember that not only does Islam prohibit the haraam but also any path that can lead to it as well.

I think we have enough information on this thread to make it clear what Islam says about it. It would be foolish to argue further on this. So lets not waste time and words any further unless we have more questions or of that sort to share that will benefit others.